Comments on: The Ideal Husband For My Girls http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/ Parenting, Health, Wellnes, Family& New Media Sun, 21 Mar 2010 14:23:21 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Roland http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-281409 Roland Tue, 14 Jul 2009 12:55:42 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/#comment-281409 @Madmac5: My parents are that type you are mentioning. They have two children, my brother and I. We both are already adult and our parents are still married since 30 years w/o God's help. :) No personal attacks on you here, but just to give you an idea... I can just repeat what some commentors before has posted before me: You will never find the perfect husband for your dauthers. But I think you will never want this, do you? So the God-Factor is important to me because my current wife I get divorced from, is INC (Iglesia Ni Cristo) and she forces or pushes me to much. To give you some examples, she wants me to let her introduce me to her church or else she might look around for "an other man" she has to declare as her husband because her church was already asking for me. :( But I'm non-beliver. Another example is that she told me an other Filipina has "convinced" her husband with disabilities to join so I, with some minor disabilities, also have to join. Hey, I'm not him. So that's why I get divorced because of the "God-Factor". I mostly accepted her church and did come with her on the Philippines only once and never again. I didn't feel comfortable when I was there, I feld brain-washed after that all. Okay, so that makes me to a good husband and her a "bad" wife, I think. Now I'm awake and I only want - after I got divorced, of course - a Filipina who is catholic or evangelics, no INC or other so-called "better churches". @Naomi: May I come back here and tell you how it ends when I got married again? I will marry but not so quick and "blind" again. :) @Madmac5: My parents are that type you are mentioning. They have two children, my brother and I. We both are already adult and our parents are still married since 30 years w/o God’s help. :) No personal attacks on you here, but just to give you an idea…

I can just repeat what some commentors before has posted before me: You will never find the perfect husband for your dauthers. But I think you will never want this, do you?

So the God-Factor is important to me because my current wife I get divorced from, is INC (Iglesia Ni Cristo) and she forces or pushes me to much. To give you some examples, she wants me to let her introduce me to her church or else she might look around for “an other man” she has to declare as her husband because her church was already asking for me. :( But I’m non-beliver.

Another example is that she told me an other Filipina has “convinced” her husband with disabilities to join so I, with some minor disabilities, also have to join. Hey, I’m not him.

So that’s why I get divorced because of the “God-Factor”. I mostly accepted her church and did come with her on the Philippines only once and never again. I didn’t feel comfortable when I was there, I feld brain-washed after that all. Okay, so that makes me to a good husband and her a “bad” wife, I think.

Now I’m awake and I only want – after I got divorced, of course – a Filipina who is catholic or evangelics, no INC or other so-called “better churches”.

@Naomi: May I come back here and tell you how it ends when I got married again? I will marry but not so quick and “blind” again. :)

]]> By: Roland http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-281405 Roland Tue, 14 Jul 2009 12:15:00 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/#comment-281405 @Madmac5: My parents are that type you are mentioning. They have two children, my brother and I. We both are already adult and our parents are still married since 30 years w/o God's help. :) No personal attacks on you here, but just to give you an idea... @Naomi: Your comment subscription manager is working very slow at the moment. @Madmac5: My parents are that type you are mentioning. They have two children, my brother and I. We both are already adult and our parents are still married since 30 years w/o God’s help. :) No personal attacks on you here, but just to give you an idea…

@Naomi: Your comment subscription manager is working very slow at the moment.

]]> By: Madmac5 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-221042 Madmac5 Mon, 19 May 2008 16:48:07 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/#comment-221042 God-fearing naturally makes sense for a GREAT marriage. To prove the point, what is thing of the opposite extreme: No fear of GOD/God loathing. What type of marriage would that make. And everything else that falls on the scale between the two extreme is too the measure of what to expect God-fearing naturally makes sense for a GREAT marriage.
To prove the point, what is thing of the opposite extreme:
No fear of GOD/God loathing.
What type of marriage would that make.
And everything else that falls on the scale between the two extreme is too the measure of what to expect

]]> By: hotmomma http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-83546 hotmomma Wed, 08 Aug 2007 08:52:42 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/#comment-83546 I liked the way you wrote this post ms.noime. I'm married with 2 kids and until now my hubby is still in the "binata" mode and it is really affecting me-our marriage. We are living with my in-laws and i greatly agree with what you said that if both have a very good relationship with God, we will both know who to choose above all. We have been living with my in laws for almost 5 years now and I still could not feel our marriage working as how it should be. We are dictated by my in-laws since we are staying in their place and honestly, I am really bothered now. Super. I want to have our own identity as a couple and decide for ourselves and for my kids. There is great intrusion but it is hard to break away from this bec hubby himself is not really and i think does not want to leave his parents. Help! Write more about this. I liked the way you wrote this post ms.noime. I’m married with 2 kids and until now my hubby is still in the “binata” mode and it is really affecting me-our marriage. We are living with my in-laws and i greatly agree with what you said that if both have a very good relationship with God, we will both know who to choose above all. We have been living with my in laws for almost 5 years now and I still could not feel our marriage working as how it should be. We are dictated by my in-laws since we are staying in their place and honestly, I am really bothered now. Super. I want to have our own identity as a couple and decide for ourselves and for my kids. There is great intrusion but it is hard to break away from this bec hubby himself is not really and i think does not want to leave his parents. Help! Write more about this.

]]> By: Toe http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-64158 Toe Fri, 08 Jun 2007 03:55:20 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/#comment-64158 For my Mom, no one is good enough a boyfriend for her girls... hehe! But once we got married, she loved her sons-in-law like her own children. :) For my Mom, no one is good enough a boyfriend for her girls… hehe! But once we got married, she loved her sons-in-law like her own children. :)

]]> By: SexyMom http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-63647 SexyMom Wed, 06 Jun 2007 09:08:53 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/#comment-63647 good practical advice that one won't see in books. yes, most important of all is the "God" factor in any relationship. in the same way as there is no perfect wife, there can be no perfect husband, it takes 2 to make a marriage work, sans interfering in-laws (LOL) good practical advice that one won’t see in books.

yes, most important of all is the “God” factor in any relationship.

in the same way as there is no perfect wife, there can be no perfect husband, it takes 2 to make a marriage work, sans interfering in-laws (LOL)

]]> By: ivan http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-63429 ivan Tue, 05 Jun 2007 14:12:00 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/#comment-63429 i couldn't agree more. i used to believe in marriage but hearing news of infidelity brought my hopes of a 'till death do us part' promise to an end. But what you said really hit me hard. It trully is the God factor in the couple's life. Without God, many things wouldn't have worked out. i couldn’t agree more. i used to believe in marriage but hearing news of infidelity brought my hopes of a ’till death do us part’ promise to an end. But what you said really hit me hard. It trully is the God factor in the couple’s life. Without God, many things wouldn’t have worked out.

]]> By: banggigay http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-63417 banggigay Tue, 05 Jun 2007 13:41:03 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/#comment-63417 hi noemi! this struck a cord. i think i'd be hanging out here more and more :-) hi noemi! this struck a cord. i think i’d be hanging out here more and more :-)

]]> By: auee http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-63362 auee Tue, 05 Jun 2007 07:48:26 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/#comment-63362 Interesting. I never really got an advise about my choice in men. Considering I grew up surrounded by women - ate, tita, Nanay, lola & cousins - your post made me scratch my head. But on thing though, I was attracted to hubby because of his relationship with God. He's a churchgoer & he has a strong Faith. I was complacent, I don't mind going to church now & then but I often deride the priests and I was more concerned at how the late Cardinal Sin was running the Church. Meeting my hubby changed all that, he didn't force me but encouraged me to renew my Faith (no not be born again). He was just there on Sundays and even introduced me to St Jude's novena on Thursdays (we come from Makati!). He was patient & very supportive & my Lola loved him to bits. Now compare my experience in Uni with an ex who was as complacent in his religion as I was. He goes to church with his family who are staunch Catholics, but he only does it for show. How can he guide me when he's also blind? We were bad for each other spiritually as we were both lost. I really made the right choice. Interesting. I never really got an advise about my choice in men. Considering I grew up surrounded by women – ate, tita, Nanay, lola & cousins – your post made me scratch my head.

But on thing though, I was attracted to hubby because of his relationship with God. He’s a churchgoer & he has a strong Faith. I was complacent, I don’t mind going to church now & then but I often deride the priests and I was more concerned at how the late Cardinal Sin was running the Church. Meeting my hubby changed all that, he didn’t force me but encouraged me to renew my Faith (no not be born again). He was just there on Sundays and even introduced me to St Jude’s novena on Thursdays (we come from Makati!). He was patient & very supportive & my Lola loved him to bits.

Now compare my experience in Uni with an ex who was as complacent in his religion as I was. He goes to church with his family who are staunch Catholics, but he only does it for show. How can he guide me when he’s also blind? We were bad for each other spiritually as we were both lost.

I really made the right choice.

]]> By: Danni http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/comment-page-1/#comment-63283 Danni Tue, 05 Jun 2007 00:34:41 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/03/the-ideal-husband-for-my-girls/#comment-63283 Isn't that what all parents want for their children? But before we advice them, I think it's only fair to at least try considering their situation if it would be appropriate. Isn’t that what all parents want for their children? But before we advice them, I think it’s only fair to at least try considering their situation if it would be appropriate.

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