Bitch Powers: Is there such a word?

bitchA long time ago, my daughter insisted that I use my “bitch powers” to get Harry Potter Book 7. Is there such a word? I wondered if I should be flattered or not. Does the word “bitch power” sound like a compliment or not?

I turned to my husband “is my “bitch power” a good or a bad thing?” He assured me that bitch means being assertive enough so that I get the results I want. Let me count a few instances:

1. M. third grade teacher marked “zero” on her participation of a group project. I felt it was unfair because she practically did all the work. It was just too bad that the bully in the group told her not to talk during the presentation. Seeing the unfairness of it all, I set an appointment with the teacher. I found out much later that this teacher often received threatening phone calls from parents because they didn’t like her strict teaching methods. The teacher appreciated my bold gesture of questioning the grade. M. got a perfect score after I told the teacher in detail what M. contributed to the project.

2. I started with the guard, then the clerk then another clerk to set things right in the queue of that BPI incident . Naturally, the next step is the branch manager where I finally got the results I wanted. The queue worked out in the end after the Bank Manager lectured the guard on the orderliness of the lines.

3. When my macbook’s hard disk crashed a day after the one year warranty expired, I persuaded the Apple Service center to consider it as within the warranty period. Come on, it’s just one day after the expiration. After a few phone calls, I got a brand-new hard disk.

I believe those instances called for “bitch powers” which work.

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My definition of “bitch” is not one who is nagger, or a war-freak wife. I am neither demanding nor mean. In the book Why Men Marry Bitches, “bitch” is described as ” a strong woman who has her own identity and is secure with who she is.” I don’t know how the other bitches in the world work. I define myself as a passionate, loving , loyal wife who will fight for her man , her family and her marriage . When threat prevails, the bitch in me will find ways to curtail it. Lately I established family relationship boundaries and that’s when havoc occurs. My methods may come out offensive or abrasive in a world where one is not used to confrontation or honest exchange of communication.

I choose my battles and practice the art of dedma when the occasion calls for it.

What if I meet my match? Let’s take a look at a recent incident which ticked me off. The person chastised me for promoting an activity which is not within the scope of the group. It was very well within the interests of the group but do I debate my point?

Do I summon my super bitch powers?

No way. For the sake of peace, I practiced dedma. It is not safe to deal with this type of person. I don’t know what’s ticking in their minds.

I’ve always believed that I can’t change people, places and my past but I can change my attitude. No use calling my bitch powers to counteract a negative and unhealthy person.

How about you? What occasions do you unleash your bitch powers, if any?

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Asides: My sister reminded me of a forwarded email on bitchology which might interest you :

BITCHOLOGY

When I stand up for myself and my beliefs,
they call me a bitch.

When I stand up for those I love,
they call me a bitch.

When I speak my mind, think my own thoughts
or do things my own way, they call me a
bitch.

Being a bitch means I won’t
compromise what’s in my heart.
It means I live my life MY
way.

It means I won’t allow anyone to step on me.

When I refuse to tolerate injustice and
speak against it, I am defined as a
bitch.

The same thing happens when I take time for
myself instead of being everyone’s maid, or when I act a little selfish.

It means I have the courage and strength to allow myself to be who I truly am and won’t become anyone else’s idea of what they think I “should” be.
I am outspoken, opinionated and determined.

I want what I want and there is nothing wrong with that!
So try to stomp on me, try to douse my inner flame,
try to squash every ounce of beauty I hold within me.
You won’t succeed.

And if that makes me a bitch , so be it.
I embrace the title and am proud to bear it.


B
– Babe
I – In
T – Total
C – Control of
H – Herself

B = Beautiful
I = Intelligent
T = Talented
C = Charming
H = Hell of a Woman

B = Beautiful
I = Individual
T = That
C = Can
H = Handle anything

Send this to 5 women to put a smile on their face!!
“If you can’t do something right, get a woman to do it.”

Noemi Lardizabal-Dado (1346 Posts)

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.


About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

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  • http://blog.teknostik.com/ Jeff

    DataBlitz had this unreasonable 3-day “warranty” on a rechargeable battery pack I purchased that cost 800 pesos and I wrote their tech support a *long* email. The following day a shaky agent gave me a call to tell me a brand new replacement battery was ready for pickup. I thought that was too easy. hahahah

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    @jeff- that’s way too unreasonable. I think they realized their mistake after that email. Not to mention the bad publicity you will give them. Good for you.

  • http://one-twentyone.com lady cess

    you reminded me of my mom. she was “bitchy” when my siblings and i were in grade school. thanks to her being a bitch, i got the place in the honor roll that i rightfully deserved. that’s just one of her many
    “bitchy missions.” 🙂

  • http://fritzified.com fritz

    When I know I’ve been wronged, had, fooled, or led to believe, I assert my right to fair game. There’s this blog entry I wrote about the apparent non-inclusion of the Philippines in the countries covered by Canon Taiwan’s “international” warranty policy. I only found out when I brought my camera for repair (SD card slot got jinxed) here in PH. I researched on the email addresses of the presidents of both Canon Taiwan and Philippines and presented my case (that the warranty was my best consideration in buying their product in Taiwan in the first place). After a few days, I got a call from Canon Philippines and had my cam serviced without cost, just the way it should be. I also got calendars and post-its for my “troubles.”

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    @cess- now I remember my dad who complained to the grade school authorities why my younger sister didn’t make it to salutatorian. He filed a complaint to DECs and got the result he wanted. My sister graduated as Salutatorian though belated but the school sent out a press release. Maybe that’s where I got my bitch powers.

    @Fritz- Good work there. Next time I better make sure to read the countries listed in the International Warranty.

  • http://scroochchronicles.blogspot.com/ Kongkong622

    B – Brave
    I – In
    T – Thought (with a)
    C – Courageous
    H – Heart

    Welcome to the club!! If standing up for your rights and what you think is right makes you a bitch, then bitches should rule the world 🙂

  • http://amomandmore.com amomandmore

    It was very well within the interests of the group but do I debate my point? —
    I think I have a hunch. Good you chose to dedma.
    I had to read back my past emails to check for context. Your post confirmed my guess. I’m another bitch in my own world 🙂

  • Klinne

    When I was still in high school, I was very timid and shy… (I can’t even order by myself at any store.) So people took advantage of my weakness. But when I got into college I made friends with fiesty and outspoken person. And somehow it helped me, they taught me that if you’re in the right position go ahead and “magtaray ka!” ^_^

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    @cookie- glad to know we’re members of the same club. Hopefully good bitches.

    @amomandmore- dedma 🙂

    @klinne- yes using bitch powers for the right reasons and the right time.

  • http://www.ladygadfly.com issai

    ur a diva, not a bitch. bitches don’t care about anything/anyone else but themselves. i guess it’s just a difference of definitions.

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    @issa- thanks dear. I don’t mind being called a bitch though if said in the proper context. 🙂

  • http://princessdyanie.blogspot.com dyanie

    My SmartBRo broadband connection was down for a few days. So I have it “dedma” since I was too busy with work. My brother is always complaining that he needs an internet connection. I called the Smart Customer Service and the agent said that she will report this immediately. But the “immediately” thing did not happen. So, everyday, I always call their Customer Service hotline and ask for an update. I list every name of the agent who handled the call and the report ID number for reference. This happened for ONE month. I set my mind that I will not pay for the monthly fee since I did not get the service that I deserve until it gets fixed. To my dismay, I sent a very long email with all the letters capitalized to Smart team. They did not respond to my original email so I sent 2 follow up emails. After few more days, my internet connection is already up, got a response from them, received an apology (as usual) and got a rebate from it.

    I believe that if you will not speak up for your right, they will abuse their power and take advantage of this.

  • http://kingdaddyrich.blogdrive.com kingdaddyrich

    gumagana rin kaya ang bitch powers sa mga kalalakihan?!

    *isip*

  • http://www.obnoxiousqueer.com Xerendipity

    Oh,

    I just realized,I’m a bitch! hehehehe

  • http://mp3crown.con Viona

    Noemi, I am so impressed with this post…So now I want to join the bitch club :). Being persistance to get what I diserve to have but keep using my mind and my heart.

  • rolly07

    Hahaha…nice one! =)

    I miss reading your blog. I already resigned from my previous work (I just get to read your blog if I visit some Internet cafe and have enough time) but I’ll be having another one. Hopefully my next company would not be blocking your blog also…if they do, I’ll find ways to get through! Hehehe….

    God Bless….

  • http://orange-and-green.blogspot.com nice

    hi ms noemi! i accidentally stumbled upon your blog while browsing the net and i love your posts! i am particularly struck by this bitchology piece that you have posted. can i post it in my blog? i promise to include your link in it. incidentally, can i also add you to my links? tnx much:)

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    @nice- sure just link here.

  • http://orange-and-green.blogspot.com nice

    tnx so much!

    post is up – http://orange-and-green.blogspot.com/2008/03/on-being-bitch.html

    also added you in my links. tnx again 🙂

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  • http://theranique.blogspot.com baan

    I totally agree! 🙂
    It’s one of the many essence of being a woman!
    Nice post. 🙂
    .-= baan´s last blog ..Why Fuss Over a Rank =-.

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