02Jun 2012

When Kids Hear Their Parents having Sex

Parents, are you sure your kids don’t hear you when you are having sex?

I came across my daughter’s forum a 12 years ago on “have you heard your parents having sex” and their thoughts on their parents having sex.

We learn a lot from our children. It never occured to me that our kids think we have no sex life. Just because we have reached our 40′s doesn’t mean sex life is over. I found their candid answers quite helpful and amusing. Remember, these are teens’ opinions from all over the world.

The forum question was:

I have never heard my parents have sex, and I’m pretty sure they don’t anymore. What about the rest of you? Do you ever hear them?

The replies from my daughter’s online friends who were then in their teens:

1. No. hehe. But I think it’s sweet that parents still have that passion and affection for each other.

2. I think it’s horrid enough hearing them talk about it…

3. i don’t really want to imagine parents having sex. but i hope that when i reach their stage, i would still have sex. it sucks to have no sex life.

4. Oh Lordy… I have walked in on my dad and my mom…a few years later.. I walked in on my dad and my stepmom..and I’ve heard them many, many… MANY times. There should be a law or something..

5. I’ve heard them before, really shouldn’t sleep in the bedroom right beside theirs…

6. lol. well, i would be glad that they still have sex. it’s so good they’re so loving. but i really don’t want to think about it.

7. as their kids, there are some things we just don’t need to know! and it just seems perfectly fine when we do it, no?

8. we have double standards when it comes to sex.

9.Never heard them.
Never walked in on them.
Never want to.

I’d like to thank the people who made our walls as thick as they can be for having never experienced such a horrific thing. And I knew my parents were having sex because there’s a 12 year gap between me & my next sibling!

10. I walked in on my mom and dad…and I saw more than any child should. I have walked in on my mom and step-dad as well. Funny thing is…I’ve only walked in when they were making babies in the living room. I still have the scars. Oh, and I’ve heard them a few times to. So yeah, I know my parents are still “active”.

11. i hope i’ll still be living a life full of passion and romance at that age. i wouldn’t want to be all dried up like some grandmas.

12. No, my mother and father aren’t very affectionate. And my mother sleeps with my younger brother rather than my father. sheesh. I don’t want to witness the act, but they could at least treat each other like they’re actually a couple, no?

13. i don’t think my parents do it anymore either. but one time when i was younger, i swore i caught them one saturday morning because i just busted into their room to go sleep next to them.. but i think i’m blocking that memory into some dream i had or something, haha.

14. I used to hear them .. when I was little. Not anymore. On a popular radio station called K92.. well.. popular over here… They had a special called, “Grandparents Do IT To” it was halarious.

15. I ‘ve heard it. No big deal. Frankly I’m more disturbed when I don’t hear anything. My parents aren’t aliens and I like to be constantly reassured of that fact.

16. Yes I have it was embarrassing they obviously didn’t know I was home. It was horrible my mom was talking really dirty.

17. I’ve heard my dad and my stepmother but never my mom and stepfather. I was going downstairs in the middle of the night to get a magazine I had left and I over heard them and I just scurried upstairs before anything more happened that I didn’t want to see or hear. I laughed to myself though thinking… dad still has it going on… good for him! LOL

Besides, there will be pleny of payback when I bring my girlfriend/wife home for the holidays some time in the future.

18. Nope, never heard my parents doing it…. They probably do it when I’m not around.

Now it’s my turn to say my piece on this. First of all, I don’t think my kids have ever heard us having sex. Reply number 18 is more like it. Hehe. Second, the only encounter close to sex was when one of my daughters overheard her dad say to me “it’s been awhile since we ****” (that four letter word verb…shocking) . My daughter was on her way to my room at that time. I forgot my reply to my husband but I hope I wasn’t talking dirty. Not knowing she overheard her dad, I wondered why she pushed the door and tugged my hand , “Let’s now go to the salon”. Then at the salon, “mom it’s really traumatic to hear dad asking you to have sex”.

I just had to laugh “at least we are still loving to each other. Don’t you like that?”

My daughter pouted “it’s very disturbing. Sex is for young people”

I smiled “Sex is a loving expression for couples, young and old. Especially married couples. Just learn to be cautious when you approach the door to our room”

As a young child, I often wondered why my parents required us to knock at their door. Now I realized that they also had an active sex life.

Yes children (as I know I have young readers), your parents still have an active sex life. How active? It depends, of course. Just because we are reaching 40 or 50 does not exempt us from having a healthy sex life. And the older one gets the better it becomes.

I know “ewww.” *nods*

What have I learned from their replies?

1. Parents, it’s fine to espouse sex education to our kids, if you’re comfortable with the topic.

2. Sex education doesn’t mean talking about our sex life to them.

3. It’s alright to show affection to our spouse . At least our kids know we are loving to each other.

4. It’s not okay for our kids to hear us having sex. We have to learn to lock our doors or ensure thicker walls to our rooms, and other privacy measures as some kids can get shocked.

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Posted in: Parents & Children, Sex education ⋅ Tagged: parent's sex life, parenting and children, parents and sex, sex, sex education, sex life

About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

Noemi, Editor of Blog Watch and features editor of Philippine Online Chronicles is a 55 year old mother to three kids and is married to Atty. Luis H. Dado. She loves being a full time mother and homemaker after retiring as a Researcher/Consultant from the UP Institute for Small Scale Industries in 1987. Now that her children are all college graduates, she devotes her time to grief support, blogging, new media events and using her blogs to promote online advocacies. Her personal blog is at aboutmyrecovery.com, which garnered numerous awards such as Best Website, Blog Category during the 9th and 10th Philippine Web Awards. Her blog also won in the Blog- Personal Category of the DigitalFilipino.com Web Awards 2007 and Globelines Broadband Family Blog Award (in honor of family-oriented blogging) 2007 Philippine Blog Award. Globe also recognized her as Digital Elder in the 2009 Philippine Blog Award.

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kim

i hear my parents every single night and i mean it like really EVERY SINGLE NIGHT i was shocked when i heard them for the first time but now i’m use to it and i’m happy they still love each other oh and p.s i’m only 12 that means its harder for me to cope with it so plz repect my comment thank you
kimia

i hear my parnts having sex every single night andi mean it EVERY SINGLE NIGHT i was soooooooooooo shocked that i stopped talking to my mom and dad i wake up ever night because i them and i cant get the sound of my head like one day i was sleeping and then i heard my mum and dad joking and talking and laughing i was happy that they still loved each other but when they stopped talking and laughing after few mun of silence i heard my mum breathing in and out my heart beat up really really fast and then i pulled the pillow up my head but i still were hearing them my rooms door was wide open so was my mum and dads so i could hear them clearly my mom came to close the door and i acted that i was sleeping but one of my eyes open i saw her completly naked and some thing that i’m not going to mention cause it’s disturbing when she closed the door i started crying really quitly so they wouldnt hear me and i was only 12 and still am 12 and from then i now hear them every single night and please i’m only 12 so respect my comment and dont say you should be happy that your mom and dad still love each other.
Bryce Sunduk

I’m grateful that my parents never put me through such torment. But it makes me feel sad and sorry for my x’s little boy. Her own words are “He’ll Pretty Much Sleep Through Anything.” I feel sorry for that little boy because I never had to grow up hearing those awful sounds. But he is and can only hope that he isn’t going to be traumatized from it.
Blownbyurmom

Omg disssssssgusting i would cry if i saw my parents bangin. One time my parents went to their room to nap and i opened the door and jumped under the covers with them( i was only 6) and i looked under anf i saw my dad wasnt wearing any clothes( i only saw his legs and found out he was naked) and i blew it off because my dad doesent wear underwear only shorts but now that i think of it he probably just finished doin it wit my mom. Now im extremely disgusting. Iwwww
major problems now

i heard my mom and dad having it in a motorhome. i pretended to be asleep so i wouldn’t get in trouble for being up late. now i suppose that my act of not telling the truth with my body led me to thinking horrible things about my parents, expessialy my dad. i think about it all the time , i have even seen sex stuff lying around in thier room. i cant stop thinking about it. i cry all the time because of it . iswear i now have emotional problems and depression. now i am even afraid to see my parents go out at night because if they get back late i have know idea what they are doing. i really didnt know what to do while i was in the motorhome i wish i could erase it, i prayed to god but mabe i need to know i because i still think like that.
claudia

oh my god! its las if i were the one who worte @major problems now” comment. i totally get you sweety, i also developed that anger towards my father. and i had these crazy thoughts about them going out just to have sex out at nighht, i remember one time. i was supposed to be sleeping andi heard they opened the front door and i ASSUMED, IMAGINED they were going to a hotel to have sex and that they were gonna leave my sister and i , and we weren supposed to notice and we werent going to because theyd be back by the morning,.and that they probably always did that. i got al crazy and startede yelling and screaming , and they came up so i told them all the story but they jst wouldnt listen . i fell aseep while crying. i was a little 7year old paranoic girl.. gosh… so you know whta ? i recommend you to tell your parents that you want to g to a psychologist ,,, he might help you to be able to survive the fact of living i the same house than your parents. take a break of em and go live somewhere else for a whil e like a month or something
major problems now

hey john i really dont like you because you talk about sex like it is nothing. god tells us not to have sex but be fruitful and multiply.even though my parents have sex they never let me have a little brother or sister.god lets us do whatever you want but you always sin. in the holy bible (and practically everything other one) He never tells us to have sex for fun. so why cant you and who ever has not had a baby after sex just do not do it. people stop yourselvs you can have sex with the “bundles of joy babies” instead of exposing anyone to it. including me, may i remind you that i know have emotional and depression problems and i am only 12.
major problems now

hey john most people love is a kiss or a hug and not something that make your kids practicaly traumic ond and emotional issues. people like you are the ones that would make me and almost all of the people who made comments on here have bad pictures in their head ond so on.
Neutral

Listen guys, I’m 16 a girl. I ‘have’ walked in on my parent’s when we lived in an apartment. When we moved I got the fartest room, possble from their’s. My sister was little so she didn’t understand, but one night she came knocking on my door one late night while I was readin a book. She looked horrifed. I let her sleep on my floor, and she told me she heard them she was 12 at the time I was 14 going on 15. I told her ‘why do you think I got the fartest room?’ She said because I was a genrous person. I shook my head. “No so mommy and daddy have sex and I don’t hear it with my god dam virgin ears.” She laughed at that, but I told her. “At least the horros of them getting divorced is over.” She looked at me confused. Then I explained mom and dad were fighting alot, me and my sister got worried. “-So at least that they have sex it means there is still something.” SHe nodded and went to sleep. Then I had to sleep one time in her room, and this was in the winter. Our grandma was living with us and like the sap I was she took my room. I heard them, I was reading a book, and my sister was snoring. I looked at the time it said 2:00 and went to 7:00. I never got any sleep, it was horrfying to hear of course I’m a dam teenager! I was also like ‘dam!’ they got it going on, and at that just impressive. So much for my fathers middle life crisis huh? Well hears my point all kids are horrified, in fact we found a porno in our parents room when me and my sister were cleaning it for punishment. I decided to tell mom and dad ‘we hear you..we are fine with it..we love you..we are scarred, but we love you.” My dad was cool and laughed, my mom got mad flipped out and grounded me for a week -.-;. Of course hears my point, it’s just as trmatizing for us to hear our parents cause when we were younger it didn’t exsist. Like for our parents it would be tramatizing for them to hear us being sexualy active, my dad would get a bat and go kill the guy..wel for my case girl and my mom would be trmamtized. My dad wouldn’t care he accpects my perfrence, but my sister any boy she brins home he’ll say. “I’ll go clean my gun now.” SO you see it’s vise versa, if we have to talk to our parents about being active and why can’t they? Cause at one pint we have too. Instead of yelling “get out!’ and or throwing something at them so..parents talk if your kids see you just talk to them, parents just picture ‘your’ parents dustirbing just like us so you know were it comes from.
OMFG

I am 13 and I am adopted and my parents seem (or seemed) to be the average parents. I mean like, they have arguments sometimes, and they go to partys and have fun, and don’t show too much affection anywhere. But one day last week, I was looking in my moms drawer in the bathroom because I was looking for something and then in the back of the drawer was a squeeze bottle of KY Lubricant. Since I’m adopted my parents had to be a certain age or something to adopt me, so they are both in their 50′s now. I just looked at the bottle, horrified, and then took notice that the middle of it was squeezed and that some was gone. I was freaked out. But after reading what other people, who are teens like me, have gone through, I realize that I am not the only one out there who has this scar. BTW my mom weighs less than me and my dad isn’t huge, but he weighs like 160lbs. I have some bad thoughts running through my head….. ugh….
OMFG

So….its the same 13 yr old and i just wanted to add for those people who had to witness ‘it’ at a young age, I Thought Parents Were Supposed To Lead Their Young Children AWAY From Porn and Influences Like That. geez.
mylas

i think my parents are doing because they alyways want privaxy and lock their door
Sally

Fair enough I’m only 13 but I know what they do in their room, but still can’t understand why my mom sounds as though she’s being hurt real bad.
Taylor

I feel your pain
http://www.mxchange.org Roland

@Sally/Taylor: Your mother doesn’t have *pain*, she has *pleasure*, no, very big pleasure. It may sounds like she has pain, but she doesn’t.

For saying about my self, Iam 31 yrs old and have currently no children (but I want to, with the right woman). But I think when my child steps and caught us “inflagranti”, that means while we “enjoy and love each other a very intimately way” I would tell the kid the truth, what he/she is seeing.

Mom and dad love each other very much!
claudia

(To roland)..well, that’ s just dumb
ashley

i always her my parents have sex but they think i dont no when they clos they door they talk and have sex and starting to get out my nerves . if us kids cant have sex why can they have sex but when i tell my parents can your please stop the keep going it tireion and my mama say they e sleep they dont because when my sis ask for something u can hear her voice like she not even sleep i hear them i think the things they do is stupid ifeel my sis and i are not exist my mama always lik it feels good she cant stop the oise and theyu do it when school night we be so sleepy in the morning in class we sleep on our subjects. my sis had walked in why they doing it thats when my cousin was there
http://orderofmagdeline.blogspot.com Magdeline

I was raised in a one room house in the islands. I shared a big bed with my little brother and our mom and dad. We never wore clothes around the house or yard, as this was the custom.

I loved it when mom and dad would let my brother and me stay in bed when they did it, but sometimes they chased us out. My brother and I would pretend we were doing it too, and we would make noises and laugh. We thought of sex as a fun game. Our parents never told us otherwise.

As we grew older, both my brother and I came to appreciate our exposure to loving sex at home. It was just a natural part of growing up and a part of life.
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http://www.millionaireacts.com Millionaire Acts

Hi Noemi,

I read some stories of the commenters here and it makes me laugh.

I myself once saw my parents in action before because when we were young, we used to share the same room with them together with my brother.

But it did not affect me. I think it all depends on the children.

It may be disgusting at first but time will come that the young child can understand about it and will no longer be treated as something as nasty.
.-= Millionaire Acts´s last blog ..Pay Less On Your Next Car =-.
Sloan

Come on i am 10 and have seen things you wouldn’t dream of!!
Tell me !
Nichole

i was watching tv in my living room once and i had my head leaned against the wall and i heard a strange noise…. so i went and tryed to open my parents door it was locked i kept calling “mom,dad?” they wouldn’t answer.so i went outside and looked through the window and….. and…….. you know. i am emotionally scarred for life. I am only 10 years old and this happened recently.

TALK ABOUT TRAUMA!!!!!!!!
me?

children shouldnt have to “be cautious” when approaching parents doors. parents should be respectful enough to their children to not be having sex when theres a chance the children could find out. think about it, how would you feel if you children were having sex in the room next to yours and you overheard? would you think, oh they just love each other i should be happy? dont think so.
Holland

I agree with Comment by me. Given my parents’ past with each other my views may be somewhat skewed on the whole issue but I believe that sex between parents should be kept for those times during the day when the kids AREN’T around or at least if your kid is a really really sound sleeper in the dead of night and I mean so sound a sleeper that not even the Apocalypse would wake him/her up. Another thing is parents doing it in the same room as a child. That’s gross. That’s why we have motels nowadays or dropping off a kid at a relative or separate rooms for crying out loud. >_> I did not appreciate that.
gabrielle

hey guys, i’m 15 and i’ve just seen my parents having sex this midnight and i was f**ckin traumatize! i was picturing out what they were doing. i wanna forget about it but i cant! really. gosh,

i woke up in the middle of the night to pee and when i walked through mom and dad’s bed they were gone. i was pretty sure they were in the living room eating or whatever they’re doing except having sex. sex didn’t come into my mind. But after i pee in the bathroom, i heard my parents’ whispers in the living room so i went there to see them,. I saw dad was on the couch covering his —- and mom was still naked and she was already wearing her pants w/o her panty. i said “GEEZ! SORRY GUYS!” then i went to sleep. after that i didn’t open that topic anymore to my parents.
it was so so disgusting when you guys see your parents having sex. i wish i didn’t go to the living room anymore.

parents, you must have sex in your homes without your children or even in the middle of the night cuz sumtimes us children also pee in midnight and might hear you or see you and you don’t know what would be our reaction when we’ve seen you,. soo EEWWW. but we understand.
Ria

OH MY GOD
my bedroom is on the side of my parents’ room and i live in a sh*tty house so the wall has NO insulation and i hear them every friggin night and it DISGUSTS ME!! i mean theyre young and all but they dont even get along (cuz my dad is an a$$,) but teyre up Every Night doin it and its like literally 6 feet from my bed , plus we used to live in a nice big house bt we had to move to this 100 year old piece of shiz cus my dad wanted to live on his homeless rescue property that LITERALLY has helped No1 so i have to hear their MOANING every night… i hate them…
http://forums.delphiforums.com/innovate1 Pronatalist

Yes, I agree that humans having sex and reproducing babies, should be considered just a natural part of life, as natural as breathing or eating. And it should be enjoyed naturally, without any means of anti-life “birth control.” More and more people would be glad to live, so the natural increase of people should always be eagerly encouraged, within responsible families but of course. Encourage large families worldwide, so that far more people may live and experience life.

However, reasonable morals requires sex be limited to those people committed together by marriage into stable families, so that resulting children who come to life as a result, are assured that they will have parents to take care of them. There is also the moral expectation of some reasonable level of privacy for sex, as it’s a special and intimate relationship between fathers and mothers. It hardly seems appropriate for children to be sharing the same bed that their parents are having sex in. However, it’s quite understandable that privacy obviously lacks among large families who all live in just a single room, or within the motel room or family tent while camping. And the natural spread of human life is of far greater than actual privacy, so I think parents should not be ashamed to get sexually aroused and engage in sexual intercourse with children watching, where big families live in small homes without enough actual privacy. In that case, I think privacy can be virtual, meaning not talking to outsiders outside the family to embarrass people about intimate details they don’t need to know. Humans should be expected to enjoy natural sex, most anywhere that the parents would normally sleep together, even if that happens to be within the same room as their children, as their large families continue to naturally grow.

I don’t understand why your parents couldn’t somehow find a separate bed for the children? But proper family modesty and privacy, are to be decided by the family and parents, so there’s really not much way to regulate such things, nor for outsiders to insist that bedroom or bathroom door be closed when people are “doing it,” or using the toilet, as it’s a family affair to decide reasonable family standards of respect and privacy. Throughout much of the world, families are large and “unplanned,” and there may be but one bed in a 1-room home, so children seeing parents having sex, is probably far more common than many of we spoiled Western Americans may like to think?

I especially think it’s okay to let babies see their parents having sex, as babies need too much constant attention to just always put them in a separate room. Nothing wrong with carefully enjoying sexual intercourse, while the baby breastfeeds at the same time, as naturally large families probably are plenty busy with breastfeedings, every 2 hours or so, making it too hard to schedule such natural activities always at a separate time than natural sexual lovemaking. It’s not that babies won’t remember what they see. Rather, I suspect they do. Rather that babies are innocent, and need too much attention, thus a lot of privacy from babies, isn’t all that practical for some families I would guess. Babies are already exposed to sexual lovemaking anyway, as couples enjoy intercourse during pregnancy. Think the baby doesn’t feel the rhythmatic movements of the natural procreative act? But what do do, the baby is trapped in the womb, so that’s works as a suitable excuse for it.

Sure, sex should be relaxed, natural, and enjoyable. But I wonder if your experience was a tad bit too relaxed? As the huge human population continues to grow, hopefully ever larger, requiring more towns and big cities here and there to hold us all, it’s quite understandable that having enough privacy everywhere people may happen to live, is a bit of a challenge. So I think it unrealistic to think that all parents in poor countries, where large families often share small cramped home, can reasonable keep their enjoyable procreative sex, as private as it otherwise probably ought to be.
http://forums.delphiforums.com/innovate1 Pronatalist

If children don’t want to “be cautious” when approaching their parents’ bedroom door, then they should be all the more understanding when they happen to see “the facts of life,” that married people commonly like to or need to enjoy sex.

Obviously, not all families are uptight or careful to shut doors, and it’s up to the parents to set the family modesty standard in this, as it’s not any business of outsiders to be concerned with. Some homes don’t heat or air condition properly, with doors shut, and some people may feel comfortable that they will be alone enough most of the time, to not bother shutting the bedroom door. There is no “safe” time for sex, with children around, for who knows when a child will wake up or have to visit the bathroom during the middle of the night, to pee?

When sex is spotted accidentally, be respectful and overlook it. Just another fact of life that most everybody (married) “does it.” Just another reason why the world now has so many billions of people.
mandy

I hate the weekends, my parents are due back anytime now, they try to do the right thing “are you awake” when they come in, but every time the noises start, the bed noises at first then the moaning, I have to put my hands over my ears to block out the noises, why do they have to do this to me?
Ria

I KNOW IT SUCKS! my parents dont give a shiz that i hear them. my idiot father probly thinks its funny cuz he always talks about him and my mom havin sex in front of me and my older bro and we’re all like, NOONE WANTS TO HEAR IT YOU DDOUCHEE we both hate him.
http://forums.delphiforums.com/innovate1 Pronatalist

Sex isn’t just for night time or when children are asleep. I can see parents doing it during the day, or when they become aroused, even though children may see. They should go to their separate bedroom for some reasonable privacy, but not all people in the world have such large homes to have that option. Sometimes but 1 common room is all there is.

Going to a motel is absurd, when sex should be in their own home, and motel rooms cost too much. I am quite sure that many families aren’t so rich as to rent an extra room for the children, so when they actually are all staying at a motel, they are all sharing the same room. Many parents may wait for sex until they think the children are asleep, but really there is no way to ever quite be sure?

When parents and children live in the same home for nearly 2 decades or more, children are bound to see “something” eventually. Although I didn’t see much, as my parents divorced when I was 6 years old. I would rather they had stayed together, even though they might someday have been caught by me or a brother or sister, “doing it.” If they love each other so much, then we shouldn’t have to worry about them separating or divorcing? I mean like children are supposed to forever remain clueless as to how babies are naturally made? I don’t think so. Back in the old days, when families were commonly large and homes, small, weren’t people more relaxed about some of those facts of life, and children more often knew from a young age, how babies come to be made?
http://forums.delphiforums.com/innovate1 Pronatalist

Face it, many children are going to be born to parents who are quite horny, having much sex, because the parents who aren’t having much sex, perhaps aren’t having hardly any children.

The natural flow of human life should be encouraged, so that more and more people can live and come alive, which means then, that as families grow, parents keep on making love.

Some homes are small, and some people are too loud with their sexual sounds, so children are sometimes just going to be aware of it. With breeding material (so many people) all around, I don’t expect people to use any means of “birth control,” and we should expect lots of babies to be born. People need not so much “control” their reproductive urges, provided they keep sex to be only with their married spouse, and provide for and love all the children God allows them to have. Wherever parents would be expected to sleep together, they ought to also be expected to be enjoying sex. And in small homes having big families, I think many children may often know what goes on, as human reproduction naturally grows to become a mighty force of nature, filling the world with ever more and more people.
http://forums.delphiforums.com/innovate1 Pronatalist

While a child remembering catching his parents having sex when he is older and knows then what sex is, is a concern, so too, should be giving him more brothers and sisters. So that could be a reason to go ahead and enjoy those intimate moments, even though there’s a young child in the bed. I imagine that a child in the bed, for many couples, simply does not stop sexual arousal, which of course can naturally lead to foreplay and sexual intercourse. Husband and wife sleeping together is supposed to be arousing. They are relaxed and their penis and vagina may be less than a foot apart, so of course they are going to attract each other and become erect at some time during the night. As I heard somewhere, it’s the maximum temptation and opportunity for people to mate and reproduce children, probably why it’s so traditionally expected that husband and wife should commonly sleep together. Also why it’s probably a good idea to try, if possible, to get children trained at a young age, to sleep in their own room in their own bed, even if it’s the next room over for their seeming security to sleep soundly.

Often with love, tucking children in, giving them a night light and such, small children often do learn to accept sleeping in their own beds.

Anyhow, I think in such matters, that parents are in the position to decide what they think is appropriate for their families.
http://forums.delphiforums.com/innovate1 Pronatalist

It seems to me that when parents just let their babies push out from their having much sex, as they should so that more and more people can live, let the home fill up with ever more children, because they have very sensible practical or religious objections to the contrary-to-nature unnatural use of “birth control,” aren’t they increasing the odds of some of their children perhaps sometimes hearing them have sex? More children around, every bedroom full as can be with children?

Sure, parents ought to be a little discreet and private about sex, but that’s not near as important as respecting the natural reproductive rhythms and welcoming the natural flow of human life, and doing their part to help grow the already huge human race. I expect that the parents themselves, are in about the best position to decide what the appropriate level of family modesty shall be. Or in other words, those who are eagerly reproducing the most children, aren’t going to be able to realistically conceal their frequent pregnancies and all the evidence of their natural babymaking. Such is a fact of life, that we should reasonable respect. Quite many families throughout the world have more people than bedrooms, so not only is privacy for sex largely a “modern” invention, but often still lacks throughout much of the increasingly populous world.

My Mom had 4 children, and I don’t recall ever hearing sex. Perhaps some parents can make babies rather quietly, or some children sleep rather soundly? Or some children may not yet know what those strange sounds at night mean? But had my family had 8 or 13 children, I shouldn’t be surprised if some of us heard sounds of sex at night? I mean there does have to be a cause for there being so many babies coming to life?
http://forums.delphiforums.com/innovate1 Pronatalist

It’s also possible they may not care that much, that other people may hear them? They may have also heard their own parents having sex? Anyway, I hear sex is hereditary. If your parents didn’t do it, neither would you.

Humans curiously enjoy being constantly “in heat,” able to conceive babies year-round. So should it really be so surprising that in our increasingly populous world, we may hear parents, or nearby neighbors, having sex at night? It’s a natural sound or music of nature, we can sometimes hear the already huge human race naturally growing some otherwise quiet nights.

Of course maybe people ought to be a bit more discreet and quiet with their sex. But then God made what populates the planet so extremely pleasurable, some people find it hard to be quiet enough, especially during an intense orgasm. Selfish humans need some natural “persuasion” to keep the natural flow of human life, going and growing, as God intended for us to multiply.

Somebody’s got to get the bedroom next to the parents? Most homes don’t put the master bedroom over on the other side of the house. And houses are notorious for having squeaky floor boards, or creaky or squeaky beds or mattress springs.
http://None TannerThemad

This pisses me of. No this but my parents i mean damnit i fucking think theres a damn zoo in there and im twelve and i hear it and it makes me fucking sick because its disrespectful for them to have sex and dont give a shit that i have to go through that shit EVERY FUCKING NIGHT
Bryce Sunduk

If you don’t like it then say something to them about it. If they laugh at you and think that it’s funny. Then you can try what my friend did and teach them a lesson like they teach you. You’ll get in trouble but fill up a cold bucket of water and if they have the door unlocked. Run in there and throw it on them.

He got in trouble but it showed them.

My friend does that to her child like her father did to her. So you can guess what that child is going to grow up to do. I’ve seen some dumb comments in this last week on here and they say they have a right to do what they do and they do it but. I know some of those children who grew up like that. Today most of those people have become fucked up drug addicts and their children hear those same noises without a care. A nock on the door “Mommy are you Ok?” That’s tramua you NEVER forget.

Some of them don’t speak to their parents anymore & I’ve seen their patents, as a grown man cries out in anguish because of what he had done. Their parents had rights, But So Do You.

Learn from their mistakes & don’t repeat them when you have children. If you can change things for the better then start trying now before it’s too late.

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I can not change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
lala

ya tell me about it god…i’ve learned about ‘it’ from my friend first then my grandma and a little bit from health class. but from my parents??? NOPE sad isnt it?
Hlias kirtellis

Hello
I’m 15 yr old
and I hear my mom with my secod father having sec every night ( I never seen my real father ) my bed room is next from my mom’s and I can heAr clearly what they are doing what can I do for this?
Hlias kirtellis

Sorry
I was mean “sex” not sec i’m using my mobile cos I have not pc
oopsie

i am fortunate that i have never actually seen my parents going at it. …but lately i’ve been noticing more signs that show they have been doing it. it’s natural, i know…but it’s still embarrassing for me to know. first i was looking for something and opened my mother’s bedside table drawer and saw a little bottle that had a label on it that indicated it was a lube. i was quite embarrassed even by that.
and then one night i was sleeping a motor home with my parents, when i suddenly awoke to feel the whole thing shaking. i thought it was the wind at first and i was about to shout out that the wind was disturbing my sleep, when i suddenly realised that it was actually my parents. thankfully they were in an enclosed cabin in the motor home, but it was absolutely shocking even so. i could even hear the bed squeaking and i thought the motor home was going to tip over with all the shaking. i was shocked and disgusted and embarrassed…but then i suddenly felt a bit horny, after about 15 minutes. and that disgusted me even more. i pretended to still be asleep, despite the fact i desperately needed to use the toilet. and then the shaking stopped and my father tell my mother to “just rub it” and then he said “mmm..that wa nice”. i couldn’t look my parents in the eye for a long time after that.
and just today i was talking to my parents about a holiday we’d once had, and my father starts smirking at my mother and said to her “mmm…remember..”. i demanded to know what he was smirking about and he said “it’s too rude for you to hear”. i raised my eyebrows at him and asked “did you see or hear something…?” he just said “no…” and i didn’t ask anymore. i later figured that he and my mother must’ve had sex when they left me in the hotel to go and have a private spa together.
there have been a whole lot of hints and clues that tell me that they still do have a very active sex life, despite how old they are. it just never occured to me that my parents would still be active… it still shocks me.
i just hope i never walk in on them.
Mackenzie

im 11 My moms not married but shes dating… every tuesday she goes to his house and “gets it on” and thats fine with me. But my mom is always saying ” if we get married your going to have to hear it every night(why cant they just have quiet sex?)

we went to Galtlinburg and spent a night in a cabin, my mom made a deal with me that she wuld have sex because she knows it bothers me(im scared IDK why).But she mized up the rules. she said “hey how about we can have sex but really, really quit?” i said ok. well i hear thumping(my room was down stairs right under theirs.) moaning, and graoning.so finally she cmes down stairs at 2:00 in the frikken morning. and im crying be cause im scarred ive been scarred my whole life. she says why are you crying. i said because i cant sleep be cause of you and Brad(boyfriend). your promised you be quit. she said thats as quit as i get, laughs and falls asleep. im still pissed at her today. BTW she gets mad at me when i get scared and i dont know why please help why i cant
Melissa

Im 11 and i hear my mom and her boyfriend having sex, mostley every week! I hate it! They arent married and it really annoys me! I hear my mom moaning and telling Brian(boyfriend) harder, harder! I cant stand them! When I talked to my mom about it she said i was just hearing things! But then she admits that she did and does! I hate when her and Brian have sex! Its became like a routine for them now! I hate when they have sex so bad, that ive wanted to comitt suicied! But then i remember i cant give my life away just because of this! And im afraid that if i talk to my mom about me hearing them having sex she will get so mad! How do i get them to stop!?
teen – teen

that’s horrible….talk to someone whom you trust,can be a teacher or a relative…sad to know it’s your mom who gives you a problem…be strong…
Mac

Hey all on 19/01/10 I will go 17 all we know about sex but when we hear us parents or yours mom or mine mom doing it it’s horrible. I hear every night some times doing it it’s realy crazy for me to hear from my non-father “lets make a party baby” or something I am from Greece my mom from Australia I do not care for my non father any way guys or kids do what I did talk to your mom or to you father (I do not have father I dint meet mine or see him I do not know who he is) say to your mom …. Mom listen something i can hear you all night having sex and this is realy horrible for me so if you can do it when iam not at home do it but NEVER when I’m at home and sleeping or doing something else
peopleperson101597

parents should keep their room private if your child is close to you you would not do it at the momment instead when your child is at school…but its ok bthat you are still doing sex…it shows love for each other..when i was 12 i saw my parents doing them it gave me nightmares…i told myself you know that childhood mind i said i dont want to have another baby in the house i want me (im not an only child)anyway kids are much smarter than you thought….oh by the way im 12….haha
Anonymous

Yo, are you JOKING? That is so gross!!!!!! Oh my god! how would you like to hear your kids fucking in the middle of night and hear moans and shit. thats beyond gross and yea it is for YOUNG people. idont give if you think you are young! omg, thats gross! ew. why would you even consider to do that when your child could walk right in and shout “Moms a whore!” because, i have done that and i have so much disrespect for her ever since that because, when your kids are home that is just plain gross. and you know they are, they could walk around and stuff and hear all the trash. this should be ILLEGAL as far as i am concerend.
bethany

i think i have herd my dad befor and one time i was at my friends house and we were pretending to sleep so then when her mom went in to shut the door we waited and then went out and her parents had not sut there door so then we saw every thin so then when we got the idea we went to have the idea to get frozen hotdogs and have sex with them it was the most amazing night ever we still do that verry speshal thing evey friday and saterday night when we hve no school… we are also savin up are money to buy one og those strap on dicks wow right now i am wotching my parents having sex there are making so much noise … oh oh ya uh faster man fast …oh man i need to get off to put this on youtube dont care if i just in trube it is not that long … ok now i know that you r thinkin i am a slut well i am the first time i had sex was at age 8 or9 and it was so nice
http://forums.delphiforums.com/innovate1 Pronatalist

Sex is natural and proper for married people. What’s the big deal, if there’s sounds, or indications, of parents having sex, when sex is how we children were conceived? So why should it surprise us that parents still enjoy and need sex?

Generally, if one becomes aware of their parents having sex, I think children should be respectful and simply go on as if they are asleep. Don’t interrupt the possibility of another baby brother or sister, possibly coming to life at or soon after that moment.

I would much have rather heard the natural sounds of sex, even from parents not being quiet enough or whatever, than for them to have divorced when I was only 6 years old. I would rather they have worked things out, and give me more brothers and sisters. I am pro-life, and don’t mind having to share my bedroom, as may come to be needed, if the house fills up with more children.

About the RV shaking comment. I thought that RVs had leveling feet that keep the RV from shaking? Why weren’t they lowered? If there’s no such feet, then I see nothing wrong with the RV shaking from natural sex, with the children inside the RV. What? Should the children be evicted and sent outside into the cold rain, every time the parents need some lovemaking? I don’t think so. It’s just a fact of life, that “everybody does it,” well at least people properly married, ought to be enjoying natural sex, and bringing ever more babies into the world, more people alive to experience life. It’s not just RVs I imagine, but in a crowded campsite, it’s possible sometimes to hear the people in the next tent, enjoying natural sex. Just overlook it and respect people and their needs. As long as husband and wife enjoy sex, where they would normally sleep together, that seems enough morally in line to me. Yes, that could be, inside a tent with the children present, or in an RV. Some tents have a thin privacy wall, and some RVs have a separate “bedroom.” But not all do.

Where there’s not enough privacy, what about “virtual privacy?” That means, if one becomes aware of sex, ignore it, and respect people’s privacy.
Alexi Stushnoff

The future is X-rated. Why don’t you just put on some hardcore porn and let your kids watch it with you. Then they can know how good it feels & have fun starting to having sex as soon as possible. How would you feel if your 12 year old was pregnant? No more fun for your baby. You know there are reasons that there are laws against that kind of shit.

Here’s a Sublime – Wrong Way quote for you.

Annie’s twelve years old in two more she’ll be a whore nobody ever told her it’s the wrong way don’t be afraid with the quickness you’ll get laid for your family get paid it’s the wrong way.

Nobody ever told her it’s the wrong way.

Now I grew up with kids who had to hear that kind of shit. They started having children around the ages of 14-17. In high school. The adults who actually do the right thing feel sorry for those poor children. Some of those poor children get fracked by 30+ year old men because they didn’t know any better.

Knocking on the door at night. “Mommy is he hurting you?” She opened that door and gave that poor little boy/girl a beating. They have terrible terrible nightmares. “Mommy are you ok is he hurting you”
Alexi Stushnoff

Sublime – Wrong Way

Annie’s twelve years old in two more she’ll be a whore nobody ever told her it’s the wrong way don’t be afraid with the quickness you’ll get laid for your family get paid it’s the wrong way