I enjoy puttering around the house , being a neat freak dictatorial mom or Mrs. Handyman. Butch enjoys strolling at the grocery or supermarket ensuring our cupboards are filled to the brim. The weekly grocery used to belong to my territory until four years ago. For some reason, grocery shopping is therapeutic for him. I just let him be because I don’t enjoy looking at high priced consumer goods.

While I ordered construction materials at the neighborhood hardware store, Butch is doing the groceries.

Through the years, I accepted the fact that my husband will always be a sort-of-house-husband-homemaker. I admire his ability to combine both father and mother roles. I believe I play both roles too. He still markets for our weekly grocery and cooks our sunday meals occasionally. I let him be because it gives him so much pleasure. Last Sunday, it took him 2 hours to do the grocery because he kept comparing products versus prices. He chatised himself for taking that long. It made me laugh because he didn’t realize he was in the supermarket for 2 hours.

These days, I find myself out of the house more than it ever has been in our almost 25 years of marriage. My multi-tasking talent comes into play here. I never expected to be this busy but I am loving it. It took awhile for Butch to get used to my hectic routine but it’s heart-warming to know that he is supportive and is proud of me. The extra income helps especially since we lost all our 3 cars to Ondoy flood.

Money needs to be earned, and the grocery needs to be done. It doesn’t matter who does what. Though our roles as husband and wife have changed through the years, our primary role is to love and support the other.

I feel loved. Speaking of love, what gift should I buy for V-day?

About Noemi Lardizabal-Dado

You may contact Noemi (noemidado @ gmail.com) for speaking and consultancy services in the following areas: Parenting in the Digital Age (includes pro-active parenting on cyber-bullying and bullying) ; Social Business ; Reinventing One’s Life; and social media engagement. Our parenting workshop is called "Prep to Prime (P2P): Parenting in the Digital Age (An Un­Workshop)" P2P Un­Workshops are conducted by two golden women in their prime, Noemi and Jane, who have a century’s worth of experience between them. They are both accomplished professionals who chose to become homemakers. This 180­degree turn also put them on a different life course which includes blogging, social media engagement and citizen advocacy. They call their un­workshops Prep to Prime or P2P, for short, to emphasize the breadth of their parenting experience. They tackle different aspects and issues of parenting ­­ from managing pregnancies, prepping for the school years of children, dealing with househelp, managing the household budget, to maximizing one’s prime life and staying healthy through the senior years.

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