Parents of Teens: Beware of The Open Party & The Marcel Piezas Incident

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It’s been more than 5 years since my girls left high school. It was a nightmare for us everytime Lauren would ask permission to go “clubbing” with her high school classmates. We feared that they would be offered ecstasy or some dangerous drugs. No matter how responsible we believe our teenager are, once they are in the company of peers, one can never tell what may happen. Especially in parties with flowing booze, raging hormones and minimal adult supervision. Thank God, Lauren never succumbed to dangerous drugs. Marielle was not interested in parties then so we didn’t experience these fears with her.

Gone are the days when fun, wholesome teen parties are held at homes. My strict loving dad didn’t allow us to go to class parties unless it was held at our home. My classmates readily agreed because it meant that their parents will allow them, knowing how strict my dad is. Maybe teens still hold occasional parties in their homes but it is not hip or “in”.

Have you heard of an “Open Party”? I have never heard of it until now through Chuavness. An open party is organized by a class from a private school and invitations are posted online. It’s a money-making gimmick, for sure. Anyone can attend, provided one pays a fee. So different from our fun disco parties of the seventies. If 800 people attend and spend 300 each, do your computation. Where the heck does the money go anyway?

I would like all parents particularly in Metro Manila to be aware about this “Open Party”. Let me quote Chuvaness:

COPS AND PARENTS: THE NEXT STOYA OPEN PARTY IS ON FEB. 20 AT THE GREENMEADOWS CLUBHOUSE AT 8.PM. FREE FLOWING BEER. THE PARTY IS CALLED ASYLUM.
Oh, and doesn’t ABS-CBN own part of Multiply? Maybe they can take down the site. Or maybe homeowners can stop these parties from happening in their clubhouses.

Do something.

PROTECT YOUR CHILDREN.

Like Chuvaness, I feel for the boy that got beaten up in an Open Party. You should all read this mom’s heartbreaking letter so your teens will be safe or warned about these Open Parties.

Letter from The Mom of Marcel Piezas

February 9, 2009

Dear Ateneo parents, students and STOYA members,

Three months back, I found out that an “OPEN PARTY” organized by students of the Assumption was booked at our village clubhouse. In this event, the venue meant for 300 pax was packed with as many as 800, due to the zealousness of its organizers to maximize their earnings. Many of the attendees had no recourse but to spill over to the parking area.

That night, a nasty brawl occurred right outside the venue, and the security incident report outlined the destruction caused to the clubhouse facilities, the sight of inebriated teenagers holding bottles of liquor roaming the streets, and the discovery of used condoms on the park grounds and alleys the following day. (You can verify this yourself.)

We were on an out of town trip when all these happened and I could only imagine the chaos that went on.

Last January 16, 2009 my son Marcel Piezas, a 2nd year Ateneo student, pleaded with me to allow him to attend an “OPEN PARTY” organized by 3rd year Poveda High School students at Greenmeadows. I warned him about the untoward incidents in our village but due to his persistent pleas, reassurances, acceptance of certain conditions (e.g. curfew) coupled with guilt trips of being labeled an outcast once denied of participation, I succumbed to his appeal.

That night at around half past eleven, I found myself praying for Marcel’s protection, possibly owing to vague intuition, not knowing what was going just a stone’s throw away.

At around 11:30 p.m., after having danced with around three other girls, Marcel asked for a dance with Ms. A (name withheld). The dance was uneventful except for the part where she asked Marcel if she could take a picture of them, which my son agreed to.

Immediately after the dance, Marcel thanked her, and excused himself since his 12 midnight curfew was fast approaching. He and his classmate B (name withheld) proceeded to exit the dance hall to meet four other classmates who were already at the parking area.

Three meters from the exit, two teen-aged boys came out of the hall together with Ms. A, the girl Marcel just danced with, blaringly asking, “Sino ang nangbastos sa pinsan ko? Kayo ba? Kayo ba?”
It seems that, Ms. A pointed out my son to the two boys, wilfully or otherwise, prompting them to pull his shoulder and start punching him on the head, which caused a laceration and multiple hematomas.
The two boys shouted invectives at Marcel (e.g. “Sabihin mo sa nanay mo, malansa ang kaniyang puk_”, “pu__ ina mo, gusto mo mamatay?” etc.) and repeatedly slapped him.

After a while, the group of three had swelled to five. They were joined by other boys (names withheld). A few seconds more, and the crowd had expanded to around twenty, arm in arm, they formed a circle around Marcel. They continued to punch, slap, insult and spit at my defenceless boy. One of them even ordered him to kneel down and apologize, which he did, even if he knew he was not guilty of anything, if only to stop the beating. After his apology, he was punched hard on the mouth, causing a cut on the lower lip, and three front teeth to turn mobile.

There were big bodied bouncers hired during the party, and some village guards manning the gates. Neither of them lifted a finger to help my son. All they uttered was “Tama na yan.” The lone defender of Marcel was a school mate, Boy B (name withheld).

At the expense of enduring a few blows himself, he pleaded with the boys and tried to convince them that they have the wrong guy, and that Marcel was a good boy, incapable of the accusation they were throwing at him.

The mauling miraculously stopped for around 15 seconds (probably around the same time I was praying for him) which gave another brave classmate the chance to grab then bloody Marcel by the arm and pull him out of the circle of tormentors. They ran for it and left in a car with their other classmates who were too stunned and traumatized themselves.

Minutes after escaping the assailants, Marcel continued receiving phone calls through his mobile phone,
wherein he was harassed and taunted. The calls and text have persisted until a week ago.

After our preliminary investigation, we discovered that the aggressors are members of TGF or “The Good Fraternity”, a loose group of high school students (boys and a few girls) who frequent the party scene, SOME of whom are reputed to be bullies, war freaks, alcoholics, possibly drug users, and carriers of deadly weapons such as guns, knives, tasers, etc.

Apparently, some of them use this strategy of bullying helpless-looking boys in the guise of being gallant men saving a damsel in distress for having been “disrespected”.

The exact same scenario by the same people happened to a fellow Atenean at a different party a few weeks earlier. Many other boys from other schools have experienced beating from the same group for the most senseless reason as having been ogled at or having flexed biceps and triceps to the annoyance of the bullies.

What happened to Marcel was a nightmare not only to him but to ourselves as parents. My husband who is working in Canada can only cry in helplessness at not having been around to defend or at the very least comfort him.

I cannot sleep soundly knowing that our sons and daughters are prone to being swallowed by profligacy. Did you parents know that kids nowadays dance “spooning” style? Did you know that there are mobile bars for rent that serve “mocktails” or full-fledged cocktails and beer in bubble containers to our young teen-agers unmindful of the alcohol prohibition for minors (ask Sober Club, Elation, Party Fuel, Club Fishbone, Booze, Event Shaker, On the Rocks, etc.).. I even heard that open parties are now being used by pushers as their market for mood altering wares.
I didn’t even know that the Greenmeadows party that Marcel attended was entitled “Lust”, which is one of a series of seven parties named after the seven deadly sins. I was shocked at having found out the organizers’ preference for their party names.

I have vowed to make this an advocacy. We are filing a complaint with the authorities about the matter, not only to seek justice for my son, but to stop this culture of violence and immorality among the youth.
I would have wanted to treat this as privately and as quietly as I can but recent developments have forced me to do otherwise. I came across this blog site which made my stomach turn at seeing how insensitive, frivolous, and unprincipled the authors of this entry and its supporters are.
Log on and read for yourselves.
(EDIT: Blog is currently locked but you can download here)

Rumors are spreading like wildfire and the ugly misinformation is causing yet another trauma on my son. Some stories are going around about his being too drunk to have had control of himself, thus the
molestation. To correct the defamation being spread, and to give these STOYA boys who have a lot of growing up to do a piece of my mind, allow me categorically say that:

1) My son NEVER molested anyone and we can prove this to the hilt. The bloggers didn’t even give him the benefit of the doubt by adding the world “allegedly”. They wrote it as if it were a fact.
Instead of supporting your fellow Atenean, you are pushing him towards the furnace by spreading this lie.

2) My son, who, for one week after the assault, endured nightmares and anxiety attacks over possible retaliatory acts by perceived sympathetic blue blooded members of TGF NEVER squealed on any one to the APSA. He bore his psychological injuries which far outweighed the physical wounds with dignity and bravery. He never even brought up the incident with his football coach who benched him during two crucial games for having missed a week’s practice clueless that Marcel was waiting for the contusions on his head to heal. For all I know, he was also possibly avoiding aggressive tussling, inevitable in the sport, which might stir fearsome memories. He felt so down but didn’t want his coach to think he was making excuses for his absences.

3) I never complained verbally, or in writing, to APSA regarding what happened to my son knowing that STOYA per se, is not the enemy. I simply wrote a letter of excuse for Marcel’s two-day absence while he was recovering from the trauma.

4) I never accused STOYA of harassment when they approached Marcel in an effort to convince me to tell Mr. Dennis Dator of their innocence regarding the mauling. I simply felt that it is futile to make that appointment since I never filed a complaint against them in the first place.

5) To say that “it can only take ONE person to destroy a party. All he/she needs to do is to tell his/her parents to call up the school, name names and say drugs or what not has been going around” reeks of a distorted sense of values. It’s as if parties are the end all and be all of life’s existence. Never mind if a person gets hurt… the show must go on! Besides, I never did what they accuse me of doing.

6) Do you honestly think that this line “The police can always be ordered to go to a party to end it” is preventive or is it a curative solution to a done disaster which only takes a few minutes to happen? Hunky bouncers and security guards were around when Marcel was beaten up. What good did they do?

7) From STOYA: “Pucha, everyday people DIE due to far more worse (sic) incidents than mere fist fights and now people start making this such a HUGE deal since it happened to someone close to them?”
Response: What if the blow on Marcel’s head were a tad stronger than they were causing irreversible brain damage? Would that be big deal enough to warrant your attention?

8.) From STOYA: “don’t call us insensitive and immoral for promoting alcohol under the age of 18. You’ve never had a shot of vodka or a cold glass of beer? Don’t be a hypocrite and lie. It’s part of high school”
Response: The law is the law and it was created for a reason, and it is meant to be adhered to, otherwise suffer penalties.

9) “Also, It’s the parents’ choice to allow their children to go and do these things so if you have a problem with parties, don’t allow your children”
Response: Parents unwittingly allow their children to attend these parties without the knowledge of the imminent dangers that abound in such parties, thus, my cause of letting it be known. No matter how well we try to raise our children, they sometimes make the wrong, stubborn choices and succumb to peer pressure thinking that what is prevalent is “cool”, or is acceptable.

10) STOYA, your entrepreneurial spirit is partly admirable. “Dreams of creating seven parties in 10 months”.
However, if your ventures are money making, may I ask if you give out receipts to your patrons? Do you pay taxes to the BIR? Maybe this is another angle worth looking at.

Dear STOYA boys and supporters, I hope you broaden your minds a little bit more and see where concerned school authorities and parents are coming from. You, our dear boys are gifts from God entrusted to us for guidance and moulding. Our commitment to our Maker, and to the Giver of life is to lead you back to Him in life eternity. It’s true that life is full of risks, that life is well lived if freedom abounds, and that it is important to stand by what we believe in. But as graduating students of a highly reputable Catholic school for which your parents toil hard to make your enrollment possible, I would have hoped that you had loftier beliefs that you would adamantly fight for. Year in, year out, you learn in CLE that free will has its limitations. As minors your care rests on those who are supposedly more ripe in wisdom. If we can shield you from as much pain, suffering and harm as we can, we will do so by all means because that is an expression of LOVE. You may sulk all you want but take it like a man. Like you all said, you will be adults in a few months time anyway. Start acting like one!

Yours truly,

MRS. CELINE PIEZAS

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I am so appalled about what happened to Marcel. What is happening to our young people today? As parents, I believe it’s our responsibility to protect our children from unsafe party venues. Be empowered and know what happens inside the party so safety measures can be suggested to party organizers. Parties involving high school teens need to have adult supervision from at least one responsible parent. One cannot be too lenient.

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  • PISSED OFF

    HAHAHAHAH you’re a joke.
    Yes our parents raised us awesome and they allowed us to these parties and even allowed us to MAKE these parties.
    WHAT’S THE PROBLEM?
    Stick to raising your own kids, why don’t you?

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    I posted that STOYA blog entry to show your side. I also showed the side of Marcel Piezas’ parent. She meant it to be private til the STOYA blog entry came about. Is there any other story that you want me to share to parents?

    Like I said, your parents raised you the best they could but incidents like Marcel Piezas happened, and someone had to be accountable.

  • PISSED OFF

    My parents think CELINE PIEZAS is a joke and she should just get over herself. It’s just that they don’t feel the need to write an email like her cause THEY HAVE LIVES =)) HAHAHAHA

  • PISSED OFF

    STOYA’S SIDE IS NOT OUR SIDE. God you old people just love to generalize. SO close minded. How frustrating. And you say WE’RE immature.

  • mad

    We do the best we can do provide as much safety for our party-goers. We hire security, we make sure that entrance and exit is as organized as possible, and we take the necessary precautions. Planning an open party is a long process and we DO care about the welfare of our attendees. This mother makes it seem like we don’t care, though.

    That still doesn’t mean that incidents aren’t bound to happen. It just sucks that this mother’s son got involved in an incident because of something he allegedly did, but that doesn’t mean it happens all the time in all parties. This mother is making it seem like what happened to her son happens in every party, and that all parties are dangerous. It really just depends on the circumstances.

    You cannot make any assumptions based on ONE incident.

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    PISSED OFF, my blog is not the venue for your complaints against Mrs. Piezas. “Close minded?” watch your mouth. Next comment you have that is off-topic goes to spam.

  • highschoollife

    proper measures are in place in most of the better managed parties. That LUST party was under planned in the sense that those organizers lacked foresight to hire security which could have stopped it all. Stop generalizing that all the parties are the same since most of the parties have more security and more organization that those of the Seven Deadly Sinss events planners.

  • PISSED OFF

    can’t people wrap their heads around the KNOW FACT that MARCEL PIEZAS MADE THE GIRL HIPO. PERIOD. He got what was coming for him. If he hadn’t been so horny or inappropriate than he wouldnt have gotten beaten up. PERIOD

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    so what can you do then? How do you redeem the situation? By commenting here? Find ways to settle this. You’re responsible kids who have organized parties. I am sure you can find ways.

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    still, parents need to know that you all have these safety and security plans in place. And when you give assurances to parents, then Open parties will be acceptable. Just do your best to work things out.

  • ME

    “BEWARE OF THE OPEN PARTY”

    The title of your blog entry is exactly it.

    OPEN PARTIES AREN’T ALL BAD. If your kid knows what to do and what not to do, then he or she won’t get into any problems.

    Marcel Piezas allegedly did something that wasn’t right and he got what others thought he deserved. Its not good that they resorted to violence, though.

    My advice to parents? Let your children go to these things, its not as bad as people make it seem.

    If the party organizers are responsible, they won’t let these things happen. Being an organizer myself, I’ve seen a lot of fights break out and our team does what we can do to stop them before they escalate. Too bad for Marcel that the organizers of “Lust” were not able to do that. It was THEIR fault, so don’t blame organizers everywhere for their mistake…

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    PISSED OFF, thanks for showing other parents reading this blog your true colors. The more they won’t trust their children to your parties. But I will let them be the judge.

    Next ad hominem comment goes to the spam folder.

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    The Lust party is a warning to all high school parents to be vigilant.

  • Wilfred Sy

    My dream / wish of our world is we must live as happy as we can , and never hurt somebody or someone even he is mayabang or nambastos , just let it go , wala naman mawawala sa iyo , di ba ? If you grow older and look back sasabihin mo sa sarili mo na ” Bakit ko ba nagawa yun ? ” remember Mr. Rolito Go , Mr. Teehankee etc. They also are bullies but what happen to them ? Just Never hurt somebody and if you really like beating others and sobra kang matapang then you are the right man to the military and request kang ma-assign sa giyera sa mindanao, Doon maraming bugbugan. Thanks

  • http://iamstorm.blogspot.com Tim

    This is why I love public schools (except maybe the elite ones) – students have no money to spend on frivolous parties like that. Makapagsine lang kayong magkakaklase sa loob ng isang buwan, yun, party na yun. I understand the rebellious phase, as I was quite a headache back then, but I was never involved in trouble of this sort.

    Tims last blog post..From Slumdog to Millionaire

  • asdfghjkl

    I think this whole thing is really stupid. I understand that the mother cares about her son, but actually it is her fault too. She was the mother, and if she just didn’t allow her son to go to the party, then nothing would happen.

    Parents now should learn how to control their children and they should also know that the generation now is different. Don’t expect them to go to a open party with just juice or something.

  • Name edited (no cuss words allowed)

    Okay, nice lights in the party. Pero yun nga, wala naman silang drinks ah? andun ako sa party na yun. NOT ALL PARTIES HAVE DRINKS! :) hey owner of this blog, don’t delete this ah. be fair :D and and You have proofs that drinks are served in ALL OPEN PARTIES? investigate more. Or just organize an open party for parents ONLY :) ) enjoy!

  • A High School Student

    As a high school student, I would like to share my opinion.

    I can’t say that I frequently go to open parties but I’ve been to enough to know what really happens in open parties.

    Sure, we dance, we drink and we fool around but that’s our generation. Just to let you know, only a minority actually get too ahead of themselves and have sex in those dark places and steal the alcohol inside. An even smaller minority gets into fights. Out of all the parties I’ve been to, say around 10, I have never seen a fight happen first hand. Maybe I just wasn’t in the right place but then based on my knowledge, in all my years in high school fights were only provoked.

    We know the consequences of our actions and usually the ones who end up piss drunk are the freshmen who have just been exposed to this kind of environment. Please don’t generalize all high school students of public schools to be bad examples or teenagers who don’t know their morals. We do know what we’re doing and we know how to handle ourselves. We study in Private Catholic Schools after all.

    We know it’s illegal to drink alcohol at this age but our parents allow us to drink alcohol at house parties, what makes open parties so different? There are parents there too anyway and if ever someone gets too drunk, there’s always going to be a friend to help him/her out.

    I know that your advocacy of stronger security on open parties, if not banning open parties is reasonable but you also have to think of the cons. It’s possible for it to move to house parties which in my opinion are a hundred times worse than parties that happen in venues. In houses, you have bedrooms, guest bathrooms and other secluded areas where you can turn off the lights and lock the doors behind you.

    You can’t just underestimate my generation. There’s a lot of anger right now amongst us towards a lifestyle we’ve been living in for more than 10 years already and you’re taking it away from us so abruptly especially when the party season is at its peak. Even if you are parents, don’t expect us to take this so lightly. We’re the ones who are going to change the world.

    (Oh, and that video from that open party shown on the news looked pretty lame. What happened to all the people? There have been more amazing parties than those. Haha!)

  • A High School Student

    It’s not that. It’s just that there’s never any house big enough to house hundreds of teenagers. :)

  • K

    First of all, get your facts right. Lust is not a stoya party. It was a lame party, with substantial security (evidently), that had nothing to do with stoya at all. It’s unfair for Celine Piezas to target stoya for what happened to her son.

    Then let’s not forget, as stated by a previous comment, the boy had it coming. You speak about respecting one’s parents and their words, but has respecting those around you, they be strangers or not, ever crossed your mind? Hinipo niya ‘yung babae. Do you think guys could get away with it so easily, even in your generation?

    Finally, i agree with what one of the comments said. Stuff like these, lalo na in highschool are simply there to stay. Generation after generation, high school is still highschool, with minor changes as the time passes. We’re underaged, but we still drink. We’re young but we makeout. We simply want to have fun but we do stupid things. The girls giggle about crushes and the boys simply rough around a lot. One just has to accept it. High school life has changed but it IS still high school life after all.

    Who knows? One of these days, magkakaroon ng bagong party na naman na sobrang intriga that even Marcel Piezas can’t resist but tumakas rin para lang magsaya for one night.

  • teenager

    Why do you have to take this in general?
    not all open-party goers do drugs and drink or even bring condoms.
    Why are you comparing our generation to your generation?
    things progress, things change. standards can’t be the same forever.

  • high school student

    “and never hurt somebody or someone even he is mayabang or nambastos”

    so sabihin natin yung anak mo na-rape kahit saan kahit hindi sa party. tapos itinuro ng anak mo kung sino yung lalaki na nanggahasa sa kanya. sa totoo lang anong gagawin aakapin mo pa yung rapist at aapiran sabay sigaw ‘pare, good job sa anak ko!’

    yung ginawa ng bata na yon ay pag momolestiya sa isang babae, at yung mag aksyon ng kanyang pinsan at mga kaibigan nito ay mula sa kanilang emosyon at galit. oo lahat ng tao doon ay nagkamali pero yung iyong bersyon ng hustiya ay baluktot at maraming pagkakamali

  • high school student

    seriously, EVERYONE, i myself by commenting here, is wasting his/her time if we spent this much time helping the poor and trying to pressure our government to eliminate poverty and corruption instead of GOSSIPING then maybe our country would be a better place and there wouldn’t even be an issue on open parties. SINCE YOU’RE ALL SO PROUD TO BE ADULTS AND MATURE. STOP SPENDING YOUR TIME SNOOPING ON OTHER PEOPLE’S BUSINESS. FINE SOME OF YOU HAVE CHIlDREN AND ARE WORRIED GO TALK TO THEM THEN!! STOP TALKING ABOUT SOME SILLY DRUNK BOY, HIS SCANDALOUS MOTHER AND THESE UNEVENTFUL PARTIES.

  • high school student

    LUST ORGANIZERS we’re POVEDANS, what do you expect? haha.

  • zzyx

    Look, I live in Green Meadows, I was a povedan, I used to attend these parties and got over it as soon as I stepped into 1st year college. Yang “open party” hype na yan, mawawala din. Believe me.

    Yung nakakainis pa is that yeah, parents do generalize, see just because taga-poveda ako before and taga-GM ako now, tingin na ng parents ng classmates ko, kasama kami sa nag-organize nun.

    Lets get things straight:

    1) Apparently, this party was organized by THIRD year HS Povedans. not 1st yr or 2nd yr girls who are allegedly part of THE GOOD FRAT.

    2) There were NO CONDOMS and or DRUGS. They drank though. Dun sila mali, but then again, who didnt? You see whn your kids turn 18, theyre usually legal to do everything theyve been doing since they were…i dunno…11? kaso magsasawa sila kasi legal na e, gusto lang nila yan kasi pinagbabawal..

    3) MARCEL did touch the girl. Thats why he GOT it. See, if MARCEL pursued his malicious ways and people didnt do anything about it then we wouldnt be talking about “bugbugans” we’d be tlaking about “Parents vs. Open Parties because of a molested teen” Hitting MARCEL shouldnt have been the way to go, but they did defend the girl he disrespected. I guess he wasnt man enough to admit to his mom that he did touch the girl, kasi natatakot na mapagalitan. Atenean brother ko, naturally mapride at ma-ere ang mga yan. kaya di makaamin. (again, I base it on facts, may kapatid ako. di ako nangiinsulto ng mga atenista, they know na ganun sila.)

    4) my sister had a party, and when anybody (girl or boy) got drunk, they take them home (to our house or their barkadas take them home), and take care of them until their “sundo” arrives. I got puked on several times but you see we do it precisely to prove that we are responsible beings. hindi yung sinasabi nilang irresponsable yung mga students at nagpopromote ng drugs.na wala pa kaming alam sa real life, but we do, we see it everyday, lalo na on tv. problema lang sa mga magulang mahilig mang shelter, pero pano matututo ang mga anak niyo kung kayo mismo di niyo sila binibigyan ng pagkakataong magkaron ng sarili nilang mga pagkakamali?kasi ako mas natuto ako nung naranasan ko yung sakit at hirap sa pagharap sa mga maling nagawa ko kesa sa eternal nagging ng parents ko. sometimes, you need to back off. We know youre right, we just have to prove to you or to ourselves kung sino ang tama, eventually maiisip din namin na mali kami at makakapagmove on. mas malaki yung possibility na di na maulit yung nangyaring yon dahil kahit gaano pa kami katanda, ang teenager pag natrauma, parang bata parin…magreretreat at uuwi kay mommy.

    5) Nothing beats a baseball bat when someone threatens to cause fights. Im quite small you see and these guys were huge, pero pag nakita na nila yung bat, kahit gano ka pa kaliit makikinig yun. See, we regulate our parties. (kahit babae kami, we know how to fight, we treat your boys like any mother would, talakan central)

    6) When we (povedans) hold parties, at least when i was in HS and when my sister held her party, WE MADE YOUR KIDS (our friends) CLEAN UP. Tipsy man o hindi, nagpupulot mga yan. Tingin niyo kasi party lang ang alam nila gawin pero if they do party, they also clean up.

    I also think that what Celine Piezas did only got people more enraged. Kawawa lalo anak niyan sa mga makakakilala dun. Ive been thru HS and when parents complain about small things, anak nila nagsusuffer. Kesyo Loser, feeling, mayaang kasi di lang maamin…or worse, pakielamerang mom and mababansag sa kanya. Lalong traumatic yun for Marcel diba? But I dont blame her either…yun nga lang she should get her facts straight. as of the ALLEGED condoms found in parking lots…Assumption party yun. We can vouch for that kasi take note, sa GM kami nakatira.

  • Assumptionista

    Don’t just say that the condoms were at our party. At EVERY party you find condoms. Just because you’re a Povedan doesn’t mean you need to point out specifically that it’s an Assumption Party where the condoms are. There were condoms at Lust, Asylum and all the other parties before that. The parties years and years ago even, there were even more fights, hard drinks and condoms around.

  • secret

    I didn’t see any condoms at Asylum. It was the cleanest party ever. They didn’t even serve alcohol :| . To the Povedan and Assumptionista, do not find. You should help out each other instead so that this issue will be resolved as soon as possible.

  • whocares

    It’s so sad how people really DO generalize.

    So what if POVEDANS made the party? So what if an ATENEAN was the one who got beat up? So what? All the other schools supported it and they went and had fun. So what naman? Tapos magmumukha na silang masasamang tao? Tuloy, nadadamay ang ibang mga estudyante ng paaralan dahil lang doon. Parents tend to blame EVERYTHING that’s happened around their kid when they know their child has even partially contributed to the crime, gusto lang nila pagandahin ang storya.

    The people who got involved with the violence should be the only ones concerned in this matter because so what if they had a party? So what?

    Parents are mad because they did the wrong thing of letting their kids go to these open parties. They’re just ashamed of their kids actions that’s why they try to defend them and turn the story around!

    And isa pa, please don’t blame our generation because it’s not our fault people around us are influential. It’s not our fault that we’ve evolved socially. Our attention span wasn’t as long as people in older generations because you guys had no choice. We do. And we chose to use our time to have fun.

    The older people are saying that we don’t know what we’re talking about. Oh, we do. You might not even know what’s happening in our lives right now. Most parents don’t even take time to listen to their kids.

    People are different from each other. Some kids would rather stay at home and some kids would rather party. But when the time comes that the kids who would rather stay at home wants to party, it’s gone because AS USUAL, parents are going to but in and ruin every single thing that isn’t boring in the world.

  • secret

    *fight

  • assumptionista

    Is this what the adults want?!?! that we start pointing fingers at each other and begin blaming everyone with what has happened? i’ve been to many parties oraganized by different schools and i know that they all try their best to organize it well and CLEAN UP. Ang isyu naman kasi dito ay kung hinipuan ba ni marcel yung babae o hinde. sana naman pati yung side nung babae pinakinggan natin. could the adults please try to see our side and understand stop generalizing us, its really hurting us and willeven push the chidlren to rebel. instead of asking permission if they could go to parties, they will opt to lie and tell their parents their going to a group study or the mall. which of the two choices would your ather have?

  • zzyx

    he did touch the girl, kahit na ideny niya pa di naman mago-oa yung girl na hinipuan siya e.

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  • Marco

    Most of them are upper batches, not first and second year.

  • C. Amor

    Dear Children,

    It is a pity that you forget that we, parents, were also teen-agers like you. Surely we know how you all feel and what you are going through because we have been through all that or whatever. We are aware of the impetuousness and imprudence of the young. Remember we were once young too. We know what it was like to hide the truth from our parents in our eagerness to be “in,” hip, cool or whatever the term you use now. When one is young one has a tendency to omit details that are unsavory or negative from our parents. Thus our need to protect you, our children, from any inadvertent harm you might encounter. As parents our mission in life is to bring you up to be the best Christian citizens and adults. When you are self-sufficient and done with your education then and only then can your parents rest from our parental duties and heave a big sigh of relief that you are no longer our responsibility.

    Even if and when you reach the so-called legal age of 18, be clear that you are still non-entities until you are self supporting and are tax payers. Therefore you have no authority to transact with any establishment without an adult signing as representative for your activities or parties. If and when contractual or monetary transactions are done by you without Parental Supervision with an establishment you must be aware that it is ILLEGAL. And any individual may and can call on the authorities to investigate your transactions and activities.

    When Mrs. Piezas mentioned the BIR it is because she is aware that contractual or monetary transactions need to be done in an official manner. When you show surprise why the government has to be brought into the picture, you further underscore your callowness.
    My dear children remember you still have a lot of growing up to do. As students, your education is your first priority. You may celebrate without restraint when you have your degree and diplomas in your hand.

  • whatever

    I honestly think this is pure stupidity and ignorance. The way you parents are acting upon this. Our generation is not rebellious, nor is it wild. This is high school. I go to open parties, and I do not take drugs. Think about it, if teenagers want to do drugs or have sex, they can do it anywhere and not only in open parties. They can say they’re going to to their friend’s house and do it there. But if a teen, chooses not to have sex or do drugs, and still goes to open parties; thus, you cannot blame anyone but the teen’s moral issues. Open parties are not a dangerous thing to go to, nor is it what encourages teens to do bad things. I’ve been to numerous open parties, and I have not seen anyone do drugs. They don’t go around telling people “hey guys! I have some weed, let’s smoke it up.” No they don’t. And so what, if they serve alcohol? Like you parents haven’t had a sip of beer when you were in high school?Don’t be hypocrites. Probably out of 100 people only 3 get wasted. And those people chose to get wasted, so it really depends on choice.

  • yousuck

    what the hell are you adults doing? don’t you have better things to do? instead of wasting your time here, why don’t you try to solve our country’s problems? the world has bigger problems than this one.

  • http://aboutmyrecovery.com Noemi

    Adults solve what they can solve. First priority for parents are their children. The country belongs to their children and they need to ensure their children grow up to be good citizens

  • yousuck

    the real issue here is the “mauling” that happened to Marcel. how come you are now talking about alcohol? if marcel wasn’t beat up, would alcohol be the issue?

  • kakaka

    this is not true! i know some stoyas & they weren’t the one who bullied the 2nd year. it was the TGF barkada who spanked the atenean boy just for fun :|

  • yousuck

    @ kakaka

    what i mean is if TGF didnt beat up Marcel, will this be an issue now?

  • moneygiver

    dapat sa mga kabataan na yang na mahilig manggulo dito kau sa davao city mag open party at ng makatikim kau sa instant justice dito ng mga davao death squad…mga ampaw mo tanan

  • http://www.wari012@yahoo.com wari

    Could you tell us what are the names of Ms. A, Ms. B and the TGF members?

  • clara

    To Mrs. Piezas:

    I feel really bad for Marcel. He’s infamous.
    People who don’t know him hate him.
    With all due respect, you ruined your son’s life for now.
    I must say though that I pity him. Not because he got beaten up, but because what he did (or what you did for him) was social suicide.
    Please stop being such a prude for everyone’s sake.
    I’m sure you’re happy now that parties are dwindling, but that is very selfish of you. Selfish of you because of what you did to your son, and to us teenagers.
    Everything is your fault. Just because your dad was ever-so-lovingly uptight doesn’t mean you have to convince our parents to make us grow up like you. The damage has been done, and now Marcel deserves a monument. He’s the butt of our jokes. I don’t want to be offensive. I’m just stating facts.

    Parents,
    You’re all talking about how you know how we feel and all that, but judging from my parents’ era, you guys were hippies. I know Marijuana was extremely common when you were teenagers–not all of you smoked up, but you were allowed to go out. Shouldn’t you trust us as your parents trusted you? You didn’t end up so bad, right?
    Unless of course you were a teenager in the time of Marcos and martial law was implemented and you really didn’t have a choice. That would have sucked for you.
    Parents will always see the ills of their teenager kids’ generations. That’s how it is, but be more objective and think like a teenager that can be trusted (this is if you actually trust your kid). If you say you never know what your child might do when he/she’s with peers, then you are probably insecure about how you’ve raised your child, or believe you’ve raised a wimp (one who cannot take his stand), or believe your kid is constantly dependent on the people around him to make decisions for him. Take your pick.

  • Mary

    Been there, done that.
    now its this generation’s turn.
    However i cant help notice, pabata na ng pabata. Usually sa college ang maraming inuman. ngayon even highschool? Just an observation.
    “So what?” you might say.

    I am a parent with an eldest of 7. In a few years my boys hormones will be more active. He will explore. Just like when he was two, he will see how far he can push and learn about himself, about life.
    Ive been there, i know what temptations will come. We are after all, living in a fallen world, with fallen nature as man.

    God obviously gave us the instinct to be protective of our offsprings. However, his love is too much that he knows he cannot be loving if he is controlling. We make our choices, to obey or disobey.

    RULES ARE MADE TO PROTECT.
    GOD MADE THE 10 COMMAnDMEnTS TO PROTECT, nOT TO RESTRAIn.

    Parents would understand where i am coming from. We cannot bear to see our offsprings hurt. But we know somehow to love is to respect the right to choose.

    now, when we do give you the freedom to choose, and somehow later on you realize you made the wrong choice, maybe you will learn from your mistakes. tama pala si mama.

    kaso, what if the consequence of your wrong choices was a pretty bad one. Lets say you were caught with marijuana or even ‘bagansya’ (past curfew). Or you were caught cheating in school or fighting a schoolmate and face expulsion?
    Then you need an adult to face the cops or the school authorities.
    Sino ang tutulong sa iyo to help you carry your problem?
    Syempre kaming parents! After all, you are our flesh and blood.
    Wag mong sabihin kaya mong harapin iyon magisa.
    Do you already have the skills to negotiate and win with experienced adults on your own when youre in deep trouble?
    Baka mangatog ka sa takot.
    Kung malakas loob mo, and you do not heed your parent’s warnings, all i can say is ‘good luck’. baka maloko ka lang at mabiktima ng mga corrupt authorities. Kung kami ngang adults we battle with these ‘pasaway’ adults (who act like their shoe size instead of their age) on a daily basis, what more kayo?

    So please my dear youth, in the end you will still run to us for help. And we do wish to help you with open arms. Yun lang, isipin nyo rin ang hirap na aakuin namin sa inyo, aside from the daily stress toiling for work to send you to a good school. Unless of course matigas talaga kayo, and the parents have had enough so they might let you go thru the painful consequences of your own wrong choices.

    Remember, you have a choice to do the right – and avoid the wrong. mrs Piezas has her right to share her painful experience to us, and it was rightful that she did, to avoid anymore bad incidents like that. ITS A LESSOn FOR ALL.
    maybe it would even teach a lesson to party organizers to be much more careful and vigilant in the future.
    maybe it would help our catholic schools evaluate if their christian teachings are effective or not based on the interests and behaviors of students.
    maybe it would help us parents realize how much we need to give more quality time to our children and fill their need for sense of belongingness. or maybe provide more fun activities they would love para hindi sila sa parties focused lang. like voice or dance lessons, learning to play musical instruments, taking up ice hockey etc

    just mho. thanks for letting me share. love to all :D

  • lasalista

    this high school kid posters here, tumatanda ng paurong.

    they think they know everything.

    bottomline:

    did that kid get mauled in an open party?

    yes or no.

    kung nanghipo siya, nanghipo siya. but does it take 5, 10, 20 other boys to mug him and get the point through?

    there are consequences for touching an unwilling girl, and that boy might have already gotten his due.

    there are also consequences for beating another person bloody? are these cowards willing to accept their due?

    and lastly, there are consequences for serving alcohol to minors, yes it’s a normal thing, but that does not make it legal. are these loudmouths here willing to accept their due?

    you young kids should learn that the sooner you stop believing you know everything to stand in argument with a group of adults, the sooner you will learn about your responsibilities and the consequences of not being able to adhere to them.

    wisecracks.

  • a passerby

    i just saw the news yesterday on TV (abs-cbn). to: Angry High Schooler: Your words proved that you are stubborn and nonsensical. You want to help your parents by raising your own money, by what? Doing bad/prohibited drinking parties for minors? There are “decent” jobs/part time/bzness for kids like you that will not hurt or immoralize anybody.

    Just wanna comment on what you said on who organize this party: student council, officers, honor students, varsity..etc… I don’t say they’re not responsible or perhaps intelligent enough to know the responsibilities to take in organizing it but they are surely/certainly NOT WISE enough to know what is right and wrong. C’mon… the parent of Marcel, really, has a point about this open party. There’s nothing wrong bout this, but what you do in this party. She’s warning parents/busy parents out there to watch out for their kids.

    Do not talk about the generation of the past and the present. DOING WHAT IS RIGHT DOESN’T NEED ANY GENERATION… It should be done in your everyday life irregardless of what you said to be a generation gap.

    Try to reverse the situation and it happened to YOU or to your little sister/brother…. If you do not want your parents meddling with what happened, you will handle it yourself, right? That would worsen the situation. And if your parents found it out, and they DIDN’t Do anything like Marcel’s mom, then they do not care about you… and that would reflect WHY kids like you do these….

  • a passerby

    If he did that, then talk to him and complain to the authorities. Don’t lay your hands on somebody. Don’t put justice into your hands coz in first place, everything was wrong… That’s the only thing you could have done right!!! You didn’t do it pa… Sayang, bata!
    Perhaps the girl you said was dressing for that “calling”. Di sya mababastos let’s say kung maayos sya at “somehow” decent. How can you find one in a party like that?

  • ERIC VON HEIM

    wow! these kids think they know everything. they think they have an idea about parenting and raising kids. tsk tsk tsk. kawawa naman kayo when you become one.

    kung maka-reply sa post eh akala mo ang gagaling. sige nga, san kaya kayo pupulutin pag nawala yang mga allowance nyo? san kaya kayo tatakbo kung makita nyo ako sa kalye at tutukan ko kayo ng baril. tatapang nyo ah!

    believe me, you don’t know a single god dammed thing in the REAL WORLD yet. you live in a world where you think what’s ‘in’ is ‘cool’ and ‘right’. you’ll soon learn how to respect parental advice when you become one.

  • highschooool

    I know! It sucks that because of their faulty security, everyone got affected.

  • student

    SAVE OPEN PARTIES! MY POINT OF VIEW, GO AHEAD AND OBJECT PO.

    WOW PARENTS THANKS FOR GENERALIZING THE PRIVATE SCHOOLED YOUTH AS IMMORAL, WE`LL REMEMBER THAT ONCE WE OWN COMPANIES AND CHANGE THE WORLD IN THE FUTURE. JUST TO LET YOU ALL OLDIES NOW, WE PARTY TO RELIEVE STRESS WE RECEIVE FROM SCHOOL, PARENTS(NOT ALL OF US LIVE IN A HAPPILY EVER AFTER SHOW), LIFE. I AGREE WHAT TGF DID WAS STUPID. I MEAN I KNOW THEY ALWAYS BEAT UP SOME KID BUT IN OTHER PARTIES, WE HAVE RELIABLE SECURITY/BOUNCER/BODYGUARD WE HIRE TO ENSURE SAFETY AND PREVENT THEM FROM CONTINUING TO BEAT THEM UP. WE PROVOKE PEOPLE WHO START A FIGHT CAUSE THEYRE THE ONES WHO RUIN THE PARTY. AND WHEN I SAY PARTY I DONT MEAN SEX DRUGS. WOW NAMAN, NOT ALL OF US ARE THAT STUPID. I GO TO PARTIES TO HAVE FUN AND MAYBE DRINK A LITTLE BUT MY PARENTS KNOW THAT AND THEY TRUST ME. I KNOW WHEN TO STOP AND HOW TO BEHAVE. I GUESS BY BANNING OPEN PARTIES, YOUR OPENING ANOTHER WAY FOR TEENAGERS TO FIND SOMETHING ELSE. GOODJOB. AND PLEASE BEFORE YOU GUYS ANALYZE US, DONT TELL ME YOU OLDINGS HAVE NEVER DONE ANYTHING ILLEGAL IN YOUR WHOLE LIFE. WERE NOT PERFECT AND I KNOW WE’LL ALL OUTGROW THIS, ITS A PHASE DEAL WITH IT. SIGE,IPAKULONG NIYO LAHAT NG KABATAAN UMIINOM, LIKE 90% OF THE HIGHSCHOOLERS IN THE PHILIPPINES TAPOS DALHIN NIYO KAMI SA MINDANAO DOON KAMI MAGPAPARTY. WOW NALANG, EXAGGE NIYO. MORE PARENTAL GUIDANCE? HM WHAT ABOUT A LOT OF US WHO GO TO OPEN PARTIES, HAVE PARENTS WHO KNOW ABOUT THIS AND TRUST US BUT WERE STILL GETTING GOOD GRADES, GOING INTO CHURCH, GETTING INTO GOOD COLLEGES. My mom knows i drink, she says dont drink too much its bad for you, so i dont. I KNOW ONCE I BECOME A PARENT ILL TRUST MY CHILDREN AND WITH THEIR MISTAKES THEYLL LEARN AND BECOME SMARTER. IM NOT GONNA SHELTER AND PROTECT THEM FROM MORE EVILS IN THE WORLD BY BROADCASTING A LETTER TO HUMILIATE MY SON. I FEEL BAD FOR MARCEL BECAUSE HIS NAME SHOULDNT EVEN BE PART OF THESE BLOGS AND STUFF. THEY SHOULD RESPECT HIS PRIVACY. HE’S MY FRIEND. I CAN TELL YOU THIS NOW, HES NOT EVER GONNA LIVE A NORMAL HIGHSCHOOL LIFE.

    sorry for the all caps, i got carried away.

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