Comments on: Healthy Arguments with My Husband http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/ Parenting, Health, Wellness & Family Tue, 06 Jan 2009 08:41:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Arguments and Panic Attacks » Walking . Thinking . Learning http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-272454 Arguments and Panic Attacks » Walking . Thinking . Learning Sun, 26 Oct 2008 00:02:27 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-272454 [...] I still have a lot to learn about listening. I found a great post by Filipina Mom Blogger about listening to a husband that loves to rant. [...] [...] I still have a lot to learn about listening. I found a great post by Filipina Mom Blogger about listening to a husband that loves to rant. [...]

]]> By: Walker http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-272453 Walker Sat, 25 Oct 2008 23:28:59 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-272453 Noemi, Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have a ranter in the family too. I had taken it as my God given duty to change them and make them more peaceful but that has done nothing but been create chaos in our home. I respect your wisdom and your patience. Walkers last blog post..<a href="http://ecirque.com/blog/2008/10/22/clearing-the-path/" rel="nofollow">Clearing the Path</a> Noemi,

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have a ranter in the family too. I had taken it as my God given duty to change them and make them more peaceful but that has done nothing but been create chaos in our home.

I respect your wisdom and your patience.

Walkers last blog post..Clearing the Path

]]> By: Noemi http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-104105 Noemi Sat, 29 Sep 2007 13:48:11 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-104105 @Jmom- hehe babbling husband. I use to take it so personally that he'd go ranting on me @Rach- so it's the opposite for us. Good he perfected it. @lemon- ganoon ba? I didn't know it's a lawyer thing. haha mortified. Aww but doesn't he love you for your wit? @Jayme- staying calm was something I didn't learn right away. Panic mode is what I often did @Annamanila- I felt bad being the shock absorber because I felt that HE had to learn not to rant. haha. @Jmom- hehe babbling husband. I use to take it so personally that he’d go ranting on me

@Rach- so it’s the opposite for us. Good he perfected it.

@lemon- ganoon ba? I didn’t know it’s a lawyer thing. haha mortified. Aww but doesn’t he love you for your wit?

@Jayme- staying calm was something I didn’t learn right away. Panic mode is what I often did

@Annamanila- I felt bad being the shock absorber because I felt that HE had to learn not to rant. haha.

]]> By: annamanila http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-104031 annamanila Sat, 29 Sep 2007 08:48:41 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-104031 Putting our pride aside ... that's the key to many of our relationship problems. Congrats for having learned to do it. I also felt it was unfair that I have been the brunt of rants. But I guess since we're the ones closest to them, being a listening board or a shock absorber is part of the job description. Then all we have to do is to get even by venting on them all we need to expectorate too. haha Fair enough, di ba. Putting our pride aside … that’s the key to many of our relationship problems. Congrats for having learned to do it.

I also felt it was unfair that I have been the brunt of rants. But I guess since we’re the ones closest to them, being a listening board or a shock absorber is part of the job description. Then all we have to do is to get even by venting on them all we need to expectorate too. haha Fair enough, di ba.

]]> By: Jayme http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-103986 Jayme Sat, 29 Sep 2007 05:32:58 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-103986 Wow, 29 years! That sure is inspiring. My husband and I are celebrating our first year of marriage next month and so far, we've been going pretty smooth. We've had our share of fights and disagreements and I know there might still be big ones ahead. Strategy #2 is something I've learned to master which is very useful especially when you have a husband who tends to have a short temper. One of my primary rules in our relationship is to "choose love over hate" and it works all the time. :) Wow, 29 years! That sure is inspiring.

My husband and I are celebrating our first year of marriage next month and so far, we’ve been going pretty smooth. We’ve had our share of fights and disagreements and I know there might still be big ones ahead. Strategy #2 is something I’ve learned to master which is very useful especially when you have a husband who tends to have a short temper.

One of my primary rules in our relationship is to “choose love over hate” and it works all the time.

:)

]]> By: lemon http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-103963 lemon Sat, 29 Sep 2007 03:54:33 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-103963 Ms. Noemi, LOL. Being the short-tempered one in our marriage, I now have an idea of how poor J must feel when I make him bear the brunt of my frustrations. (ganyan yata talaga 90% ng mga abugado., haha) Now I am mortified. Ms. Noemi,

LOL. Being the short-tempered one in our marriage, I now have an idea of how poor J must feel when I make him bear the brunt of my frustrations. (ganyan yata talaga 90% ng mga abugado., haha) Now I am mortified.

]]> By: Rach (Heart of Rachel) http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-103906 Rach (Heart of Rachel) Fri, 28 Sep 2007 23:58:13 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-103906 Thanks for sharing these great and helpful strategies. My hubby has perfected #3. He lets me babble on until I get tired of talking. I guess he knows that after I let out some steam, I'm more open to talk about things. Thanks for sharing these great and helpful strategies. My hubby has perfected #3. He lets me babble on until I get tired of talking. I guess he knows that after I let out some steam, I’m more open to talk about things.

]]> By: JMom http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-103836 JMom Fri, 28 Sep 2007 19:00:31 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-103836 I love it!! Yes, I have a babbling husband too. The worst thing to say to him when he's in a rant, I learned is "calm down". It just does the exact opposite. Now, I let him get his frustrations out and agree, like you said :) makes more a more peaceful existence. I love it!! Yes, I have a babbling husband too. The worst thing to say to him when he’s in a rant, I learned is “calm down”. It just does the exact opposite. Now, I let him get his frustrations out and agree, like you said :) makes more a more peaceful existence.

]]> By: Noemi http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-103791 Noemi Fri, 28 Sep 2007 15:48:40 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-103791 @nenet- oh wow you have been together much longer than my husband and I. Yes love conquers all. I like your description "demented couple" because I think we are too. And the sex...yes :P @Schumeyp You know I should revive the love letter . I used to. I think it's sweet that you still write. @nenet- oh wow you have been together much longer than my husband and I. Yes love conquers all. I like your description “demented couple” because I think we are too. And the sex…yes :P

@Schumeyp You know I should revive the love letter . I used to. I think it’s sweet that you still write.

]]> By: rhodora http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-103783 rhodora Fri, 28 Sep 2007 14:57:30 +0000 http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/#comment-103783 When hubby starts ranting, I hum a tune in my mind. When I'm done with the tune and he is still ranting, I mentally hum another tune. Thankfully, before I can finish with the second tune, he starts to calm down. :) When hubby starts ranting, I hum a tune in my mind. When I’m done with the tune and he is still ranting, I mentally hum another tune. Thankfully, before I can finish with the second tune, he starts to calm down. :)

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