Comments on: Dedma or Dead Malice http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/ Parenting, Health, Wellness & Family Tue, 06 Jan 2009 08:59:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: chateau http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79797 chateau Sat, 28 Jul 2007 16:21:36 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79797 Hmm, I've had a falling-out with 2 friends last year as well, but it was over trivial matters. So I guess playing deadma if and when I see them will be okay.. even if i think they owe me an apology.. But, small stuff so i won't sweat it. Hmm, I’ve had a falling-out with 2 friends last year as well, but it was over trivial matters. So I guess playing deadma if and when I see them will be okay.. even if i think they owe me an apology.. But, small stuff so i won’t sweat it.

]]> By: xerendipity http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79711 xerendipity Sat, 28 Jul 2007 09:36:09 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79711 Amazing! I just know this "dedma" thing is from "Dead Malice"!I quite felt it! Most of the time 'siguro' when I saw a friend who kind a jealous for me! Which I deep inside still have the feeling that she has something againts me! Thinking paranoid? well, dedma lang kami! As if nothing! www.writinerary.com -Obnoxious Queer Amazing! I just know this “dedma” thing is from “Dead Malice”!I quite felt it! Most of the time ’siguro’ when I saw a friend who kind a jealous for me! Which I deep inside still have the feeling that she has something againts me! Thinking paranoid? well, dedma lang kami! As if nothing!

http://www.writinerary.com -Obnoxious Queer

]]> By: Mary http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79649 Mary Sat, 28 Jul 2007 03:45:14 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79649 This too happened to me once upon a time. A friend and I had a falling out and didn't contact each other for a long time (years!). And then one day we saw each other and talked to each other like nothing ever happened, dedma talaga. Of course she apologized later and all's well that ends well. This too happened to me once upon a time. A friend and I had a falling out and didn’t contact each other for a long time (years!). And then one day we saw each other and talked to each other like nothing ever happened, dedma talaga. Of course she apologized later and all’s well that ends well.

]]> By: lisaflor http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79335 lisaflor Fri, 27 Jul 2007 03:22:03 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79335 Hehe in my case, mahilig ako humirit sa crush ko na crush ko sya, tapos dedma ako after, para di halata. Hahaha! But seriously, when it comes to family "disputes", madalas nga dedma na lang ako, especially when it's another family member's household problem. Hehe in my case, mahilig ako humirit sa crush ko na crush ko sya, tapos dedma ako after, para di halata. Hahaha! But seriously, when it comes to family “disputes”, madalas nga dedma na lang ako, especially when it’s another family member’s household problem.

]]> By: geri http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79222 geri Thu, 26 Jul 2007 19:03:46 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79222 It really depends on the person you are dealing with - if they are the type who can't handle the truth, para que? If they are people who are part of my life like an extended family or office team group members, I will give discussion/confrontation a try but if they are in denial or plain just-don't-get-it - then deadma na lang. But I would surely need to reevaluate their role in my life and nuclear family or career, who wants to continuously walk on eggshells with toxic people? It really depends on the person you are dealing with - if they are the type who can’t handle the truth, para que? If they are people who are part of my life like an extended family or office team group members, I will give discussion/confrontation a try but if they are in denial or plain just-don’t-get-it - then deadma na lang. But I would surely need to reevaluate their role in my life and nuclear family or career, who wants to continuously walk on eggshells with toxic people?

]]> By: annamanila http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79113 annamanila Thu, 26 Jul 2007 09:20:25 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79113 Dedma is okay for little things. Maybe it is related to 'not sweating the small stuff.' I do it and sure enough whatever was the problem melts away with time. But there are fundamental problems that won't go away unless one confronts it. In this case deadma is only palliative. Dedma is okay for little things. Maybe it is related to ‘not sweating the small stuff.’ I do it and sure enough whatever was the problem melts away with time.

But there are fundamental problems that won’t go away unless one confronts it. In this case deadma is only palliative.

]]> By: Manuel http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79110 Manuel Thu, 26 Jul 2007 08:51:39 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79110 Dedma helps a lot, especially when I deal with people who *extremely* <i>balat sibuyas</i>, or who have more white hairs than I do, or who simply don't want to rock the boat. It seems that sometimes, there is resolution in non-resolution. Dedma helps a lot, especially when I deal with people who *extremely* balat sibuyas, or who have more white hairs than I do, or who simply don’t want to rock the boat.

It seems that sometimes, there is resolution in non-resolution.

]]> By: auee http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79085 auee Thu, 26 Jul 2007 07:28:18 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79085 Tricky question. I'm a straightforward person & I want people to be honest with me, too. Of course it doesn't mean it's easy for me to hear everything they have to say or for me to say what I want to. But it's better than not talking about the white elephant in front of you di ba? But then I do practise dead-ma dependent on the company & situation. Sabi nga 'don't sweat the small stuff', but it does get to me. Tricky question. I’m a straightforward person & I want people to be honest with me, too. Of course it doesn’t mean it’s easy for me to hear everything they have to say or for me to say what I want to. But it’s better than not talking about the white elephant in front of you di ba? But then I do practise dead-ma dependent on the company & situation. Sabi nga ‘don’t sweat the small stuff’, but it does get to me.

]]> By: Kongkong622 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79054 Kongkong622 Thu, 26 Jul 2007 04:55:15 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-79054 I've always believed in time healing all wounds. Sometimes it is really best to just let things go for a while just so that they don't get any worse :) I’ve always believed in time healing all wounds. Sometimes it is really best to just let things go for a while just so that they don’t get any worse :)

]]> By: emi http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-78991 emi Wed, 25 Jul 2007 23:24:43 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/07/25/dedma-or-dead-malice/#comment-78991 I am always dedma when I deal with my in-laws. I agree with you that it helps preserve family peace. Choose your battles is also a motto to keep in mind . so dedma na lang I am always dedma when I deal with my in-laws. I agree with you that it helps preserve family peace. Choose your battles is also a motto to keep in mind . so dedma na lang

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