In honor of “Byahilo” Eric Dormido (Jan. 24, 1979-Oct. 5, 2018)
First published at BYAHILO’S ERIC DORMIDO DIES AT 39 by Tonyo Cruz Eric Dormido, more popularly known as Byahilo, passed away today October 5, 2018. He was 39. His sister… Read more »
Category Archives: Grief
Easter Sunday reminds me of my beloved son’s thoughts of eternal life
I wrote this many years ago but I want to share this story again because Easter Sunday is very special. “If I die, Mama, will I be alive again?” Luijoe… Read more »
Unspeakable grief : The death of a child #JusticeForKian
The most unspeakable grief is losing a child, a death of a child… and what more to allegations that Kian Loyd Delos Santos “died amid allegations that he was framed… Read more »
This is my new normal
Finding my new normal after a loss of a child was something I figured out along the way. Being a blogger is my new normal because I would not have… Read more »
A letter to my son in heaven
Dear Luijoe, It’s been 17 years . 17 years today… without seeing your impish smile, without receiving wild flowers with a note “I love you so very much, mama” without your gentle… Read more »
Five parenting lessons my beloved son taught me
It’s that time of the year that I declutter my home. The library which is located in my home office is often filled with books because my family members are… Read more »
No Christmas Tree?
The joy of brightening other lives, bearing each others’ burdens, easing other’s loads and supplanting empty hearts and lives with generous gifts becomes for us the magic of Christmas. -W…. Read more »
Remembering Luijoe on All Saints Day
Remembering our departed loved ones on All Saints’ day and everyday of our lives. Did you know…the universal symbol of remembering is a candle? Did you know…letting go of our… Read more »
How “Acting As if” helped me in my recovery
A year ago, my daughter shared me an article “Self help: try positive action, not positive thinking” The self-help industry is mired in ideas about positive thinking that are at… Read more »
The myth of closure
So if someone says to us, by word or by action, “You should be over that by now,” we can recall the words from the Talmud: “Judge no one before… Read more »
Luijoe, my son and The Seven Last Words
Luijoe meadow somewhere in the North, where his grandparents live today The Holy Week is one of the most memorable time of the year. Being a “cafeteria Catholic” my religious… Read more »
Life is about creating yourself
“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” George Bernard Shaw I caught the George Bernard Shaw quote a few days ago and it made me reflect back… Read more »
It’s been 40 years since my mom died of breast cancer
It was a warm Sunday afternoon in 1972 as mom and I were taking a siesta by the porch. I still remember that fateful day when mom anxiously took my… Read more »