Healthy Apologies Part 2
Alan Ocab, the father of Carl Ocab and I met for coffee this afternoon . We met up because a written apology is not enough to clarify any misunderstanding brought about by my Ethical Blogging entry. The meet intended to clear the air and release painful feelings, if any.
During coffee, I told him “Now is the time to be angry at me . It’s okay to be angry at me.” I cannot presume all is fine and dandy just because we met up for coffee. Or that he smiled at me .
I allowed him to express his feelings while he listened with earnest to the rationale of my entry.
I am not going to discuss the details because both of us felt it is not necessary anymore. Abe and Annalyn in her Blog-O-Rama column clarified a lot already. To make the long story short:
- I apologized for any hurt feelings that arose from the entry and comments.
- My apology does not mean that I withdrew my stand. I took an individual stand on an ethical issue, not asking or expecting others to back me up. If they did, well and good. If not, that does not change my initial position. Alan understood and respects me for it.
- We ended up laughing together when we discovered that we are both Cebuanos. There are many Cebuano quirks that only we understand. Our Cebuano origins kept us both in a light and bubbly mode.
There are lessons learned indeed but I will discuss this one day in another entry. I am not about to start a controversial entry yet. It’s just a relief that Alan doesn’t hold any resentment against me or anyone in the blogosphere.
We ended our coffee with laughter and peace.
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I’m happy you sorted it out quite amicably, Noemi. Congrats.
@Andrew- yes we were both happy actually.
Happy to know that everything is okay now…
This is what I call closure. I’m glad the meeting went well.
Hi Noemi. I’m happy to know that you have settled things in person. It’s nice how you ended with peace in your hearts.
Whew. Now everyone can all breathe and move on. Good job, Miss Noemi.
It takes a lot of courage and maturity to apologise, let alone have it made known in public. Good for you Noemi. I love your blog’s new look, especially the header.
Bravo Noemi and bravo Alan ocab for taking the extra mile to setle this amicably from your end. I am sure there are lessons learned not only for the two of you but for many bloggers too. I wish you both the best.
What a great way to have a new beginning! With laughter.
Way to go, Noemi.
All is well that ends well.. I’m glad this is all over..
This is good to know, Noemi. Must have been a huge load off your chest.
What can I say? You are truly a compassionate friend
plugging. Happy to hear about this. I’m sure a huge burden has lifted. Ma-ayo nga nag husay na kamo. This is what I call peaceful co-existence. ((hugs))) for an act that is both magnanimous and humbling. God bless you and the Ocab’s.
yay!
good Noemi and Alan Ocab. let peace reign in the hearts of everyone!
noemi, this is an admirable gesture. big hug! glad to know everything is fine now.
Very inspiring. May this finally be the end of all rifts. Cheers to you, Noemi!
thanks everyone. Deep in my heart, I know I didn’t do anything wrong yet I knew feelings were hurt. It was best expressed in person where sincerity can be seen. Some things could have been done better which I explained in detail to Alan.
Ay, my dearest sister… YOU have really come a long way. Don’t ever change — because every time you speak your truth, it is a mirror for me. - With love, Lorna
Good to hear about this Noemi. All things can be settled out with a simple coffee talk