Love in the Time of Friendster

I can’t help but be happy for my cousin, Margot. Last Friday, she walked down the aisle in her lovely beaded gown with Dwight, the love of her life. I have often wondered why my beautiful, kind and smart cousin-doctor was still single at 30 something. I often dismissed it as not finding the right man. Wise girl. I never asked her but I am sure she often gets the brunt of questions from nosy relatives.

“Why are you not married yet? ang ganda ganda mo. wala pa ba nagkagusto sa yo? .”

It reminded me of the time when I was around 26 years old. My officemates (yes, annamanila our officemates) teased me that it’s about time I should get married. That it wasn’t good to marry late ectetera, etctera.

I panicked. I wanted to get married, have kids, be a loving wife and mom in our quaint little house with a picket fence. I wondered if my biological clock was ticking fast. At that time, my boyfriend and I were steadies for 7 years but he was still a law student.

One night, I asked my boyfriend if he planned to marry me like soon. And if he didn’t have immediate plans, maybe we should already split up because I didn’t want to wait 7 years with a relationship heading nowhere. I didn’t want to sound like I was blackmailing him so I just said “if you don’t want to marry me, I am leaving for San Francisco and enjoy singlehood with my sister, my bestfriend.”

To my utter shock and delight, Butch calmly said “I want to marry you”. Come to think of it, Butch was so young when he got married to me. He’s two years younger but he didn’t want to lose me (so he says).

So don’t follow me and bow to peer pressure.

I don’t know the reasons Margot chose to marry late in life but last December, she showed up with her fiancé at my aunt’s party. I was pleasantly surprised. I was nosy this time.

Oh how did you meet?

Margot chimed in Oh we got reunited in friendster just last August!

I asked Friendster? Tell me about it.

My thoughts started to race recalling a previous article in the Inquirer: “One of the telling signs that relationships nowadays have gone digital is through the little detail at the beginning of Friendster profiles. The one that indicates the status of the person you’re interested in.”

With a broad smile, Dwight held Margot’s hand and volunteered the information. Apparently, my cousin and Dwight met 7 years ago when they reviewed for the medical board exams. I think they were classmates. One night, Dwight decided to do a friend search in friendster wondering what happened to Margot.

Lo and behold! He discovered that Margot was still single. He didn’t waste anytime. He contacted her.

That was August 2007. They got engaged September and married just last Friday, April 4. Talk about not wasting any more precious time.

Friendster is truly a social network that brought about positive results.

Congratulations to my dear cousin, godmother of my Luijoe and to her husband.

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Noemi Lardizabal-Dado (1346 Posts)

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.


About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

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  • http://lizette.i.ph liz

    i met my current boyfriend online too! we were introduced by mutual friends in a YM chatroom. haha. we’ve been together for almost a year but he’s asking me to marry him already! i just turned twenty the other month and i haven’t graduated so i am not considering it yet. i love him very much though. *mushy* and who knows, we might just be like Margot and Dwight!

  • http://www.riajose.com Ria Jose

    Awww… very nice and inspiring story. 🙂

    Hopefully, years from now I can write a similar entry.

  • http://one-twentyone.com lady cess

    congratulations to margot and dwight 🙂

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    @liz- aww. I bet your boyfriend is ready to get married. Anyway, you will know when it’s the right time.

    @ ria- it’s the modern way to hook up

    @lady cess- I am so happy for them.

  • http://mp3crown.com Viona

    Romantic story…Thanks God, Margot has Friendster account so Dwight could find her.

  • http://www.thesweetlife-rowena.blogspot.com Rowena

    Hi Noemi, what a wonderful love story. My best wishes to your cousin Margot and Dwight. I hope my two sisters (39 & 37 yrs old) would find the right man soon whether online or thru friends, ha ha.

  • http://elsalvadordelmundo.blogspot.com ian

    my best friend from college also met her husband through friendster, a classmate from grade school! i’ve gone out with people i’ve met online as well (shh don’t tell my mom haha)- a few hits, LOTS of misses =] then again, if we don’t take a chance- using whatever medium is available- we might lose out on the proverbial love boat… not that traveling solo is bad, of course =]

    here’s to the newlyweds and to all of us waiting/surfing at the sidelines =]

  • http://www.RadiantView.com Lorna Dietz

    Ay, my best wishes to our baby cousin, Margot! She married at her own pace — and at her own time… yup, no bowing to peer pressure… I look forward to hearing more about her adventures! And yes, please tell Margot that I did receive the invitation by snail mail, and it was really snail-ly indeed — because it arrived about two days before her wedding! – Lorna

  • http://amoores.com JMom

    I didn’t get married until I was 28 so yeah, I can imagine the questions your cousin got 🙂 That is such a sweet love story. I hear more and more people are finding each other through technology.

    I have a cousin there in the Philippines who found his wife through texting. lol!

  • http://blog.jammedph.com Jam

    I know some lady doctors who have not been married until now. Most of them have already established their names on their respective specialization, which also means that they intimidate guys.

  • http://mwahmwah.blogspot.com Ads

    my husband and i recently got married — Feb 15 and Jan 27 this year!

    yep, we met online — mIRC, 7 years ago! 🙂

    BEFORE my sisters call me cheap, because its like a techie version of PhonePal… but hindi na ngayon. because its a common thing… =)

  • http://ederic.tinig.com Ederic

    At sila’y nagtagpo sa Friendster. Their experience would be a great case study for a Friendster-related feature. 🙂

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    @ian- friendster is the largest social network. It’s not surprising a lot of friends get reunited via friendster

    @Jmom- I remember during my time 27 seemed like one was missing the boat

    @ads- you had 2 wedding dates? congrats!

    @ederic- there should be a friendster love story contest

  • http://jrocas.com.ph jhay

    Should we say “love 2.0”?

    Congratulations to all the newly weds! 😀

  • http://www.passthesauce.net Phoebe

    Online lurve? Ughhh. Tell me about it! 😆

  • Angie

    Wow. And I thought I was the only one.
    I met my boyfriend on-line too. mIRC turned YM turned myspace turned friendster then back to YM after 4years. ;p
    ay, pati yung ex ko pala hehe

    Congratulations to the newly-weds 😀

  • crysine

    wow!!!a very nice story…it’s really fun to know how people fall in love. hoping that someday i can also write my own story as pretty as this…cool…bless you both…