The Absent-Minded Mom

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You know how it is at the start of the New Year. If one is in business, you have to get permits and other papers from the City Hall. One of these paper requirements is the NBI clearance. I cannot forget the incredulous look of the NBI data personnel when he asked me “What’s your address?” I stated my address but he pointed to what I wrote down on the data sheet.

“Let me take a look” as I turned the paper around. What was I thinking?

greenthumb.gif(For privacy reasons, I am modifying parts of my complete home address). Horrified, I saw the words Green Thumb instead of Green Village.

I laughed out loud, “No, no, it’s not Green Thumb” but the NBI dude didn’t laugh along with me. He must have seen it happen all the time. Perhaps, he thought I am just bonkers or better yet, respects an older woman’s fragile memory.

So I thought that was it. After I went through the finger printing and photo shoot, I drove to my other appointment. I must have been so engrossed in my plans to buy this particular furniture that I ended in front of the City Hall, back to where I started. Ugh, what a waste of gasoline.

The rest of the day went smoothly as I happily worked on my latest projects until it was time for my workout mid-afternoon. Feeling great, I imagined myself with my macbook sprawled blissfully at the couch and watching mundane TV shows. But wait, the mom instinct in me kicked in.

Wasn’t I supposed to fetch Marielle after the gym? What am I doing in front of my house?

I finally got to relax on the lounging chair, basking the showbiz gossip news when I received an instant message from a bereaved mom based in Singapore. I asked “how is your grandson?” I must have confused her with another Singapore-based mom when she ignored my question and just said “my 12 year old son died of leukemia”.

Another whammy. Four annoying absent-minded experience is a lot for one day. Its not funny anymore (but hubby guffawed at the Green Thumb address so you can laugh too. )

Am I senile, tired or just having a sensory overload?

Is this menopause? I don’t think so. Not yet anyway.

I have always taken pride in my ability to focus and multi-task. Sometimes people become forgetful because they’re on sensory overload. I need to slow down.

In our fast-paced society, we’re all on chronic systems overload. We’re multi-tasking — talking on our cell phones, checking text messages, reviewing plans for the day, walking into a store to shop. It’s very easy for certain things to get lost in the shuffle. I am not suffering from Alzheimer’s disease but I don’t have to be absent-minded.

So how do you know if you have a serious problem, and is there anything your can do to bolster your memory?

George Grossberg, M.D., an internationally recognized Alzheimer’s disease researcher and director of geriatric psychiatry at Saint Louis University School of Medicine offers this recipe for brain health:

  • Try to figure out what is causing your forgetfulness. Did you make a wrong turn while driving while you were talking on a cell phone and listening to the radio? Maybe you’re trying to do too many things at once and need to put down the phone or turn off the tunes.
  • Exercise your body. Along with improving your cardio-vascular health, exercise increases your “feel-good” endorphins, which improves your mood and prevents depression. Depression causes cognitive impairment and is a risk factor for Alzheimer’s disease.
  • Exercise your mind. Research shows mental challenge can help rewire connections in the brain, which enhance its activity and make it more resistant to diseases. So find a new hobby, learn to play chess, use your left hand if you’re right-handed, study a foreign language or Calculus.
  • Take care of yourself. Controlling risk factors for cardio-vascular disease such as high blood pressure, smoking, high cholesterol and obesity may help decrease the risk of Alzheimer’s disease.
  • Get a good night’s sleep. Not getting enough deep, restful sleep causes cognitive impairment later in life. Besides, if you’re sleep deprived, you won’t think clearly and are more likely to forget now. Find out why you’re not sleeping if that’s a problem.
  • Feed your brain. Some research shows antioxidant vitamins have protective powers against Alzheimer’s disease. The B vitamins, particularly B12, and folate are very important in how brain cells function. Take a supplement if necessary.
  • Check your meds. Sometimes medications — prescriptions and over-the-counter drugs — can cause memory or concentration problems, which you should discuss with your doctor.
  • Dr. Grossberg says the key to whether you should be concerned about your forgetfulness is how it affects your ability to function. “The time to worry is when the changes you experience affect your ability to function on a day-to-day basis. If forgetfulness is of such a frequency and magnitude that it is interferes with your ability to do your job, for example, you should see a doctor.”

    Looking through Dr Grossbery’s suggestions, I plan to do the following initiatives to feed my brain.

    • Learn to cultivate herbs for the kitchen. Maybe the Green Thumb fiasco is a sign to learn something new.
    • Learn Japanese along with Marielle who plans to visit Japan. Since I will be driving her, I might as well make use of my time.
    • Take Vitamin B supplements.
    • Sleep at 10:00 PM or take afternoon naps.

    How about you? Have you had bouts of absent-mindedness? Did you find ways to combat it?

    Noemi Lardizabal-Dado (1354 Posts)

    You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.


    About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

    You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

    • Ay, senior moment…hahaha 🙂

      It’s probably because you try to take on too many things all at one time. Somehow, we always become semi-bonkers when we are just too busy 🙂

      Easy lang 🙂

    • @Cookie- ah you got the word “Senior moment”

    • if it’s any consolation, you didnt forget your house keys 🙂

    • you know what? at 1:40 am, while reading your post, one of my sons, Vince, asked me, “Mom, what are you cooking?” the only people awake were vince, myself and 2 of my girls–and my kids know i don’t cook.

      aargh!!! forgetfulness! i was boiling a cup of water, which i entirely forgot about. the pot was almost empty. anyway, God sends his angels, i believe so.

      what do i do so as not to forget? i just tell my kids to remind me of this and that. and i activate the alarm on my cell phone.

      for memory not to totally forget me (or is it the other way round, i forgot which is which)–i do crossword puzzles, sudoku, jumble, and any other word games on hand.

    • Actually a great way to maintain ‘brain health’ is to regularly ‘train’ your brain by memorising stuff etc. At the end of the day, keeping things in regular working order can be the best method to keeping them in tip top shape!

    • @cess- the keys are all tucked in my bag. Now I shouldn’t forget that.

      @dine- katawa ka naman. Thanks for the advice.I should exercies my brain more through scrabble. It’s been a while.

      @Supp G- Thanks for the tip.

    • lemon

      My absent-mindedness is so much worse. On a trip to Naga, when we were about to leave for the beach, I kept on asking myself what I have forgotten. Yaiks! I forgot that since I had no nanny with me and I had to pack our things, I left my daughter with my aunt who lives right behind our house. Major senior moment, and I’m not even 40.

      Housekeys–I go bonkers over those too. sigh.

    • I list down things I need to do the following day on a post-it pad. Then I post it on my pc monitor. This way, as soon as I get up, I am immediately reminded. Somehow, this has become a routine that I can’t sleep without posting my list first. But I also tend to get caught with multi-tasking sometimes, especially when unexpected eventualities arise during the day. 🙂

    • @lemon- eeks.

      @rhodora- I don’t forget task for the day though. My problem that day was performing the task. hehe. I have a planner now which is useful to me for scheduled tasks.

    • you are not alone Noemi so don’t feel bad. i, too, have had some senior moments. but, for some reason, i am much better now ever since i started taking green juice.

    • brain exercises and drinking a lot of water/liquid help a lot. i also have those moments, yup, already!!!

    • or… for unconventional methods, buy a nintendo DS and buy games like brain age, some sudoku game… just keeping the brain stimulated plus, it’s fun.

    • Gosh Noemi, Belle is right, you’re not alone….One time, I left the house with the water heater on (in a pail of water, hot shower’s not working). Good thing, hubby entered the bathroom and switch it off. I forgot to buy hubby’s meds when that was the reason I was at the Mercury Drug Store, bought groceries instead. and I forgot there’s no maid to cook our dinner at 9 p.m. the other day, he he…Maybe I should take Memory Plus or glutaphos daily.