Love thyself first

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““If you don’t love yourself, you cannot love others. You will not be able to love others. If you have no compassion for yourself then you are not able of developing compassion for others.”– Dalai Lama

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Noemi Lardizabal-Dado (1386 Posts)

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

  • This is so true. Mine is still a work in progress. I still have a little girl so I have to prioritize her needs first before mine, but, hopefully in time, I would be able to leave something for myself.

    Pero kahit ngayon I see to it that I visit the salon and go out with friends once in a while. I thank God for all those blogging events that I go to, it works like a breather to me.

    • when the girls were little, I devoted so much time to them often neglecting myself. You are lucky blogging came early on. Yes it is a great diversion and you have time off.

  • yan

    hi Ms.Noemi i always find time to read your blog every now and then i’ve been your reader since last year and you are one of the many bloggers that i always look up to and respect.I simply adore your compassionate heart as a mother and as a citizen i hope you continue to write insightful thoughts from your experiences advance merry Christmas to you and to your family.

    • thanks yan for visiting my blog. I want to share more but for privacy reasons, I try to tone it down but yes, I do want to share more insightful thoughts.

      Have a blessed christmas too.

  • Another timely blog. I still need to love myself more. As a first born, I’ve always felt that I have to obey, care for siblings, be a role model, conform to rules, and yield to others’ demands. In other words, I have always been a “yes” girl and a people pleaser.

    It’s a life bondage and would deter me from attaining my purpose. I’ve taken steps to take care of myself lately.

    Thanks again for sharing Noemi!
    .-= amomandmore´s last blog ..Mom’s Pride — October 2009 LET Licensure Examination for Teachers Topnotchers from MindGym: Angelica Villafuerte and Sheryll Raquipiso =-.

  • as breadwinner, i reward myself every now and then for my hard work for my family. i also keep my optimism at the highest level (i think it’s a must!) and thank God for everything at the start and end of each day.

    you’re a good person, tita noems. i just know. thanks for inspiring people everyday through your blog. 🙂

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  • i totally agree with this! this is actually my tool to keep my cool (that rhymes!) when dealing with my 2 year old daughter…really works!

    being a martyr doesn’t work well with keeping the family happy together
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  • I don’t recall anywhere Jesus saying how one loves himself or what that even means. “Love your neighbor as yourself” implies that he assumed that his listeners already knew the answer to those questions.
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  • christine golocan

    at this moment that i am reading this my tears are about to fall down but i am trying every effort not to let it fall…i am at the office. this morning i had a fight with a person i love and the words that we let each other read (we hurled hurting words via text messages) is just too much. and that is why i am reading your every entry that has anything to do about love, recover and hope…and somehow this entry makes me wish that everything will be okey between the two of us despite the hurtful words and the painful past that always haunt me and aggravate the pain.

    this is just to say thank you. finding your blog and reading about you and your experiences makes me sane, i feel i am not alone with the pain that loving brings…

    please don’t publish this. i just want to communicate with someone with the pain i am feeling right now. while i have friends and family, i prefer to keep painful experiences and feelings to myself but somehow i feel safe blurting out my feelings with you.

    Again, thanks!