The couple that blogs together stays together. I’m just kidding of course. Aside from reading books, Butch and I surf the internet together, share sites of interest or we go blog-hopping before we call it a night. I think it’s really sweet that my ex-technophobe husband took an interest in my hobby turned business venture. Who would have thought he’d be blogging today? A few years ago, he snickered at the internet saying it was a waste of time. I’m beginning to think that people who scoff at it are just intimidated or clueless of technology. It took a lot of love and patience to teach him to turn on the computer, firing the browser, surfing the net and posting an entry. And today, we enjoy a common interest- blogging or reading blogs before we sleep. I know… how boring.
Oftentimes, it’s the little things that matter in a relationship. Let me count our simplest pleasures.
1. Sending email or chatting via Google talk at any time of day. I always close my email or chat with “your loving wife”, or “love and kisses” or “your sexy wife” “love you”. In turn he affirms my email with “Dear Loving Wife..” or ends our chat “see you , dear or I love you”. We never tire of saying sweet nothings to each other.
2. Gazing lovingly at each other. Someone told me that my daughter is so obvious with her crush because she kept staring at him. Guess where she got that quirkiness? From her dad! To this day, my husband gazes at me lovingly (on random moments) as if it’s the first time he met me. As if I am the most attractive woman in the world.
3. Buying me Flowers when there is no occassion. Butch rarely buys me flowers but there are those days when he buys a bouquet just because.
4. Saying affirmations to each other. There are those gloomy days that just get in the way of positive thinking . One way to empower the good in ourselves is through affirmations: the positive statements we make to each other : “I love you”, “You are good enough”, “Our life is good”, “I’m glad I have you”. Positive thinking doesn’t mean we think unrealistically or revert to denial. It’s just we don’t dwell on the negative parts of our experience.
5. Watching a movie and munching popcorn. Just being there , holding hands and acting as if we are on a date.
6. Calling me a punk as a form of endearment. I don’t know why he calls me punk but I find it such an original endearment. I admit I can be a punk and a bitch.
7. Reminiscing our love story and the ups and downs that came along in our marriage. We like to look back and laugh at our stupid mistakes.
8. Watching the sunset while holding hands along Manila Bay. M thinks the Manila Sunset is overrated. Maybe because she’s never been in love.
9. Listening to our song Beegees “How Deep is your Love?” or Kenny Rogers “Just the Way You Are” brings us back to our youth, the college sweetheart days.
10. Taking care of ourselves by way of Couple Spa , pampering ourselves with a massage, or a workout at the gym
11. Laughing together at the silliest things on TV. Butch grew up in a family where loud sounds are not well-tolerated. Whenever I laugh, I can be so loud. He enjoys hearing the sound of my shrill laughter.
12. The random display of affection in front of my horrified girls who often shriek “Dad, Mom..no!” Their disgusted looks are priceless.
13. And most importantly, when we are in the midst of a crisis, we clasp our hands together , bow our heads to pray and lift our problems to God.
My list of simplest pleasures doesn’t mean we are exempted from our bad and moody days. Just like I said in number 4, I prefer to dwell on our positive and uplifting experiences.
Life doesn’t have to be complicated. Being together and spending simple pleasures can be pure bliss. Let’s count our simplest pleasures and be grateful to be living in the present.