Comments on: The Taboo on Grief and the Filipino Culture http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/09/08/grief-taboo-and-filipino-culture/ Parenting, Health, Wellness & Family Fri, 29 Aug 2008 22:31:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Self-improvement Advice http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/09/08/grief-taboo-and-filipino-culture/#comment-181834 Self-improvement Advice Thu, 20 Mar 2008 03:38:03 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/09/08/grief-research/#comment-181834 It all depends on the subject if he/she will speak out the grief that he had before. Some people though are not yet accepted the fact that their loved one perhaps are already gone and by this they kept all this grief inside them so that the memory of their loved ones will remain. Others are accepted it easily. It is how the person handles the situation to survive from grief of a loss. Healing process takes time and might not be attained by individual if he won't let go of everything. -Jan It all depends on the subject if he/she will speak out the grief that he had before. Some people though are not yet accepted the fact that their loved one perhaps are already gone and by this they kept all this grief inside them so that the memory of their loved ones will remain. Others are accepted it easily. It is how the person handles the situation to survive from grief of a loss.
Healing process takes time and might not be attained by individual if he won’t let go of everything.

-Jan

]]> By: Noemi http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/09/08/grief-taboo-and-filipino-culture/#comment-3233 Noemi Sun, 10 Sep 2006 14:18:56 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/09/08/grief-research/#comment-3233 @thebizofknowledge- I guess the taboo is in most parts of the world. it's just that lately, there has been more grief support @eric- We do, in our own individual ways, gradually get better at bearing our loss. Mainly, the pain simply softens with the passage of time. However, I don't believe in closure. The word "closure" strikes me as one of those annoyingly trendy words that came out of the psychobabble of the self-help craze. In a newspaper column about the so-called "healing process" of the families of the Oklahoma City bombing victims, Ellen Goodman wrote that the media coverage suggested 'death is something to be dealt with, that loss is something to get over - according to a prescribed emotional timetable." She recalled a personal experience of her own: "At a Christmas party, a man offered up a worried sigh about a widowed mutual friend. 'It's been two years,' he said, 'and she still hasn't achieved closure.' The words pegged her as an under-achiever who failed the required course in Mourning 201, who wouldn't graduate with her grief class." @JV- as long as we live , grief will always be a part of our lives. The pain softens through the years but there will be moments when we miss our loved one. It doesn't mean we suffer a setback. It means we loved.Death did not remove the love we shared with our loved one. @thebizofknowledge- I guess the taboo is in most parts of the world. it’s just that lately, there has been more grief support

@eric- We do, in our own individual ways, gradually get better at bearing our loss. Mainly, the pain simply softens with the passage of time. However, I don’t believe in closure. The word “closure” strikes me as one of those annoyingly trendy words that came out of the psychobabble of the self-help craze.

In a newspaper column about the so-called “healing process” of the families of the Oklahoma City bombing victims, Ellen Goodman wrote that the media coverage suggested ‘death is something to be dealt with, that loss is something to get over - according to a prescribed emotional timetable.” She recalled a personal experience of her own: “At a Christmas party, a man offered up a worried sigh about a widowed mutual friend. ‘It’s been two years,’ he said, ‘and she still hasn’t achieved closure.’ The words pegged her as an under-achiever who failed the required course in Mourning 201, who wouldn’t graduate with her grief class.”

@JV- as long as we live , grief will always be a part of our lives. The pain softens through the years but there will be moments when we miss our loved one. It doesn’t mean we suffer a setback. It means we loved.Death did not remove the love we shared with our loved one.

]]> By: JV http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/09/08/grief-taboo-and-filipino-culture/#comment-3227 JV Sun, 10 Sep 2006 05:46:13 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/09/08/grief-research/#comment-3227 I believe that releasing and talking about grief would make us stronger. I know how mothers would feel, because I've experienced the grief of my mother when my younger sister died. I was totally depressed and was only 8 years old then. Regarding grief is a kind of taboo, everyone must transcend that kind of idea. It does not necessarily mean that if you would release your emotional pains, you are perceived as a weakling or hiding it either would make you stronger. I believe that when we overcome grief, then and only then we will be relieved and free. I believe that releasing and talking about grief would make us stronger. I know how mothers would feel, because I’ve experienced the grief of my mother when my younger sister died. I was totally depressed and was only 8 years old then. Regarding grief is a kind of taboo, everyone must transcend that kind of idea. It does not necessarily mean that if you would release your emotional pains, you are perceived as a weakling or hiding it either would make you stronger. I believe that when we overcome grief, then and only then we will be relieved and free.

]]> By: eric http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/09/08/grief-taboo-and-filipino-culture/#comment-3212 eric Sat, 09 Sep 2006 09:49:13 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/09/08/grief-research/#comment-3212 Or how about a son/daughter grieving the loss of a parent? I must say that the lack in our culture to provide the means to facilitate healing from a tragic loss would often lead many young men to alcoholism. Thank God, I didn't succumb to it; instead, I sought out healing methods (on my own initiative) although it took me many years to finally put closure to it. Thanks for sharing this with us, Noemi :) Or how about a son/daughter grieving the loss of a parent? I must say that the lack in our culture to provide the means to facilitate healing from a tragic loss would often lead many young men to alcoholism. Thank God, I didn’t succumb to it; instead, I sought out healing methods (on my own initiative) although it took me many years to finally put closure to it.

Thanks for sharing this with us, Noemi :)

]]> By: TheBizofKnowledge http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/09/08/grief-taboo-and-filipino-culture/#comment-3197 TheBizofKnowledge Fri, 08 Sep 2006 11:45:46 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/09/08/grief-research/#comment-3197 That was a very interesting post; thanks for sharing! I have to say that grief is treated in almost the same manner in Japan. It seems that people are expected to be stoic and to accept what happens, even when it comes to the premature loss of loved ones. Grief education courses, like the one your friend teaches, would probably do well in Japan! That was a very interesting post; thanks for sharing! I have to say that grief is treated in almost the same manner in Japan. It seems that people are expected to be stoic and to accept what happens, even when it comes to the premature loss of loved ones. Grief education courses, like the one your friend teaches, would probably do well in Japan!

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