Kris Aquino and Hope Centeno are not Victims

kris.jpgThe other woman, Hope Centeno wept and claimed she might be pregnant with James Yap’s kid . ““I also deserve the same sympathy as Kris” from the public. The 7 month pregnant [tag]Kris Aquino[/tag] just checked out of the hospital and minced no words. ““How dare you say sorry to me?” Kris scolded Hope. She then went on to blame Hope for her ““false labor” and subsequent hospitalization last Thursday.”

My jaw dropped as Kris lamented that “an innocent baby ” is at stake. “How dare you say sorry to me now after you endangered a defenseless child?” and added “You just want to ruin us,” “You attempted to steal my husband. You forgot I am seven months pregnant.”

and the other woman, [tag]Hope Centeno[/tag] “I don’t know if I can find another job. I am ruined. My only sin is that I loved James. I wish I was not judged,” she said, dabbing a piece of tissue paper at her eyes and nose.

Okay, I am not going into the moral issue of siding with Kris since she’s [tag]James Yap[/tag]’s legal spouse or show sympathy for the other woman so in love. It’s easy to blame the philandering spouse and especially the other person involved, but it’s much harder to look at oneself and ask, ““Was there something lacking in me that made my spouse want to connect with another person?”

What truly bothered me with these two women is falling into the victim trap.

True , this latest [tag]Kris Aquino scandal[/tag] could be a showbiz dramatic ploy to create sympathy from the masses and generate ratings. Sheesh, Kris and Hope need not be victims. I used to play the same victim role when my son died. I thought the world owed me sympathy because “woe me, look at me, my son died. Be nice to me.” But I learned to get out of the victim trap when I discoverd the joys of recovery.

Kris used her baby to cite the “victimization” she got subjected to from Hope’s interview in Star Talk and S files. Hope might be pregnant (by now, she should know since the last time she saw James was January 15). They are playing their victimization role to the hilt. Obviously, they cannot control the actions of the other person. These women do not need to keep getting hit by the blows of a pathetic situation. If Kris fears the safety of her unborn baby, she has the choice of controlling her environment as in news blackout, treating herself to bedrest and avoiding this stupid showbiz drama. Why harass herself to Hope’s sensationalized TV interview twice in a row? If Hope thinks she might be pregnant, why hasn’t she consulted with a doctor?

This teaches us a lesson that we are not victims. At one point in our lives, we may have been victimized or allowed ourselves to be victimized. There are times we might have sought out, created or re-created situations that victimized us.

We do not have to let others victimize us. Boundaries need to be set. After dealing with the anger, tell someone “NO” or “STOP IT”, walk away from the intrigue or a toxic relationship! Choices need to be made and one has to take responsibility for them. Explore other options. Claim responsibility for ourselves.

Hopefully Kris and Hope will refuse to think, talk and act like a victim. I wish they claim responsibility for themselves and focus on what’s good and right in their lives.

Here is that youtube video of Hope Centeno

More Youtube Videos of Hope Centeno.

And Kris Aquino & James Yap: The Korina Sanchez Interview

More Youtube Videos

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