Sex, How Often?

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I happened to stumble across this article, how often should you have sex? and find it too sensational. What does one expect in an Oprah show anyway?

According to Dr. Oz, how often should you have sex?

A) Once a week
B) Twice a week
C) 10 times a month
D) 200 times a year or more

The correct answer is D.

D) 200 times a year or more

“If you have more than 200 orgasms a year, you can reduce your physiologic age by six years,” Dr. Oz says. He bases the number on a study done at Duke University that surveyed people on the amount and quality of sex they had. “They looked at what happened to folks that are having a lot of intercourse over time, and the fact is, it correlated.”

Based on the recommendation by this bogus-looking doctor, the frequency should be around 200 times a year. That would be an average of 4 times a week. He contradicts his own question by saying that 200 orgasms can make you look younger. Orgasms does not equate number of times one has sex. Women are known to have multiple-orgasms. Anyway, I’m interested to see this Duke University study. As a researcher, I’d like to know the age group ,marital status and general health condition.

It’s not the sex frequency that can reduce physiologic age by so and so years. Healthy people with an active lifestyle are inclined to have more sex and hence physiologically “younger looking”. Unhealthy, lethargic or out-of-shape people are basically less attractive and will generally have less tendency towards sex and less desire to have it. It is very likely that persons who naturally want to have more sex are probably healthier in the first place. Looking younger is all about living a healthy lifestyle and attitude and maintaining a monagomous relationship. I agree that “having sex with someone that you care for deeply is one of the ways we achieve that Zen experience that we all crave as human beings,” and that “It’s really a spiritual event for folks when they’re with someone they love and they can consummate it with sexual activity … seems to offer some survival benefit.”

Then again, I believe that “someone that you care deeply” is that one love you want to spend the rest of your lives with .

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About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

  • OMG! If I used his answer to benchmark against my record, I will develop an inferiority complex!!!!! hahaha..

    I agree more with you, Noemi! Forget the numbers. It’s your relationship with your loved one that brings a special high each time ….

    Now that reminds me of this anecdote where 3 aging guys were comparing sex frequencies. First guy says he and his wife still do it twice a month. Second guy smiles and says they can still do it once a week. Third guy then says he and wifey do it tri-weekly. The first 2 guys were aghast that in his senior years, he can still manage this….until he spells it out….

    TRY WEAKLY.

    Glad you’re up and about and hopefully headache gone! This heat is terrible!

  • I do agree. sex should be a pleasure inside the sancitity of the sacrament of marriage.

  • @Jane- numbers are just so stupid really.

    I rested all day so headache is almost gone.

    @Bluepanjeet- It surely is

  • I am just about to post a topic re: sex! What a weird coincidence
    🙂

    Maryosep 200 times a year, pag naman di pa ko sumexy nyan ewan ko na. But you’re right this guy got his physiology wrong, 1 sex is not 1 orgasm for women (lucky us). And looking younger or attractive is really down to a healthy lifestyle or lots of surgery for others.

  • @Auee- if the noble Dr. Oz says it’s 200 orgasms, then it probably includes masturbation. Dr. Oz needs to qualify his statements or quote the Duke university Study .

  • JJ

    I think 200 orgasms is way too much. Yep, the ladies could have multiple orgasms but there are also others who don’t every time they make love.

    OT: Oh, I’m not married but I do make love to the person that I care deeply. Would that be a sin? just asking anyways. 🙂

  • @JJ- I can’t judge if you committed a sin. I’m not a priest , sorry.

  • Hmm, pano na lang ako, zero. 🙂 So I guess healthy diet, exercise and having positive relationships should make up for a zero sex life? 🙂

  • I think it’s how a person believes such things. If there is strong belief that doing it has certain benefits, our brain might make it real.

  • another brave post, Noemi! i guess Dr Oz really meant 200 times, not 200 orgasms in a year, what with what is called multiple orgasms.

    and you are right, it is not the number of times or number of orgasms. what matters most is that the having sex with the one who matters most to you.

    by the way, i read in one of the local magazines that the tv show “sis” has been suspended for one day by mctrb because the show discussed exactly the same topic–how often should one have sex, how, what with children around, etc on day television.

    i just wonder, had the blogosphere been under the authority of mctrb (with your and my sites visited by people of all ages, including adolescents and teens), would your site be suspended because of these discussions? (LOL)

  • I think it depends on the couple who do it. If they think it helps them in their relationship or whatever when they do it then it’s their choice to make. I think there’s nothing wrong with it as long as everyone is ok about it.

  • Hails

    200 times a year? for others that’s not too frequent. but what about those with vow of sanctity? pano na sila?

  • rica

    i like your topic on having sex 200 times ayear, but i think it really depends on the person. it can go beyond that and it’s a wonderful thing, specially for someone who’s in their 50’s, who values the quality, and not the quantity.

    rock on women in your 50’s. . . sex is sublime!!!

  • rica

    — and to add to that, it has to be uninhibited, and it may sound cliche, but chemistry does play a big part, plus the fact that you care and have some deep feelings for each other.

  • Jaran

    Believe Dr. Oz’s right, know of a 55-yr.- old married straight guy (hypertensive though) asked by a lady (not hinting any favor), if he’s 45 years old. Aware he does it (orgasm) 5 to 6 days a week – 1 to 3 (sometimes 4) times daily with or without partner!

  • KK

    Ate Noemi, In defense of the bogus-looking doctor comment: Dr. Oz happens to be a real doctor with an impressive resume. Has an MD and MBA with undergrad from Harvard. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dr._Mehmet_Oz , I watch his show in Discovery Health channel. My husband applied Dr. Oz’s teachings in loosing 40 lbs.

    I think that he(Dr. Oz) is simply saying that the more sex the better. 😉

  • Aminorex

    It’s not good to say bad things about people, especially if they are not true. Calling Oz “this bogus-looking doctor” is blatant name-calling.

    I do think your reasoning is sound. Correlation is not causation, and all of the causal factors you have described appear to be a reasonable mechanism which may underlie the observed correlation. However, reasoning should not stand alone, divorced from facts. While it is anecdotal, plainly my experience is not untypical: If I do not have sexual relief, by the second day I am in a physically
    stressed condition — not severe, but occasionally debilitating. Subjectively, it is easy to understand how this level of stress, maintained over a period of many years, would lead to a greatly diminished lifespan. Long-term unrelieved pain often results in depression, and depression often results in suicide. I suspect that both natural death and suicide rates are inversely correlated with rates of orgasmic episode.

    I understand that the hard facts may be difficult to accept, especially for typical women, who tend to a weekly rather than a daily cycle, and would find it tedious to adequately maintain their spouse. But my own, admittedly self-interested and rhetorical, expectation is that a cold, hard look at the facts would tell us that if a wife doesn’t see to it that her husbands sexual needs are met, she had might as well put a bullet in his head 20 years before he was due to die of age-related organ failure.

    It is rather shocking to me that more adequate treatment of this subject has not been done in the medical community: The interrelationships of medical health and sexual hygiene are manifold and profound, and more emphasis on this subject in medical research is highly warranted. I do wish that the studies that are done in this area were less politically motivated and more scientifically so.

  • Aminorex

    I hope that my lengthy responses are a positive contribution to this discussion.

    After my last post, a couple of things came to mind which may be of interest. I’ve never heard any other man talk about his level of need or desire for sex, or at what frequency, but I did read a related anecdote which is of interest: John F. Kennedy, then President of the United States, asked the Prime Minister of Great Britain, Harold Macmillan, this question during a “summit” holiday, which Macmillan later recorded in his memoirs. As Kennedy explained, if he did not have sex daily, he experienced “terrible migraines”. Now Kennedy was no model of excellence in health-care, but as a married man with an unsatisfactory sex-life and as a migraineur, I can assure you that the two are strongly correlated.

    I believe it was Jim Morrison who penned the lyrics, “women seem wicked when you’re unwanted”. I hope that the married women who read these words will avoid even the appearance of wickedness, and try to avoid this kind of unknowning, unthinking cruelty to their husbands. I would never wish for anyone to experience the kind of bitter torment in their marriage which I have experienced.