Comments on: Mother-Daughter Relationship

By: sexy mom

sexy mom — Tue, 22 May 2007 01:21:28 +0000

i guess it is an art–perfecting one’s words, and being cool. i have to deal with 4 teenagers now, and i learn by the day, keeping in mind the experience with the 2 elder ones. they are all different personalities, what may work with one may not work with another. i try to be patient as much as i can.

and yes, controlling will not work, no matter what good intentions we have. reverse psychology perhaps? but they are smart, they would know. the most difficult to deal with in children is “their feelings”, sometimes, they tend not to see our side.

By: auee

auee — Mon, 21 May 2007 11:21:24 +0000

This is the sort of post that I take stock of from the PMN mommies. It’s good to read & learn from your experiences. I know experience is the best teacher but I want to arm myself with as much know-how as possible.

Thanks.

By: Belle

Belle — Sun, 20 May 2007 17:04:11 +0000

yes, annabelle’s comments sounded manipulative which certainly doesn’t do any good to ruffa who has been through a lot already. what she needs right now from her mother and siblings is their emotional support and understanding.

By: dexie

dexie — Sat, 19 May 2007 19:37:34 +0000

i fint it interesting that in ruffa’s website there’s a post that’s asking people to grant them privacy, yet here she is and her mother in 2 different networks airing it all out. pinoy showbiz talaga oo.

By: evi

evi — Sat, 19 May 2007 19:17:29 +0000

i am a mother myself. i think we can never control our children’s decisions. we are solely here to guide them. we can never avoid them from the pains and struggles of life but we are here to comfort them.

By: annamanila

annamanila — Sat, 19 May 2007 09:23:13 +0000

As my daughter would have said — hard to bring up mommy.

I guess we can’t tell them what to do or forbid them from doing something. All we can offer is advice, point them to slices of life (true to life examples), etc. And of course PRAY PRAY PRAY. Most of all pray that all the values we tried so hard to inculcate in them carry them through difficult life and decision making.

Yung kay Ruffa, I read that she’s a battered wife although they do not say explicitly. So its possible Annabel was begging her daughter to stay put here not rally for her own selfish wanting for her daughter to be near but for Ruffa’s own benefit.

By: Noemi

Noemi — Sat, 19 May 2007 02:21:21 +0000

@lemon- yeah I figured that out. I learned the hard way.

By: lemon

lemon — Sat, 19 May 2007 00:29:16 +0000

Haha, Ms. Noemi, the thing with mothers is that daughters focus more on what we DON’T say or stop short of saying. Looking back, I remember that I would get hints from my Mama’s facial expressions or when she remained tight-lipped. That got my attention more than the “this guy looks like a playboy, blah blah”. I knew then that her maternal instincts were at work, so I should have the good sense to tread lightly.

What an enlightening post,MS. Noemi.