Comments on: Are you paranoid, mom?

By: Rowena

Rowena — Sun, 15 Jul 2007 07:46:00 +0000

hi noemi, been visiting your blog. first time to comment though, like you, am also paranoid. i also told my kids what to do during emergencies, look around them when in public places, even observe people, etc. and i cant be still here at home when the school bus hasnt arrive on time.

By: AnitoKid

AnitoKid — Sun, 15 Jul 2007 07:09:55 +0000

With regards to paranoias, I have this fear about my teenage kids having their first heartache. I guess most of us will go through this phase. But how I wish I can take the ache away from my children and channel the pain, all of it, to me.

My kids always tell me how cool I am. How their classmates tell them, “You’re Dad is so cool!” Yet, it is they who are cool in my book. It is they who inspires me to be a better man. A better dad.

I remember the talk between me and my closeness (Agi) - told her that she will have new set of friends in her life, best friends even. That she may learn to forget to be sweet to her old man someday. And all will be okay - I will understand. “No, Dad!”, she whispered. “You will always be my best friend.” And I promised her, “You will have friends, possibly the best in the world, anak koy. But guess what? I will always try to be better than them. Will always be there for you no matter what. Not because you are my blood - but because you are my soulmate.”

The Guy up there has been very good to me and my family. I count my blessings, everyday. I have only one more wish, one that I secretly say to him each day. That I’d be given the chance to see all my children graduate from college. And maybe, just maybe, hear others say that I have raised good men and good women in my sons and daughters, respectively.

How much do I love my closeness and my kids? ? I would sell my soul for them. No second thoughts. And I kid you not.

By: dexie

dexie — Sat, 14 Jul 2007 19:38:16 +0000

i’m a walking talking paranoid cynic when it comes to the safety of the people I love, most especially my children. i try to relax sometimes with my husband’s coaxing but yah know, it’s unavoidable.

By: Noemi

Noemi — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 13:17:31 +0000

@angel- it’s natural for a mom to be thinking of the safety of her children

@analyse- i looked at most of the hardware stores . Buying smoke detectors is a good idea. A great pasalubong.

By: analyse

analyse — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 13:06:13 +0000

we have smoke detectors at home and fire extinguishers are next on our list. you could buy smoke detectors as low as 8€ here, and im thinking about bringing some home next time i go there.. i’m pushing my sis to buy some and i thought she’s just lazy to look for one when she told me she couldnt find anything.. so wala pala talaga?

By: Angel

Angel — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 05:17:10 +0000

Better safe than sorry. While it is true that we shall all die when it is time (and not a day later), it makes good sense to take proper precautions. As to the question: “Are you paranoid, Mom?” You’re not paranoid. You are just a normal mom. =)

By: Noemi

Noemi — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 04:02:33 +0000

@lemon- We can’t sleep either . We are also “puyat” when they are out as if we went out ourselves.

By: lemon

lemon — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 03:58:14 +0000

Ms Noemi,

I guess L and M will understand when they become moms too.

Motherhood is synonymous with paranoia, methinks. My mom, when she was alive, would not sleep until everybody in the household, including the help, are safely sleeping in their rooms. I used to roll my eyes then. Now, I can just imagine Faith, when she’s old enough, would roll her eyes too everytime I remind her to lock doors, or stay in the pool’s shallow end.hahaha

By: Manila Mom

Manila Mom — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 02:34:41 +0000

I guess all moms are paranoid to some extent. It’s instinctive when we think of our family’s safety.

I also check all fire escapes whenever we sleep at a hotel or any other place. At home, I make sure the padlocks on the fire escapes are working and that the keys are in the designated hooks that everyone knows about.

Better safe than sorry. As long as we don’t stifle our kids, it’s okay I think.

By: Noemi

Noemi — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 02:24:52 +0000

@The Compassionate Friends is a grief support group I co-founded with Cathy and Alma that serves the needs of a bereaved family. INA is limited to mothers but I am in contact with their members as we move in the same circle.