Category Archives: Grief

butterfly in compassionate friends

Don’t you think this is a lovely butterfly? Whenever a butterfly flutters about in the garden, I smile with the thought that Luijoe is in another life with greater beauty and freedom. But I believe the butterfly’s life cycle – metamorphosis – represents my new life after the death of my precious son. THE EGG: Read More →


With Coy at the Celebrating the Lucky 0917 with Globe in 2010. Photo credit: Jane Uymatiao Oh God. No. He is way too young…he is just as old as my eldest girl. Another fine young man gone too soon. It breaks my heart. There are no words to express this gut-wrenching pain. I reach out Read More →


“If someone cries in front of me, I consider it a gift.” , a friend told me one Saturday afternoon. Every third Saturday of the month, I receive this gift during the monthly meeting of The Compassionate Friends. I am honored to receive it. It’s quite common to hear oh she is so brave! when Read More →


It’s that time of the year that I declutter my home. The library which is located in my home office is often filled with books because my family members are book lovers. As I reviewed the books on the top shelf, I screamed with delight upon discovering my son’s yearbook in Family Montessori Katipunan , Read More →

reach out worldwide

I live by ‘Go big or go home.’ That’s with everything. It’s like either commit and go for it or don’t do it at all. I apply that to everything. I apply that to relationships, I apply that to like sports, I apply that to everything. That’s what I live by. That’s how I like Read More →


Lighting our candles and remembering our children’s smiles, Is the perfect combination of our children’s lights and lives. For their lights still shine brightly and help us to see the way, The 17th annual Worldwide Candle Lighting of The Compassionate Friends will be held on Sunday, December 8, 2013 at the Kiosk area, Church of Read More →

yolanda typhoon

Seven days after Typhoon Yolanda, and relief is slowly getting through. I will not talk anymore of the devastation but the many emotions that face us today and probably for the next few months. Denial , anger and shock are the initial reactions from this massive devastation caught on photos and videos. I was appalled Read More →

flowers for my son

In every meeting of The Compassionate Friends, we provide positive ways for grief management. We believe that the only way to truly relieve the pain is to work through the grief. Once we had “Creative ways of Remembering your loved one“. The topic was about “Healing through Journaling” or Grief Journaling[/tag] by Leah Eriguel, a Read More →

“Are you paranoid , mom?”. One of my daughters noticed the red and green colored fire extinguishers I placed in every room of the house. I ignored her question as I pointed to the fire exits in their respective bedrooms and gave a quick lecture on how to use the fire extinguishers. One daughter asked, Read More →

Every third saturday of the month, there is a monthly meeting of the Compassionate Friends, a grief support group after the death of a child. It’s the time to pay forward and give comfort to newly bereaved parents. Sometimes I cannot even imagine myself in their shoes, going through what they are feeling today. Oh, Read More →

When you remember me, it means that you have carried something of who I am with you, that I have left some mark on who I am on who you are. It means that you can summon me back to your mind even though countless years and miles may stand between us. It means that Read More →

A year ago, my daughter shared me an article “Self help: try positive action, not positive thinking” The self-help industry is mired in ideas about positive thinking that are at best ineffective and at worst destructive. If you want to be more confident or successful, says Richard Wiseman, the best thing to do is act Read More →

I miss my babies, my children. My home has been a semi-empty nest since 2010 when my second child flew to Australia to work then eventually taking her post-graduate studies. During college, they lived in dorms close to their school in Quezon City when we used to live in Makati. That wasn’t too bad because Read More →

Don’t judge me unless you have looked through my eyes, experienced what i have, and cried as many tears as me. Until then back-off, cause you have no idea. Today Matthew Warren died of suicide. He is the son of Rick and Kay Warren who must be facing the most painful moment in their lives. Read More →

The Holy Week holds a special meaning in my heart as it’s during this time that my precious son talked about eternal life. How would I have known that he was preparing himself for his death? “When I die, I will be alive again“, Luijoe (with excitement), a month before he became an angel. A Read More →

I started this blog so I could spread the word that the Philippines has The Compassionate Friends , a grief support group for families that have lost a child or a sibling. Aside from its primary mission to assist families toward the positive resolution of grief following the death of a child of any age, Read More →

Prayers-Let us send this to the families of the Tausugs. Some of them are reading our posts. (via Yolanda O. Stern) In Tausug version Kainaan, duwa-ahe niyo in mga kaanakan amun nagluwas lungsad hasupaya kamu sumannang. Bang siya makauwih ha wayna kawul pag sarahakan na siya pa Nagpapanjari., Mga Kaanakan, anak takamu. Gulgula niyo ako Read More →

To all my visitors, may you have a Blessed Christmas. May the warmth and love of family and friends that make the holiday season so memorable. May Peace be your gift at Christmas and your blessing all year through. Merry Christmas everyone. Peace and Joy to all. From the Dado Family To those who have Read More →

Switch to our mobile site