Comments on: How do you know you’re a couple?

By: When Silence Speaks

When Silence Speaks — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 19:59:43 +0000

[...] Impluwensya! Impluwensya! Fellow bloggers really inspire me to write on something each day like how Noemi of Touched By An Angel’s entry How Do You Know You’re A Couple? Her last lines made me blog about this…. On Courtship : Do you prefer the old-fashioned way ? Or it’s really a thing of the past? [...]

By: KK

KK — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 18:52:31 +0000

Very cute story on how you and husband started out as a couple. He used a persuasive tactic .

I had my first boyfriend at 18 and received an ultimatum: college or BF? I’m glad that I have chosen college. I met some guys in college but even if we had the same age, I felt older in terms of maturity. I started chatting and met interesting characters. I wasn’t into the traditional ligawan system because I didn’t want to limit my choices to those who comes knocking at the door. I met my husband through the ‘Net and after two years of communication, I chose to accept a job offer within 3 hours away from him. The poor thing would drive 3 hours to and from to have dinner with me. So I knew that he was really serious.

By: himantayon

himantayon — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 08:40:19 +0000

i guess you just know when you know :)..

By: Chi

Chi — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 05:05:38 +0000

I’d be a phony if I would say I prefer the old-fashion way since I know that I’m not too keen on waiting for the first move. But having a daughter changed my perspective. I would want her to actually be patient and be a little more old-fashion than me.

By: Kongkong622

Kongkong622 — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 02:59:13 +0000

I’m still for the old fashioned way of courting. I believe women should be wined and dined. Doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg. Even cheapo stuff, as long as its heartfelt, can mean so much.

It’s funny, my husband was just telling me that he knew that I was the one he would be with forever when I did the dishes at his first townhouse. He noticed that I mixed the dishwashing liquid with water before using it. At that moment it dawned on him, I would be the one for him. And all because of that dishwashing liquid moment. He still can’t understand it, but it was “the moment” for him.

By: Mary

Mary — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 02:51:20 +0000

I think a little of both will be okay with me - like being old fashioned as to still have the “blessings” of our parents, i.e. they’ve at least met and interacted with the guy and can then make an impression (judge the person would be too strong a word). (I found out that mothers really knows best ;))
But at the same time it would be nice to go out a few times just to see if something’s there before we commit.
We all know that during the courtship stage it will always be the best foot forward. Going out on several occassions will certainly expose both parties to situations where they can more or less see for themselves what the other one is made of and can therefore a) take the relationship to the next level OR b) just be friends.Somehow though it’s the mystery, the “kilig” factor that we look for. And so we drag it on during the early days.In today’s world though it’s a waste of time sometimes to focus attention on one person only. Young people know there are lots of options for them now and girls/women are more brazen than before.
Sorry, long post.

By: Riz

Riz — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 00:47:16 +0000

I’d say old fashioned way. But that doesn’t happen a lot these days now. Hehe.

By: Noemi

Noemi — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 14:47:35 +0000

@nick- I think most women like the guys to make the first move . The difference today is that girls are not shy to ask if there is something going on between them. I was too shy to ask.

@gail- peculiar? hehe unique yata

@aileen- old fashioned ways work for me

@Prudence- I guess that’s also another way without being too forward.

@mitchteryosa- I think the courtship part just gave me the thrill. I thought that once he becomes my boyfriend, courtship starts. Of course I was wrong

@Dexie- well it worked out for you. I guess it is also a culture thing. We’re supposed to act a certain way. ahem among filipino guys.

By: Foggy Feminine Waters | Basapa

Foggy Feminine Waters | Basapa — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 11:35:52 +0000

[...] There is the cliche but oft’ used tall-handsome-great-personality ideals, L’Envoi by a poetic interlude on the ambivalence of youthful curiosity of stepping on someone’s shoes - ‘nay the opposite sex shoes, interspersed by a my mother, my self episode of maternal hope for a religious matrimony, that circularly asked “How do you know you’re a couple?” [...]

By: dexie

dexie — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 11:16:05 +0000

i cringe for the old fashioned way..eekkk . I’ve had one of those, the guy never said a word during one of those home visits. although he became my boyfriend for 3 years. he looked like Richard Gomez… LOL

with hubby and i, we started talking on the phone first. after a week, we met, had a date with another couple and after that we turned into a couple. and I think 2 weeks after that date he said “I Love You”. in English and Tagalog..hehe. so yeah, we were a couple even without the “L” word. which pretty much how modern relationships go these days