Comments on: A Healthy Attraction to People http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/ Parenting, Health & Family Sun, 20 Jul 2008 15:42:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: SexyMom http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61889 SexyMom Wed, 30 May 2007 15:08:52 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61889 looking back when i was younger, i would tend to blame others for so many things that was happening to me. i was kinda self-centered. with age and experience, i mellowed, i saw reason, i began to adjust, rather than making other people adjusting to me or expecting them to do so. the change had to be with me first, and this has made a whole lot of difference. looking back when i was younger, i would tend to blame others for so many things that was happening to me. i was kinda self-centered. with age and experience, i mellowed, i saw reason, i began to adjust, rather than making other people adjusting to me or expecting them to do so. the change had to be with me first, and this has made a whole lot of difference.

]]> By: Luxie http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61855 Luxie Wed, 30 May 2007 12:21:33 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61855 Hello. I was browsing through some blogs and one hop to another led me here. I must say that though you have encountered such a great tragedy..your story of resilience is likewise one of great inspiring faith. Thank you for sharing. Hello. I was browsing through some blogs and one hop to another led me here.

I must say that though you have encountered such a great tragedy..your story of resilience is likewise one of great inspiring faith.

Thank you for sharing.

]]> By: sassymom http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61784 sassymom Wed, 30 May 2007 06:40:28 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61784 Agree! "You cannot give whar you do not have." So, how can you love someone if you don't love yourself. When I was younger, I guess I attracted the wrong kind of people because I realized, I was so carefree and never cared for what and who I am. But I guess, you have to put a price on yourself! I'm glad I attracted the right kind of husband!!! Thanks for sharing, noemi! Agree!

“You cannot give whar you do not have.”

So, how can you love someone if you don’t love yourself.

When I was younger, I guess I attracted the wrong kind of people because I realized, I was so carefree and never cared for what and who I am. But I guess, you have to put a price on yourself! I’m glad I attracted the right kind of husband!!!

Thanks for sharing, noemi!

]]> By: Noemi http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61623 Noemi Tue, 29 May 2007 16:43:50 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61623 @rach- we always learned a lesson in all of our relationships. Nothing was truly a waste. @cathy- that's why i am teaching my daughters early on so they are aware. It's their choice if they don't believe me. @cess- it pays to nudge them and give a little unsolicited advice. Then let go if they don't listen to you . @lisaflor- The right person will come if you believe that will happen. Trust that he will be there for you one day and believe that with or without a life partner, you are still you @annamanila- oh no. It must be hard for the psychologist to deal with her own issues. With others, she can be objective. @auee- I was also like you before. I always thought my husband was at fault and never myself. But I learned to look at myself first @dexie- thanks for the compliment. My daughters are so strong willed . Yeah. Hehe. It's a loving riot at home . @rach- we always learned a lesson in all of our relationships. Nothing was truly a waste.

@cathy- that’s why i am teaching my daughters early on so they are aware. It’s their choice if they don’t believe me.

@cess- it pays to nudge them and give a little unsolicited advice. Then let go if they don’t listen to you .

@lisaflor- The right person will come if you believe that will happen. Trust that he will be there for you one day and believe that with or without a life partner, you are still you

@annamanila- oh no. It must be hard for the psychologist to deal with her own issues. With others, she can be objective.

@auee- I was also like you before. I always thought my husband was at fault and never myself. But I learned to look at myself first

@dexie- thanks for the compliment. My daughters are so strong willed . Yeah. Hehe. It’s a loving riot at home .

]]> By: dexie http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61600 dexie Tue, 29 May 2007 14:03:20 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61600 lisaflor, he'll come when you least expect it :) I learned the same things when hubby and I had our troubles. We both had to look at our own reflections to see what was wrong. There might have been one thing to put a blame on but it wouldn't hurt to look at one's self to find out out more. I admire how you've raised your daughters Noemi. They're both very beautiful strong-willed, intelligent, independent girls any mother could be proud of. lisaflor, he’ll come when you least expect it :)

I learned the same things when hubby and I had our troubles. We both had to look at our own reflections to see what was wrong. There might have been one thing to put a blame on but it wouldn’t hurt to look at one’s self to find out out more.

I admire how you’ve raised your daughters Noemi. They’re both very beautiful strong-willed, intelligent, independent girls any mother could be proud of.

]]> By: auee http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61599 auee Tue, 29 May 2007 14:01:17 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61599 Thanks for sharing this with us. Point 6 is one that I must keep & always re-read. Hubby & I still have a long way to go & sometimes our immaturity gets in the way. If I am to be honest, my temperament often prevents me from admitting fault. I am learning & thankfully I/we recognise our shortcomings now. Thanks for sharing this with us.
Point 6 is one that I must keep & always re-read. Hubby & I still have a long way to go & sometimes our immaturity gets in the way. If I am to be honest, my temperament often prevents me from admitting fault. I am learning & thankfully I/we recognise our shortcomings now.

]]> By: annamanila http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61526 annamanila Tue, 29 May 2007 08:24:22 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61526 Wow! Great piece. Wish I read this decades ago. I just wonder ... when one's in love will she listen to prescriptions? I know of a girl, a psychologist .. fell in love with a client of the psychological firm she was working in. She had all the inkblots, the attitude and aptitudinal test results of this very charming guy. All the tests are saying he's not good husband material. Even the head psychologist warned her. But she went ahead and married him anyway. What I am saying is .... oh well Wow! Great piece. Wish I read this decades ago. I just wonder … when one’s in love will she listen to prescriptions?

I know of a girl, a psychologist .. fell in love with a client of the psychological firm she was working in. She had all the inkblots, the attitude and aptitudinal test results of this very charming guy. All the tests are saying he’s not good husband material. Even the head psychologist warned her. But she went ahead and married him anyway.

What I am saying is …. oh well

]]> By: sasha http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61512 sasha Tue, 29 May 2007 07:14:57 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61512 I will keep this in mind, tita. For future reference :) I will keep this in mind, tita. For future reference :)

]]> By: lisaflor http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61470 lisaflor Tue, 29 May 2007 03:27:28 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61470 You know, I felt the same way too, feeling ko puro weirdos ang naging bf ko before. I have this "ideal man" in mind - mestizo, funny, a good singer, etc etc... but all my past bfs were moreno, only one of 'em sings well, one of 'em was like a clown, kaso di naman ako kaya ipagtanggol! Maybe I ask too much... but anyway, now that I'm "available", I tend to be very picky. Not that there are suitors (zero nga eh), but I have a mental list of what I want in a guy. I guess the right thing to do now is just be friends with as much people as possible. In my experience, years of friendship isn't really enough. I have no idea how love and relationships really work, but you're right that personal issues should be dealt with first. So I add another question ... when will I find that right person? :-) You know, I felt the same way too, feeling ko puro weirdos ang naging bf ko before. I have this “ideal man” in mind - mestizo, funny, a good singer, etc etc… but all my past bfs were moreno, only one of ‘em sings well, one of ‘em was like a clown, kaso di naman ako kaya ipagtanggol! Maybe I ask too much… but anyway, now that I’m “available”, I tend to be very picky. Not that there are suitors (zero nga eh), but I have a mental list of what I want in a guy. I guess the right thing to do now is just be friends with as much people as possible. In my experience, years of friendship isn’t really enough. I have no idea how love and relationships really work, but you’re right that personal issues should be dealt with first.

So I add another question … when will I find that right person? :-)

]]> By: lady cess http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61462 lady cess Tue, 29 May 2007 02:52:21 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/29/a-healthy-attraction-to-people/#comment-61462 i heartily agree, mommy noemi! now if only some of my girl friends would listen... i heartily agree, mommy noemi! now if only some of my girl friends would listen…

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