Life is about making choices

““The end result of your life here on earth will always be the sum total of the choices you made while you were here.”

I have choices. We have choices, more choices than we let ourselves see.

People may feel trapped in their relationships, their jobs and their lives. They may feel locked in a controlling or caretaking behavior.

Feeling trapped is sympton of codependency. A long time ago, I use to be a codependent. I should know. Yup, I drove myself crazy and my family even crazier. Haha.

I often heard myself saying “I have to take care of ..”.

“I have to say yes”

“I have to control …”

” I have to behave this way, think this way, feel this way…”

I know I was choosing not to see choices. It seems that being trapped is really an illusion. Are you really trapped?

I know I am not anymore.

All that unhealthy behavior changed seven years ago when I recognized that I had choices. Healthy choices.

I an NOT controlled by circumstances, my past, my expectations of others or unhealthy expectations for ourselves.

I choose what feels right for me, without guilt.

I have options.

Recovery is not about acting perfectly or according to someone else’s rules.

Recovery is about knowing we have choices and giving ourselves the freedom to choose.

I choose to open my thinking and myself to choices available to me.

I make choices that are good to me.

I choose to be happy.

I choose not to live a life of misery despite losing a son.

I choose to try to do good for others.

I choose to use my blog as a vehicle for advocacy.

I choose to love my country and do what I can to help.

I choose to live a meaningful life.

I choose love above everything, because

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

Have you made choices that are good to you lately?

Here are some thoughts to ponder on about making choices. These quotes are culled from Dr. Shad Helmstetter’s book called ““Choices.”

““The choices we make by accident are just as important as the choices we make by design.”

““Choosing to live your life by your own choice is the greatest freedom you will ever have.”

““Whatever you choose, you might as well enjoy it. It is your choice.”

““When you have a problem, make a choice…you’ll feel better.”

““No one else can ever make your choices for you. Your choices are yours alone. They are as much a part of you as every breath you will take, every moment of your life.”

““You may think that in life, a lot of things happen to you along the way. The truth is, in life, you happen to a lot of things along the way.”

““Some people choose to live by complaining. Other people choose to live.”

““It is your programming that has created your choices in the past. It is the choices you make today that are creating the programs of your future.”

““There is no life as complete as the life that is lived by choice.”

““It is only when you exercise your right to choose that you can also exercise your right to change.”

““If you were given only one choice: To choose or not to choose, which would you choose?”

““Another person’s choice is nothing more than another alternative for you to consider.”

““There may be a thousand little choices in a day. All of them count.”

““The choices we make in the heat of emotion would be better if left for some other day.”

““Listen to the quietest whispers of your mind. They are telling you the choices that will help you the most.”

““If you’d like to know what your choices have been, look at yourself and the life you have lived. What you see is the choices you’ve made.”

““Who knows what you could accomplish in life if you made more of the right choices along the way?”

““You cannot manage your life if you do not manage your self. You cannot manage your self if you do not manage your choices. Manage your choices, and you will manage your life.”

““Learning what to choose, and how to choose, may be the most important education you will ever receive.”

““Those who choose to succeed always do better than those who never choose at all.”

““The highest levels are most certainly filled with those who chose to be there.”

““Even the best of choices is only as strong as the choices that stand by its side.”

““It is the big choices we make that set our direction. It is the smallest choices we make that get us to the destination.”

““Each day that passes, your choices will come and go. They are like diamonds in a chest of jewels, each waiting to be discovered.”

““If you have to take time to make a choice, take time. Then make the choice.”

About the author

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement.

Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)"

P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience.
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