GMA’s Temper Tantrums and Self-Care

President Gloria Macapagal-Arroyo (GMA)’s legendary temper tantrums or katarayan is in the news again because of staff inefficiency which was probably due to miscommunication of a TV taping.

Jove Francisco wrote about “The Prompter” incident including the above footage.

A video of the news shows a more compact view

Jove adds that

I’ve seen her so called ““mataray ways”.

(One recent incident happened during her US working visit last July. She was having lunch with the members of the media delegation, and during the chitchat, she expressed her ““tampo” sa media, because she believes the media never grew tired of painting her as ““mataray”. One feisty —sassy and yes, friendly, lady broadcast journalist then gave this one liner: ““but being mataray isn’t always and shouldn’t be a bad thing.” (or something to that effect) PGMA just stared at her. Lahat kami agree sa sinabi ni feisty reporter. Bakit mamasamain ang isang bagay na pwedeng strong quality di ba? One co-reporter whispered, ““sus, eh as if naman ang katarayan ang solong dahilan kung bakit siya disliked and not trusted based on surveys?”. O, o, don’t shoot the messenger please! Na-alala ko lang mga nadinig ko.)

I agree that being “mataray” is not a bad trait if used to get things done in a timely manner. But, if you listen to the video, you can hear objects falling here and there. You will hear her admonish PDI’s photograher, Lyn Rillon, “don’t take my photo”. You will hear her high-pitched voice, screaming in the corridor. Scary! The panic that ensued can be seen clearly by her aides and the RTVM staff running in and out of the room as if typhoon Glo just suddenly struck from nowhere.

The video clearly showed she was unable to control her emotions. Stress seems to have finally taken a toll on her. Jove adds that it may have been due to…all the stress and pressure in the past few weeks regarding the MOA-AD, CHACHA, the Mindanao situation, the bum stomach, the deluge of foreign visitors, the declarations of El Shadai and the CBCP over the weekend, her supposed check-up for stress tests before her appearance at the Ninoy event

Who doesn’t feel stress anyway? I am sure all of us do. More so with our president who carries the burden of the nation. But she needs to make a solid plan like we do when stress hits us. Sometimes, stress is outside or around us. Even if we feel balanced, our circumstances are stressful. Sometimes, the stress is within and we feel out of balance. Now when the stress is internal and external, we experience the most difficult times.

We don’t know what is causing all this outburst in our president.

Affirming that the events taking place are a temporarily uncomfortable , a solid plan can help. We can assure ourselves that we will get through. We wont be destroyed. We won’t crumple or go under.

What helps?

1. Focus on detachment.

2. Be open to healthy options for taking care of yourself if normal support is not available.

3. Take one day at a time to deal with feelings.

My unsolicited advice to GMA is take care of herself first. One is better able to cope with the most irregular circumstances and able to be there for others if one is caring for themselves. Maybe she knows has a solid plan in place but may need to be gently reminded every now and then. So here it is.

She can ask herself:

1. What do I need to do to take care of myself?

2. What might help me feel better or comfortable?

Self-care may not come as easily during times of stress. GMA has a busy schedule too. Self-neglect may seem more comfortable an option.

But taking care of ourselves always work.

How do you take care of yourself in times of stress?

Noemi Lardizabal-Dado (1346 Posts)

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About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

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  • http://jenijenjen.blogspot.com Jen

    Very well put Ms. Noemi. First thing’s first. We should be able to come to terms with ourselves and eventually find out where all the stress is coming from. Oo nga no? Maybe I should try this out myself 😐

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    • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

      Hope you start on a solid plan to destress!

  • http://www.gannsdeen.com ganns

    One word: fruit! 😀

    How can your spirits not be lifted with a nice bowl of chilled fresh strawberries, peaches, or mangoes with cream?

    • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

      fruit is good! I usually go for a spa treatment!

  • http://mysoulfulthoughts.blogspot.com/ Rach (Heart of Rachel)

    I watched the GMA lost her temper in the news. We all have our share of stress.

    I wish I had a constructive way of getting over stress but I tend to eat more when I’m in stress.

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    • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

      I tend to eat more so when that happens I choose healthy food to binge on. 🙂

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  • http://mushings.blogspot.com leira

    i watched that footage on TV. Narinig ko pa nga when one person said ay binato yung laptop… grabe..

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  • mikel

    i don’t understand why anyone has to make a big deal about the president’s outbursts. it gives the impression that you expect her to be superhuman and saintly. no such person exists. stop the yapping and tsismis. it’s useless information.

    • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

      stop the yapping and tsismis. it’s useless information.

      tsismis is when it is not based on first hand knowledge. The above video is based from actual footage. My quotes are taken from a friend and respectable blogger and reporter.

      of course I know GMA is not expected to be a superhuman. I don’t think you are reading my entry properly. I said that we all have stress every now and then. duh!

  • http://jencc.wordpress.com jencc

    it’s really so hard to “take care of oneself” during times of stress. Even nga if it’s not during times of stress, we tend to forget ourselves. But I do agree with you, taking care of herself first will help lots. Pamasahe kaya siya. I should introduce her to my husband’s (and now mine too!) masseuse. Ang saraaaaaap!

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    • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

      You are right jen! She just needs a time out from all this. I wonder who is her “adviser” on mental and emotional health.

  • http://pmptoday.com BrianB

    Binato ang laptop? Is this confirmed?

  • GMA

    easy for you to say these advices when you still have time to blog and do all these nonsens. try handling a war and a population that is composed of the stupidest people in the world.

    • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

      i agree with you that it is easy for me to say this which i mentioned in my entry if you missed that prt. In your opinion appears as nonsense to you while others view it as a lesson to learn from.

      Your opinion that the country has one of the stupidest people in the world belongs to you. No wonder you are now living in the US. Good luck to you.

    • GMA nonsense

      if this is nonsense why are you here?

  • MeAko

    Do people follow our leader because they are inspired by her or because of fear…Isn’t a leader’s ability to be able to keep his/her emotions in check critical to how she is able to lead?

    We judge our leaders by a different set of criteria, because..well, they’re leaders, are we expecting perfection, of course not. Do we expect a different level of emotional soundness, absolutely.

  • http://www.edelweiza.com edelweiza

    stress affects everyone of us, no matter what position we hold. i think it will make a huge difference if we work to have a clear mind all the time despite the gravity of consequences we are in, take good care of ourselves and take the time to rest and appreciate the little and simple things around us. 🙂

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    • http://www.childrentantrums.com/ Children Tantrums

      Tell me about it. I can see the stress in myself and everyone I work I with. You can tell the people who succeed in the business world are the ones who have a clear mind, and who don’t allow the stress to get to them.

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  • http://blog.reodica.org LiNTEK

    Whewwww!!!!

    I think stress is not the reason behind it.

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