Justice, My Son



In memory of Jose Luis (Luijoe) Dado, on his 7th Angel Date
May 27, 2000- May 27, 2007
luijoe
My son , an hour before he went to heaven

Dear son,

It’s been seven long years since I last cradled you in my arms.

For many years I struggled searching for answers to the question…

Why God?

Why God is it taking so long for the judge to act on the (our) civil case?

Despite your dad being a lawyer and a law office to defend our case,

the wheels of justice grinds ever so slowly.

Yes, Why God ?

Why did God take you away from me in the first place?

Other evil persons continue to thrive and survive

yet God had to take you away, my good, beautiful and religious boy!

Why God , is justice over your death not yet served to this day?

But I have long since moved beyond “Why God?”

Some things I am never going to understand.

Only God knows the answer.

What I do understand is God will give me the important answer , in HIS time.

God promises to work all things together for good.

I have faith that justice will be served , my son.

I will wait patiently.

I love you, my Luijoe.

Your Mama.

flowers
Flower Basket at his resting place today at the Loyola Memorial Park, Paranaque

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39 Comments »

Comment by Matt
2007-05-27 02:27:46

A good Mom! Keep up the love.

 
Comment by Natalya (talj)
2007-05-27 03:08:27

Dear Noemi, thinking of you and your family and sending you so much love on this special day {{{HUGS}}} x

 
Comment by feng
2007-05-27 05:54:49

oh Noemi, my big and tight hugs to you.

 
Comment by dexie
2007-05-27 07:57:25

*hugs* Noemi. you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

 
Comment by lady cess
2007-05-27 08:23:24

big hug from me mommy noemi..

 
Comment by chesca silva
2007-05-27 09:16:10

dear noemi,
i can not even begin to imagine this pain.
my thoughts are with you.

 
Comment by Candy
2007-05-27 10:17:01

I read about Luijoe’s story in the boook “Fallen Cradle” and was touched by his story (and those of others in the book) that I wrote a blog about it.

My hugs are with you and your family, Ms. Noemi.

 
Comment by Cathy
2007-05-27 10:38:24

I know Lui smiles down on you from heaven. May you be wrapped in God’s love and comfort as you mark his angel date. And I know that justice will come in God’s perfect time. (((hugs))) from our family to yours

 
Comment by julie
2007-05-27 11:10:51

Noemi, you moved me to tears. I have read somewhere, I don’t remember who wrote it or maybe I just heard it, that when parents die, their children are called “ulila” or orphans. But when children die before their parents, what do you call the parents?

I hope and pray that the justice you are waiting for will be granted to you.

Nice seeing you again Noemi. :)

 
Comment by Myrna
2007-05-27 12:36:51

I will always miss my handsome nephew. I’m sure he’s in Heaven, smiling down at us with Daddy, Mommy, Oscar, and Ruben.

 
Comment by lady cess
2007-05-27 13:54:41

mommy noemi, i clicked the link above. im so moved, im in tears, i cant find the words.

i guess i just want you to know i care. i’ll include all of you in my prayers. big hug from me :)

 
Comment by Jane
2007-05-27 14:29:41

Oh Noemi! I just got back from out of town and am so glad I opened your blog.

So today is Luijoe’s earth birthday and heaven day as well! I am sending you my big virtual hug and prayers that justice will come in His time. You’re such a wonderful mommy and Luijoe will be the first to affirm that. Am sure he has already kissed and hugged you from heaven before anyone of us did. Heto, naiiyak na naman ako…..

 
Comment by karen
2007-05-27 16:07:40

my prayers and thoughts with you and your family, miss noemi.

 
Comment by Mitchteryosa
2007-05-27 17:49:53

Heartbreaking…

Just think positive…. and everything will turn out fine.

 
Comment by Noemi
2007-05-27 20:27:09

Thanks everyone for your thoughts and prayers. For the first time since his death, today’s angel date was quite a happy day actually. The past anniversary dates often brought out moody and temperamental family members. We didn’t make any plans so as not to get stressed out. We went to the cemetery at 5 pm with lovely flowers and had dinner with the kids.

 
Comment by Mitchteryosa
2007-05-27 22:30:49

Good to hear that po. I’m sure Luijoe is happy seeing all of you happy.

 
Comment by Riz
2007-05-27 23:54:25

Our family dont have to go to the cemetery to visit my Daddy, his ashes is right here in our house! (Which has some advantages and disadvantages too. *sigh*) Those are really lovely flowers, Miss N. I’m sure Luijoe loves them. I feel close to your son just reading your posts. :)

Everything in God’s sweet time. :)

 
Comment by SexyMom
2007-05-28 08:54:28

hi, Noemi

am glad to hear that you have finally moved on, and the angel date ended up in a happy note. I tend to believe that angel Luijoe was looking down from heaven happy, too, in the bosom of God.

 
Comment by chuva
2007-05-28 09:08:54

my thoughts and prayers for your baby. it is coincidental that i am here in manila right now and ready to go to the church in baclaran. i will light a candle for your angel…

god bless you and your family - - specially our little angel in heaven.

 
Comment by Noemi
2007-05-28 09:27:28

@riz- the ritual of the cemetery is quite good for us though.

@sexymom- correction: I have not finally moved on.

I have moved on a long long time ago. And moving on to a new normal is what we bereaved parents experience. I wrote this entry more for memory lane purposes not for announcing that I have moved on. In fact I have moved on even way way before I started this blog.

I always get comments like this so just a thumbs up :)

@chuva- Lighting a candle is touching. Thanks

 
Comment by jun
2007-05-28 10:08:36

Eternal rest grant unto Luijoe O Lord;
And let perpetual light shine upon him
May he rest in peace. Amen

 
Comment by sasha
2007-05-28 10:37:43

God will give you your heart’s desire, tita. I’m pretty sure you’d get justice soon.

God bless!

 
Comment by Sam
2007-05-28 11:34:14

Blessings and prayers.

 
Comment by rhodora
2007-05-28 15:31:08

*Hugs* dear Noemi… I’m sure in God’s time, Louijoe’s death will be given justice.

 
Comment by Chateau
2007-05-28 16:18:46

Hugs, Noemi. May justice come soon.

 
Comment by Rach
2007-05-28 18:26:26

Hi Noemi. I hope and pray that justice will be granted soon. God bless everyone in the family.

 
Comment by sassymom
2007-05-28 18:28:21

Hi, noemi! I really can’t begin this comment!

Can’t imagine the pain .. I lost three babies in my womb but I know it’s nothing compared to what you have felt. I even told my hubby your story and he was so moved.

Sometimes there are things that we really can’t explain … but there is a greater reason beyond that only God knows.

But its good to see you moving on.

Take care and God bless!

 
Comment by Prudence
2007-05-28 23:49:32

I don’t know if I’ll fully understand what you went through because I haven’t been a mother yet. But I do know how it feels how to have lost a loved one. Maybe it’s not anymore important to dwell on the whys. I’m sure you have moved on and it’s good. Life is good, be it unfair at times. But it is to be cherished. Stay strong :-)

 
Comment by annamanila
2007-05-29 16:29:46

Noems, I think deep down you know the answers to at least some of your “Whys.” You have enough faith, di ba? But go ahead, Noems, vent. You have every right to vent. Sometimes, when you put the woes down on paper or on screen they stay there … oh well … hopefully.

 
Comment by auee
2007-05-29 22:05:40

Yes God will answer your questions in His time. Just hold on to your Faith & He will provide you with the strength to keep going & ultimately, give you what you seek.

 
Comment by SexyMom
2007-05-30 23:10:53

thanks, Noemi for the correction. and i am glad to know that.

 
Comment by geri
2007-06-01 03:10:11

Noemi, pinaiyak mo na naman ako. He’s such a beautiful boy. He is looking after you.

 
Comment by KK
2007-06-02 11:52:24

Ate Noemi,
I hope and pray that your son will have justice soon. Though it will not bring him back, it might pull out some thorns in your heart.

 
Comment by Alex in Wonderland
2007-06-02 15:27:32

This must be very hard for you! But I can see, you are really a strong person, despite all the struggles you have gone through. This website is very interesting!

 
Comment by AnP
2007-06-09 04:44:01

One day, Noemi, one day. Luijoe is patiently waiting for that day, as well, as he watches you all from above.

 
Comment by AnitoKid
2007-07-15 16:10:32

My thoughts, my prayers, and my heart - all to you, your family, and Luijoe.

 
Comment by AnitoKid
2007-07-15 16:23:43

I just read the posts at angel-luijoe.net. And honestly, I do not know what to say. I keep trying to put in words what I am feeling right now - but somehow, i cannot.

I feel your pain and search for justice.

A tear fell just fell from my eye. Just now.

 
Comment by momoftwo
2007-08-20 21:09:27

Hi Noemi, I got here thru PMN. I read the story about your son. I know words cannot replaced how you feel. My daughter fell on her ninang’s pool during my baby shower and thank God a dad at the party jumped and took her out right away. For one second that I turned my head, she was there at the pool gasping and shaking because of fear. It was a sight until now I cannot forget. She cried (and I cried with her) for hours, if something bad happened to her I will never myself. It must be really hard moving on. I’ll pray for you and your family. Please continue to inspire more.

 
Comment by Jerry
2008-10-07 11:43:04

I saw the youtube video. I don’t know exactly how it happened. Hopefully someone learned something from that experience.

 
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