“Twas the Night Before Christmas” For Bereaved Parents

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Twas the month before Christmas
and I dreaded the days,
That I knew I was facing – 
the holiday craze.
The stores were all filled 
with holiday lights,
In hopes of drawing customers
by day and by night.
As others were making their holiday plans,
My heart was breaking – I couldn’t understand.
I had lost my dear child a few years before,
And I knew what my holiday had in store.
When out of nowhere, there arose such a sound,
I sprang to my feet and was looking around,
Away to the window I flew like a flash,
Tore open the shutters and threw up the sash
The sight that I saw took my breath away,
And my tears turned to smiles in the light of the day.
When what to my wondering eyes should appear,
But a cluster of butterflies fluttering near.
With beauty and grace they performed a dance,
I knew in a moment this wasn’t by chance.
The hope that they gave me was a sign from above,
That my child was still near me and that I was loved.
The message they brought was my holiday gift,
And I cried when I saw them in spite of myself.
As I knelt closer to get a better view,
One allowed me to pet it – as if it knew –
That I needed the touch of its fragile wings,
To help me get through the holiday scene.
In the days that followed I carried the thought,
Of the message the butterflies left in my heart –
That no matter what happens or what days lie ahead,
Our children are with us – they’re not really dead.
Yes, the message of the butterflies still rings in my ears,
A message of hope – a message so dear.
And I imagined they sang as they flew out of sight,
“To all bereaved parents – We love you tonight!”

By Faye McCord

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I never knew the popularity of “Salamat Doc” until I received 30 text messages and 22 missed calls after my segment was over on Coping after the death of a loved one. The overwhelming response continues to come in throught text messages. You know when I was watching the VTR , I teared when I saw my own story. I thought I am so used to Luijoe’s story but no…I had to wipe my tears away when the director said there were 10 seconds for me to go live.

To all my visitors, may you have a Blessed Christmas. May the warmth and love of family and friends that make the holiday season so memorable.

Peace and Joy to all.

From the Dado Family

Luijoe’s last Christmas with us, 1999

Luijoe and my family, 1998