It’s Been 40 days since the Death of Amiel Alcantara

Dying is a wild night and a new road.
~Emily Dickinson

Remember Amiel Alcantara? Well, it has been 40 days since his sudden death?


One of the things so astonishing and costly about losing a loved one is that, while the sun continues to rise and set, newspapers continue to be delivered, traffic lights till change from red to green and back again,our whole life is turned around, turned upside down.

And life does go on but we can still continue to remember our loved ones on special days through candle lighting, rituals, customs, simple rites or ceremonies. Today, on the 40th day since his death, a marker was blessed on the spot where Amiel was struck by a van.

The marker reads:

The Ateneo de Manila Grade School Members
MASTER JULIAN CARLO MIGUEL “AMIEL” ALCANTARA
who was called to the Lord on February 24, 2009.
We Thank him for the gift that he had been to all of us,
for teaching us to love, and cherish life, and
for bringing us all together as a community in prayer ,
with a renewed promise to nurture and care for each other,
as we journey for persons for others.
Blessed on the 40th day of his entrance to glory

April 5, 2009
Palm Sunday

And so 40 days has passed. When my son died in May 27, 2000, I counted the days, then weeks, then months, then years. I still count. My life is divided in two time periods: before his death and after his death. I want to honor my son all the time through my work. Like the Alcantara family, they too want to honor Amiel’s memory. The marker is a reminder that Amiel Alcantara continues to live in the hearts of those he loved and who loved him.

The road to recovery is not a smooth ride.

It is, as Emily Dickinson says, “a new road” – for us as surely as for the one we have lost. It will take time to learn to walk that road.

The hardest work of a bereaved parent is learning to live without the physical presence of our dead child while simultaneously learning to live with his or her emotional and spiritual presence. We find that meaning in our life is derived from our relationship to those we love, including our dead child.

The legacy that Amiel (and our beloved ones) has left is a love that transcends time and space.

Noemi Lardizabal-Dado (1346 Posts)

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About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

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  • http://marroxas2010.blogspot.com Kevin Ray N. Chua

    I pray for the eternal repose of Ameil’s soul. May justice be serve on this tragic accident.

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  • http://theparadoxicleyline.blogspot.com Ishmael F Ahab

    My simple prayer to Ameil and loved ones

    May the Lord listen to the prayers of Ameil’s family and loved ones.

    May the family find comfort and joy in the fact Ameil is just waiting for them in the place where the Lord dwells forever and ever.

    Ame

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  • http://jrocas.com.ph Jhay

    Eternal peace I pray for his soul, strength and courage for his family.

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  • http://mindsoulbodyhealing.blogspot.com/ Michelle Gallaga

    Dear Noemi,

    I can only imagine the pain and the sense of loss you feel every time you remember Amiel. I have two children and my greatest fear is for one of them to go before me. You have been through what I fear most in life and I know this is of no consolation to you, but I have the deepest admiration and respect for you. Thank you for your courage and generosity of sharing your pain with us.

    Namaste,
    Michelle

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