Comments on: Dedma or Dead Malice http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/ Parenting, Health, Wellnes, Family& New Media Thu, 29 Jul 2010 09:36:42 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: espan http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/comment-page-1/#comment-285091 espan Sun, 21 Mar 2010 10:45:11 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-285091 I like your article about dedma. It's hard to choose between being true and courteous. I learned that there are instances when we have to refrain from speaking out our thoughts just to have a peaceful life. You're right. Time heals. .-= espan´s last blog ..<a href="http://espansworld.blogspot.com/2010/01/daily-blogging.html" rel="nofollow">Daily Blogging</a> =-. I like your article about dedma. It’s hard to choose between being true and courteous. I learned that there are instances when we have to refrain from speaking out our thoughts just to have a peaceful life. You’re right. Time heals.
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]]> By: mel http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/comment-page-1/#comment-281182 mel Mon, 06 Jul 2009 03:27:49 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-281182 Hi, Ms. Noemi! It's me again, having been addicted to your articles. I'd like to think that deadma will work for me but not every time. How will you deal with extended family of in-laws who will go even to the extent of humiliating you everyday just to make you loose face. I've been through this situation almost everyday in more than 10 years of my married life and I can't think of any more ways to really settle this but to leave my husband so I can have my peace of mind. But if I do, I will be the loser, my husband is a very good man and does not side with his extended family and even his direct family. But we live where almost all our neighbors are his kin. I hope you write articles regarding family relationships. Hi, Ms. Noemi! It’s me again, having been addicted to your articles. I’d like to think that deadma will work for me but not every time. How will you deal with extended family of in-laws who will go even to the extent of humiliating you everyday just to make you loose face. I’ve been through this situation almost everyday in more than 10 years of my married life and I can’t think of any more ways to really settle this but to leave my husband so I can have my peace of mind. But if I do, I will be the loser, my husband is a very good man and does not side with his extended family and even his direct family. But we live where almost all our neighbors are his kin. I hope you write articles regarding family relationships.

]]> By: chateau http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/comment-page-1/#comment-79797 chateau Sat, 28 Jul 2007 16:21:36 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79797 Hmm, I've had a falling-out with 2 friends last year as well, but it was over trivial matters. So I guess playing deadma if and when I see them will be okay.. even if i think they owe me an apology.. But, small stuff so i won't sweat it. Hmm, I’ve had a falling-out with 2 friends last year as well, but it was over trivial matters. So I guess playing deadma if and when I see them will be okay.. even if i think they owe me an apology.. But, small stuff so i won’t sweat it.

]]> By: xerendipity http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/comment-page-1/#comment-79711 xerendipity Sat, 28 Jul 2007 09:36:09 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79711 Amazing! I just know this "dedma" thing is from "Dead Malice"!I quite felt it! Most of the time 'siguro' when I saw a friend who kind a jealous for me! Which I deep inside still have the feeling that she has something againts me! Thinking paranoid? well, dedma lang kami! As if nothing! www.writinerary.com -Obnoxious Queer Amazing! I just know this “dedma” thing is from “Dead Malice”!I quite felt it! Most of the time ’siguro’ when I saw a friend who kind a jealous for me! Which I deep inside still have the feeling that she has something againts me! Thinking paranoid? well, dedma lang kami! As if nothing!

http://www.writinerary.com -Obnoxious Queer

]]> By: Mary http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/comment-page-1/#comment-79649 Mary Sat, 28 Jul 2007 03:45:14 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79649 This too happened to me once upon a time. A friend and I had a falling out and didn't contact each other for a long time (years!). And then one day we saw each other and talked to each other like nothing ever happened, dedma talaga. Of course she apologized later and all's well that ends well. This too happened to me once upon a time. A friend and I had a falling out and didn’t contact each other for a long time (years!). And then one day we saw each other and talked to each other like nothing ever happened, dedma talaga. Of course she apologized later and all’s well that ends well.

]]> By: lisaflor http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/comment-page-1/#comment-79335 lisaflor Fri, 27 Jul 2007 03:22:03 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79335 Hehe in my case, mahilig ako humirit sa crush ko na crush ko sya, tapos dedma ako after, para di halata. Hahaha! But seriously, when it comes to family "disputes", madalas nga dedma na lang ako, especially when it's another family member's household problem. Hehe in my case, mahilig ako humirit sa crush ko na crush ko sya, tapos dedma ako after, para di halata. Hahaha! But seriously, when it comes to family “disputes”, madalas nga dedma na lang ako, especially when it’s another family member’s household problem.

]]> By: geri http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/comment-page-1/#comment-79222 geri Thu, 26 Jul 2007 19:03:46 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79222 It really depends on the person you are dealing with - if they are the type who can't handle the truth, para que? If they are people who are part of my life like an extended family or office team group members, I will give discussion/confrontation a try but if they are in denial or plain just-don't-get-it - then deadma na lang. But I would surely need to reevaluate their role in my life and nuclear family or career, who wants to continuously walk on eggshells with toxic people? It really depends on the person you are dealing with – if they are the type who can’t handle the truth, para que? If they are people who are part of my life like an extended family or office team group members, I will give discussion/confrontation a try but if they are in denial or plain just-don’t-get-it – then deadma na lang. But I would surely need to reevaluate their role in my life and nuclear family or career, who wants to continuously walk on eggshells with toxic people?

]]> By: annamanila http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/comment-page-1/#comment-79113 annamanila Thu, 26 Jul 2007 09:20:25 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79113 Dedma is okay for little things. Maybe it is related to 'not sweating the small stuff.' I do it and sure enough whatever was the problem melts away with time. But there are fundamental problems that won't go away unless one confronts it. In this case deadma is only palliative. Dedma is okay for little things. Maybe it is related to ‘not sweating the small stuff.’ I do it and sure enough whatever was the problem melts away with time.

But there are fundamental problems that won’t go away unless one confronts it. In this case deadma is only palliative.

]]> By: Manuel http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/comment-page-1/#comment-79110 Manuel Thu, 26 Jul 2007 08:51:39 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79110 Dedma helps a lot, especially when I deal with people who *extremely* <i>balat sibuyas</i>, or who have more white hairs than I do, or who simply don't want to rock the boat. It seems that sometimes, there is resolution in non-resolution. Dedma helps a lot, especially when I deal with people who *extremely* balat sibuyas, or who have more white hairs than I do, or who simply don’t want to rock the boat.

It seems that sometimes, there is resolution in non-resolution.

]]> By: auee http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/comment-page-1/#comment-79085 auee Thu, 26 Jul 2007 07:28:18 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79085 Tricky question. I'm a straightforward person & I want people to be honest with me, too. Of course it doesn't mean it's easy for me to hear everything they have to say or for me to say what I want to. But it's better than not talking about the white elephant in front of you di ba? But then I do practise dead-ma dependent on the company & situation. Sabi nga 'don't sweat the small stuff', but it does get to me. Tricky question. I’m a straightforward person & I want people to be honest with me, too. Of course it doesn’t mean it’s easy for me to hear everything they have to say or for me to say what I want to. But it’s better than not talking about the white elephant in front of you di ba? But then I do practise dead-ma dependent on the company & situation. Sabi nga ‘don’t sweat the small stuff’, but it does get to me.

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