Comments on: When Friends Leave… Let Go!

By: D

Mon, 23 Nov 2009 17:36:28 +0000

OMG, this sounds familiar. I too was involved in argument between friends who are in the mid forties and fifties.

They all turned on me Including my best friend. She took their side. I am friends with one of the girls that they turned against. We have a lot of hurt inside. This has really affected me within the last year.

It is hard to accept that she has moved on. We tried to make amends but the friendship was left unwatered.

By: kristine0019

kristine0019 — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 14:33:20 +0000

“You would think 50-year olds act maturely in the face of adversity.”

—> Not always true. Sometimes, adults are more difficult to understand than children. The concept of the “second childhood” did not exist for nothing.

By: Rocky Garcia

Rocky Garcia — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 08:12:14 +0000

That’s the hardest thing that you must do. To let go to someone that is important to you.

By: Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

Noemi Lardizabal-Dado — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 07:58:58 +0000

oh that’s nice that I inspired you somehow. One just needs to be committed to update regulary.

With friendship, it is mostly misunderstanding which would have been best resolved if one was calm enough to talk things over no matter how much it hurts

By: pusang-kalye

pusang-kalye — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 07:19:37 +0000

hello po–my 1st time to be here. kung di pa ako umatend ng blog summit last Saturday diko pa kayo nakilala. I guess i really have to take blogging seriously now. Your topic about how to create traffic in your blog really made me upbeat…….

about the topic. I can definitely relate to that coz I have already dropped several friendships. In this situation though , I guess one has to exercise extreme caution so as not to be harsh with your decision. malay mo mali lang ang interpretation mo ng friendship nyo…..
pusang-kalye´s last blog ..my 1st blog summit…..

By: annamanila

annamanila — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 02:31:09 +0000

It is true. that in situations of conflict, sometimes the undercurrents — including the things not being said are the most compelling. Maybe they are perceived as politically incorrect or too revealing of some shame or as you say .. guilt.

Still .. sad talaga. What can we do .. but accept, go with the flow, stay, as far as possible, detached and cool.

By: Noemi

Noemi — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 07:38:06 +0000

I guess they are feelings of guilt that’s why the defensive stance.

By: Noemi

Noemi — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 07:35:41 +0000

it hurts right? maybe time may heal those wounds but for now, let it go. I am hoping that some day these “friends” wake up

By: Chelrule

Chelrule — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 17:19:06 +0000

I guess that if the person would not listen to an explanation, then it is a sure sign that there is present what we call at Contemplative Outreach an “energy center” – that you can’t talk reason with them because they only see their hurts and – chances are – they deliberately wallow in their hurts. You see, wallowing in hurts is the energy center’s way of projecting self righteousness by making them feel that they were offended, that they were hurt. Better let them go. Real friends will set aside their self righteousness. Anyway, those who really know will “drop it” immediately

By: Kurt Taylor

Kurt Taylor — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 15:23:32 +0000

I agree that sometimes it is just best to let go off the situation and not think about it much.