Love in the Time of Friendster



I can’t help but be happy for my cousin, Margot. Last Friday, she walked down the aisle in her lovely beaded gown with Dwight, the love of her life. I have often wondered why my beautiful, kind and smart cousin-doctor was still single at 30 something. I often dismissed it as not finding the right man. Wise girl. I never asked her but I am sure she often gets the brunt of questions from nosy relatives.

“Why are you not married yet? ang ganda ganda mo. wala pa ba nagkagusto sa yo? .”

It reminded me of the time when I was around 26 years old. My officemates (yes, annamanila our officemates) teased me that it’s about time I should get married. That it wasn’t good to marry late ectetera, etctera.

I panicked. I wanted to get married, have kids, be a loving wife and mom in our quaint little house with a picket fence. I wondered if my biological clock was ticking fast. At that time, my boyfriend and I were steadies for 7 years but he was still a law student.

One night, I asked my boyfriend if he planned to marry me like soon. And if he didn’t have immediate plans, maybe we should already split up because I didn’t want to wait 7 years with a relationship heading nowhere. I didn’t want to sound like I was blackmailing him so I just said “if you don’t want to marry me, I am leaving for San Francisco and enjoy singlehood with my sister, my bestfriend.”

To my utter shock and delight, Butch calmly said “I want to marry you”. Come to think of it, Butch was so young when he got married to me. He’s two years younger but he didn’t want to lose me (so he says).

So don’t follow me and bow to peer pressure.

I don’t know the reasons Margot chose to marry late in life but last December, she showed up with her fiancé at my aunt’s party. I was pleasantly surprised. I was nosy this time.

Oh how did you meet?

Margot chimed in Oh we got reunited in friendster just last August!

I asked Friendster? Tell me about it.

My thoughts started to race recalling a previous article in the Inquirer: “One of the telling signs that relationships nowadays have gone digital is through the little detail at the beginning of Friendster profiles. The one that indicates the status of the person you’re interested in.”

With a broad smile, Dwight held Margot’s hand and volunteered the information. Apparently, my cousin and Dwight met 7 years ago when they reviewed for the medical board exams. I think they were classmates. One night, Dwight decided to do a friend search in friendster wondering what happened to Margot.

Lo and behold! He discovered that Margot was still single. He didn’t waste anytime. He contacted her.

That was August 2007. They got engaged September and married just last Friday, April 4. Talk about not wasting any more precious time.

Friendster is truly a social network that brought about positive results.

Congratulations to my dear cousin, godmother of my Luijoe and to her husband.

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16 Comments »

Comment by liz
2008-04-07 20:28:39

i met my current boyfriend online too! we were introduced by mutual friends in a YM chatroom. haha. we’ve been together for almost a year but he’s asking me to marry him already! i just turned twenty the other month and i haven’t graduated so i am not considering it yet. i love him very much though. *mushy* and who knows, we might just be like Margot and Dwight!

 
Comment by Ria Jose
2008-04-07 20:37:10

Awww… very nice and inspiring story. :)

Hopefully, years from now I can write a similar entry.

 
Comment by lady cess
2008-04-07 22:50:54

congratulations to margot and dwight :)

 
Comment by Noemi
2008-04-08 00:42:03

@liz- aww. I bet your boyfriend is ready to get married. Anyway, you will know when it’s the right time.

@ ria- it’s the modern way to hook up

@lady cess- I am so happy for them.

 
Comment by Viona
2008-04-08 11:13:58

Romantic story…Thanks God, Margot has Friendster account so Dwight could find her.

 
Comment by Rowena
2008-04-08 12:51:58

Hi Noemi, what a wonderful love story. My best wishes to your cousin Margot and Dwight. I hope my two sisters (39 & 37 yrs old) would find the right man soon whether online or thru friends, ha ha.

 
Comment by ian
2008-04-08 13:54:29

my best friend from college also met her husband through friendster, a classmate from grade school! i’ve gone out with people i’ve met online as well (shh don’t tell my mom haha)- a few hits, LOTS of misses =] then again, if we don’t take a chance- using whatever medium is available- we might lose out on the proverbial love boat… not that traveling solo is bad, of course =]

here’s to the newlyweds and to all of us waiting/surfing at the sidelines =]

 
Comment by Lorna Dietz
2008-04-09 01:50:36

Ay, my best wishes to our baby cousin, Margot! She married at her own pace — and at her own time… yup, no bowing to peer pressure… I look forward to hearing more about her adventures! And yes, please tell Margot that I did receive the invitation by snail mail, and it was really snail-ly indeed — because it arrived about two days before her wedding! - Lorna

 
Comment by JMom
2008-04-09 03:51:40

I didn’t get married until I was 28 so yeah, I can imagine the questions your cousin got :) That is such a sweet love story. I hear more and more people are finding each other through technology.

I have a cousin there in the Philippines who found his wife through texting. lol!

 
Comment by Jam
2008-04-09 08:49:52

I know some lady doctors who have not been married until now. Most of them have already established their names on their respective specialization, which also means that they intimidate guys.

 
Comment by Ads
2008-04-09 15:24:45

my husband and i recently got married — Feb 15 and Jan 27 this year!

yep, we met online — mIRC, 7 years ago! :)

BEFORE my sisters call me cheap, because its like a techie version of PhonePal… but hindi na ngayon. because its a common thing… =)

 
Comment by Ederic
2008-04-09 18:13:46

At sila’y nagtagpo sa Friendster. Their experience would be a great case study for a Friendster-related feature. :)

 
Comment by Noemi
2008-04-09 22:45:33

@ian- friendster is the largest social network. It’s not surprising a lot of friends get reunited via friendster

@Jmom- I remember during my time 27 seemed like one was missing the boat

@ads- you had 2 wedding dates? congrats!

@ederic- there should be a friendster love story contest

 
Comment by jhay
2008-04-10 06:56:36

Should we say “love 2.0″?

Congratulations to all the newly weds! :D

 
Comment by Phoebe
2008-04-11 14:11:44

Online lurve? Ughhh. Tell me about it! :lol:

 
Comment by Angie Subscribed to comments via email
2008-04-20 21:09:49

Wow. And I thought I was the only one.
I met my boyfriend on-line too. mIRC turned YM turned myspace turned friendster then back to YM after 4years. ;p
ay, pati yung ex ko pala hehe

Congratulations to the newly-weds :D

 
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