My Ebay Seller/Buyer Phobia

ebay.jpeg[tag]Online shopping[/tag] is quite tempting especially if one finds bargains. My sister in San Francisco tells me that she doesn’t go to the mall anymore to buy her clothes, gifts and even appliances. Unfortunately our credit card’s exchange rate is quite high. The only online shopping experience that is financially rewarding is buying at Amazon. All of my grief recovery books were purchased from Amazon. I often browse at myayala.com’s online shop but their prices there are not bargain deals. You know how we moms love bargain shopping. Three years ago, my sister-in-law in the States urged me to try selling at Ebay. Her vintage jewelry and children’s books raked in modest income. At that time, my online business was still at its infant stage. I thought maybe I should try selling some of my services at ebay.

Being an Ebay newbie, I didn’t actuallly read the fine print. Maybe I did but I could not comprehend the listing rules. Ebay requires sellers to input your credit card and dollar account details which I readily supplied. A few days after a failed Ebay sale, my Wells Fargo statement said that $7.00 was deducted from my balance. Confused, I emailed Wells Fargo that I don’t remember the sale and to investigate the matter. A few days later, Ebay emailed a strongly worded legal letter that I should pay $7.00 listing fee. OOh so that’s where the money went , I thought. But Wells Fargo was a bit too hasty. They credited the $7.00 back to me just because I complained. I didn’t tell the bank to do that. Now Ebay was breathing down my neck. In the next few days, I received frequent “nasty” notices until they wrote back that my credit card will be billed $30 something for collection fees plus listing fee. Ridiculous! Now I owe them $30.00. I quickly called Citibank to stop the transaction. They said they can’t do that until the bill arrives and suggested that I talk to them. Thinking it was hopeless, I wrote a letter to Ebay apologizing that since I was an Ebay seller newbie to give me a chance. Happily, they did. I still had to pay the $7.00 though. My gosh, these Ebay guys can really hound you just for $7.00. Imagine the millions of sellers worldwide giving that income.

That Ebay seller experience prompted me to give up on Ebay selling. I know a lot of stay-at-home moms earn quite a living from it. I know I shouldn’t judge Ebay for that first bad experience but it dampened my Ebay seller enthusiasm. Now being a bargain shopper, I thought I’d test out The Ebay stores. Last year , my daughter spent two months in the states so it was perfect to deliver any purchases to her. I found a second hand book that was out of print and cheaper than Amazon. Oh dear. I found out too late that once you click “purchase to buy”, it’s good as sold. But I didn’t know that. I didn’t push through with the sale because the delivery time was too long. It was scheduled to arrive around the time my daughter’s return trip to Manila. To cut the story short and a few “nasty” emails later, I apologized once again to the buyer and [tag]Ebay[/tag] for being such a clueless Ebay buyer.

Never again will I go to that darned Ebay site. Or so I thought.

To my horror, Lauren got herself a belly piercing. I comforted myself with the thought that the piercing will get covered by her clothes. However the belly piercing failed. My husband and I were happy but not for long. To my utter disbelief, she got an eyebrow piercing. My husband and I wailed! “How could you disfigure your pretty eyebrows?” My husband said he will get a metal ring on his nose. I nodded and added that I will get a diamond studded nose ring too. “You look too feminine for an eyebrow ring!” , I continued with my rant. My daughter was steadfast in her decision and said that she will order pretty eyebrow rings so she won’t end up looking like a punk.

I don’t know why she chose an ebay store but she found PiercingPal
, which is based in Thailand. She wanted these rings that cost $20.19 including shipping.

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Not only was I stressed out with her eyebrow piercing, I suddenly felt heavy pit in my stomach . I recalled the past Ebay horrors as I waded my way around the Ebay site navigation. (Actually she could have done this herself but Paypal is weird. It doesn’t like different Philippine IP addresses in a Paypal account)

Finally, I found the “PAY ME NOW” link glaring at me. Purchase was succesful.

My daughter awaits eagerly for her purchase. Let’s see in the coming days if that Ebay experience is positive.

Noemi Lardizabal-Dado (1346 Posts)

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.


About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

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  • http://jumperitis.blogspot.com jumper

    here are some things that i hope you’ll find helpful:
    – if you’re buying something whose quality variabilty is high, such as shoes (could be fake), or electronics (could be defective), better buy it from Amazon.com. and be sure to buy those that are fulfilled by Amazon itself or other reputable establishments (sometimes, items are fulfilled by Target), and not individuals selling on Amazon. this also applies if you’re buying something expensive. there’s just a lot of scammers on eBay.
    – if you’re buying something whose quality doesn’t vary much, such as books or other cheap items, go to eBay. they’re cheaper than Amazon.
    – if you’re selling something, since things are more expensive in Amazon, you’ll be able to sell your stuff at a higher price there than on eBay.
    – always read the description of the item. sometimes, the seller will be intentionally vague about certain negative aspects of his item. if in doubt, better to buy from another that’s a wee bit more expensive, and save you the headache of getting the wrong item and trying to get a refund.
    – also, read the ratings of the seller. my policy is, if it’s below 98%, then that’s a red flag. i often read the seller negative feedbacks, just to see the negatives of the seller. oftentimes, it’s just delivery delays or something minor. but if you see feedbacks that say the seller is misrepresenting his items, then he’s not worth buying from.
    – take note of the shipping, especially in eBay. sometimes, sellers on eBay price their items really low, but charge you outrageous shipping costs to compensate. be especially wary of that. that doesn’t happen in Amazon, because Amazon sets the shipping fees itself. also, even if the seller’s not overcharging his delivery fees, delivery fees can drive up the cost of your item and make it more expensive than if you buy them in the stores, so buying online isn’t always cheaper.

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    @Jumper- WOw thanks a lot! I appreciate the tips. I will try my luck in ebay shopping if the opportunity calls for it.

  • http://senorenrique.blogspot eric

    I had at one point doing 70% of my personal shopping online while living in NYC; loved its conevenience. However, for some odd reason, I was just not tempted enough to buy anything on ebay.

    Hope everything turns out fine with the latest online purchase.

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    @eric- I was willing to do this purchase for my daughter since it is only $20. Let’s see what happens.

  • http://niceheart.wordpress.com niceheart

    I’m not much of an online buyer. I think I’ve only bought one item from Ebay. It was an out-of-print book that I have been searching for a long time. I have bought more from Amazon.ca because my kids would ask me to buy CDs and games that they can’t find in the stores here. I also noticed that sometimes the items are shipped later than they promised.

  • pau

    hi! im sorry but this will be totally off the topic, but i have been wanting to buy fallen cradle and i couldn’t find a single copy in national bookstore (shangri-la branch). is the book exclusively sold in powerbooks only (pardon me if im misinformed). thanks a bunch!

  • http://www.worthlessme.blog.com Lani

    Good luck with your purchase.

  • http://www.auctionegg.com Cindy

    I love ebay, coupons and saiving money and I am what many call an addict. I used to use fatfingrs, until I found auctionegg.

    So if you want a few good sites for ebay check out fatfingrs and http://www.auctionegg.com they have a special dollar deals section and ebay misspelled auction finder, plus they give away a free windows program that I use that finds the typo auctions.

    Here is the link to the free tool if you want to download it:

    http://www.auctionegg.com/files/MisspelledAuctionFinder.zip

    Have fun saving money (or spending money as my husband calls it)