The Grief Interview with Cheche Lazaro

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cheche lazaroTo be interviewd by Cheche Lazaro in “Straight Talk” is an honor. Her interview style is excellent. You know, I usually get a pre-interview by production assistants days before a show. This is normal procedure since hosts are usually busy. It surprised me that no one from ANC (ABS-CBN News Channel) called me up. Hmm, I thought that maybe Cheche can handle it herself. The only call I received was from the production assistant of the executive producer. He was so touched after reading Luijoe’s memorial website and wanted to borrow Luijoe’s photos for a clear graphic shot. They went all the way to the house just to get the photo albums.

Before the live interview, I caught up with Cheche at the dressing room and we had a little chat as the makeup artists retouched our shiny faces. I am amazed at her preparation for this episode. She printed out research materials on grief and highlighted sentences in my story of the Fallen Cradle. She told me that this is a fairly new topic rarely discussed on TV. I know. I told her that grief education is quite new in our country and we’re just taking off with the introduction of grief pyschologists and grief support groups.

It’s customary for host to read guide questions from a teleprompter. Cheche didn’t need a teleprompter. She was ready with the introduction and questions of all the segments. The show was less anguished than the interviews at ALI and the MOMS QTV. The interview showed more structure, a good summary and a clear take home message. She prepared a list of sentences that hurt the newly bereaved which she read towards the end of the show. (It’s similar to my words of comfort entry).

Some feedback from viewers:

Thank you for lifting the taboo on grief. I just got through rough 2 days of crying triggered by someone saying that I look ‘good’

Watching you I said, I will reach that stage later.

Seeing you shows that there’s life beyond grief.

Role models are important – it gives hope and encouragement to see other bereaved parents getting on with their lives and even helping others to take their first steps in the adjustment to the death of their child. If it were still the “old me” , I will shun the publicity. It’s much safer to be within my comfort zone… just keeping to myself. But I have been healed of my pain and I am forever grateful to God for showing me the light at the end of my darkest despair. The mutual support of shared experiences helps me honor Luijoe’s life and I continue to grow in wisdom , strength and love.

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More screen caps of the show

Disadvantages of a live show:

1. Your worst angles are shown.

2. You can’t say “remove that part”. I was stunned at the question on effects of losing a child is on one’s sex life. I didn’t know what to say.

*EDIT (June 4)– This episode was replayed June 2 at 11:00 PM and on June 4 at 4:00 PM.

Noemi Lardizabal-Dado (1346 Posts)

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About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

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  • emily

    It was very informative. I am sure a lot of viewers gained insight on it.

  • http://ilocana.com dexie

    I wish I have TFC so I could watch it. You’re doing a great job in spreading the word and helping out other people in the same situation as you are. If I could give you a hug I’d give you one right now. *HUG*

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    Emily: I got some calls all the way from Sultan Kudarat and the north .

    Dexie: Aww thanks for the HUGS! *hugs back*

  • lemon

    I caught only a portion of the interview since I was watching something else on HBO, but it was the part where you said something and agnes prieto and cheche were laughing.Having seen that,i’m sure that you’ll be okay.

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    Lemon: I know what that part was. It was about the sex life and I said I was too old to have a baby. And Cheche said that is another topic to be discussed some other time. Oh well, I’ve been okay for some time now.

  • Olga

    When Noemi said that she was too old at 44(?) then to have another baby, Cheche reacted rather strongly…. I think she said “We’re never too old!” or something like that.

    Correct! We may become too old for more babies, but we become REALLY old, only when we say we are….

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    Olga: now I remember. Yes, but to bear babies at that age is really hard. High blood pressure , and other complications. I think that’s what I meant. The mind and heart might be young but the body is old for bearing babies.