Year of the Fire Pig Lucky Jade Charm and Tolerance

year of the pigFebruary 18th 2007 thru February 6th 2008 is the [tag]Year of the FIRE PIG[/tag]. A lot of stalls are sprouting out in shopping malls selling all sorts of cute pig charms to celebrate the [tag]Lunar Chinese New Year[/tag] tomorrow. Butch’ Chinese Zodiac sign is the pig. Maybe he believes in pig charms and the symbolism it represents. Holding up a fake jade pig charm, he observes that the pig charm bore many piglets. The sales lady at the mall says “swerte yan sir” (That’s good luck). Butch bought this pig charm for $5.00 and told me that the green pig complements the color scheme of our new living room. Right! I teased him. (See other Lucky Pig Charm Photos)

What do these lucky pig charms really mean?

Grandmaster Lin Yun says that the PIG is the most blessed of the animals of the Chinese zodiac. The horse draws a cart, the ox plows the fields, the goat provides milk, the rooster lets you know when morning has come, and the dog stands guard at night, but the pig is obligated to do nothing at all except sleep, eat and sleep some more. Haha, how lazy is that? The pig is happy go lucky, easy going, and eager to avoid conflict. Don’t you think people should adopt a more easy-go-lucky attitude to tolerate others and strive to live life free of conflict? Life is full of conflicts but trivial conflicts can be avoided.


Whether one is of Chinese descent or not, people need to be patient, and tolerate the idiosyncracies of others. What does tolerance mean exactly?

I realized the meaning of tolerance when I got married. It happened on the first night of our honeymoon. Oh my god, Butch hogged the bed with his legs sprawled all over the bed space. I tried the practice of tolerance when he’d mess up the room. I wasn’t all that tolerant. I was too obsessive with the orderliness of my physicial space.

The practice of a healthy and loving tolerance of myself started when my grief journey hit rock bottom. The constant bickerings with my family in so little matters forced me to be more open to new approches. It started with myself. I set healthy boundaries and trusted myself to own my power with people.

I learned to

1. Tolerate my quirks, my ups and downs, my humanness, my struggling and awkward nature.
2. Tolerate my fears, mistakes, my need to occasionally feel superior and to sometimes feel ashamed.
3. Tolerate my instinctive desire to control and learn detachment with love.
4. Tolerate my tendency to get obsessive and forgetting to trust God.

There are some things I do not tolerate. I do not tolerate abusive behaviors or destructive behaviors towards others or myself. Often , I get the ire of abusive people when I exert my stand on their destructive behaviors. But that’s another story.

When I learned healthy and loving tolerance, I learned tolerance for others. I also learned that the humanness I tolerated is what makes myself and others beautiful.

We don’t need the [tag]lucky pig charm [/tag] to remind us of healthy tolerance to ourselves and others.

Noemi Lardizabal-Dado (1346 Posts)

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.


About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

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  • http://ode2old.blogspot.com annamanila

    Thanks for the interesting info about pigs and piglets. Does it mean we will have a more relaxed year? I think I like that. 🙂

    Thanks too for giving me more insights about Noemi.

    I try to stop myself when I get — you know — bigheaded. Have in fact stuck a post-it note by my computer saying: “DON’T GIVE YOURSELF TOO MUCH CREDIT.”

    Btw, I finally broke into pinoymom by registering anew. Registered as annmanila, was given a password, and was ready to go. Posted my first piece there. 🙂 Ty to you and Connie for all the help.

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    @I hope it is a year that has less conflicts with politicians. haha. I saw you registered again. Great you found out how to blog using wordpress.

  • http://ode2old.blogspot.com annamanila

    Yup, actually .. i have started to learn wordpress just about the time i joined pinoymoms. Am in the process of putting up a blogsite for my HS class, am using wordpress. My old classmates are so impressed. Haha… in the kingdom of the blind, one-eyed is king.

    I think there was a systems glitch there the first time I regisered. 🙁

    Anyway, I know that the marvelous effort Connie did was dedicated to me. 🙂 Galing! Thank her for me.

  • http://jrocas.com.ph jhay

    The problem with politicians is that the side of the pig’s personality that they imitate is not it’s conflict-avoiding side, it’s hunger and appetite for more food and things. What better thing to do with politicians like these but to roast them in open fire. 😉

    Kung Hei Fat Choi!

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    @Jhay- you are right! We should roast them to stop their bickering and greediness.

  • http://www.annalyn.net ajay

    Kung hei fat choi, Noemi. Wishing your family good health, luck and fortune in the Year of the Fire Pig:)

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    @Ajay- thanks. I wish you all the blessings you deserve.

  • http://dine.racoma.com.ph/ sexy mom

    kung hei fat choi, Noemi, cheers of good health and happiness to you and your family.

    i must have been born in the year of the pig, if only because of being happy go lucky and tolerant. but when i checked, i was born in the year of the dog.

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    @Dine, thanks so much. I am sure your family will always be blessed.