It is a story of faith.

On their wedding day, the groom’s best man found him sobbing on the floor of his dressing room, inconsolable. Utterly terrified of giving his life away to an unknown and all the expectations that he couldn’t possibly live up to.

The marriage was called off that morning but that same afternoon, it was held after all.

It took his bride’s believing in him and one phone call, at her mother’s suggestion. The girl calmly told him all she wanted was to be his wife, that’s all, and nothing more.

That faith led them down the altar. Ten years later they are happily married with 2 children and I’m told he’s a great partner and father. What carried them day by day is the fact that they loved each other.

Fear is often what prevents us from stepping forward into the unknown and clouds the clarity that shines from our hearts. Have faith in yourself. Yes, marriage has its responsibilities but if you are standing on the same side, and supporting each other, trusting you have each other and the wider community to help you over the hurdles, you will find a way.

Just one question needs answering: do you love each other? If you are marrying out of pity, then know that sacrifice is not the same as giving of yourself. Sacrifice breeds resentment. Gifts breed joy.

I wish us all much joy.

Thank you N, for a wonderful website. perhaps i’ll visit again one day.

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The job becomes easier if you’ve spent time honing the skill. That means dating and getting to know people, purposely studying the different personalities and traits of the people you date to figure out what appeals to you and most importantly, WHAT DOESN’T. You should never be afraid to make the call that the current relationship you’re in
doesn’t fit the bill. (I know, better said than done, but worth the effort nonetheless), you are after all making a decision that’s meant to last forever.

Also, it pays to study YOURSELF, so you know what it is that truly makes you happy, that way you can look for it in the other person. Try to find the strength to make the difficult choices. It’s hard at first, but I truly believe that it will pay off in the joy of making the right choice in the end.

So yes, I did find “the one”, but it took the accumulated experience of many “NOT-the-one’s” to show me the way.

If may I add then also don’t search it, in Gods time ipapadala din po yun.Kse sa akin ganun po, wala tlga sa plano ko yan bf, yun binigay sa akin medyo confused ako,kse alam ko siya na,but the problem was am not ready to be committed. tapos un nagwait lang siya matagal mga 6 months, tapos yun naging kami na. Kaya nga dapat yung mga anak makikining lagi sa mga parents nila,because most of time tama sila. In my case, I listened very well to my father, that’s why am happy w/ my bf,pero la pa po kasal,paunahin ko muna po un ate ko.

Aileen: “I told myself I won’t waste my time any more with guys who don’t seem to know what they want. Some say I am too pihikan, but then I have to take into consideration too that I have Miguel.”

‘Atta girl. EXACTA-MUNDO

When someone has a “criteria” “characteristic”, “goals” list, it shows exactly what you want in life. A commitment. And there is nothing wrong with that. Having a “list” means thinking of the future. There’s nothing wrong with searching for a partner with the same family, spiritual and moral values as you do. If someone doesn’t take these things in consideration well he/she will just go through life with no purpose. The fighting(non-physical), arguments, disagreements are parts of each person’s different personalities. There are 2 people(don’t count the in-laws, hah) in a relationship. There are NO 2 people alike. No matter what they say out there. If there were, the world would be too complacent and boring. BUT, it’s POSSIBLE to possess the same values, morals, financial stability, respect, love, trust, etc. Those are the goals. Not the putting the seat down, nor the socks on the floor, nor the taste in music. Things like that are what we add and bring into the relationship. It makes the couple keep on burning. It’s called compromising.

Hence, a true, meaningful, FUN, loving, stable, and COMMITTED relationship!

I particularly like the line in the song “The Prayer” … “…we hope each soul will find another soul to love…”

@Aileen- hehe it’s a popular topic. As we mature and learn from our past experience, it’s easy to discern The One. Sometimes the past helps us choose The One. In the past, I felt you were unsure you will ever find the One. At least now, you know The One is there, lurking somehow. “kilig”