Comments on: What does he look like today?

By: changchang

changchang — Thu, 28 Jun 2007 04:32:14 +0000

It’s really very difficult for Mothers like me to read something like this.The death of a child,is not something a Mother would ever wish for.As what I often heard; “No parent will bury their children..it’s always the other way around “I have two kids..a girl and a Boy aged 5 and 11 months.Who knows what would become of them in the near future,but everyday I always pray that God will take good care of them and protect them from any harm and that kung may mauuna man dito sa mundo sana ako na yun and not them.Kasi kung sila iniisip ko pa lang ‘di ko talaga kakayanin.I admire you,you are one strong woman!

By: Maryam in Marrakesh

Maryam in Marrakesh — Thu, 03 May 2007 18:45:38 +0000

It is difficult for me to read your blog. It reminds me of certain possibilities that are difficult for me to think about. My boy, Tristan, is just 7. I think of what my life would be without him. It is so very difficult to imagine. I send very well wishes your way. You seem like a very caring individual.

By: Noemi

Noemi — Thu, 03 May 2007 10:53:41 +0000

@auee- These moments are not so frequent and when they happen, a wisp of sadness comes but it’s not that painful anymore.

@benj- those anniversaries do trigger our thoughts of “what if?”

@Sam- thank you Sam for visiting

@Riz- I am truly comforted knowing that you are learning somehow. Take time to work on your grief. The only way to heal is to go through this pain. Then it will lessen. There is hope. Take care.

By: Riz

Riz — Thu, 03 May 2007 08:49:37 +0000

Thanks Miss Noemi, really. Learning a lot from this blog! I guess it’s true that one thing one can do to help others is to share his/her life to them. In this case, you’re sharing your life through you blog. It has become a real blessing to a lot of people, and I can very much attest to that. God bless po.

By: Sam

Sam — Thu, 03 May 2007 00:14:34 +0000

Thank you so much for sharing and touching our hearts.

By: Jane

Jane — Wed, 02 May 2007 16:55:47 +0000

“The lifeguard didn’t know how to do CPR and had to ask the bartender to do it for him.” - now what the heck is he there for if he can’t administer CPR? Beats me!

“and give M a hug too.” - I will, I will!!! As soon as he comes back from the province. You know, at Luijoe’s age, he must have always enjoyed your hugs. Don’t you just wish we could freeze them all at the age where they are so lovable and huggable? At M’s age now, he is beginning to squirm sometimes as though he feels a bit uncomfortable about this hugging thingie….

By: benj

benj — Wed, 02 May 2007 15:28:01 +0000

When I saw my youngest brother for the first time fifteen years ago, he was already in his casket lying in state. What he would’ve looked like is one of the usual conversations that I have with my brother right around our youngest brother’s birthday (and date of death).

I’m sure writing about how you feel is helping everyone out there in one way or another.

By: auee

auee — Wed, 02 May 2007 15:17:23 +0000

Goosebumps ran up my spine when I read about Nisha. Her talking about Luijoe & then getting “pushed” into the water to save a sister, what a wonderful “coincidence”.

I know grief & it never goes away. Just because someone died doesn’t mean we forget & we’re not allowed to talk about the deceased. It’s callous for people to begrudge us that. Sometimes when I’m missing my Lola so much I still cry. We know they’re safer, happier where they are so we should rejoice, but missing them will always be a part of us.

Reading your post, actually triggered my tear ducts. But somehow I feel lighter in spirit.

By: Noemi

Noemi — Wed, 02 May 2007 13:02:24 +0000

@feng- *hugs* thanks for the reminder

@annamanila- ayy yes. Grief is very much a part of my life. The pain is not raw but triggers do occur .

@chyd- i am so happy that somehow Luijoe touched your life. It comforts me to know that you got inspired. Don’t worry if you feel low as a mother. it happens.

By: chyd

chyd — Wed, 02 May 2007 09:47:37 +0000

Hi Noime,

I came across luijoe’s site when I was at the verge of looking for comfort and answer to my questions on being a parent, at that time I was feeling very low and quite dissapointed with my six year old son’s brought about by a school problem. I was glued to my seat for hours and find myself crying while reading your post. Interesting though and permit me if you may, but I actually find my son’s quite resemblance to Luijoe, esp. the one featured above. Since then, Luijoe remains in my mind, I kept telling stories of him to my family and even my kids, I don’t know if you’ll believe me, but everytime I’m on the verge of getting very angry and in the midst of spanking my children, the thought of him enters my mind and I calm down, ending up with me hugging my children instead.

And when I feel low, I remember you and it reminds me that it is nothing compared to what you have gone through, I admire your courage. I would like to thank you and your family esp. Luijoe for making me a changed mom.

Indeed, Luijoe is and angel, among hundreds of top sites on parenting, now I understand that maybe Luijoe really directed me to this site for a good reason.

May Godbless you and your family.

Chyd