Being Needy

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“He’s needy.” I once overheard a conversation from one of my daughters. It pertained to a peculiarity in her crush. And it didn’t sound like a positive statement.

Is being needy a bad or good trait?

It depends.

We accept ourselves as people with needs- the need for love, comfort, understanding, friendship and a healthy touch. We also need someone to listen to us, someone to give positive reinforcement. It is not a sign of weakness for needing these things in our lives. It actually makes us human and healthy.

But what happens when we are particularly needy?

That’s okay too. When we are needy, we need more than we can give to others. At times, it doesn’t augur well with people. What should we do?

We can accept our needy side and our regular needs into the whole of us. Take responsibility of our needs. It doesn’t make us weak or dependent in an unhealthy manner. It makes our needs and our needy side, manageable. Our needs cease controlling us and then we gain control. And our needs start to get met.

Today, I will accept my needs and my needy side. I believe I deserve to get my needs met , and I will allow that to happen.

Noemi Lardizabal-Dado (1388 Posts)

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  • Being tagged as a needy person is a negative remark but you are right in saying that “That’s okay too. When we are needy, we need more than we can give to others.”

    I will also accept my needs and my needy side today.

    Great post as usual, tita! 🙂 Happy Tuesday!

  • I need…. to know why you are soooo nice?? 🙂

  • Accepting the fact that we, as women, have needs beyond the material needs to be communicated as well- sans the non-verbal cues. We need to peacefully, subtely assert it, not just suggest. And yes, we are worthy to have our needs met.

  • @sasha- I guess one has to be aware of both regular needs and one’s needy side.

    @Nick – sometimes i am nice.

    @celeste- we work to have our needs met.

  • Hi Noemi, great blog post! Hopped over from hmm…I forget where. Hehe. Anyway, I agree with you, it’s okey to acknowledge our needs and the right to have them met but to take responsibility in meeting them. Neediness comes with those who expect others to meet their needs all the time. Cheers! Ex-link tayo ha? I’ve linked you na. 🙂

  • if a guy is more needy than I am then there’s a problem. coz it’s all about me, myself and I..hehehehe 🙂