When I look at my daughters I see myself…only better.

Mothers of daughters are daughters of mothers and have remained so, in circles joined to circles, since time began – Signe Hammer

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It’s amazing. I can’t believe how grown-up my daughters are. My eldest is 27 years old and my second is turning 26 years old. They are just wonderful. Twenty something years ago, my life revolved around them, changing diapers, running after them, reading stories, driving them to school and back. Life with grown up daughters is like having two sisters.

daughter Gone are the days when I’d tie pretty pink ribbons on their hair. These days, we borrow each other’s clothes, make-up, accessories that our helper can’t tell anymore who owns a particular clothing item. Lauren does my makeup on special occasions. I tell her to camouflage my sagging eyelids and does a good job at it. They update me with the latest fashion. They serve as my personal stylist suggesting colors, hairstyle, makeup. Oh and one time, I borrowed money to pay our electric bill when I was short in cash.

daughterOf course , motherhood wasn’t all that smooth-sailing , having gone through stages of motherhood that went rocky in the teen years.

Don’t these words sound familiar?

4 Years Of Age – My Mommy can do anything;
8 Years Of Age – My Mom knows a lot! A whole lot
12 Years Of Age -My Mother doesn’t really know quite everything.
14 Years Of Age -Naturally, Mother doesn’t know that, either
16 Years Of Age -Mother? She’s hopelessly old-fashioned
18 Years Of Age -That old woman? She’s way out of date
25 Years Of Age -Well, she might know a little bit about it
35 Years Of Age -Before we decide, let’s get Mom’s opinion
45 Years Of Age -Wonder what Mom would have thought about it
65 Years Of Age -Wish, I could talk it over with Mom

For each phase of motherhood involved adjustment and letting go.

I know I have been an disappointment in the turbulent years of my grief. I often wondered how to make up for those lost years and I read somewhere that the best way to help your kids is just taking care of yourself and they will follow suit. Like Wayne Dyer said, “Your children will see what you’re all about by what you live rather than what you say.” We muddled through those tough years, and after much trial and error, I believe we have now come full circle.

So gone are those days when I would nag “Ugh , clean up your room.” These days “your room is so pretty if it were just more organized” which often leads to action. I want them to enjoy life, party hard, be safe and responsible.

What I hope most for my daughters is that they soar confidently in their own sky, whatever that may be.

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I wish they will always be with me to love and to hold but I know at the same time, I should just step back and watch then fly high and free. Now they have flown their wings and I am left with an empty nest. Though it makes me a bit sentimental, I am glad I gave up my career to be with them during their growing years.

Happy Mother’s day to everyone.

Noemi Lardizabal-Dado (1346 Posts)

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.


About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

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  • http://manilashopaholic.com Kinney

    I love this post! 🙂 I sure do think my mom also has the same things on her mind. SHe’s just less expressive 🙂 This actually brought tears to my eyes 🙂
    .-= Kinney´s last blog ..David and Goliath- New Styles Out Again =-.

    • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

      yes not all moms are the same.

  • http://peggyapl.blogspot.com/ peggy

    they grow up so quickly, don’t they? i have a 20 year old daughter and we also share jewelry, clothes, accessories. i even get “hand me ups” from her!
    .-= peggy´s last blog ..Whats on Your Workdesk Wednesday- Wall Putty Cards =-.

    • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

      yes i have gotten two hand me ups myself. Fun huh.

  • http://theblackfedorablog.com/ Ryan

    I love love love this post.. Reminds me of my daughter growing up so fast but am proud to share that she’s my best friend and she considers me one too.. It felt so great knowing that at her age of 15, she tells me her all her secrets and we even talk about “boys”..

    Noemi, you continually inspire me and am thankful that you’re one of the first bloggers I met when I was starting.. Hoping to see you soon..
    .-= Ryan´s last blog ..Connecting To Your Fave Networking Sites Without The Internet Made Possible Through Smart =-.

    • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

      what a joy to have a daughter. These days they are like my sisters. So fun and laid back. I used to be quite strict in their teen years. I learned to let go. Thanks for the affirmation, Ryan. Hope to bump into you one of these days. “hugs”

  • http://krvilla.blogspot.com kaffee

    Certainly a tribute to how you conquered the challenges of motherhood, Noemi. Are we not always reminded about how children’s behaviors are a reflection of their upbringing? Kudos to this post and most especially to you as a mother.

    Regards-

    K

  • baan

    Your thoughts about motherhood is very similar to that of my mom. Being the eldest daughter, I have a very close relationship with her despite the distance that we have. She’s been away from for about 16 years, but our communication is solid as a rock. Thank you for sharing. More power.

  • http://www.mommyjourney.com Chris

    so beautiful. my kids are still small and reading posts like these.. it makes me treasure each and every moment that i spend with them today. 🙂
    .-= Chris´s last blog ..The Headphone =-.

  • http://momcenter.com.ph MomCenter

    Hi, is it ok if I featured it in our website? Looking forward. Thanks!

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

    Hi

    You can feature a snippet of the post but NOT copy my whole entry. Thank you.

  • Anonymous

    Omg you remind me of my mom so much. And I just wish that my friends were lucky to have mother like yourself, and mine. Which is why I feel so blessed.

    I tell my mother everything and we hang out, go shopping, and my friends are cool with her too. We would share the same clothing but she’s alot bigger than me lol, but still we do each other’s hair and make-up and sometimes share shoes and socks. She’s awesome! And though there are times we argue to the point where we nearly kill each other, I still love her. And she’s my best friend.
    I just wish my 14 years old sister could see the same thing now. (she thinks my mom is a loser).