Modern Day Moms and Truth, Accountability & Reform

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noemi and raqAs a little girl, I often thought adults talked too seriously. I figured in my little girl’s mind that it must be boring to be all grown-up. When mom’s friends converged at our home for afternoon chit-chat, the conversations revolved around gardening, orchids, roses, baking and other household matters. I am sure they had fun too.

Modern Day Filipina Mother

Now that I am a modern-day mom in this digital age, I am like my mom except…I wonder what mom would think as I gush over Raquel‘s organic tomato farm produce in Germany. Never mind if I don’t actually talk to Raq in person but I still get to admire her tomato produce as I browse photos in her blog on farm produce or read further on about Raq’s tips on taking care of orchids. Imagine the beauty of the blogging medium as moms can easily show off their home and garden tips. Mom would probably be intimidated with today’s barrage of digital computerized appliances and social media. Now that Raq is in the Philippines for vacation, I finally meet up with this prolific blogger together with her husband two lovely girls.

I wonder what my kids are thinking now. Is a mom’s life boring? Of course not!

noemi and bettyMeeting Betty, a college schoolmate over 30 years ago, in Singapore last November proved to be a revelation. It’s confirmed. I was a quiet person, perhaps comparing myself to my sister, Lorna who was also close to Betty and my roommates. Both of us belonged to the College of Home Economics and look at where we are now. Betty manages her own employment agency at Singapore’s Tanglin Shopping Centre which is mainly for maids, Malaysian workers and other sourcing jobs for hotels and restaurants while I run my online business. My virtual office is located anywhere in the world.

It’s true that I still play a role in the household just like in the old days. In addition to bringing in part of the paycheck, I balance the checking account and pay all the monthly bills. I am the family chauffeur. Exercise and blogging about entertainment, shopping, food, recipes, tech gadgets spice up my life. I balance work with fun and pleasure and move around in diverse offline and online social circles.

Truth and Accountability

mom_bloggers.jpgEvery so often, I meet up with mom bloggers. An opportunity arrived during Dine’s 50th birthday celebration where Chats, Annamanila, Jane, Raquel and I met up in Katipunan’s branch of The Old Spaghetti House.

Perhaps it was Dine’s experience with the Truth and Accountability Mass or Katipunan Avenue, the venue of our meetup but part of the evening we, the mom bloggers felt like the Katipunera as we discussed the current state of the nation and our outrage and indignation at the official response to the recent revelations on the National Broadband Network (NBN-ZTE) controversy.

Though our children may view President Macapagal-Arroyo’s inaction on the disclosures about the scrapped National Broadband Network (NBN) project as a serious topic, it involves the future of their country. As mothers, do we just sit down and watch our country deteriorate and fall to corruption? And do nothing about it? The dilemma is what actions can we take in our own little way? It’s so easy to turn a blind eye and live within our comfort zone. How convenient it is to just watch the news in the sidelines, continue with our household jobs and watch all the scenes unfold us and wish it woud just go away magically.

Katipunera ka ba?

Today’s modern day mothers’ cry is not far from the truth and freedom fight that Gregoria de Jesus (the original Katipunera) advocated! If there is A Call to the Filipino Youth to Stand Up for Truth, the Filipina Mothers can also make a stand. Let’s be heard! Let’s go out of our comfort zone.

In the meantime, I will continue to educate myself on the current issues, discuss them with my children, blog and see how I can participate in the truth and freedom fight that our Katipuneras did in the past.

Yes, I will make a barrage of noise about Truth, Accountability and Reform in the streets and in the world wide web of cyberspace!

I choose not to turn a blind eye or a deaf ear, but to be active, vigilant and responsible in demanding accountability from our institutions. It is only in doing so that we may prevent anarchy.

Call for Action

I feel that it is Tama Na Sobra Na (I’ve had enough). What can you do?

If you are at a loss, here are some ways you can participate.

1. Invitation to a FREE Concert for Truth, Accountability and Reform

Monday, February 25, 2008
Ateneo de Manila University
Loyola Heights, Quezon City (between Gates 2 & 3)

2. Possible Actions spelled out at Manalangin. Manindigan. Makialam ng SIMBAHANG LINGKOD NG BAYAN

1. Join public expressions demanding the E.O. 464 revocation which blocks the process of searching for the truth.

2. Keep up-to-date with developments. Attend KWENTONG BAYAN (National Situationer) this February 23 (Sat) 1:00 p.m. at the Ateneo Grade School auditorium. Resource persons include:

    Sen. Kiko Pangilinan
    Prof. Winnie Monsod
    Cabinet Secretary Ricardo Saludo

With a message from former President Cory Aquino
(For reservations given the limited slots available, please call tel. 426-6101 local 3440/3441)

3. Write to Romulo Neri and other Ateneo Alumni and communicate our demand for the whole truth. Secretary Neri’s contact infos:
Tel.#: +63 (02) 9100823; 6332713
Fax # +63 (02) 6355829

4 Disseminate credible statements through internet (emails, blogs, websites etc.) to guide fellow Filipinos in different parts of the world. For other details, visit or
5 Launch and/or support signature campaigns for truth.
6. Organize fora/conferences about the national situation in general or the ZTE scam in particular. SLB can help with invitation for resource persons.

Support the proposal for an Independent Counsel to ensure closer investigation and prosecution of guilty parties. We channel our forces to the Senate for this resolution. Then we monitor the Ombudsman and the Department of Justice and even the Courts to ascertain that we have the right Independent Counsel who is not only an outstanding member of the bar with vast experience in the field of prosecution, but he must also be a person with irreproachable integrity, probity and independence. For inquiries, you may call the Ateneo School of Government or Simbahang Lingkod ng Bayan.

1. Join small groups of discernment/discussion sessions as a concrete response to the CBCP call. You may also call SLB at locals 3440 / 3441 / hotline SUN-8600-SLB, should you wish to join these sessions.

2. Write to lawmakers and push for the review and revision of the Government Procurement Act. For a complete directory, visit and

3. Organize your communities and hold dialogues with your local government officials. Demand from our elected officials their stand on the ZTE scandal and make them commit to the call for truth, accountability and reform. Make public the statements of your communities and/or officials.

4. Academic officials may write to all the school’s alumni the call for reform. Organize an Alumni gathering and discuss the ZTE scandal. Make them commit to the general public’s clamor for change. Make public the commitments of your institution especially the roles the alumni will take.

3. Join the press con of UP Alumni (spearheaded by UP Samasa Alumni), tomorrow, Feb 22, 11AM at the Lamesa Grill Trinoma. The presscon will focus on transparency, truth and good governance. it will also be a venue for donations to the Sanctuary Fund for whistle blowers and truth advocates like Jun Lozada.

4. Join Team RP, a youth-led initiative to advocate and proactively work towards the fight for Truth, Accountability and Reform in our government. It is led by college students and young professionals who want to see genuine reform in our country especially in our government leaders today.

Related Blog Entries From Mothers

1. Annamanila on Taking Responsibility
2. Dine on Truth and Accountability Mass at Ateneo
3. Jane on Our Youth are the Hope of this Land
4. Dine on In Search for the Truth–The D Spot Opens its doors to your opinions, suggestions, reactions, atbp
5. Cathy on What is 130 Million to you?

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You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

  • When I meet up with other moms, we talk about the kids and the husbands, the rising gas prices, where we can get a good bargain. We also talk about work and our complaints. 🙂

    Btw, noemi, thank you for the link to that support group. I am now seriously thinking about it. I checked out the site and I found one that’s not too far from my place. Now I just need to make an effort to squeeze it into my timetable. Thank you so much for all your help.

  • @honeyville- it’s fun to share notes right? I hope you can join that group and meet up for a few times to see if it is for you.

  • miej

    hi noemi!

    you might want to join the press con of UP Alumni (spearheaded by UP Samasa Alumni), tomorrow, Feb 22, 11AM at the Lamesa Grill Trinoma. The presscon will focus on transparency, truth and good governance. it will also be a venue for donations to the Sanctuary Fund for whistle blowers and truth advocates like Jun Lozada.

    hope you and the other readers can join us tom. thanks! 🙂

  • Thanks Miej. I will drop by for sure. 🙂

  • The youth is called upon to take up its role as bearers of the future and stand up for truth and accountablity in government. We as mothers need to support their role. Let’s do what we can

  • Noemi, this blog post is a great wake up call! As modern day moms – more educated, more exposed, more travelled and more assertive (and with more gadgets at our disposal) than the Katipuneras of Bonifacio’s time, we have a bigger responsibility to DO MORE. Yes, we can help bring out real reforms in our time, in our own way. It’s hard to get out of our comfort zones. But, we can do it if we will it.

  • @amomandmore- you said it even better than my post. Yes, we can do MORE than our mothers today. Let’s use it for the common good.

  • Noemi: Havent we been fighting for the same things since way back in UP thirty years ago? What happened? I hope next time I read Manila newspapers I will read boring news like in Singapore ” Singapore wins the right to host this and that convention”… and not about whistle blowers.

    The last time, we were the young generation,” Pag Asa ng Bayan”.. and now we are still in the stage were we are developing another generation of “Pag Asa ng Bayan”. And to think majority of our top politicos come from prestigious schools like UP,Ateneo etc.

    I guess we have to rethink everything starting from the rearing of children, values formation, educational system and maybe rethink payment of salaries government employees and officials to make it more transparent and competiive so that they wont steal.

    As parents we should instill in our children the importance of maintaining an unblemised name and to be morally upright.

    Kudos to your efforts!!!

  • @betty- things haven’t changed at all. There is just a new set of corruption of players. I’ve also stressed value formation in the kids.

  • That was a fun dinner to toast our friend Dine’s milestone.

    At that time, I was still, to use your own words, educating myself. I still am I guess.

    But thanks for plugging here my post on ‘taking responsibility.’ It is my first time to use my blog to go political or even to discuss current events. I guess i can still connect stuff like this with my theme of internal growing di ba?

  • @annamanila- your blog entry is a BIG contribution to most of us who are still in a dilemma about the current situation.

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  • thanks to you, Noemi, Annamanila, Chats, Raqgold, Jane for sharing my 5oth!

  • i had a great time, and that was my first ever EB 😀 and thanks for this post, i am sad that such things are to our country yet i am hopeful that in time, everything would be ok. i guess, if we could all work for the better, it would happen. let’s pray for the Philippines.