Making Choices

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I have choices. We have choices, more choices than we let ourselves see.

People may feel trapped in their relationships, their jobs and their lives. They may feel locked in a controlling or caretaking behavior.

Feeling trapped is sympton of codependency. I use to be a codependent. I should know. Yup, I drove myself crazy and my family even crazier. Haha.

I often heard myself saying “I have to take care of him..”

“I have to say yes”

“I have to control my daughter”

” I have to behave this way, think this way, feel this way…”

We know we are choosing not to see choices. It seems that being trapped is really an illusion. Are you really trapped?

I know I am not.

All that unhealthy behavior changed three years ago when I recognized that I had choices. Healthy choices.

I an NOT controlled by circumstances, my past, my expectations of others or unhealthy expectations for ourselves.

I choose what feels right for me, without guilt.

I have options.

Recovery is not about acting perfectly or according to someone else’s rules.

Recovery is about knowing we have choices and giving ourselves the freedom to choose.

I choose to open my thinking and myself to choices available to me.

I make choices that are good to me.

For the first time in my life, I will travel alone next week to the US for a three week business/pleasure trip just because I need it. I always put family above myself for a long time. It’s about time I have my very own ME time.

I choose to be happy.

I choose to try to do good for others.

I choose to use my blog as a vehicle for advocacy.

I choose love above everything, because

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

Have you made choices that are good to you lately?

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  • http://scroochchronicles.com/ Cookie

    Yes I have. I have chosen to be completely, unabashedly honest. Even if it meant hurting some of the people I truly love. In the end, we all settled our differences and moved on making the saying “The truth will set us free.” very, very true to its word :)

    Cookies last blog post..Litratong Pinoy : Pilak

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    yes being honest hurts at first but time did heal those wounds. Relationships became better. Everyone ended up being happy.

  • http://jesma.vox.com iloveteddybears

    You know that saying, “Life is all about Choices”? Well, do you think so?

    For me, life is definitely all about choices. Just think about all the times in your life when you were faced with a really significant decision: where to go to college, whether to accept a marriage proposal, whether to go on that date, what job to interview for. The list goes on. The decisions you make at those times determine the course your life is going to take, good or bad. It’s great that we have the power of choice because if we make a choice and decide that the outcome is a bad one, more often than not we can change that path we took, at least to some degree.

    Destiny is basically an acumulation of choices; not that we totally set ourselves up for everything that happens, nor can we always know the odds, but in many cases, yes we played a part, we weighed the odds and took chances, knowing that everything doesnt have a set outcome, and that basic, a set outcome, would have to be there, in order to claim destiny over choice.

    I hope this is something that can help you :)

    I just came randomly by your blog, so I may have come rude. My apologies.

    Care to read mine? I also blog for advocacy..

    iloveteddybearss last blog post..Plea to the Pearl of the Orient

  • http://mp3leben.com Viona

    Congratulations for you business trip to US. I know you pick this option not because you want to put your job above your family. I believe in our life there is time every priority. Now you’re children has grown mature, it is time for you to more focus on your job. That’s not a selfish act…I wish you succes.