If you are a couple very much in love, instead of calling them by their first name, you’ll call them a little term of endearment like “`honey’ or `honeybunch,’ or `sweetheart’ `sweetie,’ `sweetie pie’ – anything that has to do with sugary sweetness. Sugar sweetness alright – hey sugar, sugar lips. My ex-boyfriend in the seventies (now my husband) is romantic and mushy guy but what is his term of endearment to me?

“you punk”

punkNice! It was the late seventies and I had no idea what punk actually meant. I don’t think I looked or acted like a punk. I never bothered to find out about the punk culture or the reason behind my ex-boyfriend’s term of endearment. The word “punk” just meant an affectionate and loving word to me. What I knew back then was that Punk first emerged in the mid 1970s in London as an anarchic and aggressive movement. Closely aligned was a music movement that took the name punk. Punk as a term of endearment from my ex-boyfriend was unique. That’s all.

When I travelled with my sister to the UK in 1984, I witnessed my first punk fashion in a London zoo. A couple with a child were holding hands as they viewed the animals. The mother had long burgundy hair while the father had green spiked hair. Their 3 year old daughter was in between them, skipping happily as they walked. The cute little girl had orange hair which was obviously dyed. I couldn’t help staring at them. So this was the punk look, I thought. It was fascinating and different.

Many years have passed since then and now I have 2 daughters . Many fashion magazines advertise the classic punk hair-style or suits with as a punk-style touch as the “respectable image.” The punk now became an established mainstream style which is not what the original punk scene of the 70s had in mind. L wore pop punk fashion (clothes) in high school which continued on till her junior year. That didn’t last long. She moved on to girly fashion then the college preppy look. So I thought that was the end of the punk phase.

A few days ago, L sent me a text message:

“Mommy can I get red streaks in my bangs? 400 pesos only”

Hm, I thought it would be cool since another daughter M just had light highlights done at Salon de Manila. It looked terrific on M.

“Sure go ahead and take a photo of yourself”

Talking to her via google talk a few hours later, I asked for the photo.

“It’s so cute! It’s so red it’s almost pink”, L gushed with pride.

Then I gasped…

red hair

REEEEDDDD!!! Oh dear, that’s not what I imagined it to be. I thought it was going to be highlights”

Then I forgot she mentioned “streaks” not “highlights”.

I knew she loved the red streaks. What worries me is that aside from the shocking red bangs which reminds me of a rooster’s comb, she has this “arrow” in her ears and an eyebrow ring . I don’t worry what people’s opinions are regarding punk fashion. It’s the conservatives who look down on this. Like that paranoid man who thought L was going to steal his cellphone and created a fuss about it in public.

Oh well… some people just immediately place labels on kids. They don’t understand that kids have various means of self-expression as long as it is not harmful to their health or studies. I console myself with the knowledge that even if L has this new look, L helps out in a Sunday Christian school with her friends. I console myself to the thought that her red bangs match her EKO red vintage guitar that L will use for her all girls punk band.

With these thoughts churning inside of me, my husband has only one thing to say to me as he noted my worried look…

“Noym, you punk”

Noemi Lardizabal-Dado (1257 Posts)

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.


About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

18 Thoughts on “I’m a Punk

  1. i love punk, not just the music and fashion sense but also the attitude. two words best sum it up for me: counter-culture. although the punk of today is a lot more different from the original one during the 70s. nowadays, it’s mainstream… so its original purpose is defeated.

  2. @ralphot_ what is a punk attitude?

  3. Hi Noemi, this is gonna be off-topic, but I hope you’ll reply anyway. :) I see that your blog appears at Pinoyblog.com. Do snippets of your new posts automatically appear on that website through RSS feeds? Or do you have to post them by logging on to Pinoyblog dashboard? It’s just that I do that (logging on and posting) and Im curious if there’s an “automated” way for my post to appear on Pinoyblog.

    Told you it’s off-topic. Appreciate your reply, thanks!

  4. @Jesse- I registered at pinoyblog. Then whenever I have a new post, I log in at pinoyblog and write a snippet and the link to the blog entry. Hope that helped.

  5. that was very helpful, thanks! I like reading your stuff :)

  6. i like it :). but how are you?..hehe. i mean, an eye brow piercing, an arrow in her ear, now this red streaks. it’s only October.. so what’s next? i’m probably not making you feel better. :)

  7. ganda naman, a. it suits her. anyway, she’s in that age of experimenting and finding out her own fashion statement, okay lang yun. :)

  8. @Jesse- you’re welcome. It would have been nice if it was an RSS feed

    @dexie- well the shock of the red color made me gasp but I am all for uniqueness. Just worried what ignorant people will do to her. I’m sure she can handle it

    @rhodora- I agree. and most artists are into making a fashion statement

  9. hmmm… the punk attitude, at least for me, is non-conformity, and being/expressing yourself in your own way… regardless of what other people say.

    but that’s just me. punk purists would scoff at my definition. haha!

  10. Relax, her hair looks cool. :D

    Nice blog post, too.

  11. hi there! i’ve been lurking on your site for quite sometime now and i just want you to know that a lot of your posts inspire me.

    re: red hair, this brings me back to my black-lipstick-wearing phase . (thank god my parents are open minded enough, but i still remember the look on my dad’s face the first time he saw me –priceless). i admire parents who can able to respect and accept their children’s unique ways of expressing themselves. it looks nice on her, by the way. take care.

  12. @ralphot- Ah thanks. I guess punk makes them more unique than the mainstream

    @Matt- oh yes it is . Just shocking to see it at first

    @Karen- Lucky you have great parents.

  13. I like L’s new look… nasa pagdadala yata ‘yon. I, for one, would never be able to get away with it. :) But you need not worry about your daughter, people nowadays would not look down on her, especially after knowing how intelligent and nice she is.

  14. Don’t worry, her hair looks nice. Be thankful she didn’t shave her head or something like that. ;)

    Nice entry! :)

  15. @toe- yes the red bangs suits here. Well I think people within her social circle will be fine with it. It’s the oldies that don’t get it

    @ade- she’d never shave her head. She doesn’t even like short hair.

  16. hi noemi. yup, it does. :) four years ago i dyed my hair green, just for the heck of it. i really did stand out because of that. not to mention that i’d always get heckled during gigs. lol.

  17. I am a fun loving woman who enjoys music, movies, TV, some sports, travel and more. Am looking for someone who is goal oriented, kind and clever. I prepare food well and have no children. I want to have children in the future. To see my photo, I will post it on patnox.com.

  18. I ‘m 15 and i would like to have a punk style but my parents don’t let me

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