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		<title>Christmas or Holiday Decorating Tips</title>
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So what makes me qualified to talk on ANC&#8217;s Shop Talk in today&#8217;s episode about Christmas Decorations?  I tell you, it&#8217;s the search engine&#8217;s fault.  
I am sure you all have uplifting and eye-catching holiday decorations and are experts on your own.

 I stick to affordable, recyclable and festive looking decors.


The traditional red-and-green [...]]]></description>
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So what makes me qualified to talk on ANC&#8217;s Shop Talk in today&#8217;s episode about Christmas Decorations?  I tell you, it&#8217;s the search engine&#8217;s fault.  </p>
<p>I am sure you all have uplifting and eye-catching holiday decorations and are experts on your own.<br />
<center><img src="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/11/christmas-tree.jpg" alt="" title="christmas-tree" width="299" height="450" class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-3442" /></center></p>
<p> I stick to affordable, recyclable and festive looking decors.</p>
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<p>The <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/11/15/handling-the-holidays/">traditional red-and-green</a> always works for me as it allows me to collect  decors through the years. Repeating the color scheme or pattern is essential  for that unified look I want in my home.</p>
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One item that is most significant among my decors is  the Nativity Set, even if it does not match with the rest of the decors.  The birth of Jesus is a celebration and evokes the meaning of  Christmas  in my home. </p>
<p>I&#8217;d like to know what your theme  or other decorating tips for the holidays. This year, I added a new and cutesy set of decors which I bought from <a href="http://nimrodel.net/2008/11/09/christmas-export-overruns-and-decors-at-dapitan/">Export overruns at Dapitan</a>.<br />
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<p>Please share your tips or decorating ideas.</p>
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You might also want to read <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/16/positive-mental-energy-and-affirmations/">Positive Mental Energy and Affirmations</a> and my other blogs like <a href="http://pinoyfoodblog.com">Free Filipino Food Recipes</a>, <a href="http://nimrodel.net">Shopping Finds</a>, <a href="http://pinoyfood.nimrodel.net">Pinoy Food Photo Blog</a> and <a href="http://techiegadgets.com">Techie Gadgets</a>. Hope you can drop by! Thanks for visiting&#8230;Noemi Lardizabal-Dado
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		<title>Do You Believe in Giving Second Chances?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 17 Nov 2008 14:41:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Noemi</dc:creator>
		
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		<description><![CDATA[Second chances? 
Do you believe  that someone who has caused you  so much pain deserves a second chance? 
Do you believe that YOU deserve a second chance?
Four years ago, I packed my bags and left my husband because I thought I wanted to start a new life without him. Grief had overtaken us [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Second chances? </p>
<p>Do you believe  that someone who has caused you  so much pain deserves a second chance? </p>
<p>Do you believe that YOU deserve a second chance?</p>
<p>Four years ago, I packed my bags and left my husband because I thought I wanted to start a new life without him. Grief had overtaken us so much that we were virtually strangers to each other.  Never in my wildest dream did I imagine myself  with <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2008/03/12/thirty-years-and-still-in-love/">a broken ankle</a> as I stepped inside my new pad.  I had no choice but to live with him and work things out. Truly God works in mysterious ways. It was as if God said ” you can’t run away from your marriage. Try to fix it. <b>Give it a second chance</b>&#8221;</p>
<p>If you think that my husband is the culprit, you&#8217;re wrong. I am to blame too. It takes two to a marriage. I knew I had to <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/12/me-time-nurturing-myself/">take care of myself</a> first and foremost. I had to give myself a <b>second chance</b>. A second chance to be a more loving wife and mother. A second chance to be more financially independent and a second chance to be a better person.</p>
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<p>I believe second chances are possible if&#8230;.</p>
<p>1. The person who has caused you hurt is <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/08/on-husbands-and-their-caves/">willing to make amends</a> and  to <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/27/healthy-arguments-with-my-husband/">sit down and compromise</a>. </p>
<p>2.  <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/07/11/pushing-family-buttons/">Boundaries</a> are set. One can&#8217;t repeat the same mistake all over again but at the same time one must be aware that we should also  give allowances for recovery to take place.  </p>
<p>3. You <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/05/12/me-time-nurturing-myself/">love yourself</a>. I&#8217;d like to believe that &#8220;You cannot give what you do not have.&#8221; I find that I am a better wife, a better mother, a more compassionate friend, after I have spent time nurturing myself. </p>
<p>4. You are open to the <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/05/18/recovery-principle-1-acting-as-if/">positive possibilities of the future</a> instead of limiting the future by today’s feelings and circumstances.</p>
<p>5. You <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/12/03/forgiveness/">forgive</a>. When we hold on to pain, old grudges, bitterness and even hatred, many aspects of our lives suffer. Through forgiveness, you choose to no longer define yourself as a victim. </p>
<p>It&#8217;s been four years now. </p>
<p>I <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/03/08/losing-weight-after-40/">lost weight</a> and look so much sexier or so my husband says. My husband is overflowing with <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/03/07/college-sweethearts/">love and kisses</a> and I feel so pampered. My children are happier with our new normal. I am <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/08/17/virtual-office/">financially independent</a>. </p>
<p>I feel good about myself. I feel beautiful. </p>
<p>I want to dance to the music of the <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2008/07/13/abba-music-and-mamma-mia/">Dancing Queen</a>. No kidding!</p>
<p>I continue to be a work in progress.</p>
<p>Yes, I feel loved. I feel blessed.</p>
<p>Only because I gave myself a second chance. </p>
<p>So do you believe everyone deserves a second chance?</p>
<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<br />
You might also want to read <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/16/positive-mental-energy-and-affirmations/">Positive Mental Energy and Affirmations</a> and my other blogs like <a href="http://pinoyfoodblog.com">Free Filipino Food Recipes</a>, <a href="http://nimrodel.net">Shopping Finds</a>, <a href="http://pinoyfood.nimrodel.net">Pinoy Food Photo Blog</a> and <a href="http://techiegadgets.com">Techie Gadgets</a>. Hope you can drop by! Thanks for visiting&#8230;Noemi Lardizabal-Dado</p>

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		<title>Have a Good Cry</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 15 Nov 2008 15:59:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Noemi</dc:creator>
		
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		<description><![CDATA[A friend once said to me, &#8220;If someone cries in front of me, I consider it a gift.&#8221; 
Every third Saturday of the month, I receive this  gift during the monthly meeting of The Compassionate Friends. I am honored to receive it.
It&#8217;s quite common to hear oh she is so brave! when the broken-hearted [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A friend once said to me, &#8220;If someone cries in front of me, I consider it a gift.&#8221; </p>
<p>Every third Saturday of the month, I receive this  gift during the monthly meeting of <a href="http://compassionatefriends.info">The Compassionate Friends</a>. I am honored to receive it.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s quite common to hear <i>oh she is so brave!</i> when the broken-hearted person appears  controlled and poised in the face of grief.  How is someone supposed to feel when their heart is broken?</p>
<p>And yet we continue to admire those who do not show their grief in public, who receive condolences as though the occasion were a pleasant Sunday afternoon exchange.  <i>He was so brave.  I was proud of him.  He didn&#8217;t break down, not once,</i> and so on and so forth&#8230;we hear people say.</p>
<p>Really, whose benefit is this tight hold on our emotions? For the griever&#8217;s sake?  For the sake of the consoling friends, who may be afraid of being swept into their grief?</p>
<p>Crying tears is not just for those that lost a loved one.</p>
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<p>If a little kid says <i>May I cry or should I be brave?</i>, how should the mother react? There  is <a href="http://www.awareparenting.com/tantrums.htm">conflicting feelings about crying</a>. It is difficult to allow children the freedom of tears because most of us were stopped from crying when we were little. Our well-meaning, but misinformed, parents may have distracted, scolded, punished, or ignored us when we attempted to heal our childhood hurts by crying. Some of us were stopped gently: &#8220;There, there, come on,  don&#8217;t cry,&#8221; while others were stopped less kindly: &#8220;If you don&#8217;t stop crying, I&#8217;ll give you something to cry about! So stop it&#8230;.&#8221;</p>
<p>Poets and novelists for years have written that crying is somehow good for us. William Shakespeare, for instance wrote, &#8220;To weep is to make less the depth of grief.&#8221;  The poet Alfred Lord Tennyson once wrote about a woman who learned her husband had been killed. &#8220;She must weep,&#8221; the writer said, &#8220;or she will die.&#8221;</p>
<p>According to <a href="http://www.geocities.com/tcartz/crying.html" rel="nofollow">Dr. William Frey</a>, a biochemist and director of the Dry Eye and Tear Research Center in Minneapolis, Minn., one reason people might feel better after crying could be because they are &#8220;removing, in their tears, chemicals that build up during emotional stress.&#8221; Frey’s research shows that tears, along with other bodily secretions like perspiration, rid the body of various toxins and wastes. Dr. William Frey compared the normal moisturizing tear with the tear caused by emotion and found that stressful tears contained ACTH or adrenocorticotrophic hormone. ACTH is a hormone associated with high blood pressure, heart problems, peptic ulsers and other physical conditions closely related to stress.</p>
<p>There is just <a href="http://www.cyquest.com/good_cry.html" rel="nofollow">one word of caution about crying</a>.  </p>
<blockquote><p>People who cry easily should feel glad they’re in touch with their feelings. But if they’re crying a lot in response to criticism, they should try to get some counseling. This kind of crying is an alarm bell of a far deeper hurt; it could signify a loss of self-esteem that is triggered whenever anyone says anything negative.
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<p>Probably the best advice of all regarding tears comes from Charles Dickens. In Oliver Twist, Mr. Bumble, the parish beadle, is a less than sympathetic character. But he’s got the right idea when he declares that crying &#8220;opens the lungs, washes the countenance, exercises the eyes, and softens the temper.</p>
<p>So when another friend wept in front of me today, I understood the gift of healing.</p>
<p>Have you had a good  cry lately?&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<br />
You might also want to read <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/16/positive-mental-energy-and-affirmations/">Positive Mental Energy and Affirmations</a> and my other blogs like <a href="http://pinoyfoodblog.com">Free Filipino Food Recipes</a>, <a href="http://nimrodel.net">Shopping Finds</a>, <a href="http://pinoyfood.nimrodel.net">Pinoy Food Photo Blog</a> and <a href="http://techiegadgets.com">Techie Gadgets</a>. Hope you can drop by! Thanks for visiting&#8230;Noemi Lardizabal-Dado</p>

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		<title>Taking Care of Ourselves Emotionally</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 13 Nov 2008 10:26:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Noemi</dc:creator>
		
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		<description><![CDATA[After years of denial, numbing feelings of pain and all sorts of emotions, I finally came true to myself. I learned to take care of myself emotionally through practice and learning new behavioral patterns like Acting as if.  I forced myself into positive recovery behaviors, disregarding my doubts and fears, until my feelings caught [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>After years of denial, numbing feelings of pain and all sorts of emotions, I finally came true to myself. I learned to take care of myself emotionally through practice and learning new behavioral patterns like <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/05/18/recovery-principle-1-acting-as-if/">Acting as if</a>.  I forced myself into positive recovery behaviors, disregarding my doubts and fears, until my feelings caught up with reality.  I am still a work in progress, of course.  </p>
<p> So what does it mean to take care of myself emotionally. This is what I learned from reading self-help books and seeking out guidance.</p>
<p>1. I recognize when I&#8217;m feeling angry and I accept that feeling without shame.</p>
<p>2. I recognize when I&#8217;m feeling hurt and I accept those feelings without attempting to punish the source of my pain.</p>
<p>3. I allow myself to feel joy and love when those are available to me.</p>
<p>4. I recognize that my feelings don&#8217;t have to control me. I can feel and think too.</p>
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<p>5. I talk to friends or family members about my feelings when I feel that it is appropriate and safe to do so.</p>
<p>6.  I reach out for help when I get stuck in a particular emotion.</p>
<p>7. I try to seek the lessons that my emotions may be trying to teach me.  Then after I feel, accept and release the feeling to the air, I then ask myself &#8220;What is it I need to do to take care of myself?&#8221;</p>
<p>Taking care of my emotions means I allow myself to stay with the feeling until it&#8217;s time to let go and move on to the next feeling.  Taking care of myself means I&#8217;ve made a decision that it is okay to own my feelings.</p>
<p>So my dear friend, continue to take care of yourself emotionally.  It&#8217;s okay to feel angry. You have the right to be.  Just be open to and accepting of the emotional part of yourself and other people. Strive for balance by mixing emotions and reason but don&#8217;t let your intellect push the emotional part of yourself away.  </p>
<p>Taking care of yourself emotionally means you value and cherish the emotional part of yourself. I know you will be fine. We will be fine.</p>
<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<br />
You might also want to read <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/16/positive-mental-energy-and-affirmations/">Positive Mental Energy and Affirmations</a> and my other blogs like <a href="http://pinoyfoodblog.com">Free Filipino Food Recipes</a>, <a href="http://nimrodel.net">Shopping Finds</a>, <a href="http://pinoyfood.nimrodel.net">Pinoy Food Photo Blog</a> and <a href="http://techiegadgets.com">Techie Gadgets</a>. Hope you can drop by! Thanks for visiting&#8230;Noemi Lardizabal-Dado</p>

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		<title>Bloggers Join The Impeach-Arroyo Drive</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 13 Nov 2008 02:24:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Manolo Quezon and bloggers filed a complaint for intervention seeking to include the thwarted Memorandum of Agreement on Ancestral Domain between the government and the Moro Islamic Liberation Front (MILF) to the charges in the impeachment complaint against President Gloria M. Arroyo. I admit I am not that knowledgeable of the political situation but thanks [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.quezon.ph/2021/intervention-for-the-prosecution-why-the-bje-moa-is-an-impeachable-offense/">Manolo Quezon</a> and bloggers filed a complaint for intervention seeking to include the thwarted Memorandum of Agreement on Ancestral Domain between the government and the Moro Islamic Liberation Front (MILF) to the charges in the impeachment complaint against President Gloria M. Arroyo. I admit I am not that knowledgeable of the political situation but thanks to my dear husband he explained to me <a href="http://thewarriorlawyer.com/2008/11/12/why-intervention-in-the-impeachment-case-is-proper-and-should-be-allowed/">Why The Intervention in the Impeachment Case is Proper and Should Be Allowed</a>.  The intervention move seeks to include among the grounds for impeachment GMA’s complicity in the aborted MOA which would have established a Bangsamoro Juridical Entity and effectively given away a significant chunk of the republic to the MILF. This can be viewed as treason.</p>
<p>I laud the bloggers for taking this action.  It&#8217;s so easy to blog, rant, talk and comment about the state of our nation, our president and the corruption and all we want in our blogs and I believe it is not enough. </p>
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<p>As a Filipino citizen, I  have a vested right to ensure, by whatever lawful means, that the laws of the land are upheld and violators held accountable.  I am one with the bloggers who will join the <a href="http://www.inquirer.net/specialfeatures/2ndimpeachment/view.php?db=1&#038;article=20081113-171888" rel="nofollow">launch of an online revolution</a>.  </p>
<p>Instead of taking to the streets, Richard Rivera (one of the intervenors) said that the bloggers have opened two websites on which will be posted scandals involving Malacanang.  Bloggers are an untapped force with as many as 3.1 million bloggers in the Philippines based on a Synovate survey.</p>
<p> I know it won&#8217;t be easy and it could be a long shot. Who said change was easy anyway? It isn&#8217;t easy to get out of our comfort zone. Some of us may be jaded or disillusioned because the People Power Revolution failed to bring us to real change and recovery. I continue to hope and hope for the sake of my children&#8217;s future, and the future of their children.</p>
<p>I talked about the <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2008/07/28/sona-2008/">SONA 2008: A Mother’s Hope</a> for the sake of my children&#8217;s future. I have hopes that our future politicians will do their jobs and “walk the talk”. </p>
<p>I am also aware that I am powerless over the big tasks ahead. I have no power to control others, what they do, what they did, or what they might do.  I recognize that I should stop wasting my time and energy trying to change and control that which I cannot change and control. </p>
<p>The only change I have control of is my attitude and my actions. I continue to have faith and hope.</p>
<p class="alert">Here is the letter of complaint</p>
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<p style="margin: 6px auto 3px; font-family: Helvetica,Arial,Sans-serif; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 12px; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; display: block;">Among those who signed this document are the following bloggers, who have decided to take their personal stands not just in the blogosphere but in the institutions of our nation.</p>
<div style="margin: 6px auto 3px; font-family: Helvetica,Arial,Sans-serif; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 12px; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; display: block;">Marck Ronald Rimorin, <a href="http://www.marocharim.com/" rel="nofollow">The Marocharim Experiment</a></div>
<div style="margin: 6px auto 3px; font-family: Helvetica,Arial,Sans-serif; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 12px; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; display: block;">Arbet W. Bernardo, <a href="http://awbholdings.com/blog/" rel="nofollow">Blog@AWBHoldings.com</a>,</div>
<div style="margin: 6px auto 3px; font-family: Helvetica,Arial,Sans-serif; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 12px; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; display: block;">Richard Rivera, <a href="http://newphilrevolution.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">New Philippine Revolution</a>,</div>
<div style="margin: 6px auto 3px; font-family: Helvetica,Arial,Sans-serif; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 12px; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; display: block;">Edwin Lacierda, <a href="http://www.lacierda.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">San Juan Gossip Mills Outlet</a></div>
<div style="margin: 6px auto 3px; font-family: Helvetica,Arial,Sans-serif; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 12px; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; display: block;">Jeremy Gatdula, <a href="http://paseoblur.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Blurry Brain</a>,</div>
<div style="margin: 6px auto 3px; font-family: Helvetica,Arial,Sans-serif; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 12px; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; display: block;">Manuel L. Quezon III, <a href="http://www.quezon.ph/" rel="nofollow">The Daily Dose</a>,</div>
<div style="margin: 6px auto 3px; font-family: Helvetica,Arial,Sans-serif; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 12px; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; display: block;">Maria Jose (in Davao City), <a href="http://politics.alleba.com/" rel="nofollow">Alleba Politics</a>,</div>
<p>You can also find Manolo&#8217;s statement  in <a href="http://www.gmanews.tv/story/132942/Groups-want-ancestral-domain-issue-included-in-impeachment-rap-vs-Arroyo" "rel="nofollow">yesterday&#8217;s press conference at the House of Representatives</a> (Inquirer report <a href="http://newsinfo.inquirer.net/breakingnews/nation/view/20081112-171677/MILF-MOA-added-to-impeach-raps-vs-Arroyo" rel="nofollow">here</a>)</p>
<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<br />
You might also want to read <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/16/positive-mental-energy-and-affirmations/">Positive Mental Energy and Affirmations</a> and my other blogs like <a href="http://pinoyfoodblog.com">Free Filipino Food Recipes</a>, <a href="http://nimrodel.net">Shopping Finds</a>, <a href="http://pinoyfood.nimrodel.net">Pinoy Food Photo Blog</a> and <a href="http://techiegadgets.com">Techie Gadgets</a>. Hope you can drop by! Thanks for visiting&#8230;Noemi Lardizabal-Dado</p>

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		<title>Michelle Obama As a Mom</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 11 Nov 2008 03:26:21 +0000</pubDate>
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While watching the loving family of Barack Obama on the stage of Grant Park, I  wondered what lay ahead of their family.   Her interviews with media shows her active mommy role.  In a Newsweek interview,  she hopes that  “&#8230;we do some of what we&#8217;ve been doing for the last [...]]]></description>
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<p>While watching the loving family of Barack Obama on the stage of Grant Park, I  wondered what lay ahead of their family.   Her interviews with media shows her active mommy role.  In a Newsweek interview,  she hopes that  “&#8230;we do some of what we&#8217;ve been doing for the last year and a half. That we really treat our family life as separate as you can, that we keep the girls&#8217; lives very set apart from this whole experience.”</p>
<p>The future first lady frequently adjusted her schedule during the presidential campaign so she could return to her home in Chicago at night to be with her daughters. </p>
<p>In the <a href="http://nancydrewandme.blogspot.com/2008/11/raising-obama-be-change.html">same interview</a>, she hoped that her mom could come live with them. “The girls are going to need her, as part of their sense of stability. And what is true for my mom is that she does anything for us and her grandkids. All they have to do is look at her with sad eyes and she&#8217;s done for.”  I agree with my friend, Cathy that this is very similar to our Filipino trait.  As Filipinos, we often want a caregiver or loving relative watch over our kids when we are away for a long period of time. I know Michele may have to be with her husband for Official dinners or visits. Some things can&#8217;t be helped just like all working mothers have business to attend to.</p>
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<p>Michelle is like any loving mom.  &#8220;My girls are the first thing I think about when I wake up in the morning and the last thing I think about when I go to bed,&#8221; she told a rally in Ohio last month, when she filled in for her husband as he visited his terminally ill grandmother in Hawaii.  </p>
<p>While touring the White House with <a href="http://newsinfo.inquirer.net/breakingnews/world/view/20081111-171497/Laura-Bush-Michelle-Obama-meet-as-moms" rel="nofollow">Laura Bush</a>, I&#8217;m sure Michelle picked up advice from the First Lady. She cited her first priority in the White House will be her children &#8212; and she will probably scout out possible schools for daughters ten year old Malia and seven year old Sasha. </p>
<p>Valerie Jarrett, a close friend of the Obama family said on NBC&#8217;s Meet the Press on Sunday that Michelle Obama, often compared to former first lady Jacqueline Kennedy, would try to carve out a traditional White House role.</p>
<p>The Future First Lady of the USA faces a daunting task as a mother to the youngest children living in the presidential mansion in a generation and wife to President-elect Obama. There is no guidebook for raising children at the White House but she can surely get advice from former first ladies. </p>
<p>She is not alone in raising their children. In fact, she recognizes that Barack Obama ”&#8230; has to continue to make them a priority even as he&#8217;s the leader of the free world. I think that&#8217;s an important thing for him to model for others. It&#8217;s this notion that if he can do it, then we all have to really fight for it.” </p>
<p>I believe that like all loving mothers in the world, Michele Obama will rely on her maternal instinct and knowing what is best for her family.<br />
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		<pubDate>Sat, 08 Nov 2008 05:43:48 +0000</pubDate>
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Mom&#8217;s the Word, a feature from Mom Works in the Lifestyle Channel touched on how I turned around my grief, co-founded The Compassionate Friends (support group after a death of a child) in December 2005 together with my dear friends, Cathy Babao-Guballa and Alma Miclat. The feature also shows  how I started this [...]]]></description>
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<p><strong>Mom&#8217;s the Word</strong>, a feature from Mom Works in the Lifestyle Channel touched on how I turned around my grief, co-founded <a href="http://compassionatefriends.info">The Compassionate Friends</a> (support group after a death of a child) in December 2005 together with my dear friends, <a href="http://nancydrewandme. blogspot.com">Cathy Babao-Guballa</a> and <a href="http://maningning.com">Alma Miclat</a>. The feature also shows  how I started this blog on February 2006. </p>
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<i>Taping was done on September 23, a day before I left for a vacation to the USA</i></p>
<p> Mom Works is probably one of the best edited feature they ever did on me, next to another feature, <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/08/25/youtube-video-of-mom-bloggers-at-momworks-lifestyle-show/">Mom Bloggers</a> (with Cathy and <a href="http://ode2old.blogspot.com">Annamanila</a>) in July 2007.  Yet, there was one minor mistake. They forgot to mention that <a href="http://nancydrewandme. blogspot.com">Cathy Babao-Guballa</a> and <a href="http://maningning.com">Alma Miclat</a> are my co-founders in The Compassionate Friends. Without them, the support group would not have been possible. In December 2005, I lacked the confidence in organizing events or even talk to bereaved parents. I was a terribly shy person, perhaps because I had wallowed in misery  for too long, and away from the public eye.</p>
<p>I would also like to correct the misconception  that I used my son to ignite hits for my blog.  While true that my son is part of this blog, he has his own website at <a href="http://angel-luijoe.net">angel-luijoe.net</a> since June 2000. It continues to comfort others in similar losses. Luijoe&#8217;s memorial site brings in visitors that write to me privately. </p>
<p>  I don&#8217;t need hits for the sustainability of my blog.  Grief recovery contains unique and original content which explains why it gets traffic.  Whether my blog is successful or not, I prefer my son to be alive and to be with me right now than to have this blog. </p>
<p>The reality is, Luijoe is gone and moping is not the best option. Misery is neither an option. What I can do is to make my life better and let Luijoe live on by reaching out to others through this blog, through my work, through my advocacies. So for better or for worse, I will continue to focus on <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2008/11/04/develop-a-thick-skin-and-staying-focused-on-blog-goals/">my blog&#8217;s and life&#8217;s goals</a>. </p>
<p>By staying focused on what is more important to me,  it will seem that Luijoe never left me. He continues to be alive.  He lives on in my work. </p>
<p><strong>If you had the choice in any kind of pain or loss, would you want to be bitter or better?</strong></p>
<p class="alert">12th World Wide Candle lighting on December 14</p>
<p><img src="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/11/wwcl_2008_color2-web.gif" alt="candle light" align="left" hspace="4">Where: University of the Philippines Institute for Small Scale Industries<br />
E. Virata Hall, E. Jacinto St.<br />
UP Diliman Campus<br />
Diliman, Quezon City</p>
<p>Date: Sunday , December 14, 2008<br />
Time: 5:00 to 8:00 PM</p>
<p><i>As I lit my candle tonight, the sky cleared and your star was shining down.</i></p>
<p>This simple message was just one of the thousands left in the national website Remembrance Book during last year&#8217;s Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting.</p>
<p>Another person wrote, <i>everyday is hard without your child, but the Holidays are so hard. When we light our candles we can just see our children looking down at the millions of candles being lit around the world.</i></p>
<p>When a family has experienced the death of a child, for many the year would not be complete without a remembrance service that honors the memory of that child. TCF&#8217;s gift to the bereavement community, the Worldwide Candle Lighting, this year December 14th, offers that opportunity.</p>
<p>This is the 12th annual event which is held the second Sunday in December at 7 p.m. Candles stay lighted for one hour in each time zone around the world creating a virtual 24-hour wave of light. Candles are lit at 7 p.m. local time, hundreds of thousands of persons commemorate and honor children in a way that transcends all ethnic, cultural, religious, and political boundaries.</p>
<p>Believed to be the largest mass candle lighting on the globe, the Worldwide Candle Lighting creates a virtual 24-hour wave of light as it moves from time zone to time zone. Hundreds of formal candle lighting events are held and thousands of informal candle lightings are conducted in homes as families gather in quiet remembrance of children who have died, but will never be forgotten.</p>
<p>The Worldwide Candle Lighting started in the United States in 1997 as a small Internet observance but has since swelled in numbers as word has spread throughout the world of the remembrance.</p>
<p>The 2007 Worldwide Candle Lighting saw information on services received from 21 countries outside the United States.</p>
<p>Please help spread the word about this tremendous event and invite anyone who is unable to attend a service to light a candle at 7 p.m. for one hour wherever they may be.&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<br />
You might also want to read <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/16/positive-mental-energy-and-affirmations/">Positive Mental Energy and Affirmations</a> and my other blogs like <a href="http://pinoyfoodblog.com">Free Filipino Food Recipes</a>, <a href="http://nimrodel.net">Shopping Finds</a>, <a href="http://pinoyfood.nimrodel.net">Pinoy Food Photo Blog</a> and <a href="http://techiegadgets.com">Techie Gadgets</a>. Hope you can drop by! Thanks for visiting&#8230;Noemi Lardizabal-Dado
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		<title>The Hope of Obama and A Mother’s Hope</title>
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Lauren arrived from San Francisco early yesterday morning. She left about the time that Barack Obama was unofficially announced as the elected 44th President of the United States. Naturally, she brought along an Obama souvenir tshirt which says &#8220;HOPE&#8221; with a hopeful-looking Obama  at the front and &#8220;Nope&#8221; printed at the back with  [...]]]></description>
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Lauren arrived from San Francisco early yesterday morning. She left about the time that Barack Obama was unofficially announced as the elected <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2008/11/05/barack-obama-the-new-us-president/">44th President of the United States</a>. Naturally, she brought along an Obama souvenir tshirt which says &#8220;<strong>HOPE</strong>&#8221; with a hopeful-looking Obama  at the front and &#8220;<strong>Nope</strong>&#8221; printed at the back with  a frowning McCain.  I could have worn it but the sleeves make me look fat in it. </p>
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<p>The logo tells it all that there is &#8220;HOPE&#8221;. Expectations are high around the world as well, as political leaders look to Obama to help forge a new “era of renewed partnership and a new multilateralism”, in the words of U.N. Secretary General Ban Ki-Moon. France’s Nicolas Sarkozy said that Obama’s election had raised “enormous hope”.  President-elect will be expected to deliver on his campaign promise to bring about change almost immediately, and if he stumbles, will be set upon mercilessly not only by his conservative foes but also those who pinned such high hopes on him.</p>
<p>Such high hopes for Obama. </p>
<p>While everyone else in the world is hoping for the changes promised by Obama, I continue to have hope for the Philippines. It is my <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2008/07/28/sona-2008/">Mother&#8217;s Hope</a> that our country will change for the better. I have hopes that our future politicians will do their jobs and &#8220;walk the talk&#8221;.</p>
<p>I know some of you may think that our country is hopeless and even as a mother, we can feel helpless at times.  It can be disheartening.  I am not helpless. We are not really helpless. I can solve most of my problems. I have the power to solve the problems that is mine to solve. In my own little way, I contribute to the society through my children. Self-reliance begins in our homes. I hope to instill self-reliance in my children even if they have to inherit this crappy economy.</p>
<p>As Obama himself said in his <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2008/08/28/us/politics/28text-obama.html" rel="nofollow"> acceptance speech</a>,</p>
<blockquote><p>This victory alone is not the change we seek. It is only the chance for us to make that change&#8230;.</p>
<p>I believe that, as hard as it will be, the change we need is coming, because I&#8217;ve seen it, because I&#8217;ve lived it.
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<p><strong> &#8220;NOPE&#8221; to negativity. </strong>  Let&#8217;s translate the Hope of Obama in our lives. Let&#8217;s hope that The Hope of Obama inspires our 2010 Presidential candidates. Let&#8217;s dare to hope for the best.&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<br />
You might also want to read <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/16/positive-mental-energy-and-affirmations/">Positive Mental Energy and Affirmations</a> and my other blogs like <a href="http://pinoyfoodblog.com">Free Filipino Food Recipes</a>, <a href="http://nimrodel.net">Shopping Finds</a>, <a href="http://pinoyfood.nimrodel.net">Pinoy Food Photo Blog</a> and <a href="http://techiegadgets.com">Techie Gadgets</a>. Hope you can drop by! Thanks for visiting&#8230;Noemi Lardizabal-Dado</p>

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<p>Here is the real-time election results widgets that will be shown  Nov. 4, US time! Watch the electoral vote count and the congressional balance of power with the national U.S. map or choose a state and see how individual counties are voting. As soon as either McCain or Obama is declared the winner, you and I will know!</p>
<p>The countdown will be replaced automatically by the map a couple hours before the first polls close. (If you can&#8217;t view the widget, just look out for the <a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com" rel="nofollow">interactive electoral map</a>)</p>
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<p>Here is <strong>A short guide to understanding the U.S. election process</strong>. </p>
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<p>I am rooting for <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2008/10/13/us-elections-obama-proposition-8-serious-catholics/">Obama</a>.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.gallup.com/video/111277/Special-Report-How-World-Views-US-Election.aspx">Gallup recently found</a> that nearly one-third of the world’s population feels the result of the American election will make a difference in their countries.</p>
<p>As a Filipino, I am interested in Senator Barrack Obama’s foreign policy. In Obama, I see a president willing to reach out to world leaders, whether friend and enemy, to open dialogue and resolve differences through diplomacy rather than military engagement. After all, when did it hurt to sit down and talk to our enemies?</p>
<p>An Obama election will send a signal to minorities across America and to countries around the world that the US is breaking through the racial divide, opening their hearts to people of all colors and religion.</p>
<p>Obama will be the next US President.</p>
<p class="alert"><b>Update</b> November 5, 2008 (Philippine time)</p>
<p>And <a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/27531033/" rel="nofollow">Barack Obama is elected  the 44th US President</a> as most of us predicted! Yay!</p>
<p>Barack Obama sent an email on &#8220;How this Happened&#8221;</p>
<blockquote><p>I&#8217;m about to head to Grant Park to talk to everyone gathered there, but I wanted to write to you first.</p>
<p> We just made history.</p>
<p> And I don&#8217;t want you to forget how we did it.</p>
<p> You made history every single day during this campaign &#8212; every day you knocked on doors, made a donation, or talked to your family, friends, and neighbors about why you believe it&#8217;s time for change.</p>
<p> I want to thank all of you who gave your time, talent, and passion to this campaign.</p>
<p> We have a lot of work to do to get our country back on track, and I&#8217;ll be in touch soon about what comes next.</p>
<p> But I want to be very clear about one thing&#8230;</p>
<p> All of this happened because of you.</p>
<p> Thank you,</p>
<p> Barack</p></blockquote>
<p>And I&#8217;d like to quote my sister, an American Citizen.</p>
<p>&#8220;The best person won&#8230;</p>
<p>I sometimes wonder if the undecided decided because of McCain&#8217;s choice for vice-president.</p>
<p>Or as the economic crisis worsened, McCain lost footing. Maybe that&#8217;s what did it. While McCain opted to temporarily suspend his campaign due to this crisis, Obama had replied, &#8220;If you want to be President, you have to multi-task.&#8221;</p>
<p>Barak Obama&#8217;s charisma had something to do with it. And his wise choice of Biden for vice-president.</p>
<p>Obama won because his organizational structure was so tight. The email  was indicative of the communications I received after I made a small contribution at a fundraiser that Obama&#8217;s sister was the guest of honor for (right after the primaries) &#8212; and I met Angelica Jongco, the organizer for Filipinos for Obama, who told the crowd that although she hadn&#8217;t met Obama yet, she liked Obama&#8217;s half-sister. At that time, I witnessed the Asians who had supported Hillary Clinton puiblicly support Obama for the party&#8217;s unity&#8217;s sake.</p>
<p>Obama&#8217;s organizers used Web 2.0 technology effectively. No amount was deemed too small to donate. Every donor was treated equally: with the same emails.</p>
<p>Truly a historic moment&#8230;&#8221;                &#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<br />
You might also want to read <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/16/positive-mental-energy-and-affirmations/">Positive Mental Energy and Affirmations</a> and my other blogs like <a href="http://pinoyfoodblog.com">Free Filipino Food Recipes</a>, <a href="http://nimrodel.net">Shopping Finds</a>, <a href="http://pinoyfood.nimrodel.net">Pinoy Food Photo Blog</a> and <a href="http://techiegadgets.com">Techie Gadgets</a>. Hope you can drop by! Thanks for visiting&#8230;Noemi Lardizabal-Dado</p>

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		<description><![CDATA[I am into blogging for many reasons like all bloggers have their own reasons.  I am in it for the long haul. Yes, I can be opinionated but it&#8217;s all part of being a blogger. I make a stand whether it is popular or not.  My entries may have hurt a few bloggers [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I am into blogging for many reasons like all bloggers have their own reasons.  I am in it for the long haul. Yes, I can be opinionated but it&#8217;s all part of being a blogger. I make a stand whether it is popular or not.  My entries may have hurt a few bloggers and readers.  I apologize (when given the opportunity) when feelings are hurt but it doesn&#8217;t mean I don&#8217;t stand by my entries.  </p>
<p>I don&#8217;t even claim to be a good person. I am a  mainstream blogger trying to make herself a better blogger and person and I fail sometimes. I am not afraid of failure. <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/29/the-lessons-of-pain/">Pain  is a wonderful teacher</a>.  I don&#8217;t pretend to be nice either especially when I summon my <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2008/03/06/bitch-powers/">bitch powers</a> to get what I want.  I am firm when I know I am right.  I admit when I am wrong. I can be civil even at the heat of an argument but I will never act like a <i>palengkera</i> (loudmouth)  about it. It doesn&#8217;t mean I have not learned from my mistakes.  Recovery from unhealthy behavioral pattern is a work in progress and I am not making excuses about it.</p>
<p>Reading Darren Rowse&#8217; <a href="http://www.problogger.net/archives/2008/10/27/the-psychology-of-blogging/" rel="blogging">Psychology of Blogging</a>  affirmed my belief that bloggers should not just know the technical side of blogging. One must be able to stay on track, stay committed and hopefully stay sane.  Reality is,  not everyone will like you.  The more high profile  you are, the more the criticisms.   The more successful you are, the more some people will want to see you fail.  One of his tips is <b>Develop a thick skin</b> which I am quoting here . The bold highlight is mine.</p>
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Benjamin Franklin once said, “In this world nothing is certain but death and taxes.” Unfortunately Benny didn’t have a blog, because if he had the quote would have been “”In this world nothing is certain but death, taxes and <strong>if your blog becomes popular people will get jealous and want to see you fail</strong>.”</p>
<p>It doesn’t matter how brilliant your blog is, how much you pour your heart and soul into it, how genuine you are and what the quality of the writing is like, some people will still want to see you knocked down a peg or two. <strong>In fact, the more successful you are, the more some people will want to see you fail.</strong> Twas ever thus I’m afraid.</p>
<p>You’ll probably receive abusive e-mails from time to time as well as commenters who want to make you look foolish and/or criticize you. That’s just life as an ‘A’ list blogger. You need to either deal with it or prepare yourself for the day when you’re asked to put on the jacket with the very long sleeves.</p>
<p><strong>Understand your readers do not know you</strong>. Some will think they do and may even start to perceive you as a friend. This is cool as long as they don’t start hanging around outside your house and sending you rabbit paws through the mail, but they still don’t know you. Therefore, any criticism that is aimed at you reveals nothing about you. It says plenty about the person that administers it, but that’s about as far as it goes.</p>
<p><strong>You should deal with criticism the same way as you should deal with compliments: with a pinch of salt. </strong> Of course we all prefer to receive compliments, but they’re two sides of the same coin. If you take the good stuff too seriously, you’ll not be able to deal with the bad stuff when it arrives.</p>
<p><strong>Whatever somebody says, simply thank them for their feedback.</strong> Then decide whether that feedback is useful and can help you move forward. If it can, great, use it. If it can’t, drop it because you don’t need it. </p></blockquote>
<p>Not that I am claiming to be a successful blogger. I might have failed in some aspects that make a successful blog yet there is one thing that I  have achieved in my own little way in cyberspace. I stay focused on my blogging goals and I will never go wrong there.</p>
<p>My blog has been a vehicle to an advocacy that saves lives and offer comfort. It will continue to do so.</p>
<p>I have rewritten my <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/about-the-site/">blog&#8217;s objectives</a> to reflect the current changes in my life. </p>
<p><strong>I blog for two reasons:</strong></p>
<p>1. <strong>Share my grief journey and recovery principles.</strong> Many wonderful things have been happening to me. Sharing the changes in my new normal after the death of a child is one way of reaching out to others. I offer hope that life can still continue on despite <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/06/29/the-lessons-of-pain/">the pain</a> and that pain is a wonderful teacher. </p>
<p>2.  I  <b>blog as a platform for advocacy</b>.  My blog&#8217;s focus is  on assisting and participating in advocacy groups that may reap the benefits of blogging. My efforts will not be in vain because these groups will be able to complement their grassroots efforts in advocating social change.  </p>
<p><strong>&#8220;Touched by An Angel&#8221;  advocacy has five main goals</strong> that are close to my heart:</p>
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<strong>2.1  Promote  <a href="http://compassionatefriends.info">The Compassionate Friends</a> Philippines</strong> and reach out to bereaved family members who have lost a child.  (<a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/about/">read more?</a>).  Through my experiences , this blog will hopefully educate family systems that <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2006/09/08/grief-taboo-and-filipino-culture/">grief is not a taboo subject.</a> Grief is not limited to persons who have lost through the death of a loved one. My recovery blog also seeks to reach out to all those who are grieving from these losses , that  there is hope. Pain is our greatest teacher. Regardless of where the pain comes from, there are always lessons to be learned. </p>
<p><strong>2.2 Promote the <a href="http://filipinaimages.com">Filipina</a> of the Future</strong> who deserves a more empowered, diverse image online. Multiple, complex, and whole. As co-founder of <a href="http://filipinaimages.com/about/">Filipina Images</a>, I proudly refer to myself as a Filipina Mom Blogger. I am proudly Filipina.</p>
<p>More than comforting those who have lost a child and women empowerment, I also want to save lives and <a href="http://www.unicef.org/mdg/mortalitymultimedia/index.html">reduce child mortality</a>. The last 3 goals aims to ensure public health and child survival.</p>
<p><strong>2.3 <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/suicide-prevention/">Suicide Prevention</a></strong> is everybody&#8217;s business. Educate our community that suicide is a preventable public health problem in the Philippines. Suicide should no longer be considered a taboo topic, and that through raising awareness and educating the public, we can SAVE lives</p>
<p><strong>2.4. Promote <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2008/07/11/breastfeeding-dennis-hoffman-study-7iq-points/">Breastfeeding</a>. </strong> I want to be part in  saving the lives of 16,000 Filipino  every year and 1.5 million babies dying every year throughout the world, because they were not breastfed.</p>
<p><strong>2.5.Participate in <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2008/04/14/bata-movement-child-survival/">Child Survival</a> and parenting activities.</strong> More than the sheer number of children’s lives wasted, the one thing more alarming is the fact that they could have actually been prevented.  I want to be part of UNICEF&#8217;s <a href="http://www.unicef.org/mdg/mortalitymultimedia/index.html">4th Millennium Development Goal (MDG4) </a> which has the objective of decreasing mortality among infants and children below 5 years of age by 2015.</ul>
<p>I will be able to achieve all of these goals and achieve social impact by writing about it in my blog and participating in events and activities relevant to the advocacy.</p>
<p>Readers will come and go because that&#8217;s how the world works.  My blog is not my life. It is just one of the vehicles I use to make life a better place for me and others.</p>
<p>Do you have blog goals?&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<br />
You might also want to read <a href="http://aboutmyrecovery.com/2007/09/16/positive-mental-energy-and-affirmations/">Positive Mental Energy and Affirmations</a> and my other blogs like <a href="http://pinoyfoodblog.com">Free Filipino Food Recipes</a>, <a href="http://nimrodel.net">Shopping Finds</a>, <a href="http://pinoyfood.nimrodel.net">Pinoy Food Photo Blog</a> and <a href="http://techiegadgets.com">Techie Gadgets</a>. Hope you can drop by! Thanks for visiting&#8230;Noemi Lardizabal-Dado</p>
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