A long time ago, my daughter insisted that I use my “bitch powers” to get Harry Potter Book 7. Is there such a word? I wondered if I should be flattered or not. Does the word “bitch power” sound like a compliment or not?
I turned to my husband “is my “bitch power” a good or a bad thing?” He assured me that bitch means being assertive enough so that I get the results I want. Let me count a few instances:
1. Marielle’s third grade teacher marked “zero” on her participation of a group project. I felt it was unfair because she practically did all the work. It was just too bad that the bully in the group told her not to talk during the presentation. Seeing the unfairness of it all, I set an appointment with the teacher. I found out much later that this teacher often received threatening phone calls from parents because they didn’t like her strict teaching methods. The teacher appreciated my bold gesture of questioning the grade. Marielle got a perfect score after I told the teacher in detail what Marielle contributed to the project.
2. I started with the guard, then the clerk then another clerk to set things right in the queue of that BPI incident . Naturally, the next step is the branch manager where I finally got the results I wanted. The queue worked out in the end after the Bank Manager lectured the guard on the orderliness of the lines.
3. When my macbook’s hard disk crashed a day after the one year warranty expired, I persuaded the Apple Service center to consider it as within the warranty period. Come on, it’s just one day after the expiration. After a few phone calls, I got a brand-new hard disk.
I believe those instances called for “bitch powers” which work.
My definition of “bitch” is not one who is nagger, or a war-freak wife. I am neither demanding nor mean. In the book Why Men Marry Bitches, “bitch” is described as ” a strong woman who has her own identity and is secure with who she is.” I don’t know how the other bitches in the world work. I define myself as a passionate, loving , loyal wife who will fight for her man , her family and her marriage . When threat prevails, the bitch in me will find ways to curtail it. Lately I established family relationship boundaries and that’s when havoc occurs. My methods may come out offensive or abrasive in a world where one is not used to confrontation or honest exchange of communication.
I choose my battles and practice the art of dedma when the occasion calls for it.
What if I meet my match? Let’s take a look at a recent incident which ticked me off. The person chastised me for promoting an activity which is not within the scope of the group. It was very well within the interests of the group but do I debate my point?
Do I summon my super bitch powers?
No way. For the sake of peace, I practiced dedma. It is not safe to deal with this type of person. I don’t know what’s ticking in their minds.
I’ve always believed that I can’t change people, places and my past but I can change my attitude. No use calling my bitch powers to counteract a negative and unhealthy person.
How about you? What occasions do you unleash your bitch powers, if any?
Asides: My sister reminded me of a forwarded email on bitchology which might interest you :
When I stand up for myself and my beliefs,
they call me a bitch.
When I stand up for those I love,
they call me a bitch.
When I speak my mind, think my own thoughts
or do things my own way, they call me a
Being a bitch means I won’t
compromise what’s in my heart.
It means I live my life MY
It means I won’t allow anyone to step on me.
When I refuse to tolerate injustice and
speak against it, I am defined as a
The same thing happens when I take time for
myself instead of being everyone’s maid, or when I act a little selfish.
It means I have the courage and strength to allow myself to be who I truly am and won’t become anyone else’s idea of what they think I “should” be.
I am outspoken, opinionated and determined.
I want what I want and there is nothing wrong with that!
So try to stomp on me, try to douse my inner flame,
try to squash every ounce of beauty I hold within me.
You won’t succeed.
And if that makes me a bitch , so be it.
I embrace the title and am proud to bear it.
B - Babe
I - In
T – Total
C – Control of
H - Herself
B = Beautiful
I = Intelligent
T = Talented
C = Charming
H = Hell of a Woman
B = Beautiful
I = Individual
T = That
C = Can
H = Handle anything
Send this to 5 women to put a smile on their face!!
“If you can’t do something right, get a woman to do it.”