Comments on: Whom Not To Marry

By: mitchie

mitchie — Sun, 17 Aug 2008 13:52:57 +0000

I almost agree on everything except for the first one: which says never marry a man who has no friends. My father is a very responsible dad who doesn’t have any friend at all. No phone calls. No invites for weddings, birthdays, reunions, parties, etc. His life is us and his immediate family. He doesn’t drink, doesn’t smoke and he is 100% available 24/7 for us — his life. His business runs at home. So, I think, as long as a man is emotionally stable, even if he has no friends, he’ll still make a good father and a husband.

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By: Cookie

Cookie — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 13:45:48 +0000

These were some of the things that my parents discussed with me when I was about to get married. Food for thought and something that should be taken seriously. Cookies last blog post..Adios!!

By: rolly07

rolly07 — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 08:03:42 +0000

Great post again, as usual. =)

I’m just curious with the number one entry “Never marry a man who has no friends.” Is there such a man who doesn’t have friends? For Americans or foreigners, I think there is a big possibility but for us, Filipinos? I don’t know. I’d probably dead by now if I didn’t have any friends.

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By: geri

geri — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 00:04:51 +0000

I strongly agree with 1, 5 and 7! geris last blog post..A Dream House Disappoints

By: BrianB

BrianB — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 18:26:16 +0000

Gem,

This could be mistaken hints or a cultural trait. I personally don’t have this trait coming from a province in the South (women there don’t like their men talking to another woman, especially if the woman is single and pretty) though I’ve observed this in many men in Manila. I’ve often wondered why it’s tolerated here and find the practice not only disconcerting but offensive. I’m not trying to wash my hands clean but coming from a somewhat matriarchal upbringing, the way “boys” behave in Manila is a little weird. The other weird part is that women readily accept it and are quite surprised when you’re different.

By: issai

issai — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 16:42:08 +0000

@gem
a few(? probably many) bad apples spoils the whole bunch. this is a reason i’m pro-divorce. because these men (and women too) should never been married in the first place. or they might have been forced to marry due to peer/family pressure or emotional blackmail. i think they shouldn’t be in a relationship if they want to be naughty. but reality bites.

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By: Gem

Gem — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 15:46:03 +0000

It is a great post, but the points made here are fine for finding the suitable husband. But it can still be difficult to find the right man, because when a guy gets married, things turn out differently for the man.

But I’ve worked with a lot of guys, I often witnessed a lot of guys “flirting” with others when their wives are out of sight. I’ve also noticed some moves from many different guys at work: I never like to get involved because these are married men but this experience leaves me disturbed, because it happened in many instances from different guys. One of the guys was even so loyal with her wife when they were not yet married (more than 10 years BF-GF relationship) but still gets interested in me. But these guys wanted everything to be in secret and they do not like others to find out, most especially their wives and children and even their own drinking peers!

I’m getting the impression that marriage and family are just for show. The reality of men being polygamous really holds true. We, women are often dreamy about how our marriage is perfect and how husbands love us. But there will always be a part of their personality that is hidden from their wives – bonus money they earned from work and their other woman. They may not love the other women that they flirt with but they are often thrilled to have a hidden affair.

By: Noemi

Noemi — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 12:02:25 +0000

@sexy mom- a lot of young kids are disillusioned of marriage because of broken homes. You are right….that marriage is the foundation of family.

@Viona- glad the blog entry helped.

@lester- I am for divorce if the husband is abusive and violates the RA 9262 or the “Anti-Violence Against Women and their Children Act of 2004″ Why should wife be punching bags? They deserve a new life. Then again, women can see a few warning signs of abusive husbands-to-be such as uncontrollable drinking behavior, bad temper, control freak, possessiveness.

By: Lester Cavestany

Lester Cavestany — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 07:25:47 +0000

Hi Noemi! What are your thoughts on divorce? Do you think we should have it legalized here in our country? Lester Cavestanys last blog post..Sen Mar Roxas, Blogging and Making the Connection

By: Viona

Viona — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 07:11:42 +0000

Noemi, thank you! This is a very great article. I just shared it with my younger sister in law who just got break with her boyfriend…Once again, thank you! This is a very proper reading for her right now.