A Biblical Portrait of Marriage

wedding2small.jpgLast week, Cathy invited us to join the Tuesday [tag]bible study[/tag], A Biblical Portrait of Marriage by noted Christian author and speaker Bruce Wilkinson. It drew my interest. The study covers six part series on diverse topics such as sex to spirituality, from in-laws to God’s laws where Dr. Wilkinson addresses couples at every level of maturity and happiness. It was only the second session then and we could still make it. I quickly messaged my dear husband in Google Talk but he gave me a lukewarm response “how far!! I’m lazy . I can only leave at 7:00 PM“. I was determined to convince him that night.

In my sweetest and loving mode, I cuddled close to him.

Remember our pre-cana seminar where we studied relevant bible passages? It’s just like like that. Only now it is better because these passages are not theoretical.

He muttered “Yes I remember.

Can we go please? Let’s not wait for our marriage to be in bad shape

Perhaps it was my sweetness that convinced him to give me the “nod of approval”.

Last tuesday was a bad day for us. Just as were leaving for the bible study, my husband suddenly changed his mind , “I don’t want to go“. I kept quiet and showed a look of disappointment. Seeing my long face, he quickly added “Okay I will go . I am doing this for you” I smiled and appeased his anxieties, “okay , let’s go now and if you decide it’s not your kind of thing, we don’t have to go next Tuesday“.

That night’s topic covered Head: The Role of the Husband”. How timely. Listening to Pastor Larry brought me back to the days just before Butch and I got married. How lovestruck we were and raring to make our marriage work. One of the requirements of the [tag]Catholic Church[/tag] was to undergo a pre-marriage seminar. We looked for one that provided a comprehensive bible study and not one of those quicikie seminars just for the sake of passing the pre-marriage requirement. We knew about “headship” and the importance of the husband as the head of the marriage. When we finally got married, Butch took responsibilty for the spiritual lives of our family. We joined the Catholic’s Couples for Christ and the kids participated in “Kids for Christ”. I think those were one of the best years of our married life. We were surrounded by spiritually mature couples who gave us the support, love and comfort. God was the center of our lives.

Things began to change when we moved to this snobbish village in 1998. Couples for Christ movement was non-existent . The Couples for Christ head decided that our household group should split up so we could spread the word to other couples. For many months, we tried to convince our head that we needed our group back. It was not approved. So much for support for couples. I am disappointed of the Catholic church. It is so big that it cannot give personal attention to its flock. I don’t feel the Holy Spirit when I attend mass unless the priest sermon is meaningful. I digress.

As we listened to the “headship” lecture, I understood my husband’s hesitation to join the study. I believed he felt inadequate about our spiritual life . But he could also see that the couple attendees were probably like us seeking spiritual growth and strengethning marital vows. Like Cathy said,

The marriage vow of for “better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health….” surely takes on a different spin when you have actually lived through it and survived it as a couple.

And guess what? My dear husband decided that we should continue the last 3 sessions. God truly worked in him and in our lives.

Noemi Lardizabal-Dado (1346 Posts)

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.


About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

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  • http://www.nancydrewandme.blogspot.com Cathy

    Wow! I’m so pleased to read how God wroked on Butch’s (and yours) hearts that night 🙂 and I am sure that God is doubly pleased that you will be with us for the next three weeks! I’m really looking forward to this series. There’s so much to learn! Next week, it’s our turn to be put on the “spot”. See you soon!

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    cathy: I hope God continues to work in him. Looking forward to our part in the series.

  • Peter Loizeaux

    I too have watched the series by Dr. Bruce Wilkinson on “A Biblical Portrate of Marriage” several times and have even bought the DVD, what a blessing!! But equal to or even better than that has been my attending the Family Life “Weekend to Remember” Conference. Check it out at http://www.FamilyLife.com

    • ginny smith hanson

      Tell me more about the family life weekend.

  • http://www.contentconnection.com Relationship Articles

    Great post Noemi! Indeed! God truly worked on Butch and of course on you. =) To enrich our lives, we just have to make GOD the center of our being. Taking Him as so much part of who we are, of our everyday lives for only then we will have a clearer picture of what we came here for. In whatever we do and will do, let’s do them for God’s greater glory.

    -Joanne