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Our set up is quite diff because we are living with my in-laws and that means having to follow their rules. But I really do not like the way my mother-in-law treats our and their helpers. They are sometimes given spoiled food and really tira-tira in every sense of the word. It really breaks my heart every time my yayas tell me about it. No wonder no helper stays with them for a long time, which actually makes it hard for me because even my helpers could not stay with me anymore.

I believe that we are all equal and like where I grew up, just like Julia, we treat our helpers like family. Yes we have to set boundaries but being discriminative is a totally diff issue. I believe that these people deserve to be treated as family since they are dealing with us, esp my kids. I just hate it when I see them not being allowed to eat with us at restaurants- who are we to put ourselves higher than them? They are people too.

“Petty stuff like this can lead to other bigger loot.” – this is definetely true…

The downside, we are a “family package”, can’t go anywhere without bringing everyone Can’t have a vacation too since there would be no one to stay in the house.

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@gail- It’’s hard if there was a previous standard. I learned to adjust and live with the new standard.

Marilyn’s a rare gem. She loved our family so we couldn’t help doing the same. She was the only household help I ever trusted to receive Php35k money delivery for me while I was out and leaving her with my authorization letter and valid ID. Whenever she takes vacation leaves, she always brought home something for each of us as pasalubong.

I guess since she’s such a good person karma was good to her too. We were all teary-eyed when she left (she got a job as domestic helper in the middle East).

We haven’t had another household help when she left. We just couldn’t find somebody as great as her, and my dad and I don’t want to settle for less because of my sister and mom’s situations.

I was the one who posted that comment but for some reason, the name reflected is Julia’s. Would you know why and how this happened? Thanks.

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i treat her like she’s my equal, eating in the same table was never an issue. she has the classiest clothes that we can afford, so i didn’t feel the need to dress down or something. to tell you the truth, she looks and dresses better than i do anyway. i know this is a strange relationship, but i like it. i’m pretty sure a lot of people don’t understand. but she’s part of my family, she is my family. i’m glad i didn’t miss out on her, she is just wonderful.

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@maver- if you are absolutely sure your yaya loves your child, hold on to her. But…still set the boundaries. If she threatens to leave, now that is your lookout. You can turn a blind eye, talk it out. Usually I say this “but you love my child. My child loves you. WHy would you do that?” If the yaya truly loves your child, she won’t leave. They are just making OA or padinig. But if she insists to leave, then you know she doesn’t really love your child. The above line..I actually used in one of my yayas.

Another time, I wasn’t home and my husband fired all the maids in his anger that the food was not cooked well (hence the last yaya tip)…the yaya refused to leave.

@Hilda- it is hard especially if the mom is not based at home. I cannot share my experience on that area since I was always at home.

@dhanggit- OMG. That’s awful. grr. maybe it’s good to attach a secret webcam now advertised by Globe to check on your household. or that cam through a cellphone. just to check on your househelp.