This is my new normal
Finding my new normal after a loss of a child was something I figured out along the way. Being a blogger is my new normal because I would not have… Read more »
Category Archives: Grief Recovery
A letter to my son in heaven
Dear Luijoe, It’s been 17 years . 17 years today… without seeing your impish smile, without receiving wild flowers with a note “I love you so very much, mama” without your gentle… Read more »
Five parenting lessons my beloved son taught me
It’s that time of the year that I declutter my home. The library which is located in my home office is often filled with books because my family members are… Read more »
How “Acting As if” helped me in my recovery
A year ago, my daughter shared me an article “Self help: try positive action, not positive thinking” The self-help industry is mired in ideas about positive thinking that are at… Read more »
The myth of closure
So if someone says to us, by word or by action, “You should be over that by now,” we can recall the words from the Talmud: “Judge no one before… Read more »
Luijoe, my son and The Seven Last Words
Luijoe meadow somewhere in the North, where his grandparents live today The Holy Week is one of the most memorable time of the year. Being a “cafeteria Catholic” my religious… Read more »
Life is about creating yourself
“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” George Bernard Shaw I caught the George Bernard Shaw quote a few days ago and it made me reflect back… Read more »
On my Luijoe’s 22nd birthdate: Love lives on
When you remember me, it means that you have carried something of who I am with you, that I have left some mark on who I am on who you… Read more »
My brother’s battle with Leukemia
April 3 is the 16th death anniversary of my younger brother, Oscar. He died from a failed stem cell transplant. He was only 40 years old. Oscar was diagnosed with… Read more »
To love and to be loved by you, our child,…an honor and so blest.
It was sometime January 2004 as I was wheeled through the Operating room of the Philippine Heart Center for an angiogram procedure. Three doctors told me that my heart had… Read more »
A new normal without you. #ThankYouCoy for everything
With Coy at the Celebrating the Lucky 0917 with Globe in 2010. Photo credit: Jane Uymatiao Oh God. No. He is way too young…he is just as old as my… Read more »
A nation coping with loss and grief #yolandPh
Seven days after Typhoon Yolanda, and relief is slowly getting through. I will not talk anymore of the devastation but the many emotions that face us today and probably for… Read more »
The meaning of flowers
In every meeting of The Compassionate Friends, we provide positive ways for grief management. We believe that the only way to truly relieve the pain is to work through the… Read more »