After my last post, a couple of things came to mind which may be of interest. I’ve never heard any other man talk about his level of need or desire for sex, or at what frequency, but I did read a related anecdote which is of interest: John F. Kennedy, then President of the United States, asked the Prime Minister of Great Britain, Harold Macmillan, this question during a “summit” holiday, which Macmillan later recorded in his memoirs. As Kennedy explained, if he did not have sex daily, he experienced “terrible migraines”. Now Kennedy was no model of excellence in health-care, but as a married man with an unsatisfactory sex-life and as a migraineur, I can assure you that the two are strongly correlated.

I believe it was Jim Morrison who penned the lyrics, “women seem wicked when you’re unwanted”. I hope that the married women who read these words will avoid even the appearance of wickedness, and try to avoid this kind of unknowning, unthinking cruelty to their husbands. I would never wish for anyone to experience the kind of bitter torment in their marriage which I have experienced.

I do think your reasoning is sound. Correlation is not causation, and all of the causal factors you have described appear to be a reasonable mechanism which may underlie the observed correlation. However, reasoning should not stand alone, divorced from facts. While it is anecdotal, plainly my experience is not untypical: If I do not have sexual relief, by the second day I am in a physically
stressed condition — not severe, but occasionally debilitating. Subjectively, it is easy to understand how this level of stress, maintained over a period of many years, would lead to a greatly diminished lifespan. Long-term unrelieved pain often results in depression, and depression often results in suicide. I suspect that both natural death and suicide rates are inversely correlated with rates of orgasmic episode.

I understand that the hard facts may be difficult to accept, especially for typical women, who tend to a weekly rather than a daily cycle, and would find it tedious to adequately maintain their spouse. But my own, admittedly self-interested and rhetorical, expectation is that a cold, hard look at the facts would tell us that if a wife doesn’t see to it that her husbands sexual needs are met, she had might as well put a bullet in his head 20 years before he was due to die of age-related organ failure.

It is rather shocking to me that more adequate treatment of this subject has not been done in the medical community: The interrelationships of medical health and sexual hygiene are manifold and profound, and more emphasis on this subject in medical research is highly warranted. I do wish that the studies that are done in this area were less politically motivated and more scientifically so.

I think that he(Dr. Oz) is simply saying that the more sex the better.

rock on women in your 50’s. . . sex is sublime!!!

and you are right, it is not the number of times or number of orgasms. what matters most is that the having sex with the one who matters most to you.

by the way, i read in one of the local magazines that the tv show “sis” has been suspended for one day by mctrb because the show discussed exactly the same topic–how often should one have sex, how, what with children around, etc on day television.

i just wonder, had the blogosphere been under the authority of mctrb (with your and my sites visited by people of all ages, including adolescents and teens), would your site be suspended because of these discussions? (LOL)