My Magic Shawls And Letting Go

My husband stared at the couch by the bay window and sighs “look at what the cats did!@!*! The damage to the leather is getting worse everyday.”

We have three lovable furry felines in our household and they give me so much comfort when the house is empty. I cuddled my pet kitty to my chest and stroked her smooth white fur as I tried to think of something.

I held his hand “Missy gives me joy. Don’t worry, my shawl will hide the worn leather.”

He continues to rant because he can’t help seeing the frayed couch day in and day out. Oh well, I think it is an excuse to re-upholster the couch, as I continue to think of solutions.

Then he wandered off to the living room and pointed out the base of the lounge in tatters.

Seeing my husband’s exasperated look, I comfort him once again “My shawl will hide all that. Don’t worry. I have lots of shawl”. My wide collection of pretty shawls from China, Divisoria, India and Pakistan came in handy. I picked an olive-green shawl and demonstrated the look of the couch and the lounge chair as it hid the torn and ragged leather. My husband nods.

Perfect!

Last Sunday, all of us helped out Marielle as she chose her white graduation dress. She needed two dresses because there are two graduation dates for the state university, one on April 25 and another on April 26. The requirement is a dress length which reaches the calves and should have sleeves. It’s not easy looking out for white dresses. After 4 hours, we finally found an array of affordable chic dresses at the Rockwell Powerplant Mall. The thing is, the dresses had no sleeves.

After 4 hours of shopping I just wanted to find a solution for the white dresses “don’t worry, I’ll get you a white sheer shawl! and voila, the dress has sleeves”

My husband started to laugh “Your solution is always a shawl”.

I couldn’t help but chuckle along with him. I didn’t realize it but yes, I try to think of temporary solutions to problems that are not within my control. I guess I am not a person who bursts an artery over little problems. Don’t sweat the small stuff right?

I think we all have “shawls” in our lives. It is not necessarily a denial but a temporary fix to an inconvenience. It is not worth the anger over spilled milk. The tattered couch is ugly now yet I tell my husband that my cats lower my blood pressure and keep me less stressed. It’s no use stressing over something that is supposed to calm your nerves.

Whenever I use “my shawl”, it’s my way of letting go.

How much do we need to let go off? I always think “maybe everything”.

I let go of my grasp on toxic people, outcomes, ideas, feelings, wants, needs, desires, almost everything. There is magic in letting go. Sometimes I get what I want soon after I let go. Sometimes it takes longer. Sometimes the specific outcome I desired doesn’t happen. Something better does. Letting go and wearing “my shawl” creates the optimum environment for the best possible outcomes and solutions.

Oh yes, letting go starts the wheels in motion for things to work out in the best possible way. That’s why I call it my magic shawl.

I have a shawl draped on my bed covers which I use to wrap around my husband’s head when he feels chilled at night. It’s either I turn the aircon off , suffer the heat or hear him whine. I choose the “shawl” and as an added bonus, a kiss.

Do you have your own version of the “magic shawl’?

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Noemi Lardizabal-Dado (1346 Posts)

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.


About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

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  • http://scroochchronicles.com/ cookie

    lovely post, Noemi. me naman i have bags. ginormous bags that hold all sorts of gewgaws to fix and remedy a lot of those day to day situations. my husband and kids know only to well to rummage my bag whenever they’re in a fix 😉

    cookies last blog post..Ruby Tuesday : Balloon Clown

    • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

      that is a wonderful idea. I remember carrying a bag full of surprises just in case a kid or the big boy are in a fit.

  • http://pinoyfoodcritic.com Carlo Ople

    My girlfriend, Mich, also has a gigantic bag that has all the solutions to life’s problems. Hahaha.

    By the way, we also have a cat here (persian rag doll) at home. 🙂

    • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

      I also wanted a persian cat (don’t know what a persian rag doll is) but hubby doesn’t like long haired cats

  • http://www.retireinphilippinesnow.com Dan Mihaliak

    Don’t have any cats and that is a stress reliever

  • meg

    What a positive and uplifting post. I try to avoid making a mountain out of a molehill

    • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

      it’s so easy to be drawn to controversy but I like to look at the positive side of things,

  • http://www.edelweiza.com edelweiza

    another piece of wisdom from the momblogger…a well-written post. yes, we all have “shawls” in our lives. while some problems need a long-term solution, others only need a quick or temporary fix and most of the time, the problem is resolved in no time and does not happen again. 🙂

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  • http://newmedia.com.ph Carlo Ople

    Hmm, Mich (my gf) and I just hate it though when the cats are in heat. Sobrang ingay @_@

  • http://johnibanez.net J. Ibanez

    Very nice entry. My fiance has fixed a lot of things (material and not) with simple solutions, and it kinda taught me to be happy with the simplest things that life would give.

    We have 4 Persian Cats at home (two of them half, I know what your husband must have felt seeing the couch. hehe

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  • http://www.babytumz.blogspot.com Arvee

    Hi, Ms. Noemi. I want to share to you this outrage happening in our school right now. Since you are also an animal lover, you will find this act really appalling:

    http://animaladvocates.multiply.com/notes/item/444?mark_read=animaladvocates:notes:444&replies_read=130

    His post has already been privatized but the note at PAWS captured everything that we need to know.

    So sad. 🙁

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