The Final Blog Post of Andrew Olmstead

andrew olmstead[tag]Andrew Olmsted[/tag], also known as G’Kar the blogger, was killed yesterday in Iraq. Andy gave a friend a post to publish in the event of his death; the last revisions to it were made in July. Here is Andy’s final post. His actual blog is here. Andy must have known of his imminent death since he prepared his final post last July. Losing someone who can write well from the dreaded war zone is a tremendous loss – most people never get the chance to know how, when, and where they might probably die. Andrew knew death was a possible outcome enough to write this last post . For me, some of the most insightful parts are the following: (The quotes are from Andy and my comments are below it.)

It’s not easy asking anyone to do something for you in the event of your death, and it is a testament to her quality that she didn’t hesitate to accept the charge. As with many bloggers, I have a disgustingly large ego, and so I just couldn’t bear the thought of not being able to have the last word if the need arose.

I would never ask anyone to post a final post for me. I know we will all die eventually. I guess if you’re a blogger and based in Iraq, death is a big possibility. It was Andy’s way of immortalizing his life through this last post.

But all the tears in the world aren’t going to bring me back, so I would prefer that people remember the good things about me rather than mourning my loss.

But we have to remember that no one is control of people’s emotions. A loved one feels the pain of the loss and crying is a normal reaction to that loss.

Believe it or not, one of the things I will miss most is not being able to blog any longer. The ability to put my thoughts on (virtual) paper and put them where people can read and respond to them has been marvelous, even if most people who have read my writings haven’t agreed with them.

Our life here on earth is very temporary. If you believe in eternal life, I bet there are more interesting activities than blogging. Blogging like Andy says feeds the ego. Do we have egos in our afterlife?

I was at least smart enough to pay attention to the people with real brains and even occasionally learn something from them. It has been joy and a pleasure having the opportunity to do this.

Ah, this is so true. Meeting bloggers is such an enjoyable experience. I learn a lot. Even if I’m 50, I still want to learn a lot of new things from the young.

We’re all going to die of something. I died doing a job I loved. When your time comes, I hope you are as fortunate as I was.

Even if I am blogger, I cannot imagine covering war news. To each his own I guess. My children and husband will never forgive me if I fly to some war-torn country (as if that is even possible) to cover the news there. Though death is inevitable, one can still lower the risk.

Regardless of the merits of this war, or of any war, I think that many of us in America have forgotten that war means death and suffering in wholesale lots.

I do not understand war at all. Why do people have to die this way? I hate war! Our generation and our kids’ generation have a chance to improve the past. We need to rectify some of the mistakes that have been made. I hope that we all see what we must do. Regardless of your opinions on Iraq, we need to agree that this war must be stopped. Inflicting harm on another human being is a dangerous pursuit that will surely be our undoing. I not only grieve for Andy’s death but to the parties concerned, the innocent children and civilians, the military personnel, the Americans, the Iraqis and just people in the war zone.

I wasn’t the greatest husband. I could have done so much more, a realization that, as it so often does, comes too late to matter. But I cherished every day I was married to Amanda. When everything else in my life seemed dark, she was always there to light the darkness. It is difficult to imagine my life being worth living without her having been in it. I hope and pray that she goes on without me and enjoys her life as much as she deserves. I can think of no one more deserving of happiness than her.

This part brought me to tears. Knowing death can come anytime, I value every moment I have with my loved ones. On the day my son died, we had an argument. Though we made up, I look back to that fateful day all the time and remember to give my hugs and “I love you”.

His entry is poignant. It is a gift to read Andy’s thoughts about the war. We should learn from it all.

My heartfelt condolences to his family. Parent’s shouldn’t have to bury their children. Amanda lost her wonderful husband. Any death is a loss but a good honorable man never dies. His physical body may be gone, but his life and memories live in the hearts and minds of those he touched. One day they will have sons and daughters and other friends and they will pass on the story of his life, and pass on a piece of him.

One never truly dies.

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You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

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  • http://www.homeworked.blogspot.com raqgold

    what a great man he is. thanks for sharing this, noemi.

  • http://www.livecrunch.com Live Crunch

    That is very sad, I hope our troops are coming back soon!

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    @raqgold- he was known to be a wonderful writer too.

    @Live Crunch- People shouldn’t have to suffer in senseless war.

  • http://keyboardmonologues.blogspot.com monaco

    thanks for sharing this with us.

    I’d probably do the same (but not yet). I’d prepare something to post as a farewell to the blogosphere, and to my friends and family as well.

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  • http://readytoberich.blogspot.com Fitz

    Reading his last post was a surreal experience for me. I was specially struck by this paragraph:

    “Blogging put me in touch with an inordinate number of smart people, an exhilarating if humbling experience. When I was young, I was smart, but the older I got, the more I realized just how dumb I was in comparison to truly smart people. But, to my credit, I think, I was at least smart enough to pay attention to the people with real brains and even occasionally learn something from them. It has been joy and a pleasure having the opportunity to do this.”

    I’ve been a blogger for just a few months and these words reflect the same sentiments that I’ve been feeling for the past few weeks.

    Thanks for this post Noemi!

    Rest in peace Andy.

  • http://www.ladygadfly.com issai

    i watched a bit of babylon 5, that’s the series where G’kar was a character of. i was just too depressed to watch it because it was about a war and the consequences of being in one. i stopped watching it after 3 seasons, but i do understand how he can relate to Babylon 5’s G’kar. I always believed that war is unnecessary it results in death of a lot of great people. People like him.

  • http://www.beautifulandhappy.com maline

    Thanks for this post, I was able to read his last post even if I know Andy only now. I don’t know if it’s just coincidence, but yesterday as I was doing my stuff away from PC i just thought what would happen to a blogsite if a blogger dies – would the readers know? It was just pure thought, and now I was reading about Andy’s death and last blog entry.
    While most people dread to talk about your own death (like me!), I applaud Andy for being so brave to face death. I think all soldiers are.

    Reading the last part also brought me to tears, as I remember my mother whom I wasn’t able to take care of when she was on her deathbed, and I wasn’t able to say my last farewell and how much I love her. This agonizes me til today.

    The thing is, when I was looking for something to read about overcoming my grief, I saw your site (this blog). I just can’t remember if i commented before, but I bookmarked this site. You recently won an award then. Recovery is always a work in progress..that I will always remember from you. Thanks ate noemi.

  • http://amygdalagf.blogspot.com Gary Farber

    Olmsted. Not “Olmstead.”

    The list of links is here; an account of Andy’s funeral the day before yesterday. Comments about Andy here.