Let’s talk about sex…

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*Cringe*. I am sure some of you are not too comfortable about the topic especially with our children. But….Let’s not be in denial.

Parents need to wake up to reality.

32% of the youth aged 15-24 engage in sex and 78% of this is unprotected sex, according to DRRP and UP study.

Data from YAFS 4 indicate that 32 percent of young Filipinos between the ages of 15 to 24 have had sex before marriage. This shows a significant increase from 17.8 percent in 1994 and 23.2 percent in 2002. By age groups, more of those in the 20-24 age group had sex before marriage (54 percent) than those aged 15-19 (17 percent).

The highest premarital sex prevalence were found in the National Capital Region (NCR), (40.9 percent), and Central Luzon (39.1 percent) while the lowest was in the Autonomous Region of Muslim Mindanao (ARMM), (7.7 percent).

Beth Angsioco, reminds us “Let us not forget that per the respondents’ profile, more than 70 percent of them are Catholics. Yet, the Catholic hierarchy and its allies are blocking the implementation of the RH law, the law that can help young people responsibly manage their sexual lives.”

Just before I had kids , a friend told me that her daughter was only 18 years old when she got pregnant. This happened during their first date. She expressed regret that she should have never assumed that her girl will never have sex before marriage. She says she should have lectured her girl about protection. My friend’s story left such an imprint on my mind that I resolved to teach my girls all I can about sex education when the appropriate time came. I knew I could not leave it to the school to teach them about it.

Let’s see…

What is happening to our sex education?

Sex Education

With the Reproductive Health Law still in TRO, sex education is left hanging in public schools. It is optional though when the law is in effect. Let’s look at this statement from Dr. Angelita Aguirre, head of Human Life International. (CBCP: Scrap sex lessons)

““The module should be scrapped. It does not have the emotional, psychological and spiritual dimensions of human sexuality. This is very important,”

““The code of morality is high. We are not pagans. We would like to pressure everybody indulging in a conjugal act to get married first,” she said.

Aguirre pointed out that the modules did not mention that a person had to get married before having sex.

Saying NO is easy for some kids but not everyone has a strong will. Sex Education goes beyond just saying “NO” .

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As a concerned parent of two girls, I took an active role in teaching the basics of sex education even if their Catholic high school included a bit of sex education in their curriculum. Much as I want my two girls to get married first before having sex, this kind of sex education strategy (get married before having sex) does not make sense to teens these days. First of all, some Catholic schools instill fear of committing mortal sin even on sexual feelings. Why can’t they explain about raging hormones instead of judging their feelings? It’s a confusing time for teenagers. Most often, these high school girls turn to their girl classmates for relationships. How many girl-girl relationships are occuring in all girl schools? Often, the school turns a blind eye because these relationships won’t induce pregnancy. Secondly, our teens are exposed to sexual images in magazines, TV, movies and the internet.

The issue of morality can be taught separately from sex education. Morality is taught in the Christian Living Education or its equivalent like Values Education.

God has a strong view of any kind of immorality, so we should try to err on the side of purity. For example, the apostle Paul said that the Church will be presented to Christ as a pure virgin bride:

I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy. I promised you to one husband, to Christ, so that I might present you as a pure virgin to him.” (2 Corinthians 11:2)

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My mother discussed sex openly with me when I was 15 years old. I knew the morality issue already and formed my own beliefs at that age. Mom didn’t have to go through the graphic details but what struck me was the responsibility of the sexual act. In the same manner, I discussed sex education with my two girls as “are you ready to have children?

When they blurted “NO WAY“, I added “Then you should abstain until you are ready“. My own definition of “readiness” is when one is married but I didn’t want to explicitly state that fact yet.

I continued “Don’t even believe your boyfriend when he says he has protection“.

They giggled. I gave a clear example of a family friend who got pregnant at the age of 18 because she thought she wouldn’t get pregnant at that age. Besides it was her first time.

Then I continued “just one tiny drop contains millions of sperm to impregnate you. It takes only 1 sperm cell, mind you!

Then I proceeded to explain how the second daughter and Luijoe were conceived …and…

ewww. I dont want to listen now

I explained condoms, birth control etc are not fool proof methods of birth control.

We need to teach them responsible parenthood together with the sex education. We don’t need to teach everything but at least give them the basic facts. Along the way, the children can do some more research on their own.

Phillipine Catholic Bishops Oppose Sex-Ed in Schools, Say it Should be Left to Parents is true if all parents know how to discuss sex with their children. We can’t assume parents know how to discuss sex openly. Some might be uneducated to understand the anatomy of reproduction and thus fail to grasp natural birth control methods.

The schools together with the parents can bridge the gap of sex education.

If you are a parent, are you ready to tackle the topic of sex education with your children?

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(This was originally written on July 2006 )

Noemi Lardizabal-Dado (1354 Posts)

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About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

  • teaching sex education is not only limited to getting pregnant and about being a parent. it also involves the danger of numerous diseases out there. STD’s, and AIDS. a lot of factors(feelings, responsibility, maturity, health, etc..) go with sex. aboloshing sex education in schools is not an option.

    hi Noemi 🙂

  • Sex education is an extremely complex issue. I certainly agree with you when you say that many young adults can not understand WHY when they are simply told to have sex only when they get married. And the old “God will punish you if you have sex” method simply doesn’t work anymore. Nor do I think that it makes much sense. Kids need to be made aware that sex, just like so many other things has its consequences. There is unwanted pregnancy, as you’ve mentioned. There is also the issue of Sexually Transmitted Diseases. In both cases, teaching them how to use a condom is simply not enough (many STDs can be transferred through skin or oral contact). It is not actually just kids, but everyone that needs to be educated. And that is what will provide protection that is far better than what any condom or contraceptive can offer.

  • @dexie: yes the STD’s are definitely part of sex education. I am just so mad that the church is trying to influence the sex education

    @allergyboy: true they have to be aware of the consequences. Parents and the rest have to be educated as well. It’s not limited to high school students.

  • So true, while we are not influenced much by ‘morality’ as defined by the church, sex is still a big issue especially for us who have daughters. I have three, two of them in their teens. They are bombarded by sexual messages from all sides of their life, and parents have to take an even bigger role now to provide them with balance. I want my girls to see their sexuality in a healthier light than I did, without all the misconceptions and guilt that came with it. It’s hard finding a balance between wanting them to be able to enjoy their sexuality without being ashamed of it, but also accept and be accountable to the responsibility that comes with it.

  • Olga

    It should not be left to the parents alone. Take me for instance. I am fairly well-educated in the sense that i have two degrees in my belt, but i didn’t have a clue about the process of concepcion until my late twenties, when i took an active interest in that subject after i discovered that i had an infertility problem.

    How much more for people, particularly in the rural areas, who barely finished elementary? And we’re only talking about the physical process here! How about the moral, psychological, spiritual issues? and the consequences like diseases and pregnancy? I am certain that most people barely got even the smallest briefing on these subjects! How can anybody expect them to teach these to their children when they themselves barely know a thing?

    Even my own friends, themselves mothers, practically have no inkling on topics such as ovulation, etc.

    Believe me, based on my own experience, except for doctors, only women having difficulty conceiving make the effort of understanding the process that goes on within their bodies! Most just take it for granted, that it just happens.. part of being alive, just like breathing.

    As for the deeper issues, I took lessons when i was younger where i could get them.. sad to say, I got my values about purity, evils of unwanted pregnancy, etc. from comics and novels like barbara cartland and mills and boons:(

  • Toe

    Especially in the Philippines, most parents are uncomfortable talking about sex with their children. A lot of them don’t know anything about the reproductive system. It should not be removed from the education system. I think it should be boosted to make it include all aspects… scientific, emotional, psychological, etc..

    Noemi, the way you talked with your kids was so cute. 🙂

  • @JMom- Media is a great influence on our teens that’s why morality issue won’t work. We let them know that sexual feelings are normal part of their growth but that acting on it is another thing. That’s why we need to keep our teens busy with healthy activities i.e. sports, arts, etc

    @Olga- See sex education should also encompass the parents. We didn’t have adequate sex education ourselves. The Catholic church has no business opposing sex education and worse, the government scrapping it.

    @Toe- True. When I started talking about sex education to my girls, my husband was so uncomfortable. The education was not one conversation . My girl siblings and in-laws participated with this discussion in a light setting so that it didn’t appear we were teaching them.

  • I have no opposition to sex education in schools. Actually, my kids’ school ask parents to sign an approval sheet if they want their children to participate in this. Because there are also parents here (just a few) who might not want this. I know my sister is one. We have very different views on this subject. So when it’s time for the sex education topic, her kids are left out, either sent to another room or the library. I have strong opinions about that but she is very religious and always sticks to what the Roman Catholic Church says. I don’t know if she talks to them about sex because she won’t even let them movies where there are just the slight touch of kissing. I think there’s nothing wrong with children seeing kissing on the movies, we just have to explain to them what’s happening and later on when they are older have the sex talk with them. I know she wants to protect her children from all these “worldly” things but they live and move around it, so I think they should be educated.

  • @niceheart: My husband used to tell the girls (in their early teens) to “close their eyes” whenever there is a kissing scene. I would tell him to stop doing that and then I explain to the girls why they were kissing. You are right we have to explain to them whenever these scenes appear in the movies. To protect our kids from worldly things is natural for parents but we can’t be there 24/7 to see if they are watching or reading the right things.

  • SEx Education is merely an outlet for those who want to get sex in their early age…

    • major problems now

      what the heck?

  • Kirstie

    Brief Background: I’m 18 years old very well educated about birth control, sex, STD’s, pregnancy everything. Lived in the Philippines for 17 years and migrated here in the US.

    I completely understand how everybody here feels. As an only child and only daughter,my parents raised me in a very conservative environment where everything linked to sex is a taboo. My mom wouldn’t even let me see a kissing scene even at 15! The catholic church couldn’t just expect parents to teach their kids about sex because some parents just would not. Many of them try to avoid it. My parents didn’t even mention anything about it to me. Nothing.. They were just so lucky that I’m a really responsible person that I didn’t experiment during my very early teens years because if I did, I probably would have ended getting pregnant. I oppose to the Catholic church’s decision of banning Sex Ed at school because this is very important. A lot of them argue that Sex Ed will only lead to increased sexual activity, but I completely oppose. Even if we didn’t mention this things to them, sex is all over the place. In the internet, tv, movies, games, peers, everywhere. How wouldn’t some of them try it especially during the years of hormone surge. I believe that even if parents wouldn’t want them to have sex before marriage, some of them will still do. why can’t we just make them educated about it? so they can make more intelligent decisions. Through this, they will be more aware of the real consequences and know the real facts.

  • @Kristie- thank you for your point of view. You said it yourself. Some parents can’t do the job. Sex is such a taboo topic.

  • RIC

    Excuse me ma’am, but you can’t TURN INTO A LESBIAN or kids don’t “turn” to lesbian relationships to fulfill emotional needs, studies shown that being gay or lesbian is a non-changing attribute since birth, and cannot be changed, nor can it be “induced” nor can people be “converted” into a homosexual, they either are homosexual or not, period. Please educate yourself as well on that, thank you very much. God Bless.

  • @RIC- excuse me RIC but read the entry carefully. I was not talking about looking down on lesbian relationships. I was talking about the school’s blind eye treatment.

  • Ric

    Hi! By saying that the school turns a blind eye, you’re implying that the school should punish the girls involved in same-sex relationships, unless you just worded the sentence incorrectly.

  • @ric- perhaps you do not understand this particular ultra conservative Catholic school I am illustrating. Not all Catholic schools are like this though.

    They don’t turn a blind eye on girl-girl relationship but raise hell on girl-boy relationships. Equal treatment should have been their rule if they were for the morality issue. It’s an observation I noted and NOT my own conclusion.

    • rze

      i agree with you mam we have group here in caloocan pushing sex education no one can stop us Maryusep naman d2 samin sa squater area ginagawang libangan ang panganganak bumuo kmi ng grupo d2 kmi mga sk para isulong eto programang to kung kontra ibang magulang d2 kayo na lng palibhasa mayaman kayo ok lng kahit maraming anak mag samasama kyo ng mga pareng gunggung

  • Niko

    sex education is nothing

    • you are much nothing!! Why not be in favor in either parental teaching or school teaching about sex education.. as what the saying goes..”two is better than one” in this way i think we can educate students about the possible effect of committing sex in an early age. For country’s sake, let us impose and implement sex education at school.

  • auau

    sex education should not be taught to elementary students these days.. as every generation gets smarter the tend to become curious! and it will lead to something bad!

  • I’m a filipina. and now lives in germany.
    im 16.
    well, my boyfriend don’t have a problem if we don’t do sex. BUT!
    he said… sex is part of love.
    well, my father is not against it.he just said.. if we want to do it, i must first ask him and mom to go see a doctor for pills
    and i also must make sure my boyfriend use condom for safety from diseases.
    sex is part of love, but i do really think one should do it once she or he is already ready. it doesn’t mean to really after marriage.

    i am for sex after marriage. because according to philippine law. when the mate is anable to fulfill your sex thrills or can’t make you happy, one can file a case of annulment.
    so better sex before marriage to have someone to compare than to make the mistake and that will cost more.

    • major problems now

      why dont you people understand that the ways of showing love are giving a kiss or a hug. not having sex. god said to be fruitful and multiply well where is your chld ms. of course god never said that we can just have sex to love each other of course not. there is something wrong with you people that see it differently.

    • Cecile

      To have sex education in school will not harm the teenagers. But still, it depends how these people will think and decide what will be their choices. Honesty, I GOT MARRIED FIRST BEFORE I GAVE UP MY VIRGINITY TO MY HUSBAND. And I’m proud of it. All people have freewill.

  • Enid

    I’m making a thesis right now about sex education and i agree that sex education should be taught at school. Screw what the catholic church says. Though it’s true that sex education should start at home and be left for the parents to handle but this is just not possible for everybody. Some parents do not fully understand the whole concept of what sex is, physically, psychologically, emotionally, everything, some do not have the time, some are too conservative to talk to their children about sex and this will only leave their children clueless. Sex should be explained to teenagers, about its consequences and the responsibility involved. It is better for teenagers to have their sex education at school than from their peers.

    • Colina,Jade

      Hi,

      Well, like you I am also doing a thesis on sex education, I want to know what is your aim in your study in one way or another we could change ideas. I hope to get in touch. thank’s

    • ram

      we are also conducting thesis for pushing sex education to be part of elementary and secondary level Curriculum, to inform and let the students to be knowledgeable about sex and effects of early sex,, coz we are hoping that through this ,,,, we can help in campaigning for “no to early sex’.

  • miss maegan cruz

    its very hard for a child to understand those things but i believe that having it taught properly may ease those you know….some child thought that sex is just a childish game but they are wrong sex is very complex so they need a proper guidance from older or even be open to their parents….and besides its the most appropriate solution that i can think.. and let’s just remind our kids to be aware of those things especially its very important.its better if they knew those things so they might well know what will happen if they made those things…….so parents pls.be more open to your child so you can guide them at the right path…..

  • Hi Noemi,
    Reading this post, I learn the good way to educate children about sex. Many parents avoid to talk about sex with their children. I do not agree with this because children will search from external source if they do not get from their parent…They might get wrong information from outside.

  • adam

    I am a bit confused, it sounds to me that the government will be replacing the current program with a new one. i personally don,t think it is the governments responsibility to provide sexual education unless it is demanded by the majority of the governed, and if it is it should then only be optional. the real problem i have with the sex education in my country ,U.S.A. , is the fact that what my kids will be learning is subjected to the usually politically motivated biased opinion of the educator and state on what is moral in regards to sexual activity. at best public sexual education only needs to teach children the reality of S.T.D.s and that abstinence is the only way to ensure their prevention and the prevention of unwanted pregnancy. the homosexual agenda in this country is to normalize homosexual activity as a naturally occurring genetic trait that is part of human nature. this has been widely excepted by many people who know very little about genetics, as can be shown by an earlier post from RIC…

    “Excuse me ma’am, but you can’t TURN INTO A LESBIAN or kids don’t “turn” to lesbian relationships to fulfill emotional needs, studies shown that being gay or lesbian is a non-changing attribute since birth, and cannot be changed, nor can it be “induced” nor can people be “converted” into a homosexual, they either are homosexual or not, period. Please educate yourself as well on that, thank you very much. God Bless.”

    ironically RIC is the one who needs to educate her self and i will leave a link with articles and citations from the studies in question.
    http://www.narth.com/docs/istheregene.html
    http://www.narth.com/docs/fading.html
    but it is because of this type of miss information that i would not allow my 3 daughters to attend our sex ed program here in the states.
    another is the fact that most of the material given in these classes are provided by planed parenthood and is nothing more than a promotion for contraceptives. now lets face it your lucky enough to get your teens to be responsible with things like home work and chores do you really think they will be more responsible and dependable when it comes to sex and contraceptives. i am 26 …my wife is 25….we use the BILLINGS method of NATURAL FAMILY PLANING….this is not the rithom method and is just as effective as any contraceptive on the market to day…..just like the rithom method was at its time….google search the billings method for tons of info. my first daughter was conceived while my wife was useing the pill and my third daughter was conceived while useing spermicide …so go figure..
    and on another note i would like to address such comments as…

    Noemi :”I am just so mad that the church is trying to influence the sex education”

    and

    The Catholic church has no business opposing sex education and worse, the government scrapping it.

    i would say to the contrary that the church has the right to oppose or influence any thing it wants to just like Noemi has the right to do so as well. i would allso say that is it is the verry business of the church to teach in matters of human natur and it’s origen …this is a subject that theoligy and phylosophy are the determining factors in every culture, and sex is part of human nature and its oregen. and further more the government can fund or not fund how it sees fit and as a citazen of any country we are all subjected to either majority rule or might. dont blame the church ….after all the pope isnt the one making the laws, its your government…and if government is influenced by the faith of its leaders this is still not a direct action of the church.

    perhaps adult education is the best way to teach the children…..after all most of us are led by example ….and if the adults can take resposibility for there actions and the education of there own children perhaps the governments responsibility can be minamallized and more freedom will be alloted to the families through knowledge and incentives to gain this knowledge.

  • gie

    I am a college student and we are having debate about the topic.
    and my group got the against side of having sex education on high student in the Philippines.. The good thing is, I, personally against the sex education on high school because youth nowadays are very experimental in all things, they want to try everything so when you teach them the sex education without proper explaining and careful approach they will get curious so they will start to ask themselves and if didn’t got the answer from other people or if they did not satisfy with those answers they will search the answer on their own and try to do it..

  • JOMARK

    sex education is a remedy for the main problem of our country(overpopulation). But sad to say, our church banned it because of the belief that our young people(especially the secondary students) still have a bud mind to this matter in which contrary to the reality.

  • rosalie

    on my view, sex education should now be taught in high school,
    specifically for 1st and 2nd year.

    and for the policy to be effective, it should be included in curriculum.
    this shall exclude the issue on morality and religion.

    the teaching personnel for this subject should not just be a teacher but a professional. (psychologist, social worker, and the likes)

    the numerous incidents of teenage pregnancy and abortion is very alarming.

    -we will be having debate on this matter that is why im researching.

    • taylor

      love you

  • ARE YOU SURE THAT IT IS THE LACK OF SEX EDUCATION THAT IS TO BE BLAME?IN MY POINT OF YOU IT IS THE MEDIA WHO IS TO BE BLAME. BECAUSE THE MEDIA EXPLOITS SEX IN A VERY PLEASURABLE MANNER. THAT EVERYONE WHO WATCHES IT WILL BE CURIOUS.

  • hi. also leaving a comment to see if anyone bites, and as preparation for an upcoming debate… i actually think i know gie up there. i even think she’s my partner in this debate. =_=

    anyway, going on topic…

    i have considered a few points and personally decided that sex education (in school), in itself, is ineffective AND parental guidance (sex ed through parents), again in itself, in equally ineffective. obviously, what i am trying to say here is that sex education should encompass both the students/children and their parents. this answers two of the core problems sex education faces:

    1. everyone is curious. as gie said, very few can control that curiosity. and school is not the place to let it sit. in fact, school is the worst place for curiosity. with peer pressure and barkadas and all.

    2. again as mentioned in earlier comments, parents _need_ to participate. there is no denying the fact that parents are an essential key to the understanding process. however, some parents themselves did not experience correct and effective sex education, such that they find themselves in the same side of the boat as their children.

    just for the sake of argument, a good example of implementing this proposition is for the children together with their parents attend seminars/workshops/lectures on sex education. we can say that both children and parents learn. parents, who are expected to be more mature (having experienced sex, and its consequences) on the topic, can guide their children on the spot and immediately give them the appropriate follow up information to support the knowledge given by the teachers. we can therefore assume that the children can be controlled and protected from possible misguidance from peers and friends at school. in fact, given that such events be held in school, these peers can be part of the whole learning process and simulate a better environment and motivation to discuss the issue in a serious way, even on their own.

    and so this is my stand: sex education must encompass not only students, but their parents as well.

  • kline

    having sex education is good if taught to highschools for they have a more stablished mind than to the lower levels,however, teaching sex education in schools would be an avenue for students to try it since they have contraceptives to prevent pregnancy. Let us face it, even if teachers would say that they are teaching these that we may be enlightened, what they don’t knw is that they are just giving the students clues on what to do to prevent pregnancy. It further gives students ideas on what to do and how to do it.

  • Jovis

    i’m a highschool student, from the phils. too, my principal ask me to do this poll about having sex education… I really don’t know anything about it, but i’ve read your reactions and based on it…

    AGREE because…
    more of us will be aware of it, and considering more consequences that’ll happen after having sex.

    DISAGREE because…
    more students would be curious of having sex education…
    and they would probably try it using contraceptives…

  • lala

    I do not agree that sex education is taught to elementary students in the form of science or bio only. It should be taught at an early age together with proper teachings of a values, morality and spirituality. Emphasize on them the dangers of having premarital sex and tackle the latest issues that should be clarified.

    but parents like you should not only blame it to the education given onto us youth. Exploiters of sex are those to be blamed. and whoever implanted the idea of a liberated world. which only result to people acting like animals looking for sexual relief.

    Due to the advancements in technology, parents can’t ban their children from sex and porn the only thing you can do is to educate them at an early age and explain to the the importance of sex and when not to have it.

  • myvi

    Hi! I am having a term paper about sex education. I havent started it yet but my thesis statement goes like this “dissemination about sex information should come from proper authorities.”

    I’m 17, a devout catholic and a 2nd year nursing college student and from the Philippines. Even though i’m not into sexual activities, i believe that sex education should be taught. Am not only reffering to sex ed thru schools but also in our very own home.

    The problem in our country is sex is a taboo. That is why parents are having a hard time talking ’bout sex to their kids. Some finds it weird and uncomfortable. Some parents even prays that their child wont even ask such a question. Parents should bare in mind that it is primarily their responsibility to educate their kids for parents are the role models of their kids in the first place. Especially the mothers because they are the “guiding light”. They should not be afraid to talk about sex with us because the world today is liberated. Every corner is filled with evil. How can they be so sure that we are safe? How can parents be sure that their little angels are angels still? The media bombards our thoughts about sex. Books, magazines and even peers are their to openly discuss the matter about sex. So I think that it is better and i really mean BETTER if parents should start being open minded. They should discuss about sex in a professional way with their kids when they are still young because young minds are not dirty minded. So if they are already knowledgeble about sex when they are young, they can be prim and proper when discussing about sex when they grow up for they are introduced to sex in a different way than those kids who learned and heard ’bout sex in a vulgar and uncultured way.

    If the parents are not that educated about sex then they should educate theirselves first. How can they teach us and give us proper education regarding sex issues if they themselves dont know a thing. So it is better that they read books first or in any way educate theirselves first so that when they educate us good and true information will be taught. Their are tons of books on the library or bookstore that talks about sex. The internet is even a good source. They should know the anatomical view of the reproductve system, family planning and all stuffs related to sex ed. With all these sources they can now talk and educate us about sex for they themselves know what sex really is for they experienced it and they know the dangers and exact consequences of sex. In short, parents can be considered as one of the “proper authorities”.

    As a devout christian, i think that the church has the right to interfere regarding sex ed in our country. But i must say that the church should be open minded and not just be one-sided. Yes, having sex is immoral for sex is a sacred thing done by married couple. But we cant deny the fact that the world today is not the same as the world yesterday. Nothing is permanent but change itself. The views of the parents and the kids are different and i must say that this is normal for everything changes from one moment to the next. The way our parents was raised and their generation is so way different from us. But it doesnt mean that if parents&kids have different views they are not bound to understand each other. Anyway back to the church thingy, i think that instead of always giving bad comments to the action of the government, the church can have a program regarding values education and character formation in schools to neutralize the sex ed goin on in the schools. Values should be taught to primary level pupils and sex ed can start during the sevondary level. But i dont think that the church and the government can be considered as one of the “proper authorities” because the church only does it because of their belief and the government can only be promoting sex ed because they can profit more.

    blahblah..

    hmmmm… i still have lots goin on in my mind. I think i’ll post again some other time. 🙂 tc evry1., 😀

  • I’m cess, 17 years old and a 2nd year engineering student from the Philippines… I’m currently taking up a subject that is all about term paper and my topic is all about the sex education in the Philippines…

    …I know that the religious people would really disagree for the implementation of sex eduction curricula because mainly it affects morality… but the problem is they failed to realized what is the main caused of moral degradation in our country… Mores is really different from folkways as sociology is concerned… I believe that sex education should be taught to the students (starting 5th grade or high school). Because students spend a lot of time in school rather than in home. Our parents are so busy enough to earn for a living and they only have a little time for their kids, especially that we are now in “Industrial Society” as what Gerard Lenski’s analysis in the evolution of societies, where the family is not anymore the focus. Also, if we keep on insisting that sex education should be taught at home, it would not be so effective, from the fact that the term “sex” is a taboo… our parents will just say its bad and we will know if we will be old enough to face all those things… and there is no further explanation… so apparently we will be so confused about it… our curiosity will lead us to do so.. but if we make it as part of the school’s curriculum nothing may seem to be bad.. As educated student we may be able to know what shoud we do and what we shoud not. What makes us avoid danger in the streets??? because we are taught how to read the signs… And what happens to the people who are not educated, they will surely have accidents in the street for they don’t know what’s the meaning of the signs in the street., if they have just learned all those things in school, they will surely avoid accidents. Just like having sex education if it will be taught to the students, students will not anymore be ignorant about it.. and for that they will know what will happened to them if they do so.. But if the students will do something bad about having “pre-marital sex” that is not the responsible of the school anymore because their goal is to EDUCATE students about sex for them not to be ignorant… that responsibility relies on their parents on how they discipline their kids.. And also depends on the student… Remember that God has given us a free will… and even if we will not implement sex education curriculum in our school, “pre-marital sex” will still exists… But having sex education will lesser the statistics of the pre-marital sex in our country…
    And I am sure of this, based on the research studies of some countries…

    It’s not the sex education that leads the young to commit “pre-marital sex” it’s the ignorance, the discipline from parents, and the “FREE-WILL that God has given to us.” But impementing sex education will open the youth’s eyes from the reality…
    —hope the church will be able to realize what must be realized…
    until then i finished my term paper with regard to this… I’ll post again…

    thank you…

    God Bless every one!!!:)
    -cess’08

    • raika

      hi..im raika
      hmmp..i need your help abwt sex edu must be taught in hihg school curriculum…i need to gather some info abwt sex edu in phil and i dont know where 2 get it….we have debate abwt that and im in affirmative side…could you help me in writing my speech abwt sex education must be taught in highschool curriculum?

    • Mark Penick

      Actually, it is the parents job to talk to their kids about sex. No matter how busy they are, they should take the time, even if it’s only 5-10 minutes here and there.

  • sex education is a expressed feelings to others. it can identify your physical, emotional,and mental.all human beings have a sexual identity.it can attract toward and activity.sexuality is multi-dimentional phenomenon that includes feeling,attitudes and values .it is the part of our living life..sex is the important in our life because it can produce. sex is bad for the other but this is not true .

    • criselda

      sex education is fun..

  • oh yeah.. interesting topic.. during our 2nd year level, we have our term paper and our topic was about sex educ as well.. oppss mind you, i dug a little deeper with this topic.. waaaaaa… in relation to psychology as well..

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  • Anonymous

    I really admire women especially mothers who can openly discuss sex education to their children. Parents should at least try to explain this issue to their children before they started learning about it from friends or unwanted sources. I agree with you that we really need to educate our young people and obviously a lot of them are not for abstinence. I think the Government should create a comprehensive sex education that will include all aspects (spiritual, emotional etc.) of human development.

  • jovylyn

    actually i’m a third year college in the Philippines and our debate concerns about sex education, well we are assign to the cons side of sex education shall teach in high school and elementary based on what i read most of you are agree about it and can you help me to prove that sex education doesn’t contribute in making the people to become responsible for their family but instead it hinder and make people curious doing it. for those who are against sex education please help me to prove my claim… thanks,,

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  • rockiztah

    ..hi i am a college student
    i agree with the statement of Adam..
    it is very well said there and
    clearly stated the disadvantages of
    sex edUcation.

    sex education should not be tought to
    those high school student
    since it would just treger to ramphant
    pre marital sex

  • I agree with Dexie! Telling our daughters the risks of having sex before marriage, free sex and / or sex without the sense of responsibility. One of the worst problems that a woman can have pertaining to sex especially irresponsible sex is bacterial vaginosis and this is what I’ve been telling my daughter! Not only that, I always communicate with her and I keep telling her about God and all the angels in heaven above, you know what I mean so she can be guided accordingly.

  • abbyganda

    hi noemi my name is abigael dela cruz from zamboanga city a 4th year graduating student and im currently making my thesis entitled “permissiveness on premarital sex among college students” basically what my research is all about is the perception of college students on premarital sex and which one is more permissable when it comes to premarital sex male or female students? and i also wanted to know their level of awareness when it comes to the consequneces of premarital sex.are they aware of the long term consequences of engaging in premarital sex like unwanted pregnancy or worst catching aids,std or hiv.if you have related topics or websites that i can visit dont hesitate to inform me it would be a big help for my paper.
    thank you and more power to your website godbless!
    sincerely,
    abigael dela cruz
    zamboanga city

  • good day madam!Ãœ

    i am mhajz and will conduct a thesis regarding sex education. I would just like to know some list of NGO’s (if there is,) in relation to Sex Education.

    please do reply. thanks so much

  • danica

    hi… im currently making a paper about sex education here in the philippines for my health ethics class… i was more focused on the abstinence only sex education –to avoid argumentative discussion during my report– but i strongly believe, much when i read this article, that teenagers should be having comprehensive sex education.. can you give me some advice on how i should keep my stand if possible??? and is it also possible for “abstinence-only” and comprehensive sex education to co-exist???

    please do reply… thank you and more power… ^^

  • vanessa

    ……….i’m 18 yrs. old from phils. i’m making a research paper about premarital sex….

    our country is very concervative in terms of these issues, most of the filipino teenagers are not aware and clueless about this.

  • diana b. foronda

    i am Diana,a freshman student.. i ws thinking of a
    good topic abt my research paper 2 b submitted
    3 days frm now and d 1st thing dat caught my attention ws abt “sex
    ducation”… 8 caught my attention bcoz teenage pregnancies
    s very rampant nowadays due to premartal sex.. i gues proper
    application of d learnings abt sex education myt help lessen
    d alarming cases of early pregnancies!!!
    SEX EDUCATION…does nt actually teach actual sex acts but tells abt
    d consequences of of d act not only dat but d early prevention as well..
    dats…ABSTINENCE..hehehe.. and abstinence includes strong self control!!!

  • Michelle M.

    we have a panel discussion and im on the Con side, so im here to defend the Con side..yes there is what we call abstinence regarding education, but can you really prevent our hormones? it BIOLOGICAL! with or without sex education we still have these urges specially now that porn is readily and easily accessible..so you just can’t tell them the consequence because some would still try it anyway because now, they are taught of its preventions..and if you would think about it, i feel sorry for those who would be exposed to this sex education when in the first place they have no idea of sex at all..they would just get confuse what on earth is the teachers teaching…

    To get straight to my point, sex education is not the key..abstinence may help but if not taught properly may lead to bias opinion of the mentors. this is really a sensitive topic and i think that teaching values is more importantly than teaching this kind of things…we human are easily get temptated, its very idealistic to think that ones you feed them with information they can easily fight those temptations..i suggest you think that most do sex for pleasure and some dont think about the consequence anymore, but if you have values, if you are convince that THIS is not what you want, you dont want to degrade yourself and you want to be kept pure until marriage, and that kind of education can’t also be taught in school..those values is best taught by family and church members on how they set an example to us..I’m a Christian, and my values kept me pure, i haven’t had any sex education in school..and can’t address to the main problem of premarital sex 🙂

  • Michelle M.

    God bless you all!

  • Cecile

    To have sex education in school is okay, as long as they teach how to protect themselves against STD, HIV or any deseases and preventing pregnancy or whatsoever….But still, let them to have freewill, it means let them choose. Make them aware about the consequences of sex. If you ask me? It’s better to get married first before sex. I got married at the age of 23 and my husband is 24 years old.

    And I telling you that ” I GOT MARRIED FIRST BEFORE I GAVE UP MY VIRGINITY TO MY HUSBAND”

    Yes! my husband is my FIRST MAN and I’m proud that I did that.

    I’am filipino citizen but 50% chinese, 25% japanese, 1/8 filipino, 1/8 spanish. My husband is american. Like what I said: I chose what will be my path especially how to handle your life. I don’t think sex education will harm the teenagers. It depends how they think and decide of what will be their choices.

  • Aha
    wonderful posting
    We have almost no sex education in our school
    My husband is my first man too ^-^

    Chinese girls last blog post..shaolin soccer part B

  • I had sex-education at school and until it is still very helpful. I know about AIDS or HIV (the virus in question), STD (sexual transmitted desesses, or so) like Hipatites B, what the clitoris is for, how menstration is working and that, well, there is NO God who is putting a baby inside the woman’s stomage… 🙂

    Sperms from the man and egg cells from woman got “melted” together and only one sperm cell can make it.

    And why you should use *real* HQ condoms and not the catholic condoms because they have a big hole at the end… hahaha…

    Okay, I’m not asian, I’m europe or German so our both cultures are very different and so the same to sex-education at school. You should really have it at school! Why is it so “bad” to know about HIV and all the other deadfully viruses which can be transfered by sexual intercourse?

    Better know your body to protect yourself against such viruses. God cannot protect you, when your husband or wife is HIV-positive! Only, and REALLY only, a condome can help.

  • BUTA

    well. me too, i’m a 4th year hs student and this is our topic in our term paper. I really want to limit my topic because SED comprises alot of topics. can you help me find a better aim or objective why i must choose this topic?

  • just leave it to parents!!!…

  • just leave it to parents!!!… parents know best… if they failed to educate well their children, then the blame is still in them… duh!!!

  • rianne

    I agree for sex education BUT NOT in elementary or primary school. Sex is a very sensitive topic that should be explained with teens like high school students because surely they will understand it already. If you will have sex education in Primary school they might still not understand what the teachers are trying to say and they might take it in a wrong way. In my own opinion we should leave the explanation to the parents atleast for those children or students in primary age.

  • a few words: your children are very lucky to have you 🙂
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  • NaomiS

    yes the sex education system sucks, i attended a government school from grades prep-6 and we were taught about the menstrual cycle in grade 5 and that “a man puts his penis inside a women when they love each other” in grade 6 i now attend a catholic secondary school (grade 7-12) and they taught us about the STI’s and to abstain from sex (surprise surprise..) but it was in the lowest detail as possible. i learnt most of the information i know, from my very open mother, from the internet, and from reading many books while i was younger. i often find its me explaining things to my friends to the best i can because no one feels they can teach them. i am also a teenage mum, so i know quite a bit from going along the pregnancy, it wasnt wanted but i couldnt stand the emotional pain of thinking about destroying or giving it away so i kept it. when schools explain about pregnancy they say nothing about birthing or the things that go in your head, confusing alot of people thinking that it will be easy and if its too hard its just so easy to get an abortion. the sex education i received made it sound like it was extremely hard for the sperm, they said there was millions of sperm, but covered that up with “most get killed on the way to the egg, and only ever are a few capable of getting near it”
    todays world is nothing but sex, everything advertised is with something that can be put to as sexual (the most common example being the selling of some new car – ‘hot’ girls in g-strings and bras smothering themselves all over the front of it) so instead of teaching abstinence, we need to teach the kids on how to best protect themselves, and to have all their options open to them and to make sure they have the best knowledge available. sure i regret not waiting, but i feel it would have been better if i knew the details of the consequences better. kids need details!

    • The big problem with Sex Education, is that too often, it’s proponents or pushers have ulterior wicked motives. Often Sex Ed is a commercial for the false security of shoddy, experimental Big Pharma contraceptive potions and poisons, which then leads to secondary profits for the pro-aborts selling abortions for their shoddy contraceptive “failures.”

      Often if there’s a Sex Ed program that conservative parents like, then the pushers of Sex Ed don’t like it, and there’s a big political battle, which that should tell us that it’s an attack against people’s morality, faith, and against their families.

      True love waits, or abstinence is best, is too simple a message for today’s wicked “progressives” to accept. They like to complicate it with a sales pitch for promiscuity and nasty contraceptives, to somehow justify their “much learning.”

      Another problem with Sex Ed, is that often it’s co-ed, meaning mixed sexes within the class. This is designed to break down natural modesty between the sexes, and promote immoral promiscuity. While some may wish we could be so open about sex, that sex segregating the classes should not be necessary, I’m just not so sure that this is the case?

      Author Sam Blumingfeld (spelling?) said when they call it “Ed” or “Education,” it isn’t (education, but propaganda). We don’t have Math Education. It’s just Math. So when you see Ed tacked onto the name of something, it’s suspect as possible propaganda, and not teaching of truth.

      Also, Sex Ed is very simple, way too short to be a regular class unto itself. I see it more appropriate perhaps, as just a few pages in a Biology or a Health textbook. And it should be promoting good moral values, such as naturally growing responsible families, not a commercial for immoral sex, promiscuity, or for nasty unnatural anti-life contraceptives.

      I see nothing wrong with some children’s dictionary or health book I saw years ago in a bookstore, showing a drawing of the erect penis inside the vagina, and the baby growing in the womb on the next page. Just a natural fact of life, that most all humans reproduce. I didn’t see the book promoting any sexual immorality, and simply explaining how babies are made, seems OK to me.

      BTW, the only reason I addressed this comment to you, is because you posted recently.

  • sexedusucks

    i have a debate too about sex education and we’re at the “pro” side. It means we agree on sex education in h.s. but this topic really sucks because many boys in our school have malicious mind already. I ask many people if they are agree or not and many of them answered me with “I’m in the middle”..haha. Well, I’m also anti but as I read all this comments, my point of view change. Maybe sex education will help us. It really depends on who is teaching it. Well, teens will learn it anyway so why not teach them.
    i’m anti in the way that sex education contains not good things especially if someone in your class start to make fun of it and everyone will be curious of what that joker is saying and it will affect the clean minds of some student …but again…teens will learn it anyway so why not teach them.

  • Len

    im taking the pro side to sex education. sex is good. i am a mom already, and for me, it would be much better for my child to learn about sex in a more formal setting which is to be done in school. let’s not be hypocrites and face the fact that most families would not discuss this matter openly to their children. this leads to more curiosity. i would teach this fact to my daughter but what about other parents? teaching sex education would be helpful to children depending on the method of teaching and the one teaching it. teaching sex education in schools should have the scientific facts including the values. sex should be taught to children as a sacred act done by married couples.

    sex education should be taught gradually during their high school life. not abruptly so they would understand the consequences and be prepared for the real world

    • ma’am im a 4th year student in present. we will have a debate about sex education and i will take the hold of the negative side. isn’t it awkward to hear your child reviewing for test or exam about that.?

    • ma’am im a 4th year student in present. we will have a debate about sex education and i will take the hold of the negative side. isn’t it awkward to hear your child reviewing for test or exam about that.?

  • jeLy

    I have a debate regarding on Sex Ed too..
    As i read comments
    it is more on Pros.
    I need some information about it’s cons..
    Please help me. .

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  • vir

    What does it mean to be male/female?
    A. Guys
    1. Right understanding and living: You are “rough, tough, and buff.” Your male bodies are bigger and stronger (remember my story about me, a female, pushing the blazer out of the snow—so don’t take this the wrong way). Because your bodies are made by God like that, it sends you a message. You are to protect and provide for those weaker (especially for women and children).Here are some examples:
    a. Notice if a girl is being gossiped about—you protect her reputation.
    b. If an underclassman—guy or girl—is being picked on, stand up for him/her.
    c. When your mom needs help around the house or with a problem, be there for her. (Story of Fernando—he shed his flesh and blood for a woman).

    2. Wrong understanding and lust—When you use your power to do the opposite of protecting and providing. (Use boy and girl dolls to act out the scenario: “Hey, baby, I love you so much, let’s do this to show our love.” His internal thoughts: “She’s not half as hot as those women on porn, but she’ll do…add fuel to my fire so that I can gratify myself with her and lust at her at home when I am alone.” Her internal thoughts: He loves me and will always be with me to protect me and provide for me. I trust him so much I will be in the most vulnerable position with him that humans can be in. He won’t hurt me.)

    And whose “death” are you choosing by lusting, guys: not just the death of your relationship with God, not just the death of yourself by going against the way you are made as a man to protect and provide, you are helping to cause the “death” of this girl, because she will be broken (show the Dante Project of the person who is torn into pieces). Does this look to you like you protected and provided for this young woman? Society tells you that all of those activities outside of marriage are safe. Society is lying to you. This is a visual image of what you are doing to yourself, to another human, and to your relationship with God.

    B. Girls
    1. Right understanding and living: You are “hiding and inviting.” Your female bodies are hiding in that you veil that which is sacred. We are to dress modestly. We are inviting because you have a womb (joke about guys not knowing what that is) and breasts (joke about guys not realizing that). Because your bodies are made by God like that, it sends you a message. You are welcome and nurture all people (especially children).Here are some examples:
    a. You see a guy or girl alone at the cafeteria table—go sit with him/her.
    b. Someone is crying, reach out to nurture him/her.
    c. Your little brother or sister wants to play—nurture him/her by playing a game.

    (Story of Aggie who had an abortion).

    2. Wrong understanding and lust—When you use your welcome and nurturing attributes the opposite way in forming a friendship. (Use boy and girl dolls to act out the scenario: “I know, I will take a picture of myself and send it to my boyfriend.” Her internal thoughts: “If I send him this and do some sexual acts for him, I will feel like someone loves me. Plus, people will admire me because I have a boyfriend with a cool car.” His internal thoughts: She loves me and will always be with me to be my closest friend. I trust her so much I will be in the most vulnerable position with her that humans can be in. She draws me to her; I desire her.)

    And whose “death” are you choosing by lusting, girls: not just the death of your relationship with God, not just the death of yourself by going against the way you are made as a woman to welcome and nurture, you are helping to cause the “death” of this guy, because he will be broken (show the Dante Project of the person who is torn into pieces). Does this look to you like you nurtured him? Society tells you that all of those activities outside of marriage are safe. Society is lying to you. This is a visual image of what you are doing to yourself, to another human, and to your relationship with God.

    IV. Conclusion—So, what do you do? First, if you have fallen prey to lust, you can change!! You don’t have to do porn, masturbate, use others as objects for your desire. You can choose life. Go to confession to be forgiven, then work on the opposite of lust: the virtue of chastity.
    Virtue comes from the Latin, vir, which means “strength.” Society does not think people, especially teenagers, can be virtuous. It is too hard. We ought simply to give in to our sexual temptations and so have “safe sex.” None of it is safe, for it leads to death…is death safe??
    One last observation of male/females. Guys, you are to protect and provide….but also to put on proper pedestal to pursue. How? Be a guy. Open doors. Carry her books. Call her/text her just because.. Pay for her dinner. Read poetry together. Write her poetry. Draw her portrait. Hold her hand. Give her a small kiss These elevate her. And when the temptation comes that you want to do more than these small intimate acts of true love, remember life and virtue. Remember your body says, “Protect, provide, pursue” and be rough, tough, and buff…by not giving in to lust. That, is a man. That is virtue.
    Ladies, you are to welcome and nurture…but also to provide adventure, not as an object of lust, but as a woman of mystery. Let him do the above things. (You know you can do all of those better…but we give by receiving, by being honored and respected). Ladies, when you are tempted to unveil yourself before you are married, remember that you are to be mysterious, hiding. Think about what is supposed to happen on your honeymoon night (Jewish wedding of 7 days)…to be “apocalypse”, that is, unveiled by your husband fo r whom you waited. You can go against lust and wait for life and love.

  • vir

    i suggest and encourage young guy and girl to educate themselves about proper understanding of living. (life is a gift of self) visit this inspiring web site. http://www.tobet.org…...

    What does it mean to be male/female?
    A. Guys
    1. Right understanding and living: You are “rough, tough, and buff.” Your male bodies are bigger and stronger (remember my story about me, a female, pushing the blazer out of the snow—so don’t take this the wrong way). Because your bodies are made by God like that, it sends you a message. You are to protect and provide for those weaker (especially for women and children).Here are some examples:
    a. Notice if a girl is being gossiped about—you protect her reputation.
    b. If an underclassman—guy or girl—is being picked on, stand up for him/her.
    c. When your mom needs help around the house or with a problem, be there for her. (Story of Fernando—he shed his flesh and blood for a woman).

    2. Wrong understanding and lust—When you use your power to do the opposite of protecting and providing. (Use boy and girl dolls to act out the scenario: “Hey, baby, I love you so much, let’s do this to show our love.” His internal thoughts: “She’s not half as hot as those women on porn, but she’ll do…add fuel to my fire so that I can gratify myself with her and lust at her at home when I am alone.” Her internal thoughts: He loves me and will always be with me to protect me and provide for me. I trust him so much I will be in the most vulnerable position with him that humans can be in. He won’t hurt me.)

    And whose “death” are you choosing by lusting, guys: not just the death of your relationship with God, not just the death of yourself by going against the way you are made as a man to protect and provide, you are helping to cause the “death” of this girl, because she will be broken (show the Dante Project of the person who is torn into pieces). Does this look to you like you protected and provided for this young woman? Society tells you that all of those activities outside of marriage are safe. Society is lying to you. This is a visual image of what you are doing to yourself, to another human, and to your relationship with God.

    B. Girls
    1. Right understanding and living: You are “hiding and inviting.” Your female bodies are hiding in that you veil that which is sacred. We are to dress modestly. We are inviting because you have a womb (joke about guys not knowing what that is) and breasts (joke about guys not realizing that). Because your bodies are made by God like that, it sends you a message. You are welcome and nurture all people (especially children).Here are some examples:
    a. You see a guy or girl alone at the cafeteria table—go sit with him/her.
    b. Someone is crying, reach out to nurture him/her.
    c. Your little brother or sister wants to play—nurture him/her by playing a game.

    (Story of Aggie who had an abortion).

    2. Wrong understanding and lust—When you use your welcome and nurturing attributes the opposite way in forming a friendship. (Use boy and girl dolls to act out the scenario: “I know, I will take a picture of myself and send it to my boyfriend.” Her internal thoughts: “If I send him this and do some sexual acts for him, I will feel like someone loves me. Plus, people will admire me because I have a boyfriend with a cool car.” His internal thoughts: She loves me and will always be with me to be my closest friend. I trust her so much I will be in the most vulnerable position with her that humans can be in. She draws me to her; I desire her.)

    And whose “death” are you choosing by lusting, girls: not just the death of your relationship with God, not just the death of yourself by going against the way you are made as a woman to welcome and nurture, you are helping to cause the “death” of this guy, because he will be broken (show the Dante Project of the person who is torn into pieces). Does this look to you like you nurtured him? Society tells you that all of those activities outside of marriage are safe. Society is lying to you. This is a visual image of what you are doing to yourself, to another human, and to your relationship with God.

    IV. Conclusion—So, what do you do? First, if you have fallen prey to lust, you can change!! You don’t have to do porn, masturbate, use others as objects for your desire. You can choose life. Go to confession to be forgiven, then work on the opposite of lust: the virtue of chastity.
    Virtue comes from the Latin, vir, which means “strength.” Society does not think people, especially teenagers, can be virtuous. It is too hard. We ought simply to give in to our sexual temptations and so have “safe sex.” None of it is safe, for it leads to death…is death safe??
    One last observation of male/females. Guys, you are to protect and provide….but also to put on proper pedestal to pursue. How? Be a guy. Open doors. Carry her books. Call her/text her just because.. Pay for her dinner. Read poetry together. Write her poetry. Draw her portrait. Hold her hand. Give her a small kiss These elevate her. And when the temptation comes that you want to do more than these small intimate acts of true love, remember life and virtue. Remember your body says, “Protect, provide, pursue” and be rough, tough, and buff…by not giving in to lust. That, is a man. That is virtue.
    Ladies, you are to welcome and nurture…but also to provide adventure, not as an object of lust, but as a woman of mystery. Let him do the above things. (You know you can do all of those better…but we give by receiving, by being honored and respected). Ladies, when you are tempted to unveil yourself before you are married, remember that you are to be mysterious, hiding. Think about what is supposed to happen on your honeymoon night (Jewish wedding of 7 days)…to be “apocalypse”, that is, unveiled by your husband fo r whom you waited. You can go against lust and wait for life and love.

    • ms. blue girl

      hiiiiiiiiii
      actually
      i m rally
      confused
      about what our society has become
      and i certainly agree with you that sex is sacred
      actually
      i have a debate tomorrow in class
      and you help
      me a lot
      thank you so much

  • I just want to say (well actually I have lots to say) that I think this is a very tricky subject and goes to the heart of what we really are – a basically religious, conservative country with a strong influence from the Catholic church.

    That said, I’d like to point out that we had sex education (under the subject of “Health”) back in high school, which was around the early 1990s (so that was like 20 years ago). My school was a Catholic all-girls school run by nuns and yet they allowed that subject to be taught to us. The subject includes the reproductive system, how girls can become pregnant and what are the different contraceptives available out there (with actual samples, mind you). We were even shown films on abortion (The Silent Scream I think it was called), with the understanding that such is bad. And we all took it seriously, nobody really laughed at it because we were comfortable learning about this subject.

    I am thankful that I had this education and this is what makes me a pro-sex education person. I think it’s all about the delivery, the media that will be used and the kind of teacher that will teach such subject. I think the delivery needs to be as objective as possible, with no hint of malice at all. I think it is high time that the schools support the parents in teaching this subject because, let’s face it, they are the children’s second homes plus they have access to materials that can help drive home the point of the subject. This is not a “parent pass the buck to the school” type of thing, this is a practical course that we have to take from people that we trust and respect (e.g. the teachers). I also think that we need to stop protecting our children from the ‘realities of this world’ and early pregnancies, pre-marital sex and contraceptives are part of these realities. Surely, learning these from the school and from home are much much better than learning them on the streets. Just my two cents’ worth.
    .-= Emie´s last blog ..Palamig (Filipino Desserts Part III) =-.

    • The big problem with “Sex Ed” is the political baggage it often comes packaged with. Those promoting Sex Ed, are often pushing immoral promiscuity, pre-marital sex, and/or abortions.

      God gave us sex, as a wonderful way to pro-create more human beings coming to life. People should be encouraged to enjoy sex, mate, reproduce children. But we are to do it the right way. Pair up, marry, build responsible stable nest/family home to raise responsible and moral children.

      Is that the Same “Silent Scream” prolife video I have seen, warning people against the horrors of abortion?

      Early pregnancies are okay, if people are responsible and marry young then. I believe more people ought to be sexually active and naturally growing their families, and welcoming the natural flow of life. But whatever happened to getting married first and personal responsibility? I think many Sex Educators oppose morality and personal responsibility. That also was a nasty effect of the experimental awful Big Pharma contraceptives.

      Also, I heard an author say, when they call it something-Ed, it isn’t. We don’t have Math Ed or Reading Ed. So probably Sex Ed means it isn’t education really, but false propaganda. Like a trojan horse trying to sneak in the enemy, trying to appear legitimate. If Sex Ed was true, it would respect family life, and encourage people to go on having lots of babies, but the right responsible way, withing stable responsible families. Sex Ed ought to emphasis the reproducing and life, such as showing an actual human birth, a baby’s head crowning in the vagina, a mother happy/thrilled to be adding another precious human life to her naturally-growing family. Not showing or telling people to use the awkward, unnatural, contrary-to-nature anti-life contraceptives.
      But too much of Education these days is about liberal propaganda, control, and not about freedom and encouraging independent thought. So we must be wary of what they are trying to educate or deceive us with.

  • rianne

    I already mentioned here before…. sex education is fine I agree with it but they should start with high school students and NOT with elementary and KINDERGARTEN students as what the health secretary said. If I am the parent of the said student, I will strongly disagree to this.

    I have nephews and nieces and they like to draw, to play and still like fairy tales. I am reading them children books sometimes for them to learn how to respect not just their parents but also people around them, for them to know how to follow even just a simple advice or rules. I teach them how to count, how to read and write alphabets and thats what they should learn first before anything else.

    Sex Education is a critical subject and maybe it will be okay if the teacher is very good in explaining things but what if not? I’ve studied both in private and public schools so I know how some teacher teach their students.

    For that I strongly believe that they should let the parents teach their kids until they reach high school. At this stage they will surely understand already the pros and cons of sex ed because they are old enough to understand. Plus dating usually starts in High school here in this country. So… thats my debate.

  • maze..

    gud day..in our skul im the ssg public information officer or P.I.O
    i have the task to inform students abwt the latest happenings in our society.every wik i post different topics in our bulletin. this wik i post abwt sex education.
    do my research idea help students to understand further about sex educ. being taught in highschool?? help me…

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  • aldrin

    ..sex education is an outbursting issue right now.

    ..You know what..

    i’m going to make an interview about it..

    And I also need some facts or backgroud so I can formulate questions well…

    ..Hays..

    ..hirap nman sa seminary oh..

    tsk..

    Help me please..

  • nethan

    im making term paper ryt now,,,pls give me some advantages in sex education and dis advantages..thanks…

  • Hi momblogger,
    I think sex ed will work If you are the one to make the modules! OK yung strategy mo to get the message across to the kids.. indirect pero the same effect!
    Maraming parents, hindi nila alam na dapat turuan nila yung anak nila at kung paano gagawin ito… So, siguro, yung mga parents ang dapat turuan ng SexEd, or more properly, “How to guide your kids about sex”?
    .-= Arnel Endrinal´s last blog ..More on Charter Change =-.

  • chase…

    just passing to say something and to gather some info. about this issue…
    well i am a 4th year high school student…
    i am goin’ to make editorial..

    my comment:…
    para sa mga pilipinang kagaya ko…
    well kong ang bagay na ito ang pag-uusapan para sa atin masasabi natin na para bumababa ang moralidad natin pero if we are goin to think about it well i guess parang ganon narin ang mangyayari..(para lang sa aking opinyon..)

    pero kong talagang iintindihin natin for me…
    it’s not about it…
    i’m not saying that sex education is the best but it’s better…
    ‘di para malaman kong paano makipag sex kundi para maginf aware naman tayo…
    c’mon our country is so populated right now…
    one thing that can help our country is in this way…

    sex education is not how to do sex…
    ito ay isa lang info na dapat nating malaman para din sa ating kapakanan…

    lage namang nanjan ang mga magulang para gumabay…
    ang akin lang para naman mamulat tayong mga kabataan na dapat maging aware tayo about dito…
    (i don’t mean to do sex even not getting married first…

    try to think anyway…

    t.y…

    • You said, “c’mon our country is so populated right now…”

      But that is no excuse to push “Sex Ed” as a population “control” tool. Rather, shouldn’t it be more the other way, if everybody’s seemingly enjoying having lots of babies, why not also enjoy having babies, and let Baby Booms persist and grow naturally, so that all the more people may experience life?

      Getting so populated, ought to be counted as a very positive sign of country or human progress, or so many more people who can then experience life. Used to be that growth was good. I believe human population growth is still very good, as more and more people would be glad to live.

      Why isn’t Sex Education how to do sex, or how to contact for sex? That would be far better than all the anti-life propaganda for the use of side-effect-ridden, nasty, unnatural contraceptives. If we are to have all this Sex Ed, then why not about sexual positions, or how to make a baby, how to grow families even faster or boost fertility? I am a serious skeptic of Sex Ed, because it’s often so anti-family-growth, pagan, a commercial for artificial nasty contraceptives and abortions. Whatever happened to babies happen when the happen, and the responsibility of getting married before sex, and providing for and loving all the children that then come to life from a happy, successful marriage? Contraceptives has help corrupt the people’s thinking and profane sex. Sex is supposed to equal BABIES. That’s what God created it for.

      How are people to enjoy having their precious darling babies in a world with so many people alive already? Isn’t it obvious? Let the world populate itself denser and denser, to hold everybody and their progeny. So I see no reason to let high population levels throw cold water upon married couples love lives, or to spook them into having smaller families. Didn’t some pro-life Philippine prime minister say it’s okay the Filipino population is growing, because the whole world is growing? I agree, because that means the world will be figuring out how, and developing the technologies, to support far larger populations than were present in the past.

      All countries should be expected to do their part, to help the world hold more and more people, especially by the natural increase of their very own people.

      Just because the country may be getting so populated right now, is no excuse why the babies can’t just keep coming and coming. Each and every human life is sacred, people have very good and compelling reasons to have as many children as they do, it’s well worth “risking” having highly populated countries so that far more people may experience life, and families can keep enjoying such a fulfilling part of life, as raising children.

      Sex Ed shouldn’t be so much pagan and going against nature, but respecting the desire or need of families to grow, and Sanctity and sacredness of each and every human life. It shouldn’t be about some wicked political agenda that goes against the natural family growth and the rights of individuals. Sex Ed shouldn’t be a contraceptive and abortions commercial propaganda tool. If Sex Ed can’t be more moral, then forget Sex Ed and leave it to the parents. If we must have Sex Ed, let it be pro-life, pro-family-growth, pro-natural-population-expansion. So if anti-life contraception is included, why not the less morally-offensive, sexual positions, better sexual pleasure, and how to make more babies faster and raise them easier? Don’t go so much against nature, and thus profane sex, promoting sexual immorality and irresponsibility. Back in the days when sex=babies, people pretty much knew they had to be careful to be married and monogamous, not reckless and promiscuous, because very real babies could come alive, and babies need responsible parents to care for them.

      Here in the United States, liberals of decades ago, said, “Make love, not war.” I agree to a point, if making love = babies. I would much rather live in a world naturally filling up with more and more people making love, making whoopie, than people making conflicts and wars. People need something productive to do, and raising families enhances better character, teaches patience, and is among the most generous and life-fulfilling activities people can do. And reproducing more babies, is apparently something most people can do well, considering how many people there is getting to be throughout the world. Don’t take away the thing that so many people can do so well. Let the people enjoy their naturally-growing families. Life would be too dull and drab, without parents having and loving sometimes their very many children.

    • ang the best ?? para sakin cguro ay responsible parent hood lng hindi pag tuturo gumamit ng condom 🙂

  • rey

    sex education is the devil’s workshop….the mind of the young ones will be wicked everyday…. it will not help to young people because of knowing the things which is lawful only to the marraige. Sin is overflowing on this dark world. God is angry everyday because of evil doers who agreed this kind of teaching.
    Today, Satan is very happy because of sex education was taught on public school. For sure, God is not happy and reallly they will go to hell if they die because the bible say, wicked mind cannnot inheret the kingdom of God.
    at the very young age knows already the use of condom because of the teaching and mga manyak nga mga dep ed……
    Hell wil be larger and larger and more young people will try to do the sex even at the young age because of immorality that was teach by the teachers. for sure real saved person will not teach the sex education. Hope Christians will not be compromise. i pray that all of the authors of this teaching will die…..and go to hell..God is angry …..

    • Dennis Eyberg

      Are you serious? !!! Teachers are not teaching (btw that’s “taught by the teachers” and not “teach by the teachers”) immorality. That would be teaching children
      evil or bad character or behavior. Where are you facts to back up your accusation? Do you home work.
      “Better to keep your mouth closed and be thought a fool than to open it and remove all doubt”?

  • xtine

    Hello Ma’am!

    I find your this blog interesting and very helpful for my editorial article regarding sex education on my journalism subject. I would like to ask for your permission if i could quote some phrases here.

    Thank you and God bless!

  • MAUREEN

    am really confused with what stand will i choose at our debate but when i had viewed this blog i feel enlightened due to the fact that sex education is not as bad as it seems……..it just needs to be taken and be taught in a moral way…….parents should not wori in the implementation of the said issue….

  • Veronica kyla sabejon

    Is it k 2 all of u the sex ed.?

  • I have two kids who will eventually grow up to be teeners and me and my wife still are clueless on how to go about teaching this to them Fears of the thought that they may be too curious and try to experiment on this. O my God! This is not easy as it sounds but we parents should be creative on how to deliver this to them, sans the devastating effect of premature pregancy..
    .-= Zandro´s last blog ..A Condo in Makati designed by Versace =-.

  • Wow,

    Where is animal control, because there’s a dogma on the loose.

  • tnx for the insights that you have discussed, it would be a great help in my reaction paper…

  • tnx for the insights that you have discussed, it would be a great help in my reaction paper…

  • I think sex education is not just sex per se. I think its about sexuality, and we should not wait for our children to be in high school to teach them about it. There is what you call “age appropriate” sexuality lessons that you can teach even to young children . Discovering our bodies could be the first step.

    Our son at the age of two knows that his moms body differs from his and his dad’s. We never name the private parts as “birdie” or “flower” He knows why some parts of our bodies have hair. When he was around five he accidentally discovered that when he touch himself it feels good. We told him that yes it is but it should be done in private. And that despite it feels good he should touch the private parts of her/his playmate at the same time allow other adult people to touch his private parts.

    I think teaching our children to be comfortable with their own bodies basic. As they grow we can discuss with them sexuality .These children were asking questions without malice and they should be answered truthfully in order for them to have sound decisions about their sexuality.

  • I’m a student and in my case. I do not agree with the idea of it. It’s a thing meant for married individuals and not us. If they will pursue with it, isn’t it awkward hearing kids like us “Hey mama, can you review me with this condom, pills blah blah.” Yes they will or we will be aware but we will have a wider space in our mind where sex will be located and these things are for mature, not physical but mental, people. Teenagers are not yet suitable for it. If they really wanted having this kind of curriculum. It is best fitted for rehabilitation programs, family planning etc. That’s my opinion because on what i see of our mind generation. It’s not suitable for us public or private.

  • Some people are opposed to sex education in schools and I don’t understand why. Do they still believe in the “if you don’t talk about it, they won’t know about it” fantasy? Teenagers are exposed to a lot of things sexual and sensual in their environment.There’s televisions, internet, magazines, novels and even the green jokes on the radio. If we just let them absorb these information and interpret it in their own way, without proper guidance, then teenage pregnancies an spread of STDS will rise. Sex education is not about morality. Sex education does not mean we’re encouraging them to have sex, we’re teaching them about the biology of it, the consequences and the responsibilities in sexual health. What they do with this information they learned is up to the student and maybe the moral guidance of their parents or religions. Children are getting information about sex, this is the cyber age, the age of information. They will get information, most of it are the negative kind of information. Why not let them get the right kind of information then, one that may be able to help them.