Category Archives: Grief Education

butterfly in compassionate friends

Don’t you think this is a lovely butterfly? Whenever a butterfly flutters about in the garden, I smile with the thought that Luijoe is in another life with greater beauty and freedom. But I believe the butterfly’s life cycle – metamorphosis – represents my new life after the death of my precious son. THE EGG: Read More →


“If someone cries in front of me, I consider it a gift.” , a friend told me one Saturday afternoon. Every third Saturday of the month, I receive this gift during the monthly meeting of The Compassionate Friends. I am honored to receive it. It’s quite common to hear oh she is so brave! when Read More →

flowers for my son

In every meeting of The Compassionate Friends, we provide positive ways for grief management. We believe that the only way to truly relieve the pain is to work through the grief. Once we had “Creative ways of Remembering your loved one“. The topic was about “Healing through Journaling” or Grief Journaling[/tag] by Leah Eriguel, a Read More →

Every third saturday of the month, there is a monthly meeting of the Compassionate Friends, a grief support group after the death of a child. It’s the time to pay forward and give comfort to newly bereaved parents. Sometimes I cannot even imagine myself in their shoes, going through what they are feeling today. Oh, Read More →

A year ago, my daughter shared me an article “Self help: try positive action, not positive thinking” The self-help industry is mired in ideas about positive thinking that are at best ineffective and at worst destructive. If you want to be more confident or successful, says Richard Wiseman, the best thing to do is act Read More →

Don’t judge me unless you have looked through my eyes, experienced what i have, and cried as many tears as me. Until then back-off, cause you have no idea. Today Matthew Warren died of suicide. He is the son of Rick and Kay Warren who must be facing the most painful moment in their lives. Read More →

I started this blog so I could spread the word that the Philippines has The Compassionate Friends , a grief support group for families that have lost a child or a sibling. Aside from its primary mission to assist families toward the positive resolution of grief following the death of a child of any age, Read More →

16th Worldwide Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting  Where: Kiosk area of the Church of the Risen Lord,  Laurel Avenue, UP Campus, QC  Map : Check this google map:  When Date: Sunday , December 9, 2012 Time: 5:00 to 8:00 PM Holidays are a season of cheer and happiness for many of us. For others it Read More →

Grief is in the news once again. Once in a blue moon (hopefully not often enough), you may encounter a friend or relative reeling in pain because they lost someone. It can be an awkward situation if you don’t know what to do or not do. There really are no words to convey how sorry Read More →

When I was new in my grief, many well meaning friends and relatives advised me this and that. I don’t know who among them suggested the “Healing of the Family Tree” and gave me a prayer. Each night, I was to say this prayer hoping in the belief that the curse of family deaths would Read More →

Filipinos are mourning the loss of the Comedy King, the artist that made them laugh and lightened the day. My friend Samira says it so well ” Comedy brings us together. For an hour or so, we are transported into a make-believe zone where our everyday life is made fun about. We can actually laugh Read More →

So if someone says to us, by word or by action, “You should be over that by now,” we can recall the words from the Talmud: “Judge no one before you have been in his place.” When people ask how many kids I have, I always say three children and pretty soon, the question goes Read More →

A mother who lost a child often cry out over insensitive remarks. I have heard it countless of times. Consider this conversation from a mother who though a well meaning friends was insensitive. Don’t they know? Of course these wonderful, concerned, well-meaning friends don’t know. They can only guess how I feel. They haven’t personally Read More →

Tis the season to be jolly…fa-la-la-la-la. Right, it may be a season to be jolly for some of us but there are a few out there who experience the holiday blues for so many reasons. I can see it in the emails I receive. I am not a therapist but for some reason, more and Read More →

MLQ Message for Vee Press E-books’ launch I regret being unable to join my good friend Noemi Dado on this extremely happy occasion. She and her husband are the best kind of friends any writer can ask for. She can agree to disagree and can find the whole path where neither integrity nor civility ends Read More →

Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak. Whispers the oe’r fraught heart and bids it break. ~William Shakespeare Picking up the pieces As we as a nation try to salvage what bit of dignity of we can still salvage on the failed operation of the police, the failure of the government of Noynoy Read More →

““Poetry is about the grief. Politics is about the grievance.” Robert Frost It was a wonderful morning when I wobbled over to the Director’s office at the UP Institute of Small Scale Industries (UP-ISSI). The month of January 1986 was just a few months before I gave birth to my eldest girl, Lauren and I Read More →

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