Text Messaging a Loved One

text messagingHave you seen the latest commercial of SMART Telecom on text messaging ? During the first two scenes, I snickered to my husband “what a mama’s boy!” See, the guy in the commercial sends text messages to his mom’s cellphone and talks about the praises from his boss, the breakup with his girlfriend, the argument with his sister. Towards the end of that commercial, the guy sends another text message “Mom, I promised to take care of my sister even if you’re not around” . His eyes well up in tears and the photograph of his mom is shown in the background.

That was a smart commercial for two reasons: ( No pun intended)

1. It showed a creative way to unleash grief and
2. It removed the taboo on grief that guys shouldn’t cry over a loss long after the mourning period.

The scene in that commercial seems dramatic but it actually happens to some persons who have lost a loved one. We all grieve differently . What works for one won’t work for the other. Text messaging a loved one is nothing new. I know of two bereaved parents who send text messages addressed to their departed child. My friend still keeps the cellphone of her 13 year old son and when she is feeling down, she sends him a text message. Like writing, text messaging is a creative way to express grief. A great deal of pent-up emotions are often released by writing a letter or a text message saying what we wish we had or hadn’t done, or said, before they died or just simply small talk about the daily grind. Creativity encourages us to find ways to express our deepest feelings and helps us to focus on what may be very confused emotions, so that we understand them better. In grief we often feel as if we have lost control over our lives, and the satisfaction gained from the creative process gives us back a sense of achievement and self-worth.

My bereaved friends felt a bond with the theme of this commercial. Oh yes, the tears fall naturally as the commercial ends.

Thumbs up to SMART for showing this creative expression of grief.

Noemi Lardizabal-Dado (1346 Posts)

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.


About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

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  • http://kutitots.com Gail

    I still kept my favorite uncle’s cellphone number eventhough he already passed away two years ago. For some reason, seeing his number on my phone whenever I go through my numbers is comforting. It helps me keep his memory alive. I never sent a message to him though. Seeing “Ninong Joe” on my phonebook is enough for me. 🙂

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    @Gail- Seeing our loved one’s name is truly comforting

  • lemon

    hi noemi, smart Smart indeed. i sent you an email regarding greenwoods property for sale.

  • http://tmdefinition.wordpress.com Tivo

    human technology! emotions sent at an instant.

  • chy

    I remember this commercial,.. but now, the more that I can relate to it…Just like the man who texted his mom, I too have been texting my departed mom about my disappointments as well as my accomplishments…it’s hard to cope ever since her death last january 2008, so i’m finding ways to heal myself…i’m glad that all of a sudden, I found your blog…now I know that it’s just normal to feel the mixed emotions over and over, I’m glad that I can relate to you…thanks!

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_A7FBR4ES3MZ5GCMTSN3WEHG6YI Sam

    Exactly what my friend told me that I should do. He said I should text him and tell him everything that I feel. It hurts a lot. We’ve just known each other for a month and fell in-love. But he suddenly died. Now I am so shattered and broke. I miss Paolo so much. I love him that I do not know now how to start my life over again…

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_A7FBR4ES3MZ5GCMTSN3WEHG6YI Sam

    Exactly what my friend told me that I should do. He said I should text him and tell him everything that I feel. It hurts a lot. We’ve just known each other for a month and fell in-love. But he suddenly died. Now I am so shattered and broke. I miss Paolo so much. I love him that I do not know now how to start my life over again…