Comments on: The Wounded Bird Syndrome http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/10/12/the-wounded-bird-syndrome/ Parenting, Health, Wellnes, Family& New Media Mon, 22 Mar 2010 07:44:31 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Karen http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/10/12/the-wounded-bird-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-284679 Karen Mon, 08 Feb 2010 18:10:00 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/10/12/the-wounded-bird-syndrome/#comment-284679 Unless I read this wrong, the "girlfriend" really believed that the couple were already split up. In which case why is she taking the heat as if she "used his grief to get closer" and was some sort of homewrecker? Why is it that women are always so afraid to lose the cad of a spouse who can't keep his pants on, that they blame the other woman instantly and totally. Even if she had known she would still only be 50% of the fault. The man is not a child who is incapable of knowing right from wrong. This is how men keep doing this....they know the "girlfiends" will take the fall and they will get away with it. I've already dealt with these kinds of "men" and I use the term loosely...both as the wife and as the hapless single girl not realizing her date isn't single. Last one I dealt with, I contacted the other woman and told her everything....after I found out about her, which was after they broke up and I was still dating him. I may have "won", but he was no prize worth having after I knew what he'd done. With both of us telling the truth together, this man's reputation is in shambles. He lost both the women he was so dependant on, and now he can't get arrested in this town, much less a decent date. If he ever does get a girlfriend again, he'll think twice about trying for something on the side. Women should start working together, not blaming each other automatically. They aren't "wounded birds", they're manipulative predators crying crocodile tears. Unless I read this wrong, the “girlfriend” really believed that the couple were already split up. In which case why is she taking the heat as if she “used his grief to get closer” and was some sort of homewrecker?

Why is it that women are always so afraid to lose the cad of a spouse who can’t keep his pants on, that they blame the other woman instantly and totally. Even if she had known she would still only be 50% of the fault. The man is not a child who is incapable of knowing right from wrong. This is how men keep doing this….they know the “girlfiends” will take the fall and they will get away with it.

I’ve already dealt with these kinds of “men” and I use the term loosely…both as the wife and as the hapless single girl not realizing her date isn’t single. Last one I dealt with, I contacted the other woman and told her everything….after I found out about her, which was after they broke up and I was still dating him. I may have “won”, but he was no prize worth having after I knew what he’d done. With both of us telling the truth together, this man’s reputation is in shambles. He lost both the women he was so dependant on, and now he can’t get arrested in this town, much less a decent date. If he ever does get a girlfriend again, he’ll think twice about trying for something on the side.

Women should start working together, not blaming each other automatically. They aren’t “wounded birds”, they’re manipulative predators crying crocodile tears.

]]> By: Noemi http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/10/12/the-wounded-bird-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-4222 Noemi Sat, 14 Oct 2006 12:37:41 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/10/12/the-wounded-bird-syndrome/#comment-4222 @Kleenexlambot- I am not a professional therapist or anything like that. I'm a friend of her friend. @Kleenexlambot- I am not a professional therapist or anything like that. I’m a friend of her friend.

]]> By: Kleenexlambot http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/10/12/the-wounded-bird-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-4217 Kleenexlambot Sat, 14 Oct 2006 10:43:19 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/10/12/the-wounded-bird-syndrome/#comment-4217 im not comfortable with you "breaking the bomb" on the wife. I know your intention is good but could you have handled it differently? i kinda relate it to my profession where i handle confidential/sensitive information provided by clients. its only my personal opinion. im not comfortable with you “breaking the bomb” on the wife. I know your intention is good but could you have handled it differently?

i kinda relate it to my profession where i handle confidential/sensitive information provided by clients.

its only my personal opinion.

]]> By: Noemi http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/10/12/the-wounded-bird-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-4211 Noemi Sat, 14 Oct 2006 00:06:02 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/10/12/the-wounded-bird-syndrome/#comment-4211 @Sam- At that time I thought it was not a good idea. But today when I see Emma, I am happy I told her. @little light- Some people are just much weaker and have failed to realize that only they have control over their happiness. @dexie- yes there is hope. That other woman is really bad. She has no conscience. @Sam- At that time I thought it was not a good idea. But today when I see Emma, I am happy I told her.

@little light- Some people are just much weaker and have failed to realize that only they have control over their happiness.

@dexie- yes there is hope. That other woman is really bad. She has no conscience.

]]> By: dexie http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/10/12/the-wounded-bird-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-4208 dexie Fri, 13 Oct 2006 18:01:44 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/10/12/the-wounded-bird-syndrome/#comment-4208 it's hard enough dealing with something tragic in our lives it's even harder when some outsider is trying to insinuate her life into the mix. you did the right thing hun. and i hope the couple work things out. they need each other more than ever. as for that other woman, she needs to fix herself first before she starts getting involve with the opposite sex coz one can't be happy with someone else if they're not happy with who they really are. it’s hard enough dealing with something tragic in our lives it’s even harder when some outsider is trying to insinuate her life into the mix. you did the right thing hun. and i hope the couple work things out. they need each other more than ever. as for that other woman, she needs to fix herself first before she starts getting involve with the opposite sex coz one can’t be happy with someone else if they’re not happy with who they really are.

]]> By: little light http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/10/12/the-wounded-bird-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-4019 little light Fri, 13 Oct 2006 10:24:01 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/10/12/the-wounded-bird-syndrome/#comment-4019 that is why people should be made to realize that no one can complete them other than themselves. it is not healthy to cling to someone else for our dear lives. two incomplete people would just end up eating each other. that is why people should be made to realize that no one can complete them other than themselves. it is not healthy to cling to someone else for our dear lives. two incomplete people would just end up eating each other.

]]> By: Sam http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/10/12/the-wounded-bird-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-4016 Sam Fri, 13 Oct 2006 05:14:42 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/10/12/the-wounded-bird-syndrome/#comment-4016 I agree with your decision to tell the wife. I agree with your decision to tell the wife.

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